Today I learned not everyone likes tickling as much as we do

[overthebridge]

I was having a pretty good first date today, nice conversation over coffee, when she asked what was a weird and interesting thing about me. I thought this might be a good time to introduce the concept of tickling, because it's kind of important to me. So I said, "Well...I'm really ticklish."

She reacted like I'd talked about bodily functions. "Ughghgh, I hate tickling!" Very violent reaction. I discovered she hates being tickled and, because she hates it, feels everyone does as well and hates to tickle people. I declined to spend much time changing her mind. I laughed it off, continued the conversation, and then surprised her (probably) by saying I didn't think we'd be a good match. I didn't bring up tickling again, I worked hard not to force my fetish/interest upon her.

Oh well. I'd never seen such a vitriolic reaction to tickling, and it's too bad, as she was cute. But people have different feelings about things, I bet she was into something that would have disgusted me! 😉

 

[Fire_Sprite]

Probably for the best that you didn't pursue the subject. Although I often wonder if people like that only hate it because they've had a bad experience, and could change their mind if they experienced it in a more positive way.

On the other hand, if there's people like us who naturally like it a little too much then there's probably people who fall on the other end of the spectrum.

 

[OmahaTickler]

She and everyone else have a right to their likes and dislikes. It only irritates me when people go out of their way to mock and ridicule us, a la Howard Stern and cable shows that do features on tickling websites with this "WTF?" attitude, as though everone's a freak unless they subscribe to the mainstream sexual practices that are accepted by those at the cool kids' lunch table. Well, I'll continue to eat outside the cafeteria, thank you.

 

[daddy]

I remember one girl at a party I was having one time and the subject somehow came up, and she just went on and on about how childish tickling was and she couldn't figure out why adults would do such a childish thing. Man, I just wanted to put duct tape over her lips and it once again goes to show ya that not all people are as "kewl" as we are!!! LOL

peace out,
daddy

 

[leafstk]

Sounds like you handled yourself pretty well there, bud. I mean, she did ask something weird and interesting about you, lol. So you told her and her reaction wasn't great so... you chose to move on. No sense in forcing the issue... and you are probably right that whatever she would choose to share with you could have freaked you out too, lol! Who knows.

I'm not sure its something I would have shared with someone on the first date, but kudos for taking that opportunity. Quite honestly if I got that kind of reaction after sharing something that's so close to me I'd have said thanks but no thanks too, lol.

 

[AmandaBear]

She and everyone else have a right to their likes and dislikes. It only irritates me when people go out of their way to mock and ridicule us, a la Howard Stern and cable shows that do features on tickling websites with this "WTF?" attitude, as though everone's a freak unless they subscribe to the mainstream sexual practices that are accepted by those at the cool kids' lunch table. Well, I'll continue to eat outside the cafeteria, thank you.

Well said!

 

[CodeBreaker]

Sorry to hear about that. It was a good choice to just change the subject and move on. Everyone is different. Best of luck on the next date 🙂

 

[rhiannon]

She probably wasn't a very tolerant person....nobody who would react so harsh to it when someone says that they like something is!

 

[asutickler]

People can be averse to just about anything... Hell, there are folks out there who hate kissing.

 

[Artoo]

People can be averse to just about anything... Hell, there are folks out there who hate kissing.

Kissing?! Yeuch!

 

[SillyMan]

I agree, you did the right thing not to go on with the subject.
And yes, there is actually people that hates tickling, we must face that, even though it's hard to understand.
In some way I understand, because I think some people have bad experiences with tickling. I have tried that, because tickling often was used as mobbing at the school ground in my childhood. Luckily, I had other experiences later, that changed my mind 🙂

 

[fightinggirl666]

Probably for the best that you didn't pursue the subject. Although I often wonder if people like that only hate it because they've had a bad experience, and could change their mind if they experienced it in a more positive way.

On the other hand, if there's people like us who naturally like it a little too much then there's probably people who fall on the other end of the spectrum.

Not saying specfically to you fire, just more in general -

I'm not sure the whole "they hate it because they had a bad experience" thing is so wise. It's right up there with "she isn't ticklish because the right tickler hasn't done it". There seems to be a bunch of guys out there who can't just accept that not all people like tickling or are ticklish. If they say they don't like being tickled or after a bit of testing obviously aren't ticklish it's best to just leave it and not try to force it upon anyone, lest you ruin a friendship, date or what ever. Good call from the starter of this thread on this date then, wasn't going anywhere and you handled it well.

