Severe depression update

[tickleteasing]

The depression I have come on and off
Suddenly like today I felt like I had been
Stabbed! I am not in my apartment yet
So I am not sure what's up with that.
I feel like I am loosing it sometimes!
What I do sometimes is I vent on Facebook

 

[ticklebunny 2]

Awwwww. I am really sorry to hear this. So you still are battling depression big time huh. 🙁 So sorry. I had hoped soon things would start to really look up for you. Aww hate hearing that-really wish this depression would leave you alone and leave you be.🙁 So I take it you are still living in your apartment upstairs in your mom and dad's house still inGeorgia-Stone Mountain still huh. So you mean you are not sure why you are still feeling so depressed-not sure why you are not able to have your own place yet you mean? I really wish there was something I could do-hate seeing you suffer and feel miserable like this tickleteasing. 🙁🙁🙁 If there is anything I can do to help-do for you-to help make this depression of yours not so unbearable please don't hesitate to ask-please let me know. I don't blame you-sometimes a person just has to vent-let off steam-else the frustration and misery-sadness-depression can eat you up inside if not. Just know I am here for you now and always. Really hope to hear from you soon when you feel better-feel like chatting. Sending you great big hugs-wish I could hug you. 🙁 I really miss you

 

[obama666]

*BURP*

 

[GQguy]

Everyone gets depressed. It's the narcissism that you're the only one suffering that gets people into trouble. I wonder if Peace Corp volunteers get depressed? Prob not. Life isn't easy but when you help out those less fortunate you start to appreciate how easy you have it. Happiness is simply knowing the value of what you do have....there are billionaires out there depressed and suicidal. There someone out there that haven't had a decent meal in weeks smiling and laughing as they help the less fortunate. It's all what you make of it.

The irony is about a grown man looking for sympathy...is that if he gets it, it feels good for the moment. But what he actually needs is respect. But giving respect to someone that seeks sympathy is a very difficult task no matter how much they try....so the individual seeks more sympathy further isolating themselves and putting themselves in respect debt and further depressed. The cycle continues. This respect I'm referring to is just not from others but from yourself too. When you feel sorry for yourself it's tough to respect yourself. Once you're able to respect yourself... Others will too and that dark cloud overhead will give way to sunshine.

GQ

 

[ticklebunny 2]

Hey just wanted to let you know I am here for you. If you want to chat-or need a friend-someone to listen-I am always here tickleteasing. Hugging you

 

[Leo tickles]

Wait, why are you depressed again?

 

[mabus]

Everyone gets depressed. It's the narcissism that you're the only one suffering that gets people into trouble. I wonder if Peace Corp volunteers get depressed? Prob not. Life isn't easy but when you help out those less fortunate you start to appreciate how easy you have it. Happiness is simply knowing the value of what you do have....there are billionaires out there depressed and suicidal. There someone out there that haven't had a decent meal in weeks smiling and laughing as they help the less fortunate. It's all what you make of it.

The irony is about a grown man looking for sympathy...is that if he gets it, it feels good for the moment. But what he actually needs is respect. But giving respect to someone that seeks sympathy is a very difficult task no matter how much they try....so the individual seeks more sympathy further isolating themselves and putting themselves in respect debt and further depressed. The cycle continues. This respect I'm referring to is just not from others but from yourself too. When you feel sorry for yourself it's tough to respect yourself. Once you're able to respect yourself... Others will too and that dark cloud overhead will give way to sunshine.

GQ

Once again, totally agreeing with GQ.

I have more reason than most to be eternally depressed.
Yet, I'm not, because I'm thankful for all the blessings I DO have in life.
Start thinking about all the good things you have in life. Family, friends, health, you don't live in the deserts of Africa, you're not fearful that a band of machete wielding madmen can kill you at any time.

My air conditioning is on right now. I remember after Hurricane Andrew when ALL the electricity went out...for a week. And it was August. It was...HOT.

