Tickling Girls why does it gotta be so difficult

[j-e-l-l-o]

Im a shy Guy anyways im still 19 will be 20 here in Nov yahooo for my B-day anyways im getting off topic here sorry hehe😉 but seriously i have like only tickled one Girl in my entire life. And that was my Girlfriend Jessica will ex-now. Shes homeschooled now so i never see her. But i mean come on how sad is that? Only tickling one Girl my entire life🙁 i would say pretty sad myself. I know tickling is not like a score or state to see how many people you can tickle above the next guy or girl. But i would like to tickle more Girls to see them giggle in warm laughter🙂 how would i go about this? Members any suggestons to how to apporch Girls once i do get to know them. Any ideas on how to apporch them with Tickling?

thanks

 

[BigJim]

Hrrrrmmmmmm.......

I can speak as the world's largest nerd here j-e-l-l-o. I came to the TMF (or to the online community anyway) as a naive 21 year old who had no experience of tickling anyone except my cousin.

One thing the net allowed me to do was create what you might think of as a "shop front" for myself. People got to know me because I became a frequent poster and chat room user and sooner or later, other Brits did too.

Your own path will mostly be a self-made one with your own tweaks and touches in it, but there are a few things you can do. Use the boards more often, get to talk to people who are geographically nearer to you than others. Use the chat room more often and use it as a place where you can safely cyber-practice interacting with people. Now you can obviously pretty much guarantee that anyone in the chat room is a ticklephile, unlike real life; but it's still a good place to just "hang out".
I've often found that tickling can be squeezed into r/l situations, by adopting an "evil" personality whenever you talk to a girl. My favourite tactic is to deliberatley encourage them to be sassy by being jocular and poking fun. When they reply sassily but in a playful way, it won't look strange if you reply with playful tickling.
The best example of whn I did this, was on holiday. I was on the plane with three girls from Birmingham who also ended up in my hotel. I was always poking fun at them by the pool, in the hotel etc. They used to reply in kind with some withing comment about men, so in would close the tickling fingers to extract revenge!

You don't have to come across as someone who's whole focus is one tickling mate. You can make it look totally innocent, but have fun your way too.

 

[Knox The Hatter]

"I've often found that tickling can be squeezed into r/l situations, by adopting an "evil" personality whenever you talk to a girl. My favourite tactic is to deliberatley encourage them to be sassy by being jocular and poking fun. When they reply sassily but in a playful way, it won't look strange if you reply with playful tickling."


This strategy always came naturally to me...
You have to go out and meet girls. Many girls. And, you show off the very best aspects of your personality. When you have done this, and done this successfully, you will tickle them. And they will enjoy it. If you're on the right track, they will enjoy it immensely.
Now, you have to look into yourself and bring out what is the very best in you, and never dwell on the negatives.
I have faith in you. 🙂

 

[Sunday_10pm]

The thing about tickling is - When it's light-hearted and playful, it's perfectly acceptable by all but the queen of prudes. If flirty, playful behaviour doesn’t really come naturally to you, then you could always learn. Don’t do it with people you know until you are sure you know how to pull it off cleanly though.
BigJim has worked himself out some methods to set the mood where a tickle or two won’t get a second look. (If they only knew what was going on inside your head my friend.) But opportunities to tickle random people like that really don’t come around all that often whether you know what you’re doing or not. I’m 19 too, and, disregarding girlfriends, I’ve probably tickled about 3 girls since the age of 8.
Anyway, I think I found the best girl in the world just the other day, so I’m in a really loved up mood right now so my advice is just that you need to be madly in love, and then you won’t even care about tickling anymore and you get to tickle her all the time, and it’s ten times as good because you love her.

x

 

[rajee]

😀 [COLOR=00ff00] I would first expand your circle of female friends. Once women become familiar and friendly with you and trust you more then you can try a quick tickle now and then.[/COLOR] 😀

 

[nosforatiop]

Shit man...
Just talk to women and get to know them, it's really not as hard as it sounds. I have alot of friends who are women that just know me as being "an encouragable flirt" , I won't say it's not difficult to find someone who you can really share your tickle fetish with (I know thats a tough thing). But for those sneak tickles just talk to some girls you know through friends or even try going out and meeting a few (hell...you might even find yourself a new girlfriend). once you get comfortable enough around a woman (and you've gotten to know her for a little while, where you've hung out a couple times at least; just look for a reason to tickle her.)
And honestly...
The first step is just talking to them and getting to know them, you'll find that oppurtunities will present themselves to you much easier then you beleive.

 

[HOLLYWOOD]

I hear your pain brother. i too have very limited tickling expereinces. I think the problem is that it is hard to know what someone like and two meeting people is not easy. when you go to meet someone, you put yourslef on the line and everything you are. ifthey reject you, then are really telling you that you is inferior andthat sucks. your best way is throught this forum. be yourself and seewhat happens. if not go to vegas and you can find some girl at a club that may be willing to tickle for a price. From what i hear most ofthe tickle videos superstars are just ladies trying make a dollar off us horny lonly men.

 

[Sunday_10pm]

I can't sit here and not try to help...