 

[rhiannon]

I'm not sure the whole "they hate it because they had a bad experience" thing is so wise. It's right up there with "she isn't ticklish because the right tickler hasn't done it". There seems to be a bunch of guys out there who can't just accept that not all people like tickling or are ticklish. If they say they don't like being tickled or after a bit of testing obviously aren't ticklish it's best to just leave it and not try to force it upon anyone, lest you ruin a friendship, date or what ever. Good call from the starter of this thread on this date then, wasn't going anywhere and you handled it well.

Once again, I so agree with you.

 

[milagros317]

I think you did the right thing by changing the subject and not pursuing a further relationship. There's no point in trying to "convert" somebody who has her mind made up. I learned that the hard way many years ago.

 

[Skipadeedoodah]

Hell, there are folks out there who hate kissing.

BLASPHEMY!!!

 

[fightinggirl666]

Once again, I so agree with you.

Thanks Rhiannon - btw does the bowing mean I have a new slave 😉

 

[Radiohead 7140]

Maybe you thought you said "ticklish" but actually said "racist" or "murderous"? I know I tend to get these words confused.

Yea, strange reaction. Especially cause you were saying YOU are ticklish. I understand people who hate to be tickled, but to have such a violent reaction to the idea of tickling someone else, surprising. Probably bad experiences with it in her life and doesn't like the idea of being on either end

 

[WorkInProgress]

As noted elsewhere, I did worse a couple of year ago. But yeah, you would have been a mismatch.

 

[Excess]

What? Not everyone likes it? Well, this comes as a shock to me and many others I'm sure. 😛

But eh, so it goes. I've considered giving up on this whole thing many times as a result. Shame it isn't that simple, or a good thing? Hell if I know. XD

 

[Em Es]

Check, please!

"Those convinced against their will are of the same opinion still."

Overthebridge, were I in your position that night, I would have changed my name to Climboutthemen'sroomwindow and let your date tell the waiter how much she hates tickling as she paid the bill.

Seriously, though, the way to raise the topic of tickling with your date is to tickle her. Because if she liked you enough, what she says and what she does could be very different. Even a guy like me - who normally makes women puke - has still had a few girls who didn't like getting tickled but put up with it because they wanted to please me. I raised the topic of tickling by doing it, not talking about it, and never looked back.

 

[texastickler]

She and everyone else have a right to their likes and dislikes. It only irritates me when people go out of their way to mock and ridicule us, a la Howard Stern and cable shows that do features on tickling websites with this "WTF?" attitude, as though everone's a freak unless they subscribe to the mainstream sexual practices that are accepted by those at the cool kids' lunch table. Well, I'll continue to eat outside the cafeteria, thank you.

Great point. Everyone has a right to like or dislike something. I have been told I need mental help when I told a friend of mine that I liked tickling. I let things like that just run right off me because I am comfortable in who I am. I am not into whips but I know many that are into that fetish. It is fine by me. We make friends by accepting each other for who we are.

 

[rhiannon]

Thanks Rhiannon - btw does the bowing mean I have a new slave 😉

No way honey, I'm a slave for NOBODY! 🙂

Seriously, though, the way to raise the topic of tickling with your date is to tickle her. Because if she liked you enough, what she says and what she does could be very different. Even a guy like me - who normally makes women puke - has still had a few girls who didn't like getting tickled but put up with it because they wanted to please me.

You should really be a little more confident, your looks are FAR from making women puke! And if someone says they HATE tickling at the first date, you definitely should NOT try it, because the chances she likes you that much at the first date are slim!!

I have been told I need mental help when I told a friend of mine that I liked tickling.

My friends sure think I do need mental help too, but not because I like tickling.

 

[TheTickleMonster]

I remember one girl at a party I was having one time and the subject somehow came up, and she just went on and on about how childish tickling was and she couldn't figure out why adults would do such a childish thing. Man, I just wanted to put duct tape over her lips and it once again goes to show ya that not all people are as "kewl" as we are!!! LOL

peace out,
daddy

did you tickle her because I think I so would have after she started complaining about how childish tickling was just to bug her lol

 

[Em Es]

Thank you Rhiannon

That is nice of you to say. All I can tell you is I based my self-evaluation not on the mirror but on my track record with women.

 

[overthebridge]

Well, I just thought it was funny (and telling) that she reacted the way she did to me just casually saying I was really ticklish. I did not mention liking it, or having been tickled often, or rundown a list of places I'm ticklish...I just said I was ticklish. So, yeah, it would have been in poor taste to try and tickle her at some point later. 😉

I don't usually talk tickling at all for the first few dates, I let things develop. To me, tickling is not the end all be all, and I don't date people just because they are willing tickle partners. It is important, of course, but I do believe I could get by without for the right person. The right person would be willing to indulge every so often, anyway. 🙂

Anyway, I appreciate the responses. I'm sure this is not a new topic. 🙂