Setting the Record Straight...

[RobAce]

Dude,

Almost everyone here has had their heart ripped out a time or two or three.
I had a wife who left me and took our kids simply because she could not deal with me being having a painful neurlogical disease and I could no longer work. I had my more than my heart ripped out, I lost my life, my home, everything I owned except what I could fit into 2 suitcases while she took everything else to her parents house where I was not welcome because of the lies she told. I had to get on a bus with my 3 and 5 year old daughters crying for me not to leave, but I had no choice. I was going to get treatments in here in GA for my medical problems and although she assured me this was just temporary until I got better, I knew it was over considering she had cheated on me while I was sick, several times. You have no idea the nightmares when I am able to sleep that haunt me from that day. I cry even now just thinking about it.
I lost everything, and moved with little less than a vacation traveler. But I did not need to create a work of fiction, no I manned up...did what I had to do and moved on. I posted about my problems, yes but I told people what happened, I let my heartache out. And by being honest I was rewarded with a lot of well wishes, some good friends, and several very close friends that to this day mean a lot to me and helped me through the rough spots.
I didn't even have a sig pic at that time, barely a quote, no one had ever seen my picture, I had only a few stories I wrote back in the late 90's. I had posted mostly in the P&R, but not that much. I don't think I had over 500 posts back in 05 when I became more active and made my "This is what is going on in my life post".

Don't make excuses. It makes your apology seem less genuine. Take your well deserved slings and arrows, swallow the crow and move on. The only way people will be able to forgive and move on, is not with a "pity me" or "this is why", but with a hearty "I Fucked up let me earn back your trust."

It may take a while. Weeks, months, years, I have no clue. But when you can man up and not make excuses things will be easier, I assure you.

Not saying that you do not have a legit problem, you may...you may not, I don't know you from a hole in the ground. But admitting you have a problem is the first step...getting help is the second.

If you honestly want a second chance, I will give it, but again seek help. There are many resources you can go to, and after you earn back some trust even I would be willing to talk with you and help out (I live in Athens, GA not to far) but you have to make the first step and earn back some of what you have lost.

Rob

 

[meangry]

First off, I feel as though I must sincerely apologize for every wrong thing I've done over the past couple of years. I have made account after account, lie after lie, in order to be accepted by the majority of you fellow TMFers. My "wife" *Spunky* is a figment of my imagination. A creation that should've been tossed out and never to have been created in the first place. You see, I am suffering from Adoptive Personality Disorder, which means I create or "adopt" different personalities out of either fear or an intense desire to be accepted and/or noticed. Over the past several years, whenever I felt that I was being faced with an adversity caused by another member, I would stop posing as one username/profile and create another. I have just been over this with one of the moderators, so there is no need to further disturb them with questions as to why I am still a member. This site has become a part of my life now, and to lose it would have catastrophic consequences. So I am asking you, from the bottom of my heart, for forgiveness. This is very hard for me to do so, or anyone else for that matter. I vow here and now, that I will stick with this username and ONLY this username. If you don't grant me forgiveness, at least show respect to the forum by not harrassing me or any of the other users who are posting in the forums by flooding them with curses or disparaging remarks.

Thank you for your time,

Jason Alan Jones

Now this is interesting...

Here is a guy who posts something and essentially tells people what sort of responses he desires. It's either accept or don't harass. Not twenty four hours ago, some of the people posting in this topic in the manner they are were militant in their statements in the knot thread that the conversation as it stood was not acceptable because users were not furnishing him with the responses he desired.

Cut a cord, do whatever. One of these things is very much like the other. So where is the hold his hands approach for this thread?

I'm not asking for it. But if it was a fundamental issue in one thread, how is it not in another?

 

[Mister Scruff]

I won't judge you, if you don't judge me for my "problem".

 

[Carsomyr]

I love the tags to this thread.

 

[C.K. Storyteller]

First off, I applaud you for coming out and admitting your misdeeds, although I hope you didn't do it for more attention than you already had.

Everyone is entitled to a second chance, especially on a place like this. While it was definitely an uncool thing to do, I, for one, am happy to put it behind us and start fresh.

I hope you're as serious as you claim.

 

[RobAce]

Now this is interesting...

Here is a guy who posts something and essentially tells people what sort of responses he desires. It's either accept or don't harass. Not twenty four hours ago, some of the people posting in this topic in the manner they are were militant in their statements in the knot thread that the conversation as it stood was not acceptable because users were not furnishing him with the responses he desired.

