The morality of 'turning' a tickler

[Whacky Macky]

...so I've asked a couple of people in the chatroom about this, but now I've decided to go and ask all of you, so there.

Basically, I've dated a wonderful girl for about 2 years now. Within 6 months of meeting her, I could hold back my secret no longer, and told her. She was wonderfully accepting, allowing me to indulge myself on a regular basis, and slowly but surely, over the time we spent together, she has been 'conditioned', of sorts. For example, tickling now turns her on just as much as me.

The question here is; is that right? Like, morally so. I keep thinking, what if we were to break up, and she would thus be sexually incompatible with the next ordinary guy she dates? Is it a wrong thing for us to turn more people into ticklephiles?

(Note: please, please, please be objective here. I know 'more willing ticklish girls = GREAT' but I'm talking a little more broader here 😉 )

 

[TklDuo-Ann]

Interesting question!

In this specific case, I'd say that you simply unleashed what was already inside. If she wasn't already inclined in that direction, she would likely allow but not be turned on by it. I think that the same holds for people in general, actually. People are either going to be or not be turned on by something. I don't think that can be changed.

Things like tickling, since they aren't part of the norm of expectations, may be an acquired taste of sorts. But, unless someone is downright brainwashed, I don't think that we take anything away from them by introducing them to it. The only lack of morality I'd find is if someone were to do it against the will of the other person.

AFA your concern of compatibility issues down the road... My own opinion (which I'm sure many will disagree with and that's cool as long as they're civil about it) is that specific turn-ons are great and can be a lot of fun. But, they aren't a biological need...no matter how much we may psych ourselves up to thinking so. I'm sure there are other things that turn her on. If she were to leave you down the road and not find another tickle lover, I'm sure she'd survive. Heck, she might even "convert" someone else! lol

Ann

 

[ticklishbbw]

Is it a wrong thing for us to turn more people into ticklephiles?

I agree with Ann, you didn't turn her into something, you introduced someone who is either open minded, or at least open to new experiences, to the world of tickling. It's still her choice to tickle or be tickled, whether she is with you, or with someone else.

(of course we all know that there's a secret ticklephile desire for world domination...but that's a whole other thread! )

tbbw

 

[Haltickling]

Ann spoke from my very heart. I've "converted" several girls to tickling in my life (one of them was my former wife), and they all were grateful for this new thrill. One of them even converted her next lover, and they're married now.

Instead of having guilty feelings, you should be proud to have enlarged the personal horizon of this girl. She knows a richer variety of stimulating sensations now, because of you. I don't think her future partnerships are in danger just because she has learnt more about tickling. You haven't "switched" her, as tickling and vanilla relationships are quite compatible. 😎

 

[justadinosaur]

If only for confirmation of the views expressed in other replies above, I can't see for the life of me where the moral issue lies here at all......?? 😕 You sound like you're very happy and loving, sounds like your feelings are being just as lovingly and enthusiastically reciprocated, sounds like a lot of tickling is going on too!! 😀
Okay, it's not about tickles anyway...
So... What do you miss?? Morality should only be called into question when one's own happiness, well-being, satisfaction and fulfillment get in the way of anybody else's ones... Which is not the case here. Could be in case she ever happened not to click with some other partner in an uncertain and remote future because of the new tickle-factor... And....?? So what?! It's not up to you to rack your brains counting all possible outcomes, contingencies and ramifications of your and her future depending on any action being taken here and now! You are living, enjoying life (hopefully all the rest, not just tickling) so keep enjoying and loving and don't think of it too much.... Spontaneity is part of the fun!
And why do you already want to consider what will be once the two of you split up?? That's negative thinking actually!! Bring her flowers and shove such vague doubts into the closet. (Left blissfully vacant by disclosing that you're a ticklephile!!! 🙂 )
Cheers and beers to all!!

justadinosaur!!

P.S. ....what a sorry wise-ass I am, huh??

 

[tommytikl]

Lets change your point from tickling to say watching Kung Fu movies...
Would you feel "morally bad" if you two split up and she left the relationship loving Kung Fu movies?

One takes a bit of something from every boyfriend/girlfriend they "encounter".