Then start helping others. Take the focus off yourself, and help your fellow man.

All the people I know who do that are much more happier than the many people in my life who only care about themselves.

(NOTE: The people who help others in my life that I speak of....have far less material possessions than the ones who are selfish, for a reference point....)

 

[ticklebunny 2]

I hope you had a restful and a peaceful and a good Easter tickleteasing. If you want to chat know I am here for you. Really wishing soon for this depression to leave you-I really miss you. Stay good to yourself-just know you are in my thoughts-praying and hoping soon you will feel a lot better. Missing you.🙁 Hugging you

 

[ticklebunny 2]

Hey just wanted to say hi-hope soon things look up for you. Just wanted to let you know-I am here for you-if you want to chat. Hugging you. Really miss u. 🙁

 

[Crazy Wabbit]

Everyone gets depressed. It's the narcissism that you're the only one suffering that gets people into trouble. I wonder if Peace Corp volunteers get depressed? Prob not. Life isn't easy but when you help out those less fortunate you start to appreciate how easy you have it. Happiness is simply knowing the value of what you do have....there are billionaires out there depressed and suicidal. There someone out there that haven't had a decent meal in weeks smiling and laughing as they help the less fortunate. It's all what you make of it.

The irony is about a grown man looking for sympathy...is that if he gets it, it feels good for the moment. But what he actually needs is respect. But giving respect to someone that seeks sympathy is a very difficult task no matter how much they try....so the individual seeks more sympathy further isolating themselves and putting themselves in respect debt and further depressed. The cycle continues. This respect I'm referring to is just not from others but from yourself too. When you feel sorry for yourself it's tough to respect yourself. Once you're able to respect yourself... Others will too and that dark cloud overhead will give way to sunshine.

GQ

I agree with what you are saying up to a point, which is to say that feeling sorry for yourself isn't going to help matters. It's only going to make things worse. The same can be said about dwellilng on things that upset you and not keeping yourself occupied where you have end up having all of this time to think about what is bothering you will also cause you to do depressed, as well not being active and a lack of exercise.

However, no one can actually talk themselves out of being depressed because depression is beyond simply feeling blue or going through a period of sadness. Depression is a mental illness that even doctors are inconclusive as to what causes it. Some have the theory of a chemical imbalance, it's hereditary, or whether it's caused by environmental factors. But right now, all they have to go by are theories.

If tickleteasing hasn't already been to a psychiatrist about this problem, I would strong encourage him to do so. It's to be taken seriously and not something you should try to sluff off on your own.

 

[coldneck]

Am I the only one to notice this forum has become a crying towel for sympathy seekers who feel their troubles outweigh everyone else's?

If you're really depressed, I mean clinically depressed then seek professional help.

Your online "friends" won't be of any help.
Even if their PM box is always open.

We've all seen how it works out for the chronic whiners and sad sacks.
Not. Good.

 

[GQguy]

I agree with what you are saying up to a point, which is to say that feeling sorry for yourself isn't going to help matters. It's only going to make things worse. The same can be said about dwellilng on things that upset you and not keeping yourself occupied where you have end up having all of this time to think about what is bothering you will also cause you to do depressed, as well not being active and a lack of exercise.

However, no one can actually talk themselves out of being depressed because depression is beyond simply feeling blue or going through a period of sadness. Depression is a mental illness that even doctors are inconclusive as to what causes it. Some have the theory of a chemical imbalance, it's hereditary, or whether it's caused by environmental factors. But right now, all they have to go by are theories.

If tickleteasing hasn't already been to a psychiatrist about this problem, I would strong encourage him to do so. It's to be taken seriously and not something you should try to sluff off on your own.

I'm no psychiatrist. But I feel as though all problems should be handled at the lowest level possible. As in control what you can control before getting others involved. 1) keep yourself busy 2) keep yourself challenged 3) exercise 4) help others 5) keep company of positive people 6) stay goal oriented 7) lead people.

