Same-sex tickling: Is it gay?

[Deleted member 2452]

wrong wrong wrong wrong, SO WRONG!

Only to those who are uncomfortable in their own sexuality.

sorry to burst your bubble, or psycho babble, but your premise is saddly lacking, and totally incorrect.

steve

 

[tickledorange]

If it is, then consider me a flaming lesbian.

Same here. Even though being tickled by men is my preference, I love tickling/being tickled by other women.

 

[kis123]

but i already thought you were?!
as far as the question; yes i consider same sex tickling to be homosexual in nature. second part; it is wrong.

steve

Just when I thought I was going to commend the fellas for being civil! I shoud've posted earlier, I guess!

I personally see NOTHING wrong with m/m; whether they are two gay men or straight is irrevelevant. Some people have their tickling so hard-wired in their sexuality that it doesn't seem possible that two straight men can tickle each other without it being some sort of gay thing.

I've seen more high school and college horseplay to remotely consider that m/m is no more than two guys tickling each other. If I watched a f/f video and said, those girls are no more than experimenting lesbians, I'd be laughed off this forum, but when it's two guys, some of the craziest stuff gets said.

I only have tickled/been tickled by fellas (usually SO's, but not in all cases) because tickling is a sensual/sexual thing for me. But I'd tickle a woman in a minute because it's also fun and playful to me; I'm not that hard wired sexually. I have a few gay friends, mostly female. If she took a poke at me I wouldn't think of it as anything but silly horseplay. Doesn't make me gay at all IMO.

 

[Chloe_Vlad]

Some people have their tickling so hard-wired in their sexuality that it doesn't seem possible that two straight men can tickle each other without it being some sort of gay thing.

thank you!!
some people are hard wired ticklers. others are hard wired sexual ticklers.

 

[drew70]

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[milagros317]

I love F/f pictures and videos and don't care if the women are lesbian or straight. 😀

I don't want to participate in M/m tickling on either end, but I don't believe that men who do are necessarily gay. If they both enjoy it, that is the whole point.

 

[Mitchell]

I was discussing this subject with a female friend not too long ago. I think that while same sex tickling isn't neccessarially "gay", that society's perception of such dictates the issue.

I see it this way: Many girls are very affectionate toward their female friends, whether the girls are gay or straight. Girls can kiss each other, and be very touchy feely, even if both of the girls involved are straight. If two girls in a shopping mall kiss each other hello on the cheek, or even tickle each other, most people will probably just shrug their shoulders, and go "Okay, whatever". I have had straight female friends in my life, who were currently in relationships with guys, and who tickled their straight female girlfriends.

With guys, its different: If one was to walk through a shopping mall, and see two men who havent seen each other for a long time, and the guys gave each other, say, a greeting bear hug, people would probably not think it gay, but, if one saw two guys walking through a mall, tickling each other all over, the first thought, whether they were gay or not, would be "Okay, why are these two guys tickling each other, they must be gay".

I myself have no desire to tickle, or be tickled, by another guy, ever, but that's just me. Any guys who are into same sex tickling, more power to them.

So, to answer the question: While m/m tickling isn't necessarially "Gay", society's perception of such is just that it is less socially acceptable for two straight guys to tickle each other, than two straight females to tickle each other, and, that if the guys do tickle each other, they must be "gay". It doesnt mean that guys who tickle each other are neccessarially gay, but society's perceptions of men just sees m/m tickling by straight guys, as less acceptable then f/f tickling by straight girls.

Mitch:

 

[BrightEyes1082]

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[Sandrock74]

Does M/M tickling make a dude gay?
It doesn't help.

LOL! But, no, it doesn't "make" someone gay.

 

[3xPIN]

Alright, here we go: If two guys tickle each other does that make them gay. But if you enjoy watching, I think that makes me gay. YOU GAY! It makes you gay! A crap what did I say!

Ha ha ha!

Seriously, I guess it isn't gay but it is certainly is, in my opinion, homoerotic. Doing things a teenager would call 'gay' doesn't make you gay. Right now I'm reading the Picture of Dorian Gray by Oscar Wilde; does that make me gay? No, just pretentious. Ha ha ha!

 

[Ticklshchic03]

but i already thought you were?!
as far as the question; yes i consider same sex tickling to be homosexual in nature. second part; it is wrong.

steve

What is wrong about it exactly?

 

[badreligion]

simple answer - No f/f and m/m is not gay

 

[Adam]

In my opinion, I don't believe it does. Tickling with another male is not my cup of tea, but if someone else wants to engage in such an activity, go for it.

 

[Blackrook]

since tickling isn't automatically sexual as an act

then I don't regard m/m or f/f as automatically homosexual. But... if the main purpose is arousal then sure. Depends on the situation and people involved. Never a fetish though! 🙂

 

[ParanoidChant]

Doing things a teenager would call 'gay' doesn't make you gay.

THANK YOU.

It's interesting the number of male ticklephiles I've talked to who all claim they'd love to tickle me but get weirded out at the suggestion of it going any further. I wonder if maybe this is a symptom of what neeliebean noted about the m to f ration on the forum and guys gettin 'desperate.'

Can anyone really think of another fetish community in which this same question could be posed? We're in an interesting situation as tickling can swing so drastically from entertaining to arousing for us, which I'm guessing is why the consensus has been boiled down to, as it so often has, 'eye of the beholder.'

 

[LeeAllure]

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[huskys]

Ive seen men i know tickle other guys, and i know they arent gay, but to me, two men tickling each other is just wrong. and im very secure with my sexuality.

