The Eternal Question. Can men and women be "Just friends"? Your thoughts

[lowrider33]

Just wondering about others thoughts and opinions on the subject.

As a kid I believe in it, but with whats happening in my world recently, Im starting to see its more of a pipe dream than anything else.

Your thoughts?

-Dave

 

[tickledorange]

Oh yeah. There are a few guys who I have known forever, even since we were babies, and I never dated them. I didn't even have feelings for them back when I was totally single. Besides, sometimes it's easier to tell a guy something that it is another girl.

 

[sushi854]

In my experience it's possible, but not in every situation. I can think of a few female friends that will never be anything but friends. But I have others where there is definitely temptation. So it just depends on the situation. I recently had one such friendship turn inappropriate (she's married-not to me) after too many drinks at a wedding, which was kind of a surprise to both of us, and we realized that our friendship had been dangerous from the beginning. In other cases, I'm not worried about it at all.

 

[ticklishdanny]

It's possible, one of my best friends is a girl. We're not attracted to each other in the relationship kind of sense

 

[cloudgazer2k]

Sure! I have many lady friends that, while I find them attractive, I could never pursue a romance with them.

 

[Sandrock74]

Eh, not really. There's exceptions to every rule, of course.

 

[ticklepamperer]

I think it rather depends on the situation,type of person, ages, and various other factors.In a word yes it is possible to be just friends,withot love or romance and any sexual situation developing.
But people and events change therefore so might the relashionship.

 

[tickles]

I think women can be friends with SOME men. I don't think men can be friends with women without some sexual thoughts/fantasies/wishes/wonders. I think the word "friend" is a subjective word too...🙂. just my two..

 

[Libertine]

Men and women can be just friends with no emotional/sexual undercurrents whatsoever as long as there is a perfectly even, completely bilateral (to put it politely) 'lack of physical chemistry' between the two.

 

[Jagermeistered]

Men and women can be just friends with no emotional/sexual undercurrents whatsoever as long as there is a perfectly even, completely bilateral (to put it politely) 'lack of physical chemistry' between the two.

I agree with your sentiment; my platonic-mate and I have known each other for a little over seven years, and the friendship is wonderful. We have our disagreements and fights(as if we were together), but at the end of the "silent treatment" - nothing never changes in the end.

 

[Gothika]

yep most of my friends are woman

 

[maniactickler]

Yes. as long as they are ticklish though.

 

[Crackity Jones]

Of course?

I worry about the gender attitudes of anyone who suggests otherwise.

 

[kered]

Yes. My best friend is most decidedly female and we have been best friends damn near 40 years.

 

[tickles]

Yes. My best friend is most decidedly female and we have been best friends damn near 40 years.

***stands corrected*** come here buddy!!!

 

[TheTickleMonster]

Yeah, it's very possible. Some of my best friends are females.

 

[ticklemetrix]

most of my best friends have been guys, never been sexual. we may flirt but we also are completely comfortable with each other and know that nothing will happen.

 

[Libertine]

most of my best friends have been guys, never been sexual. we may flirt but we also are completely comfortable with each other and know that nothing will happen.

You know nothing will happen, and that's by your choice; can you absolutely guarantee that one or two of those best friends aren't hoping for a chance?

 

[ticklemetrix]

lol, i guess i cant speak for them...

 

[Ticklerguy4u]

I believe it takes more effort on the guy's part then the girl's part but it is possible.

 

[kopfhorer]

I have female friends who I know aren't ever going to be relationship/date material and that is perfectly OK with me.

 

[LeatherTrap]

Guys and gals can be friends, absolutely! (Except when they can't.) However, in the case that they previously were an item, being just friends just isn't possible. (Except when it is.)

Each relationship is unique.

 

[ticklechambers]

My two best friends are guys 🙂 Both of whom are EX boyfriends. Both of whom are also now friends through me. One of whom I live with 🙂 We interact in a completely platonic way today, in both cases, and there has not been one issue within the two years i've been friends with both of them. 🙂

 

[Coda]

Of course they can.

 

[Korastus]

Yes. My best friend for the last decade is female, which is to say nothing of numerous other female friends, soooooo yep. They can.