Hi Judy, I feel your pain. I would like to offer a little advise to you to help you out. First of all, you always know you are welcomed to our home to help me out with Ed, ( I'm always willing to lend that little boy toy sex slave out to others, LOL!) but what "we" have here is a form of obsessive-compulsive behavior that gets triggered off from unfullfilled desires. There are medications that help such behaviors, ask your doctor about paxil, wellbutrin or zoloft, they should help take the edge off your urges.Your not alone, I am very much like you.