Cut a cord, do whatever. One of these things is very much like the other. So where is the hold his hands approach for this thread?

I'm not asking for it. But if it was a fundamental issue in one thread, how is it not in another?

I have no clue. I stated my opinion in that thread, disagreed with most and not a word was said to me. I think perhaps that although I may be not "doing as the poster asks" I also try to convey a sense of non-judgment. I will speak my opinion, and if it is not wanted then have it removed. In this thread I did.

If the OP did not want to discuss it, he would not have responed. But the difference between this thread and Knot's thread, is that Knot never posted in it again, did not respond to questions yet people kept discussing it.

If the OP stated "RobAce I don't want your opinion, only support or stay out" in his response to me, I would have apologized (I have done it before) and edited my comments myself to simple say "Best of Luck". However he chose to discuss it with me as he was with others which screamed out to me "Discuss, I want to answer for what I did".

Also he did not say "Forgive or nothing" he said "Forgive, and if not do not harass." Nothing there rang to me that my response would be harassing. If I vistor messaged bad things, flooded him with nasty PM's, followed him around the forum and called him a liar in every thread he posted in....that is what I would call harrassment. Stating an opinion, then responding to his statements to me is not.

So the fundamental issues to me are a lot different. One asked for support (even though I strayed from that formula) and never responded to any threads except in small messages. Not a lot to further discussion. This thread the OP answered questions and/or statements leading me to believe that he did not mind discussing it.

Rob

 

[♡AimLEE♡]

*Sketch* I'm sorry .. but we all knew.
It's not the first time this has happened here.

 

[milagros317]

I don't see the point in having multiple accounts, but you didn't do me any harm so I forgive you.

 

[Cif]

This was one of the most intensely lame things I have ever heard. You offer people two options to a problem that again was self-created. You just can't break away from the desire for attention. The way you write just begs for succor and its actually distressing to read.

 

[RUNOFFSTAGE]

*Sketch* I'm sorry .. but we all knew.
It's not the first time this has happened here.

This.

Although, however valid your excuse might be, it still doesn't change the fact that you did fuck with people's minds, people who thought you were their friend (And Samantha too, for that matter).
I've never really talked to you, so to me it doesn't make a huge difference. Just remember that even though people are on the other end of the Internet, they still have feelings. Oh, and the fact that karma is a bitch.

 

[PlayfulCarbonara]

I'm not really seeing why everyone is acting like they never saw something like this coming ont he forum... yea what he did was pretty messed up but this is a FETISH forum... did you not expect at least something like this to happen? It is something the majority of us would never do, and most of us find to be odd if not deplorable. But still, to act all surprised that someone did something not only strange put possibly perverted on a forum that (despite the majority of us only logging into the general forum anymore) was originally designed to be focused on a particular sexual act seems slightly stranger to me.

To be honest, I would be MORE surprised if he was the only person on here doing it. In fact, I'd be pretty surprised if less than 20% of the people on this forum had not made up some fantasy in an attempt to get into girls/guys pants. >_>

This is a tickling forum. Much like if you had a forum about nip slips or doggie style sex, you WILL have perversion on your forum. You can get upset all you want and that is completely understandable... but try not to be so surprised. >_>

 

[Mephistopheles]

OK, that's cool.

 

[Cif]

I'm not really seeing why everyone is acting like they never saw something like this coming ont he forum... yea what he did was pretty messed up but this is a FETISH forum... did you not expect at least something like this to happen? It is something the majority of us would never do, and most of us find to be odd if not deplorable. But still, to act all surprised that someone did something not only strange put possibly perverted on a forum that (despite the majority of us only logging into the general forum anymore) was originally designed to be focused on a particular sexual act seems slightly stranger to me.

To be honest, I would be MORE surprised if he was the only person on here doing it. In fact, I'd be pretty surprised if less than 20% of the people on this forum had not made up some fantasy in an attempt to get into girls/guys pants. >_>

This is a tickling forum. Much like if you had a forum about nip slips or doggie style sex, you WILL have perversion on your forum. You can get upset all you want and that is completely understandable... but try not to be so surprised. >_>

Nobody seemed very surprised though?

 

[CrystalLight]

Nobody seemed very surprised though?

+1.

I don't think it's surprise. Some of the folks in this thread had believed and be-friended the image that he chose to give off. Both male and female. And personal feelings were hurt by it. Because DESPITE the fact that it's a fetish forum, a lot more is stemmed from this place then that. Hello, people have met, fallen in love and gotten married thanks to this place.

