@DebonairDavid
I don't mean just on this website where I have been looking, actually I only recently came back after like a decade-long hiatus. I was actually active here until around 2015 and I guess I forgot about this place altogether because tickling isn't as big of a fetish as my other two major ones, CFNM and omorashi, but then one day I was coming across this on fetlife and I saw a link to this and I am like I think I remember being a member here and I sort of guess that my name and password and eventually found it so I was only recently active here after an entire decade but none of my posts got any activity in that time.
On fetlife is better because you can find people who are closer to you but even in my own local area I don't really find anybody and most people on the Internet really don't seem to care or they are sex workers looking for money. But when you have very unusual fetishes, a lack of physical attractiveness and social skills, and high support needs when it comes to autism the odds are pretty much against you. I mean I am considered high functioning I guess because I have high intelligence but I have extreme executive dysfunction where I am completely financially dependent, I don't drive, have no social life, zero sexual experience, and it's just like the odds don't seem like there ever going to be in my favor.
I do spend a lot of time devoted to my writing even if I haven't had a huge amount of success with that because I don't know anything about self-promotion and people who offered to self promote maybe it turned out to be scam artists so I don't know who to trust I don't really have anybody around me who can help me and I'm actually in a pretty toxic environment for someone with my and mental issues.
It's true that you can get very carried away with places like this and sometimes I go on what I call fetish binges where for 7 to 10 days at a time I can barely even think about anything else. And on top of that I am transgender so I have that on top of everything else. And I'm also chronically ill. So again my expectations are set pretty low, and after 20 years or more on the Internet going to websites like fetlife, numerous boards like this for my other fetishes as well I have just not found anything and haven't even really come close. I mean I'm now 41 years old and like the character from the movie the 40-year-old Virgin, at some point you have to say it's just not likely to happen and I think to some degree I have accepted that.
But I do find it is good to cut out as many distractions and such as places like this. I mean I do spend a lot of time working on my writing every day I mean pretty much from the time I wake up until shortly before I go to sleep I probably spend about 12 hours a day just writing pretty much or reading and editing stuff. So I'm very prolific writer but again I don't know anything about self-promotion or how to get a traditional publisher and I really don't have anyone around me who can really help me with that. I mean at some point you just have to realize it's probably not going to happen for you.