I likely can create more but if a deppressed person does all of these things and they're still deppressed I definitely seek professional help. But I doubt most depressed people even try one of these. Most depressed people however lack one or more of these attributes if not all.

 

[Crazy Wabbit]

I'm no psychiatrist. But I feel as though all problems should be handled at the lowest level possible. As in control what you can control before getting others involved. 1) keep yourself busy 2) keep yourself challenged 3) exercise 4) help others 5) keep company of positive people 6) stay goal oriented 7) lead people.

I likely can create more but if a deppressed person does all of these things and they're still deppressed I definitely seek professional help. But I doubt most depressed people even try one of these. Most depressed people however lack one or more of these attributes if not all.

Absolutely. I couldn't agree with you more.

It's too bad this forum doesn't allow us to give reputation points because this post most certainly deserves it.

 

[Mitchell]

teasing, I'm sorry about your depression. I hope you can get the necessary help to aid you with your problem.

If I may.. I'd suggest making blog posts to air your feelings, instead of doing so on the main forum. I've learned that airing feelings on the main forum, leaves whoever does so open for attacks that are not well meaning, that the mods dont call attacks.

cold.. one comment.. and I really dont care how much you rip me.

You really are unbelivable with your constant attacks against people who are feeling badly. Your posts clearly are not well meaning.

Bottom line.. You dont control the world. People feel happy, sad, depressed, angry, and they dont have to clear it with you. You have the option of either ignoring their posts.. or posting something well meaning, but you never do. teasing is a free person. He has a right to feel depressed, and post about his feelings.

I'm two weeks away from my whole life changing. I'm moving to NY, near all my family and friends, who cant wait to see me, and I'm going to have a number of job and business opportunities to choose from. Things will get better.. but know what..

My father and uncle.. two of the most .. shall we say.. stern people on the planet.. who dont like to hear anyone's bitching, complaining.. or whining.. and who cut me no slack whatsoever, have made the following statements to me.

"Mitch, we would be kidding ourselves if we thought you are over your mother's death.. or that your move.,. and new job/business is going to be easy. You have been handling things well. and it will take time. We know that being around family and friends will help, and that in time.. things will get better. You're not alone, and you have your family and friends here to support you"

THAT is helpful, and well meaning, even from two people who I've had issues with in the past.

Sometimes, when people feel depressed, everything isnt always settled in two minutes, by bulletpoint goals.. or attacks on a forum.

When my grandmother died, it took my mom a year to come back to herself. Do you think any of her social contacts had the nerve to say to her, "Sheila.. dont mourn your mom for so long". Everyone was supportive.

People do things differently.. in their own time. My belief is that I only make comments toward others problems, if I can legitimately help. teasing,. I say to you, that if you need someone to talk to, my PM box is open.

Mitch

 

[Dave Pavet]

Eat a Happy Meal

 

[Ticklerguy4u]

The root of depression is usually caused by unfulfilled desires in the present or past regrets. Sometimes accepting it is the best way past it. Sometimes changing it in the present will change the outcome future, so that history doesn't repeat itself.

 

[kopfhorer]

The difference between normal and major depression is kind of like the diff between a stuck lid on a jar of pickles and a stuck lug nut on a flat tire you're trying to change; one's a bit more serious than the other and can require professional intervention.

To anyone stuck with major depression (been there, had that) I know that staying even the least bit positive during an episode can be a difficult balancing act. People who tell you to be as good to yourself as possible or to think about the good (or not-bad) things in your life have a point. Helping others can be an upper, though not guaranteed effective depending on what you're dealing with (Mitchell, I'm glad your dad and your uncle aren't giving you the stiff-upper-lip routine).

If you're getting professional help, I hope it's with someone who actually listens to you and doesn't just scribble out a prescription after talking to you for 30 seconds. Pill-doctors (like the kind who infest many though not all public mental health clinics) in my humble opinion shouldn't even have licenses to practice medicine. Medications can help if they're used properly, and usually work best in conjunction with talk therapy.