Seeing it being abused like that and in such a public manner has a tendancy to burn some people a bit, or hurt those who thought he was sincere.

 

[..Glamorous..]

I'll go out on a limb here and not believe you as nothing you have done to this point has given you any credibility. I personally think you used the persona for just the opposite reason. I think it was the way to drop the guard of single females, to bring them to whatever front you chose to show them. You've got issues, you know it, you don't really care about it, and are only regretful because you were busted. Even in being busted you made up fantasy ailments for an excuse. For anyone to trust you is just foolish. As Rob said, grow up.

I'm sorry but this is exactly how I feel about this whole situation, right now.

 

[Jackalx33]

Dam sketch..... just fucking dam.

 

[Jason Reborn]

First, about the seeking help. I would seek professional help if I hadn't lossed my job, my insurance, and if my family (of whom I live with) would take my cries for help seriously and would not abandon them as simply being "all in my head" and that I do what I do for the "shock factor".

Secondly, I would like to thank those who have readily forgave me for all my wrongdoings. I truely appreciate that.

Lastly, RobAce I'm sorry about your past (and present) predicaments. I simply had no idea that you have had that happen to you. It makes my reasoning behind the accounts sound juvenile at best. But there are a few things that I have left out from my past that are too painful to mention. But seeing as though you have had the strength to admit yours, I will admit mine...When I was 6 years old, my lil sister stabbed me in the forehead with one of those "My 1st" scissors. When I was 8 years old, I was sexually molested by my babysitter but never came clean to it and she herself had kept that secret to the grave. She died 2 years after the incident. I would go into further detail, but I'm afraid that some of the users (who will remain nameless) will post here saying that it's just more drama that I'm coming out with to gain possible forgiveness for the other stuff that I have done or that I'm doing this just to gain more sympathy. I am not doing this to gain forgiveness or to gain more sympathy. These things actually happened. This is why I am never fully comfortable around my sister (who is still living with me and my parents). And the fact that my babysitter molested me is the reason why I have a tickling and hair fetish.

 

[PlayfulCarbonara]

First, about the seeking help. I would seek professional help if I hadn't lossed my job, my insurance, and if my family (of whom I live with) would take my cries for help seriously and would not abandon them as simply being "all in my head" and that I do what I do for the "shock factor".

Secondly, I would like to thank those who have readily forgave me for all my wrongdoings. I truely appreciate that.

Lastly, RobAce I'm sorry about your past (and present) predicaments. I simply had no idea that you have had that happen to you. It makes my reasoning behind the accounts sound juvenile at best. But there are a few things that I have left out from my past that are too painful to mention. But seeing as though you have had the strength to admit yours, I will admit mine...When I was 6 years old, my lil sister stabbed me in the forehead with one of those "My 1st" scissors. When I was 8 years old, I was sexually molested by my babysitter but never came clean to it and she herself had kept that secret to the grave. She died 2 years after the incident. I would go into further detail, but I'm afraid that some of the users (who will remain nameless) will post here saying that it's just more drama that I'm coming out with to gain possible forgiveness for the other stuff that I have done or that I'm doing this just to gain more sympathy. I am not doing this to gain forgiveness or to gain more sympathy. These things actually happened. This is why I am never fully comfortable around my sister (who is still living with me and my parents). And the fact that my babysitter molested me is the reason why I have a tickling and hair fetish.

If all of that is true... it's really going to suck because chances are a lot of people are not going to believe it...

 

[C.K. Storyteller]

If all of that is true... it's really going to suck because chances are a lot of people are not going to believe it...

I thought the same exact thing.

Sketch, best bet is to move on, at this point. Start being who you really are, and let the TMF judge you on that.

 

[♡AimLEE♡]

We really don't want another TickleChampion, *Sketch*. Trust me.
Just be you. K?

 

[RobAce]

First, about the seeking help. I would seek professional help if I hadn't lossed my job, my insurance, and if my family (of whom I live with) would take my cries for help seriously and would not abandon them as simply being "all in my head" and that I do what I do for the "shock factor".

Secondly, I would like to thank those who have readily forgave me for all my wrongdoings. I truely appreciate that.

