tickled at work - where to go from here?

[ticklehound]

So, I've been to several work-sponsored happy hours, which provides great socializing outside in the real world. Lately, over this time, I somehow find a way to get tickle-poked a lot by some of the girls as they come over to mingle. Its fun, and clearly, I like it. Now, I never thought of myself as being extremely ticklish, but based on their reactions to my reactions, I clearly am (to them).

The other night, I was working the overnight shift and my colleague (who stands about 5'2" and 95# dripping wet) and I (clocking in at 6'3", 255#) were finishing dinner in the cafeteria when my friend that I haven't seen in a while came by. I got up to say hi and she came in to hug me, but before she did, she remarked "don't worry, I won't tickle you." She then turned to the other girl and said "Yea, I heard he was really ticklish." I was shocked at how word had apparently spread. I deftly and coyly said that I'm not that ticklish and that I don't mind being tickled. I got nothing after that.

We got up and went walking back to the elevator (I was walking slightly in front of the other two). No sooner had we turned the corner, when my colleague attacks my ribs from behind. I let out a ticklish yell, jumped and turned to see her laughing at me. I laughed it off for a second before I instinctively lunged at her and placed her in a bear-hug with my right hand on her left hip and vice versa. I unleashed a ticklish fury on her sides, belly and ribs. She laughed, screamed and fought hard but was clearly no match for me. This only lasted a few seconds as we were technically on the job. My friend, after seeing this show, admitted to me later that she would not tickle me as she is deathly ticklish herself.

I guess, I'm just wondering where do I go from here, as clearly this is an interesting and intriguing event. I mean, I am very friendly to both of the two women, and never really thought about dating either of them. I think the friend who tickled me is undeniably cute and ticklish. Do I tickle her again and how? Do I mention how I really like to tickle and be tickled? Obviously, I would do this outside of work. I am likely reading into this more than it probably is, but I can't help but think that this cute little pixie, upon hearing how ticklish I am, was comfortable in tickling me. I feel I gotta delve into this deeper.

Any advice is much appreciated. If anyone wants to know more details, let me know and I'll share.

 

[4Pawz]

This is something I would be extremely careful with. Tickling means different things to different people. And in the workplace can make it all the more confusing.

This is just me, but for now, I would let her initiate it, and play along as it happens. I would keep things simple in the workplace....pokes, little stuff like that. If it continues and goes any further, I would talk to her outside of work and make sure she's okay with what is happening.

This is just me. but I have seen plenty go bad and fast. if she's like me (and I dunno I'm fairly odd) she likes it and will continue.

I'm a go with the flow person, which is probably how I ended up where I am.....but oh well.

Good luck with whatever happens or develops!

 

[Artoo]

Hmm...I'd echo what 4pawz said, as tickling can and does indeed mean different things to people. Most of the peeps at work know I like tickling, to varying extents. But more often than not the only thing that ensues is harmless fun.

Go slow, see what happens, and good luck 🙂

 

[Skipadeedoodah]

I agree - don't get too crazy with it. If it's only been recently - let it continue to develop naturally as it's been. Apparentely doing nothing is working for ya at the moment 😛

p.s. ginormous guy being ticklish = fucking adorable LOL

 

[WorkInProgress]

I agree with the advice you're getting, because I would add this: They may have fun casually and spontaneously tickling you and being tickled by you, but give them an inkling that you belong to an international community of people who post on a message board about tickling, watch videos of people being tied and tickled, and have annual conventions to tickle each other on bondage equipment, and your name to them will suddenly be "the sick fuck who should be locked up before he hurts somebody."

 

[Carsomyr]

To answer the OP, I think you are reading into this way too much. Of course, who am I to claim that I grasp the situation any better than you? I wouldn't act on it though, if I were you... at least not unless you started dating one of them, then it might be ok to tell her.

It's pretty pointless of me to reply though, because 4Pawz gave you the perfect answer. And if you DO want to act upon this, then you should probably do something along the lines of what she suggested.

