So, do you ever feel like you're hated? *Rant alert*

[Sultrybrunette]

You know I did or am currently ignoring someone from my old workplace. It's interesting, when it happens to you it sucks but conciously or unconciously you, or in this case I do it aswell. I'm doing it because I don't want to talk about why I'm doing what I am. But for you people here I can say cause she was hitting on me and she is definately not my type, and she has nothing to offer me. In other words theres no advantage to be in contact with her anymore; and no it was nothing to do with sex or fetishes. What I'm doing may hurt her or it may not, but choose not to talk to her to learn what twisted logic she has. I hope she hates me so we never speak again. I think its best for both of us.

I can't think of anything more immature. If you don't want to have anything more to do with her how about being man enough to face her and tell her. Although more than likely you wouldn't be kind enough to find the right words to do it nicely. Just because she can't "offer you anything" does not mean she isn't a person that deserves some frigging respect. So you don't like having it done to you but are more than willing to do it to someone else?? You know that old saying "what goes around comes around"? And men wonder why they are considered jerks by women.

 

[ticklingfeet4fu]

Well I can HONESTLY say that you were warned. Since I knew who you were talking about it seems only fair you got warned. But you don't believe me. If I mentioned the name out here though half this forum would tell you to run for the hills man. But you believe what you want to believe Adam. But what you are looking for is not Eve. It's a nightmare. All you have to do is ask around. But Sadira and I wouldn't know anything now would we Adam. Your best bet is cut your losses and move on before it is YOU that get hurt. That is a nickles worth of free advice. Take it kid and run with it before you get burned. Reason why I know so much I the subject is because WE ARE CALLED friends to our faces and the the knife in our backs when it is turned and that is a fact. Think about it dude. We are hated so much by this individual you are talking about. So take the advice and run.

 

[unclebill]

Not to worry, Adam. Get a puppy.

 

[drew70]

Well I can HONESTLY say that you were warned. Since I knew who you were talking about it seems only fair you got warned. But you don't believe me. If I mentioned the name out here though half this forum would tell you to run for the hills man. But you believe what you want to believe Adam. But what you are looking for is not Eve. It's a nightmare. All you have to do is ask around. But Sadira and I wouldn't know anything now would we Adam. Your best bet is cut your losses and move on before it is YOU that get hurt. That is a nickles worth of free advice. Take it kid and run with it before you get burned. Reason why I know so much I the subject is because WE ARE CALLED friends to our faces and the the knife in our backs when it is turned and that is a fact. Think about it dude. We are hated so much by this individual you are talking about. So take the advice and run.

So who is it, then?

 

[ticklkitten]

So who is it, then?

It's me Drew... but just so you guys all know... and not that it should be anyone's business but mine... but Adam and I talked a bit and realized the misunderstandings that ensued throughout this whole debacle.

I shouldn't be shocked that all should jump up to hang someone without knowing the true story, and by the time I read this thread it was so far gone I didn't dare say a word. I don't read many threads these days and didn't pay this one much attention until it had hit two pages. Until one night when I decided that Adam should at least know the situation although no one else deserves to but he and I.

My roommate told me he never talked to you... guess he was wrong. But run for the hills if you all wish... I'm only human. I'd be interested in know about the knife in the back but that's a story not intended for TMF but for private lives.

Take this for what you will folks, I'm not around much anymore. Bash me if you like, say whatever you want... after all I am "a nightmare" it's not likely to make a difference to me.

Best wishes,
Carrie

 

[isabeau]

i'm going to put my two cents worth in, hope you dont mind. i believe that personal things between two or more people on this forum should be handled in pms not in an open forum. people will get hurt. when you bring this to an open forum such as this, there are bound to be nasty things said and bashing. i try to resolve anything personal i might have done to anyone on this forum in a pm. if they accept it fine, if not, what can i do? but to bash someone in an open forum is childish and immature imo. i know its happened to me. but the way i handle these things is to place the said person on ignore and go on.

isabeau

 

[unit5610]

P'S One other point: What made the situation last year even more bizarre, was that I had struck up a personal friendship with the girl in question, and had been very helpful to her when she first joined. It was then relayed to me, by a mutual friend of ours, when she left, that she wanted "nothing more to do with tickling, or the forum". I sat there thinking to myself: "Am I tickling, and am I the forum, arent I her friend Mitch, who she said she likes?" It was all so outrageous. There was no rhyme or reason for her decision to disassociate from me. We hadnt had any words of any kind, and everything seemed to be going well. This, along with your situation, enforces the wise member of the forum's point to me about accountability online. It is unfortunate that things have to be this way, but, at times they are.

This is the first time I'm looking at this thread and wanted to respond to Mitch's experience. Unfortunately, when some people become friends with someone on a board like this, they associate that person with the board even if their on-line relationship goes well beyond that subject. It's not right, but I can picture this person's wanting to disassociate with the board meaning cutting off contact with anyone she met there. I'm sure she felt bad about dropping you as a friend but in the end she couldn't seperate you out from it, which is terribly unfair but is the way some people think. Sh*t like that always seems to happen at a bad time, too!

Otherwise, I feel terrible at the sequence of posts above. As a relatively casual member here my inclination would not be to run from the person in question and I'm saddened about whatever happened to cause a major fallout. I miss it when people that I've really enjoyed here aren't around anymore no matter what the circumstances are. There are many outstanding people here but everybody's contribution is unique and that's what makes it so interesting and so much fun to be here.

Thats my rant...thanks for listening!

 

[Stitch62679]

I'll see your two cents, and raise you a nickel.

I used to be on this forum a lot, and have had my fair share of hiatuses too. I've talked to more than a few people from this forum online, and sometimes you do just lose touch with one or all of the forum. I'd have people say horrid things about me simply because I didn't want to persue a friendship offline or make it anymore than that. At times I've been so frustrated with one person that I'd taken it out on everyone I talked to and simply walked away, or changed a screen name.
It's easy to get lost in this fishbowl of a forum, which has a tendancy to take up a lot of your free time, and to monopolize your social circles. When I first chatted here I thought it was sooo cool to talk to other people who liked tickling, then after a while it felt like high school, and after an ever longer while it felt like I was socializing with the smallest of communities and should get out for some fresh air.
I'm not sure if I'm the only one who feels this way, but I just thought i'd toss in my seven cents. 🙂

 

[Illtcklu]

There are many other women here for you to be friends with (sorry, I'm not one of them, so don't contact me 😛). Good luck. 🙂

YOUR NOT?!!!...................................................ignore my last PM.........

 

[tklcouple]

clarity

Great minds discuss ideas . . . .


Average minds discuss events . . . .


Small minds discuss people.


Enough said.

Professor Tkl

 

[TMF Jeff]

I agree with professor. Is this really something that should be being discussed in a public forum? Really, this seems like nobody's business but a half dozen people at most. I don't really understand why this thread was created in the first place, but I'm going to close it now, no offense to anyone is intended.