Oh man. Ok look, just ask yourself what you want, and how much you want it. Think clearly about what it takes to get it. Decide if you will do what it is that you need to do.
If all you want is to tickle, then go to passive arts and tickle the shit out of someone like Pheobe – that’s what she gets paid for. A couple of quick tickles aren't going to bring you happiness anyway. It’ll be such a fleeting fix, you won’t even see which way it went.
Why not go to a gathering? You’ll be able to do as much tickling as you want, and you’ll get to meet some decent people who actually feel the same way as you. What is the worst that can happen? Even if you don’t like it, you can give ‘em all the finger and burn off in your car, get home, buy some early death gourmet ice-cream and eat it in the bath.
However, my advice would be, get a girlfriend. Making friends whether they are male or female is the beginning. If you make male friends, you are likely to get involved in their circle of friends, and make more friends male and female. Make a concerted effort to spend time with them, Invite them out for drinks etc... And you will get to know them. If the subject of your recent past comes up, don't be embarrassed by your previous situation, be honest and they will understand. They should have no problems with it.
If you can't think of any way to meet people, take action - take a night-class in something that vaguely interests you. Go to a dating agency ffs! Be friendly and honest and people will like you. (By honest, I don't mean talk about tickling ffs 😉) oh yeah, and avoid wallowing in self-pity. Just explain that you’ve been through a lonely stint in your life, and recently decided that it was time to end it. If you have no self-confidence, go to a gym, get fit. If you have pride in your body, it will help you no end. You’ll meet people there as well.
If things are that bad, ride a moped to Italy to live in a brothel and take one of the girls under your wing. Just don't go to Vegas ffs.

 

[TicklingIsLife]

I guess those I'll try anything once" girls are alot harder to come by 🙄

 

[Em Es]

Go for the girls who like YOU

Jello -

Previous replies to your question all have good advice. Maybe my words can help, too.

Tickling the girls we want (that is, beautiful) or meeting attractive women who are into tickling happen mostly in fantasy. What I started learning just when I was your age: the girls you tickle the most are the ones who want to please YOU.

I encourage you to go for it when you meet an attractive girl. But your best bet for finding a girl to tickle is taking advantage of the girls who find YOU attractive. Some might be cute, others plain Janes. But give me the plain Jane who lets me have my way with her instead of the knockout that's too much pain for the pleasure.

Until I was 20 years old, my tickling life were all hit and runs. I didn't date much, being overweight and lacking self-confidence. But in college my junior year, I met a woman named Joyce who illustrates the point I'm trying to make.

Joyce was no beauty, though not bad. She was slim with long brown hair, two things I like. Her face was plain. Most significantly, besides the fact she was ticklish, Joyce LIKED ME A LOT.

The first time we got together I tickled Joyce repeatedly. She
laughed, squirmed and, to my delight, did not get mad. As we continued dating, tickling Joyce was as common as kissing. Even when I made her mad, she never left or threatened to break up with me. Joyce was under my thumb - and the rest of my fingers that were tickling her.

It was easy enough to hold Joyce on the sofa and tickle her midsection. She was maybe 5'3," a slim 105 lbs. with no muscle. How many times I tickled her on the sofa through the year we dated, I can't count.

Joyce lived around the corner from me. That made it easy to see her daily, and that meant I tickled her daily. One time Joyce said she liked being with me, "except when you tickle me." Her plea did no good, as when a woman wants you, Jello, she will put up with a heck of a lot!

The best tickling fun I had with Joyce came under the guise of giving her a back massage. I would get her relaxed but before long the tickling started. Joyce would lay on her stomach on my bed (or hers) and I would straddle her, massaging her back. Then I would
fold back her arms, holding her wrists together with one hand while I tickled either side with the other. Joyce would squirm, then wriggle, saying, "Stop . . . STOP . . .," inevitably followed by her delightful scream as she shook, trying to free herself!

Ah, Joyce . . . I can't believe how many times you accepted my offer of a massage, not to mention how many times you asked me for a massage! You must have known what was coming!

Even when Joyce did not remove her shirt for my massage, by having her arms up, her shirt would untuck from her waist, her creamy-white, ticklish sides exposed to my devilish fingertips.

Being college students, Joyce and I had roommates, so privacy was not always guaranteed. But one time Joyce and I were alone in a home she was house-sitting. That may have been the most intense massage-tickle I put her through. I had Joyce screaming and thrashing about as I held those wrists, tickling her sensitive sides. She was really mad! But you know what? She did not tell me to leave. SHE WANTED ME.

Sometimes during a massage-tickle I would reach back and tickle Joyce's feet. That really drove her berserk. She kicked like a mule to make me quit it.

You know what? If I had asked, Joyce would have married me. And as perfect a tickle victim as Joyce was, I didn't want her for the rest of my life. But sometimes when I wish I had a girl to tickle, I
wonder if I should have married Joyce!

Jello, if I could have had any girl at that college, Joyce would not even have made the top 500. But since I was Number One in her eyes, that's why she was the girl I tickled.

Moral of the story: Concentrate on the girls who pick you, not the girls you would pick. The girls who want you are dying to please you.