Like the others have mentioned I would be grateful for the time I had with her and glad that I broadened her view of tickling or Kung Fu or whatever.

Actually, I think it is great that you unleashed the ticklee in her, that can be quite un-nerving to bare your sole er soul to her.
Also I wouldn't worry about her leaving you...that just leads to negative thoughts. Just enjoy what you have for now!

Anyway, congrats oh and welcome(Since I have never seen you post before).

 

[Neutron]

Rolls My Eyes...

That's not your problem. It was her choice as an individual. Here we have yet another tickler who thinks things through too far.
Take a walk, read a book, try to get a life man.

Tron

 

[Goodieluver]

I def dont see a moral issue here. If someone goes out and gets introduced to something, over time if it interests them they will enjoy it. It happens from what food you eat to "babe i wanna tie u down and go to town"

 

[WraithTickler]

There is nothing immoral about this. Tickling would be classified as a fetish, which is a psychologically deviant bavhior. The morality of it, depends on the use/application, but turning someone in this sense is not immoral since there is a free consent and their own choices affect the use/application, which would again be with consent and between couples under most normal circumstances, ultimately making it morally undeviant and perfectly acceptable on those grounds.

 

[BellaRisa]

Re: Rolls My Eyes...

Here we have yet another tickler who thinks things through too far. Take a walk, read a book, try to get a life man.

Tron

I thought the reason for this forum was discussion of our tickling related thoughts.

Let's see: he's got a nice girl he likes a lot and who likes him, whom he's managed to turn into a tickle-enthusiast; something many, MANY others here have tried and failed miserably. Sounds to me like he *has* a life, and a pretty darn nice one.

Interesting topic Whacky, thanks for posting! And good for you for thinking about someone besides yourself, I wish more 'lers did. 😎

Bella

 

[TickledToDeath]

As stated above by some, in other words, when it comes down to it, you didn't set free in her what was not already there. You just opened the portal for her.
Hopefully you two will NOT break up but IF even you do, she will in turn have the opportunity to introduce another in HER life and have YOU to thank for it. You gave her a "gift". A turn on of great magnitude. How can one question such a gift?!


TTD

 

[daddy]

It could also be entirely possible that she accepts the tickling in the relationship and gets turned on by it because it now has a different meaning to her~~~~~~~~~~~TICKLING = GREAT SEX!!!! She might be using it to her own advantage...LOL

peace out,
daddy

 

[Whacky Macky]

Well thank you everyone...especially Tkl-Duo Ann, for starting the ball rolling, and bella, for defending me!

Neutron... *waves metaphorical fist*

So we as a tickling community are totally justified in our converting to the cause? Excellent...then let me be first to give the order; go forth everyone, and make this world beautiful with the laughter of a civilisation turned to ticklephiles!

 

[Havsoker]

...The question here is; is that right? Like, morally so. I keep thinking, what if we were to break up, and she would thus be sexually incompatible with the next ordinary guy she dates? Is it a wrong thing for us to turn more people into ticklephiles?

(Note: please, please, please be objective here. I know 'more willing ticklish girls = GREAT' but I'm talking a little more broader here 😉 )

Unless you "brainwashed" or hypnotized her, there is no problem. It sounds as though you introduced her to something she willingly embraced. You didn't really turn her into anything. Relax! Enjoy!🙂

Hav

 

[Oddjob0226]

My God man, the damage you have done!!!!😱

 

[Ayla ny]

a mind is a terrible thing to open... ( 😉 )

I think it’s either in you or it’s not. your girlfriend, it seems, had it in her. she was lucky enough to have you open her eyes to it, and you were lucky enough to have been the one to do it. what could be better?

your “what if we were to break up, and she would thus be sexually incompatible with the next ordinary guy she dates?” worry is very sweet and thoughtful but not something you need to feel badly about. liken it to taking her out to a four star restaurant. would you feel guilty that fast food will never taste as good? uh uh! show her the stars. if nothing else, at least she got to see them.

 

[Knox The Hatter]

My sister and her husband split up eight years ago, and his legacy was that he left her a besotted NASCAR freak. It adds far more color and enjoyment to her life than he ever did.
You didn't turn her into an ax murderer...or something else equally or less odious, so what's the problem?