Lastly, RobAce I'm sorry about your past (and present) predicaments. I simply had no idea that you have had that happen to you. It makes my reasoning behind the accounts sound juvenile at best. But there are a few things that I have left out from my past that are too painful to mention. But seeing as though you have had the strength to admit yours, I will admit mine...When I was 6 years old, my lil sister stabbed me in the forehead with one of those "My 1st" scissors. When I was 8 years old, I was sexually molested by my babysitter but never came clean to it and she herself had kept that secret to the grave. She died 2 years after the incident. I would go into further detail, but I'm afraid that some of the users (who will remain nameless) will post here saying that it's just more drama that I'm coming out with to gain possible forgiveness for the other stuff that I have done or that I'm doing this just to gain more sympathy. I am not doing this to gain forgiveness or to gain more sympathy. These things actually happened. This is why I am never fully comfortable around my sister (who is still living with me and my parents). And the fact that my babysitter molested me is the reason why I have a tickling and hair fetish.

Thank you first off your sympathy. Secondly, there are places you can go for free to get help. There is a wealth of support groups (online and in person) that do not charge and perhaps when the trust is re-earned, plenty of people here (myself included) that would not mind helping you the best we can. We are a community here, we do understand, and often times many of us have had things happen in our lives that we dont want to discuss in the open (even I have a few of those) but will among friends once TRUST is built up.

You can find help, and for free. If you have that much baggage you really should talk to someone. I hope the best for you. Earn back what you lost and try to make things better.

Rob

 

[CrystalLight]

First, about the seeking help. I would seek professional help if I hadn't lossed my job, my insurance, and if my family (of whom I live with) would take my cries for help seriously and would not abandon them as simply being "all in my head" and that I do what I do for the "shock factor".

Secondly, I would like to thank those who have readily forgave me for all my wrongdoings. I truely appreciate that.

Lastly, RobAce I'm sorry about your past (and present) predicaments. I simply had no idea that you have had that happen to you. It makes my reasoning behind the accounts sound juvenile at best. But there are a few things that I have left out from my past that are too painful to mention. But seeing as though you have had the strength to admit yours, I will admit mine...When I was 6 years old, my lil sister stabbed me in the forehead with one of those "My 1st" scissors. When I was 8 years old, I was sexually molested by my babysitter but never came clean to it and she herself had kept that secret to the grave. She died 2 years after the incident. I would go into further detail, but I'm afraid that some of the users (who will remain nameless) will post here saying that it's just more drama that I'm coming out with to gain possible forgiveness for the other stuff that I have done or that I'm doing this just to gain more sympathy. I am not doing this to gain forgiveness or to gain more sympathy. These things actually happened. This is why I am never fully comfortable around my sister (who is still living with me and my parents). And the fact that my babysitter molested me is the reason why I have a tickling and hair fetish.

Have you ever heard of the story the Boy who Cried Wolf?

Yeah.

You've realized you've fucked it all up and now are avidly seeking sympathy to attempt to draw in a crowd of supporters. Honestly, after the shit you have pulled, they'd be stupid not to see that this is all fictional.

Like the others have said: Just stop trying to make excuses. You're just causing more people to either laugh at you or shake their head sadly.

You're 25 years old. You don't need mommy or daddy to tell you to go get help. Be pro-active. Do it yourself. That's even if you are 25.

 

[PlayfulCarbonara]

Have you ever heard of the story the Boy who Cried Wolf?

Yeah.

You've realized you've fucked it all up and now are avidly seeking sympathy to attempt to draw in a crowd of supporters. Honestly, after the shit you have pulled, they'd be stupid not to see that this is all fictional.

Like the others have said: Just stop trying to make excuses. You're just causing more people to either laugh at you or shake their head sadly.

You're 25 years old. You don't need mommy or daddy to tell you to go get help. Be pro-active. Do it yourself. That's even if you are 25.

Ouch. Damn. I'm not even involved and hurt to read. =D So cold...

 

[CrystalLight]

Ouch. Damn. I'm not even involved and hurt to read. =D So cold...

Sorry. The things he lied (still lied about) are insulting and incredibly fucked up. If he's lying about this rape, I'd sooner enjoy shoving an ice pick through his balls as well. You don't fucking lie about those things. Ever. At all.

And he was all "zomg why would I lie about having a wife, that's ILLEGAL" right in This post.

 

[C.K. Storyteller]

I will say this. Sketch could have very easily disappeared behind another username and continued his chain of lies and profiles. To his credit, he seems to be trying to make good on past misdeeds, and continue his TMF life.

I don't disagree with the people who are completely suspect of everything he says now, because he has lost that trust for many of us. However, if he continues to make good on his words from this point forward, much of that trust may be restored.

Edit: If he is, in fact, continuing to weave his web of lies, that's a different story altogether.