Good luck. 🙂

 

[DownUnder]

I think by this stage, the OP knows this work rendezvous has its dangers, no need for my further input.

I'm intrigued to know, though, to what extent do implications from workplace relationships flow on to real life? If I tickle a co-worker at my place of work and she doesn't like it, that's harrassment, no question. If I meet this co-worker in a non-work situation, well away from the office, at a diner, and I tickle her, and she doens't like it, does that still come under workplace laws? Or are we just looking at common law assault?

 

[CuteJill143]

So true! =)

 

[nenezinho]

I work for almost 4 years in the same company, there´s 2 girls with whom i kind of get some "ticklefights" now and then.

Never developed from there to anywhere else! Actually one of them i did try to develop into a deeper relationship, just to find out she actually had a boyfriend (ohh well!!). We do keep a very close friendship ever since and today i tickle her a lot at work 🙂

Bottom line, always act carefully as you would act with any girl which you barely know. The fact that you work with someone not always means that you know them that well. If you do know them well, then you should need no advice and should be able to find your own way.

 

[4Pawz]

I think by this stage, the OP knows this work rendezvous has its dangers, no need for my further input.

I'm intrigued to know, though, to what extent do implications from workplace relationships flow on to real life? If I tickle a co-worker at my place of work and she doesn't like it, that's harrassment, no question. If I meet this co-worker in a non-work situation, well away from the office, at a diner, and I tickle her, and she doens't like it, does that still come under workplace laws? Or are we just looking at common law assault?[/QUOTE]

It would be assault, depending upon your state's laws.

 

[WorkInProgress]

I think by this stage, the OP knows this work rendezvous has its dangers, no need for my further input.

I'm intrigued to know, though, to what extent do implications from workplace relationships flow on to real life? If I tickle a co-worker at my place of work and she doesn't like it, that's harrassment, no question. If I meet this co-worker in a non-work situation, well away from the office, at a diner, and I tickle her, and she doens't like it, does that still come under workplace laws? Or are we just looking at common law assault?


(And then 4Pawz replied)

It would be assault, depending upon your state's laws.

Actually, if you know each other from work, and the relationship outside of work escalates into a police incident, you're probably up the creek at work too. Really, though, the key is this: You need to be clear on just what the definition of every relationship is, so that you don't cross any lines. I teach at a college in the Baltimore area and have very cordial relations with every one of the young women the department (as well as with everybody else as far as I know), but it would cause serious awkwardness and tension if I were ever to try to tickle any one of my colleagues, because that just isn't the kind of rapport I have with anybody there. I'm also a member of a theatre group in New York, and I've gotten away with briefly tickling a few of the actresses there, especially at parties. One shook her head as if to say "no, don't tickle me," but then the conversation went on normally and there was no thought of calling the police. (At one party, an actress whom I had tickled a few times saw me with the whole front of my shirt wet after I had gone to rinse out a spill of wine, and she said, "What did you do, tickle the wrong person?") It's all a matter of context, and where a workplace is involved, erring on the side of caution is best, because even if the only consequence is the reduction of friendliness in a relationship, that's pretty unfortunate in itself when it happens.

It sounds as if Ticklehound has some nice co-workers, women I'd enjoy meeting too. I still say: he should be careful not to let them know quite how much he likes it.

 

[Skipadeedoodah]

If you do know them well, then you should need no advice and should be able to find your own way.

I disagree entirely. I can't tell you how many times I've asked for advice on how to deal with my best friend (of 18 years) or my fiance, who I know better than anyone, and vice versa. Knowing someone, even very well, doesn't mean that others can't have valuable input. They actually may be able to read the situation better from an outside, unbiased point of view, and point out options or circumstances that someone engulfed in the situation wouldn't have seen.

 

[DownUnder]

I disagree entirely. I can't tell you how many times I've asked for advice on how to deal with my best friend (of 18 years) or my fiance, who I know better than anyone, and vice versa. Knowing someone, even very well, doesn't mean that others can't have valuable input. They actually may be able to read the situation better from an outside, unbiased point of view, and point out options or circumstances that someone engulfed in the situation wouldn't have seen.