Men by our nature just arn't touchy feely with each other.
I don't think it has anything to do with being insecure or anything like that.
I'll give my mates a hug and pat on the back every now and then, especially on the sporting field.
But there are certain ....... erm .......... RULES to that as well. lol

 

[Sleepy Jean]

I am one of those people for whom tickling is hard-wired into her sexuality. I could only be tickled by a male. Being tickled by a woman would be torture, without the sexual arousals that go with getteing tickle-tortured by a man. Plus, I could only be tickled by my husband, because he is the only man I love. To be tickle-tortured by another man would feel like infidelity.

Is m/m or f/f tickling gay? Well, only you know if you're gay, but it does LOOK gay. Sorry, but it does. In fact I've never seen a male person over the age of 12 tickle a member of his own sex. Guys, I have found, are deathly afraid of having other guys think they're homosexuals. Even the openly homosexual men I have known tend not to engage in public dispalys of gay behavior. They seem far less in-your-face about what they do than lesbians are.

Love,
Jean

 

[Deadsea7777]

I do not think it automatically is; then again if tickling is a strong part of your
arousal and foreplay for sex then it is.

I do not care about lesbians in f/f tickling....I suppose as almost every male around I secretly think, they are lesbians because they do not know me , but I do not like m/m. But I suppose that is because I associate tickling with sex arousal and males do not arouse me.

The reason I would strongly suggest that is not automatic, is because most parents tickle they offspring and from that is not automatically deduced that they are sexually interested in them. However if you see a friend of the family tickling to much one of the children, to often, and get somewhat exited about it; is most likely that you would check more closely that nothing is going on.

 

[BellaRisa]

if one saw two guys walking through a mall, tickling each other all over, the first thought, whether they were gay or not, would be "Okay, why are these two guys tickling each other, they must be gay".

See, if I saw ANYBODY sober and over the age of 15 just walking around the mall tickling each other I'd think they'd lost their minds

I guess my question has really always been: let's say it IS gay. Um...so? People are going to think whatever society and their parents have trained them to think if they haven't unbrainwashed themselves yet. When my straight guy friends in college would hold our insanely ticklish friend Jamie down and tickle the living crap out of him it was about humiliation and sheer torture, not remotely gay. But many here would consider it gay because adult males were having physical contact that didn't involve intense pain or at least spitting. Ah well, carry on oh ye of narrow minds

 

[Deadsea7777]

See, if I saw ANYBODY sober and over the age of 15 just walking around the mall tickling each other I'd think they'd lost their minds

I guess my question has really always been: let's say it IS gay. Um...so? People are going to think whatever society and their parents have trained them to think if they haven't unbrainwashed themselves yet. When my straight guy friends in college would hold our insanely ticklish friend Jamie down and tickle the living crap out of him it was about humiliation and sheer torture, not remotely gay. But many here would consider it gay because adult males were having physical contact that didn't involve intense pain or at least spitting. Ah well, carry on oh ye of narrow minds

Clever Bella!;
In fact there are some studies that suggest that tickling is in monkeys a way of showing dominance, after subdue the rival, not killing but showing the superiority in rank by tickling the loser, which would be better for the pack that killing its members.
So yes at least in the animal kingdom tickling could be used for humiliate the one down the scale.

 

[Kleptomaniac]

While one may feel "uncomfortable" depending on which sex they are tickling (or being tickled by), I don't believe the actions indicate the presence of homosexuality unless there are emotions/actions to support it.

After all, we all know that even though we have a tickling fetish, there can still be "innocent tickling."

Just because we tickle a newborn baby doesn't mean that we're a pedophile. The same can be said with people. Just because a man tickles a man or a woman tickles a woman doesn't mean they instantly harbor an attraction for them.

 

[Sleepy Jean]

I suppose as almost every male around I secretly think, they are lesbians because they do not know me

You sound just like my husband. He recently blurted out that he would love to "cure" Rachel Maddow. "Fat chance, even if you ever got to meet her," I told him.

...if you see a friend of the family tickling to much one of the children, to often, and get somewhat exited about it; is most likely that you would check more closely that nothing is going on.

IT'S UNCLE ROY! UNCLE ROY!

 

[Deadsea7777]

You sound just like my husband. He recently blurted out that he would love to "cure" Rachel Maddow. "Fat chance, even if you ever got to meet her," I told him.

Is not as much as "cure" as much as "I am the one she would not resist" to try at least once. Go on... Defy your husband to dare and show you what could he do to seduce your "lesbian" side (no disrespect. please); as a lesbian friend of mine (actually a bi) told me once: "the woman's secret to pleasure another woman i.e., for a diamond to cut another diamond is: gentle....gentle and then ...even more gentle".
To have to compete with a woman skills to pleasure another woman can be a very stressful task!

 

[ttgore]

For what they are worth, here are my thoughts on the subject.

As you may know, many of my stories feature erotic M/M tickling. Only seldom, however, do they feature an explicitly gay character. If I think about it at all, I generally assume that the characters are bisexual, or that they're basically straight but harbor homoerotic impulses, and let the story take its direction accordingly. Readers may reasonably assume that some of these characters are gay. But mostly I don't consider them so myself.

I suspect that most men, at some stage of their lives, experience and perhaps act upon homoerotic impulses. Sometimes this brings them to the realization that they're gay, but in the vast majority of cases it doesn't. I'm no expert, of course, but it seems to me quite plausible that the consciousness of such impulses play a large role in the homophobia of many straight males. None of us are really as secure in our sexuality as we think we are.

This, then, is the working assumption that sets many of my M/M stories in motion: through bondage and tickling, a straight guy is made to come to terms with his repressed desires. But though the scenario might be 100% M/M, with nary a female in sight, the characters are not necessarily gay. Indeed, it's often better that they aren't, since indulgence in forbidden pleasures can add spice to the story.

So M/M tickling may be intense, erotic, orgasmic—but none of that necessarly makes it gay.

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