Warning - rant coming up.
It's been a while since I started a thread in Discussion, but now I feel I have to do it. It's come to my attention that many men on the forum seem quite desperate about finding a female victim to tickle. I can relate to that, in a way. BUT ! Getting your hopes up that posting here will lead dozens of willing, perfect-looking female ticklees to your doorstep is a bit naive. The problem is, and was, this - there are a hell of a lot more males in any fetish community than there are females. Why is that ? There are manifold reasons. I'll leave the explanation to the psychologists, after all, that's what they're paid for. Besides, it's not the reasons, but the facts that count. There aren't that many women around. Period. And those that are around are NOT our private tickle toys, to be tortured and disposed off. Sorry if this sounds harsh, but from past posts and especially from a few Users' behaviors in the Chatroom, I have to draw the conclusion that quite a few people see women just as that - toys, to be used for personal gratification with no interest in the woman's personality, interests and wishes whatsoever. This, of course, leads to even less females coming here. If I were Private-Message bombed every time I came into the chatroom, I'd think twice about coming at all, to be honest. Not that we don't have a few female ticklees around, don't get me wrong. But there are also some women who are not looking to be tickled, but to tickle themselves. Pestering them with requests to let themselves be tickled doesn't really help anybody, especially if their clarifications on their status as ticklers, not 'lees, are blatantly ignored.
As for what to do about it all... Of course you can start pages like tickle-fan phonebooks. I applaud the efford. You can contact matchmakers like Mistress Mia, who does a great job supplying the community with inspiration, and who invests a lot of time into all of this. Thanks, Mia ! 😀 But the fact remains - there aren't enough females around. That's how it is. So chances are, all of the inter-community effords won't get you a score. What to do ? Easy.
Guys. Look out of the window. See all those people ? See the women walking around ? I bet you know a woman or two you consider getting intimate with. Try it ! I had some very nice tickling experiences in the past. None of my partners were ticklees before I met them. None shared the fetish. And they weren't hookers. It goes like this - if you manage to get a girl interested in you, you merely have to very carefully bring the subject up. You can do it the way I do, with the Jackhammer-method - 'You know, I'm a pervert... I'm into saditic tickling... Whatcha think ?' (well, I'm not quite that blunt, but it's the general idea of those talks), or you can just gradually incorporate tickling into your relationships and be truthful when she asks you about it (and she will, sooner or later). Our fetish isn't as bad, perverted or out-of-bounds than most of us tend to believe. As a matter of fact, most reactions I got were along the lines of - 'That's it ? That's your big secret ? Hey, that's not so bad !'
You won't believe how easy your life can get once you realize that there are really one helluva lot ticklees out there - They're just not labeled on their foreheads as such. So go out and find them... You know, socializing will get you hooked up way, way sooner than sitting in front of a computer all day 😉
So what's the point of this post ? I think I mostly delivered it. I'm not telling you to get a life - those are contagious and expensive in the upkeep. But please, consider that fact that this is the community for all of us. It's a meeting place. It's NOT a bordello. And if you're desperate for a ticklee... Than, by all means, take fate into your own hands, go out there and get 'em !
Take care all, I hope no-one feels attacked by this post. I was not aiming at anyone. I just had to get this of my chest. Peace.
It's been a while since I started a thread in Discussion, but now I feel I have to do it. It's come to my attention that many men on the forum seem quite desperate about finding a female victim to tickle. I can relate to that, in a way. BUT ! Getting your hopes up that posting here will lead dozens of willing, perfect-looking female ticklees to your doorstep is a bit naive. The problem is, and was, this - there are a hell of a lot more males in any fetish community than there are females. Why is that ? There are manifold reasons. I'll leave the explanation to the psychologists, after all, that's what they're paid for. Besides, it's not the reasons, but the facts that count. There aren't that many women around. Period. And those that are around are NOT our private tickle toys, to be tortured and disposed off. Sorry if this sounds harsh, but from past posts and especially from a few Users' behaviors in the Chatroom, I have to draw the conclusion that quite a few people see women just as that - toys, to be used for personal gratification with no interest in the woman's personality, interests and wishes whatsoever. This, of course, leads to even less females coming here. If I were Private-Message bombed every time I came into the chatroom, I'd think twice about coming at all, to be honest. Not that we don't have a few female ticklees around, don't get me wrong. But there are also some women who are not looking to be tickled, but to tickle themselves. Pestering them with requests to let themselves be tickled doesn't really help anybody, especially if their clarifications on their status as ticklers, not 'lees, are blatantly ignored.
As for what to do about it all... Of course you can start pages like tickle-fan phonebooks. I applaud the efford. You can contact matchmakers like Mistress Mia, who does a great job supplying the community with inspiration, and who invests a lot of time into all of this. Thanks, Mia ! 😀 But the fact remains - there aren't enough females around. That's how it is. So chances are, all of the inter-community effords won't get you a score. What to do ? Easy.
Guys. Look out of the window. See all those people ? See the women walking around ? I bet you know a woman or two you consider getting intimate with. Try it ! I had some very nice tickling experiences in the past. None of my partners were ticklees before I met them. None shared the fetish. And they weren't hookers. It goes like this - if you manage to get a girl interested in you, you merely have to very carefully bring the subject up. You can do it the way I do, with the Jackhammer-method - 'You know, I'm a pervert... I'm into saditic tickling... Whatcha think ?' (well, I'm not quite that blunt, but it's the general idea of those talks), or you can just gradually incorporate tickling into your relationships and be truthful when she asks you about it (and she will, sooner or later). Our fetish isn't as bad, perverted or out-of-bounds than most of us tend to believe. As a matter of fact, most reactions I got were along the lines of - 'That's it ? That's your big secret ? Hey, that's not so bad !'
You won't believe how easy your life can get once you realize that there are really one helluva lot ticklees out there - They're just not labeled on their foreheads as such. So go out and find them... You know, socializing will get you hooked up way, way sooner than sitting in front of a computer all day 😉
So what's the point of this post ? I think I mostly delivered it. I'm not telling you to get a life - those are contagious and expensive in the upkeep. But please, consider that fact that this is the community for all of us. It's a meeting place. It's NOT a bordello. And if you're desperate for a ticklee... Than, by all means, take fate into your own hands, go out there and get 'em !
Take care all, I hope no-one feels attacked by this post. I was not aiming at anyone. I just had to get this of my chest. Peace.
(sound of crickets) *crawls back into my hole*
