The Longest You Went Without Sex Or Sexual Interaction

[OldSchoolTicklr]

I'm no sex therapist, but I think that as long as you're OK with your sex life in its present state, there is no problem. The only red flag might be if you really wanted partner sex but were afraid, consciously or not, of having it, of dating, etc. (I hope my mention of subconscious stuff hasn't made you even more paranoid about your situation!)

Perhaps your libido has gone into "screen-saver mode". Or you're just happy being with yourself. Nothing's wrong with that. And either might change if and when the right person comes along and/or when something clicks in your mind. In other words, I don't think there's anything to worry about. Just my two cents' worth. My friend OTOH seems to be in denial about his situation, but again, since I haven't asked him about it (I have no plans to do so) that's only my somewhat educated guess.



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everything you said makes perfect sence! thanks for the insite and opinion 🙂 i also couldnt help but notice in your screen name..under it it says "audiophile"..are you? cause im one of those, and it annoys people that dont know any better about quality!lol

 

[Duke Diablo]

Personally, I also say wait for marriage. It's the right thing to do and you can always look back and be proud of that decision and strength in your decision making.

No disrespect here, m8, but I say "DON'T wait for marriage".

First off, sex is an important part of relationship, at least to me. If you don't have sex with someone, how do you know you're sexually compatible? Also, a more experienced partner (who has really explored the many possibilities sex has to offer) is bound to have better technique in pleasing his partner.

Also, I see nothing less virtuous in saying: "The rest of the girls were just searches for the right one, warm up for You. Now, with everything I've seen, I know I can settle with you."
than this:
"I have waited my whole life for You, and I know you're the Right One."

Person who says the first thing (call him/her person A) can also be more certain about his call than person B (one who waited). Person A can be certain that he has found a person who fulfills him/her both emotionally and sexually, while person B can never be certain until he/she is married. Which, in case things turn wrong, can mean a long and unhappy marriage (doesn't mean it will, but it would take a lot of sacrifice from either side, sacrifice which leads to frustration).

Just my 2 cents.

Back on topic:

Kopfhorer: I meant beat my time without sex. 😀

Also, about being abstinent, it's not so much of low sexual need (damn, I masturbate at least 3 times a day) or chosing an isolation because of 'virtue', I have done it for a different reason, whicih would require a rant of its own to display properly. 🙂

 

[QueenBeeBeeMari]

Damn you, League of Extraordinary Virgins, for spoiling my victory. But, I will return one day *shakes his fist and escapes in a escape-jet*

sorry,I will be a virgin until marriage my darling

 

[HOLLYWOOD]

believe it or not it is true about the rumor that the hollywood brother has had a few dry spells in his run as the hollywood brother. although the hollywood brother is not sure the exact time period, for the hollywood brother it was more the lonliness of not being close emotionally to someone that affected the hollywood brother a lot more than not having sex. after all there is manual ways for guys to get the same result as sex and there is many millions of great products out on the market for women to get the same result as sex without having to use a partner. the hardest part (no hollywood brother pun intedned) was in all seriousness not having anyone to love on a emotional level. the hollywood brother can survive for periods of tiem without tickles or sex but to have no attachment to anyone and to feel unwanted and unloved is a hard pill to swallow

 

[OldSchoolTicklr]

believe it or not it is true about the rumor that the hollywood brother has had a few dry spells in his run as the hollywood brother. although the hollywood brother is not sure the exact time period, for the hollywood brother it was more the lonliness of not being close emotionally to someone that affected the hollywood brother a lot more than not having sex. after all there is manual ways for guys to get the same result as sex and there is many millions of great products out on the market for women to get the same result as sex without having to use a partner. the hardest part (no hollywood brother pun intedned) was in all seriousness not having anyone to love on a emotional level. the hollywood brother can survive for periods of tiem without tickles or sex but to have no attachment to anyone and to feel unwanted and unloved is a hard pill to swallow

i totaly understand where your coming from. i remember a time when i felt that way myself. however, through trial and error durring one of those (and the last and final) time i felt alone, i ended up starting to see someone just for the fact that they were "crazy over me" so to speak, and because i had that feeling of alone, i just went with em, when under normal sane frame of mind, i wouldnt have givin them anymore than my friendship.

we had absolutely nothing in common in any areas. we were total oposite in everyway...from music likes, to sex (and fetish), to frame of mind, opinions, point of views..you name it, was ALL ass backwards and i was miserable and more alone than when i was alone. after i broke free from that mistake, i woke up you could say and since then have been very choosing and cautious on who i was to get involved with.

honestly, if i wasnt living in a remote area, i probably still would be heading twards that 2 year record cause ive only met and been with one person in my entire life that was "THE" one so far (and this was just a little over 2 years ago), and that had to end for reasons beyond both our control. so guess you can say im waiting for either that special one to come back into my life under different circumstances someday, or how they say you have 2 soul mates..im waiting for that 2nd one.