And if a depression medication has major side effects for you, sexual or not, and your doctor basically tells you "tough titty", then run, do not walk, away from that doctor and find one who knows how to treat you like a person. Sometimes the meds with the bad side-effects are the only option for the time being but I dare say there more people are being made to put up with them than is genuinely necessary.

 

[coldneck]

I'm two weeks away from my whole life changing. I'm moving to NY, near all my family and friends, who cant wait to see me, and I'm going to have a number of job and business opportunities to choose from. Things will get better.. but know what..

My father and uncle.. two of the most .. shall we say.. stern people on the planet.. who dont like to hear anyone's bitching, complaining.. or whining.. and who cut me no slack whatsoever, have made the following statements to me.

"Mitch, we would be kidding ourselves if we thought you are over your mother's death.. or that your move.,. and new job/business is going to be easy. You have been handling things well. and it will take time. We know that being around family and friends will help, and that in time.. things will get better. You're not alone, and you have your family and friends here to support you"

THAT is helpful, and well meaning, even from two people who I've had issues with in the past.

Sometimes, when people feel depressed, everything isnt always settled in two minutes, by bulletpoint goals.. or attacks on a forum.

When my grandmother died, it took my mom a year to come back to herself. Do you think any of her social contacts had the nerve to say to her, "Sheila.. dont mourn your mom for so long". Everyone was supportive.

People do things differently.. in their own time. My belief is that I only make comments toward others problems, if I can legitimately help. teasing,. I say to you, that if you need someone to talk to, my PM box is open.

Mitch

This is really really off-topic, but since you decided to address me directly:

It really is all about you, isn't it?!
I've got news for you, sunshine. You are NOT moving forward with your life.

You are making a lateral move, from Mommy to Daddy, based on your need to have someone else take care of you, a grown man in his 40's with a college education.
You've had every opportunity handed to you and instead chosen to leech off your parents and then bitch and moan about your lot in life.

When you piss off your dad for the last time, life is going to bitch slap you so hard you won't know your own name... and guess what? You'll complain about that too.

I have no sympathy for you at all.

 

[Mitchell]

cold, you know absolutely NOTHING! If you knew anything about my father, you would know he isnt going to"Take care of me". I wouldnt want him to.. and he wouldnt allow it. I'm moving into my own apartment. What I'm doing is moving NEAR family and friends.

I';m tired of your brutal predictions. How the hell do you know that you are not going to be struck by the wraith of God tomorrow? No one knows what their tomorrow will bring? Maybe life will bitch slap YOU in the face!

"Every opportunity handed to me, and chosen to leech off my parents". You are so clueless. Could I go to GRADUATE SCHOOL, WITH MY TAX SITUATION? I havent "leeched" off anyone.

It's been my experience that when people take pleasure out of another's difficult times.., they end up getting hit in the end.

Several cases in point: My ex best friend's mother thought my parents divorce, and my estrangement from my father.. was funny.. and something to pass judgement about.. Welll.. the bitch's 41 year marriage broke up, and her daughter is virtually estranged from her.

My idiot ex best friend broke up a 30 year friendship over a girl he had met a month earlier, at the time my mom had cancer. I found out through the grapevine that the putz isnt even with the girl anymore. She has another bf, so what did he accomplish? He lost the only real friend he ever had.

My uncle used to get annoyed at problems I had when I was younger. His son turned out 10 times worse than I ever was.

Like I said.. I may not be around to see it.. be with the forum anymore.. etc, but you will get yours, cold, from a force greater than any of us.

I'm a very realistic person. My father and I still have things to work out.. but.. we are both making effort beyond how we used to in the past. Bottom line.. he didnt have to take my phone call.. he told me as much.. but he did.

By no means am I saying this will be easy.. or that it wont take time. I will positively laugh my ass off in.. 6 months or a year from now.. if things are moving well.