I would go further and dare say that your intimate knowledge of their thoughts and personality poses as a barrier to your understanding of more superficial levels of their psyche.

 

[Em Es]

Life's too short not to go for it

Ticklehound, assuming you and this diminutive female colleague are both single, I say ask for her home phone number. If she gives it to you, wait about a week and call her for a date, just the two of you, no exceptions, and take it from there. But if she says no, unless calling her bluff makes it awkward at work just go back to having fun with her on the job and in group outings after hours.

I don't regret the many, many women who turned me down when I was single. All I regret is wondering what would have happened had I made my move with the girls who had not yet said "No." A man should never quit a woman before she fires him.

 

[ticklehound]

Wow, thanks for the replies - interesting array of responses. Just to be clear - I guess I should say that the nature of my job is such that most of us (the single ones mostly) tend to have little time to meet others outside our line of work. As such, a lot of our best friends are co-workers. When we hang out outside of work, it's as if we're engaging each other in a totally different environment.

The one who tickled me in the hall is one whom I rarely work with, in different hospitals most of the time. But, our own circle of friends have inter-laced for happy hours, ball-games, movies, etc. That being said, I feel its safe to say we enjoy each others company, to say the least. Not interested in dating, but at least hang out more.

Also, to clarify, my intentions are merely to possibly tickle her in a playful way outside of work. By no means am I implying I wish to take her aside, and ask her if she's like to go back to my place, tie her up and tickle her senseless.

I think, for now, I'll call her to come out with me and my friends more often. Bring up tickling in casual conversation between the two of us and set myself up in situations to get her to tickle me. I'll take it slow, but hopefully, things move faster. Thanks again,

BigTicklish.

 

[4Pawz]

🙂 good luck. sounds like a plan!

 

[Deleted member 66627]

I guess, I'm just wondering where do I go from here, as clearly this is an interesting and intriguing event. I mean, I am very friendly to both of the two women, and never really thought about dating either of them. I think the friend who tickled me is undeniably cute and ticklish. Do I tickle her again and how? Do I mention how I really like to tickle and be tickled? Obviously, I would do this outside of work. I am likely reading into this more than it probably is, but I can't help but think that this cute little pixie, upon hearing how ticklish I am, was comfortable in tickling me. I feel I gotta delve into this deeper.

As long as it's away from work, then it basically depends on your comfort level. Would you feel okay telling them that you enjoy being tickled? If yes, then I say go for it.

 

[Em Es]

Ticklehound

What would be your ideal scenario with this female colleague if you do not wish to have a one-on-one relationship?

 

[ticklehound]

yea, I guess I should have fleshed this out more. As I've said, dating her is not my intention, but if she were to show interest and a spark ignites, then I'll go with it.

As of right now, I am thinking of the situation as thus: I know a girl who recently felt comfortable enough to tickle me. What I hope is that we find ourselves alone sometime soon and we talk and hang out more often. Tickling enters the conversation and hopefully, she's curious and/or adventurous. I picture ourselves on my couch watching a lame DVD, and I end up rubbing/ tickling her feet. Where it goes from there is really up to her. Maybe it stops at nothing more than tickle fights til submission or it goes onto full-on BD tickling.

I could totally see this situation panning out, and that's why I'm seeking counsel here as to how to proceed, i.e. how do i approach her again. obviously, this will be outside of work, and I'll be holding a lot of stuff close to the vest initially. We'll see what happens. thanks again.

 

[Em Es]

Just remember, women do the choosing

Not that a girl won't flirt with you just to play with your head, Ticklehound, but if she really wants to be with you there is a good chance she will make that clear. When a woman wants a man, she will be just as assertive as guys can get when they chase skirts. For all the time men invest in going after the ladies, women do the choosing.

Your words "I'll be holding a lot of stuff close to the vest initially" impress me, as being a challenge to a girl is half the game in getting her. Don't be one of so many lame guys too just too eager to please.