its better to be 'alone' so to speak than totaly unhappy and unsatisfied. that was a lesson i learned a few years ago after experiencing "THE" one 🙂

 

[FeatherFeet]

I've been single for over 2 years now. So, two years. I'm not one for hookups, or casual sex buddies. Tho sometimes my hand has to service me like 5 times a day, (on those bad days near the full moon) it generally hasn't been that bad, since ive emersed myself in school, work, jujutsu, tai chi, writing, drum circles and a slew of other activities. maybe ill meet someone in graduate school. (another problem is that all the girls i interact with, which isn't many on a personal level since highschool, are all morons)

 

[Budweiserbob!]

In my marriage... 2 months I think... give or take a few days. 😛

We try to have it regularly. Makes for a healthy relationship. 😀

(Note: Post 3333 xD)

 

[frylock111]

Virgin. Good to see I'm not the only wolf here.

 

[tk0]

18 years

 

[OldSchoolTicklr]

(another problem is that all the girls i interact with, which isn't many on a personal level since highschool, are all morons)

HAHA! Tell me about it! Had to laugh out loud at that one..cause I totaly get itlol

 

[kopfhorer1]

everything you said makes perfect sence! thanks for the insite and opinion 🙂

No problem. Glad I could help!

i also couldnt help but notice in your screen name..under it it says "audiophile"..are you? cause im one of those, and it annoys people that dont know any better about quality!lol

I certainly am, and IMO the 1970's were vintage years for audio and audio gear, though the 50's and 60's are not to be taken lightly!

Kopfhorer: I meant beat my time without sex. 😀

I know. I was just being crude! 🙂

BTW, I agree with your views on pre-marital abstinence, and so do these people.

Also, about being abstinent, it's not so much of low sexual need (damn, I masturbate at least 3 times a day) or chosing an isolation because of 'virtue', I have done it for a different reason, whicih would require a rant of its own to display properly. 🙂

I hear you loud and clear on that point...

... for the hollywood brother it was more the lonliness of not being close emotionally to someone that affected the hollywood brother a lot more than not having sex. after all there is manual ways for guys to get the same result as sex...

Not sure if I’d consider it quite the same result, but I agree with your previous point.

FWIW, I think it’s important to have as many friends as one can manage and not depend upon just one person for all of one’s emotional needs..

 

[Duke Diablo]

BTW, I agree with your views on pre-marital abstinence, and so do these people.



I hear you loud and clear on that point...

Lol, good one 'Sex needs practice'. 😀
But really, though, how can you know if you're sexually compatible with someone unless you 'try' them? And if you're not, it's definitely not going to change during marriage. And, in marriage, I don't know about others, but I would expect and need sex.

I mean, giving up joy in sex is same as putting a pebble in your shoe and saying: "I don't need such earthly thing as comfort"

Not sure if I’d consider it quite the same result, but I agree with your previous point.

I agree... it's definitely not the same. I mean... your hand is always ready, never complains, doesn't ask to cuddle, won't cheat on you, doesn't need to go shopping, and she'll stick by you no matter what.

 

[kopfhorer1]

Some edifying replies to this thread got crunched in the recent TT meltdown. Damn shame. Hope they can ultimately be restored.

In the meantime, here's something for folks to watch while they're waiting for their next (or first) sexual encounter (WARNING - NSFW, and some stories may prove offensive).

 

[Timewarp]

does "from birth" count?

 

[Sadistictickler]

does "from birth" count?

Not in my opinion. If you don't know what you're missing you can't be missing it.

For me it's been something like 2 weeks, maybe 3.

 

[Timewarp]

Not in my opinion. If you don't know what you're missing you can't be missing it.

For me it's been something like 2 weeks, maybe 3.

What do you mean "I don't know what i'm missing"? If I didn't see it everywhere from tv to books to the internet, adverts and school then I wouldn't know jack shit. So **** you.

 

[kopfhorer1]

Not in my opinion. If you don't know what you're missing you can't be missing it.

For me it's been something like 2 weeks, maybe 3.

Go ahead. Brag! 😀 Seriously, if a couple of weeks is the longest dry spell you've ever had, you're very, very fortunate indeed!

What do you mean "I don't know what i'm missing"? If I didn't see it everywhere from tv to books to the internet, adverts and school then I wouldn't know jack shit. ...

Truer words were never spoken. Actually, what they're usually showing in the media isn't sex per se, but merely the idea of sex. In other words, it's really nothing more than a colossal tease, to get you to buy products, watch programs, buy movie tickets, etc.

 

[darkwolf1]

well in real life i'm a virgin also, so i guess duke and i are tied...

if cyber/online sex counts..i'd say about 2 years since the last time i did it and counting per day