 

[The Pianist]

Don't worry yourself Jello. I'm in a similar boat to you. I used to be shy, didn't have that many female friends... I've only had one girlfriend that literally lasted a whole 30 minutes (I don't need to say that I didn't get the chance to tickle her either) and I'm 18 myself... but I'm not worrying.

Just be optimistic, be confident and be friendly. I would personally shy away from taking the shortest path, ie going to the ***** house, pick the first ticklish girl that likes you and just get a girl just for the sake of tickling.... instead just take it easy. Meet lots of girls, make lots of friends, work out any social problems you might have and be patient. It mightn't be next week, but eventually a girl will come along that suits you as a girlfriend... and chances are will probably be a little ticklish at the least.

The point is if you are are concentrating too hard on getting one thing now, that might cloud your chances on getting the better things either now or later on.

Then again, feel free to ignore me completely cause that hasn't yet worked for me... but I think its getting there.


Oh yeah, tickling girls has got be a little bit of a challenge... else alot of us wouldn't ever go to school or work

 

[Sunday_10pm]

simple pleasures

I hear you, j-e-l-l-o, thats why I prefer just to pay women to let me tickle them. Also because Im not a very social person. I see no reason to talk to a woman when all I really want is to TOUCH HER. I value other people only for what I can get ouf of them, and in the case of women (as long as theyre at least halfway good looking), thats tickling and sex.

You don't know what you're missing

 

[jordan]

I've tickled maybe around 4-5 girls in my life, and about 2 boys. Now this was when I was younger now.

 

[Knox The Hatter]

"When I see a good looking woman, ESPECIALLY this time of year when theyre all wearing flip-flops, I sometimes will go up to women and say something like "you have great looking feet. I have a foot fetish. Are they ticklish?" Even though they were visibly uncomfortable answering that question to a complete stranger, Ive actually had a couple of women shake their head "yes". Then I'll fantasize later that night about tickling their feet. When I see a good looking woman, the ONLY thing I have ANY interest in talking to them about is their feet and how ticklish they are. I find I have NO interest talking to them about anything else (where theyre from, what they do for a living), and if I try to force myself, its so painfully boring to me because I just dont care about anything other than tickling their feet."

Well, if nothing else, you're honest, Mystery Dude. I would imagine you're pretty lonely, too.
You other guys...I don't know how you've managed to keep count...I don't know how many girls I've tickled. I can't even put a number on it! There are literally so many, and I've never given a thought to counting. I have, however, during my more idle moments, come up with the comprehensive list of the top twenty most beautiful girls I've ever met. But then, that might be too tame here LOL 😛

 

[BigJim]

See if it's such a mystery to you when you run into a woman who's only interest in men is tying them face down and buggering them with a knobbly cucumber. 😀

 

[BigJim]

To a certain degree MOM I can relate to your situation. But I think that very few people are so obsessed by tickling or so unable to restrain hemselves from having conversation about only that topic, that only those identical to you will really know.

Of course you also don't give a damn about the girl at all, only what you can get for yourself out of knowing her; so maybe it's your inherrant selfishness that is causing the problem?

 

[Phineas]

news flash, MOMmy.

Other people are not interested in offering themselves up solely for a complete stranger's gratification.

 

[Phineas]

...then why do you keep griping about it, or at least seem to be unable to grasp this fact, considering how much you complain about it?

 

[T.J]

If you have yahoo messenger jello, look for me under ticklishjenny and we can chat....maybe I can give you a females perspective on this topic.

 

[Phineas]

🙄

 

[BigJim]

Am I the only person who suspecs that MOM is deliberately portraying a character to see what effect it has on people? Other people have done that yanno.😉

No-one could possibly be so stoopid in real life to not realise that the very thing they are complaining about is because of their behaviour pattern............ Could they?

 

[Phineas]

no Jim, I've entertained that notion myself a few times... the problem is, my faith in humanity is so low that I wouldn't be the least bit surprised if he WAS for real.

 

[T.J]

Man of Mystery

I have 2 words for you *edited for G.R. Violation*

 

[BigJim]

Guys, there's two possible explanations for MOM's behaviour.

1) He's a selfish arsehole with no regard for anyone else.
2) He's someone who's deliberately portraying a character on-screen, to get a rise out of people.

Either way, completely ignoring him is the quickest way to deal with him. Giving him attention is probably just the very thing he wants.

 

[Knox The Hatter]

I personally think Jim's on to something here. An artificially constructed personae, created just for our entertainment. However, notice, if you will:

"I thought people here, also into tickling would be able to relate to what Im saying. But maybe my problem doesnt come from being into tickling. I dont know."

I think this admission ranks a little closer to the mark. Yes, MOM, I think you've got it! And, in finding this, the help of a professional just might get you just a little closer to Normal Land. But then again, maybe it won't.
My advice to you would be to go out and make a hell of a lot more money. Your chances of finding a woman to cater to you in this way are just a shade less than, say, President Bush appointing me Secretary of the Treasury, or my becoming a point guard for the Los Angeles Lakers. Either way, I wish you the very best of luck.
Hey, who knows? You just might find this woman you desire, in the most unlikely of places. One thing's certain: I don't think I'd want to know her