One thing my dad told me.. He said he knows I have a lot of bottled up feelings about my mom. I dont deny that I will have to go talk to someone. Oh wow! Me and millions of others.

Ten days to two weeks. I cant wait. I'll miss a few things about Lancaster, but I know I;m making the right decision.

Mitch

 

[Leo tickles]

These guys should meet.

 

[Jagermeistered]

That is mean and funny...

 

[Crazy Wabbit]

I haven't been keeping up with every single thread or post, however I do have an observation I would like to share. Has it ever occurred to you that both tickletease and Mitchell have no one else they can talk to right now, nor do they know where else they can turn to? Have you ever thought that maybe at one particular time they saw this group as one big family that they could turn to due to the fact that you share at least one common denominator? Yes, I'll be the first to agree by saying that this isn't a support group, and wouldn't make a very good one for many reasons. One of which, it is a public forum that anyone can view what is being said without even being a member of this board, which is why no one should put too much personal information out there about themselves.

But is it really necessary to make a mockery of, be facetious about, or outright run somebody down just because you do not like them for whatever reason? If you are unable to help someone or have nothing nice to say to say to them, why bother saying anything at all?

After seeing some of the responses, both inside and outside of this thread, it really makes me question both the character and integrity of some of the people on this forum.

 

[Speedbump]

Get drunk, get high, and let life just pass you by.

 

[Mitchell]

Wabbit, thank you for your observation. A couple of things in reply.

One.. it wasnt my intent to turn this into a thread about myself. I seriously was trying to help teasing, and got a little carried away about myself.

Two, I do have people I can turn to. I have real life family and friends to talk to. I'm still hurting about my mom, and will for a long time. I've been trying to post some things in my blog.

Also, the general attitude of coldneck. Time and time again, the man has posted downright vicious attacks and predictions. How is it not an attack when someone "predicts" I will be homeless, and he wants my father and I estranged so life can "bitch slap me in the face"., Personally, I think serious action should be taken against him for this, but I'm not the mods.

I'm beginning a new chapter in my life in one to two weeks. While I appreciate the support of the people who have been sincere, I probably should take at least a break from the forum when I move. I've said it many times, and havent done it.

I've been trying to limit posts about my personal life to my blog. I'm hopeful and confident that things will get better, so that I can start posting good things instead of bad.

Mitch

 

[Crazy Wabbit]

One.. it wasnt my intent to turn this into a thread about myself. I seriously was trying to help teasing, and got a little carried away about myself.

Okay. Fair enough.

Two, I do have people I can turn to. I have real life family and friends to talk to. I'm still hurting about my mom, and will for a long time. I've been trying to post some things in my blog.

I was speaking in a theoretical sense. I don't know you or tickletease personally, so I wouldn't know whether or not either one of you have people you can turn to, where the point I was trying to make is if someone had viewed this place as a "second family" or a "group of acceptance" of some sort, they most certainly would no longer feel that way any longer after viewing some of the disparaging remarks that have been scattered on this forum.

Also, the general attitude of coldneck. Time and time again, the man has posted downright vicious attacks and predictions. How is it not an attack when someone "predicts" I will be homeless, and he wants my father and I estranged so life can "bitch slap me in the face"., Personally, I think serious action should be taken against him for this, but I'm not the mods.

I will say this about coldneck, and that is he did offer the OP some real good advice which is to say if he is depressed, he should seek professional help because there's nothing any of us can say or do to help the guy, nor is the guy solving any of his problems by posting it on an internet forum, but could very well be creating more for himself.

Just hang in there, Mitchell. You seem like a nice guy. I am not sure whether or not if you happen to be a person who wears their heart on their sleeve, but if you happen to be one, sooner or later it'll end up getting you hurt. Everytime. That was something I learned a long time ago. One of the things I pride myself in is that I am able to empathize other people. Some people out there either have a difficult time with that or are just completely incapable of it.