Too ticklish to tickle!!!

[Texas_Tickle]

Now I am in good faith that the apocalypse won't be in 2012!

But we can hope...

 

[rhiannon]

Does anyone pay attention anymore? Can someone please tell me what this guy did wrong? Read his initial post. Where did he say the girl was uncomfortable to what he was doing?

Did you read that he wrote she said she was ticklish "dismissively"?? That is a pretty good indicator that she didn't want to be tickled, and it just sucks that there are people who don't give it a break then and just go into it more and more and more! THAT is what he did wrong! And he never even said how she reacted to it, he just left that part out!

But we can hope...

Yeah, true, there are moments when I hope myself...

 

[-Hari-]

Yes, I used to regulaly tickle a girl who I eventually decided was too ticklish, because she so ticklish, her reactions were overblown and beyond the norm, there was very little laughing, no giggling, just alot of desperate screaming, no matter how gentle I tried to be, Not fun.

 

[Deleted member 66627]

Do you think i should have just unleashed the biggest tickling of her life? or would you have done the same? This is driving me crazy!!!!!! aaaaaaaaahh!

I think you should have left her alone.

 

[primetime]

Rhiannon, she said it dismissively? This is your rationale for thinking the interaction was negative? That's a typical response. There's not too many people who when asked if they are ticklish are "Yes I am! Please tickle me!". I have a friend who is also off the charts ticklish. When I first asked her, she said she was dismissvely as well. I tickled her. She laughed. She didn't get offended or feel like I was a pervert. We're still really good friends.

Now, did you read the part where he wrote "we started to fool around"? What does that tell you?

You're right, he didn't put her reaction in the post. Does that mean it was negative? Not necessarily. But, people want to think it's negative. Why do you think it's negative?

 

[badreligion]

Hi all!
Today i met up with a girl, who i have known for a wile but never really hung out with. She just had a break up, and called to see if she could hang out. Naturally, as the nice guy i am, i said yes and she came round.

Now this girl is HOT! not just HOT but SMOKEN!!!!! with very sexy, size 6.5 feet.

She sat down on the couch with me to watch T.V and we started to fool around. I asked her if she was ticklish and she said she was dismissively. I then asked her where here worst spot was. she said her side. I then asked what about her feet. she said very quickly that they weren't at all. A minute or so passed and i grabbed her leg and said give my your foot, i'll give you a foot massage. pulling back as she did i realized that the statement about her not being ticklish was only a ploy to keep me away! My god this girl was ticklish! i have never seen someone react in that way.

So here is the point to my post. Has anyone gone tried to tickle someone, and found out that the ticklee was just way, and i mean way too ticklish? I felt sorry for this girl. She just couldn't handle it. I only tickled her for a little bit because i felt so bad! Do you think i should have just unleashed the biggest tickling of her life? or would you have done the same? This is driving me crazy!!!!!! aaaaaaaaahh!

Yeah don't be surprised if she doesn't talk to you anymore .

 

[rhiannon]

Rhiannon, she said it dismissively? This is your rationale for thinking the interaction was negative? That's a typical response. There's not too many people who when asked if they are ticklish are "Yes I am! Please tickle me!". I have a friend who is also off the charts ticklish. When I first asked her, she said she was dismissvely as well. I tickled her. She laughed. She didn't get offended or feel like I was a pervert. We're still really good friends.

Now, did you read the part where he wrote "we started to fool around"? What does that tell you?

You're right, he didn't put her reaction in the post. Does that mean it was negative? Not necessarily. But, people want to think it's negative. Why do you think it's negative?

I also don't know a whole lot of people who will say "yes I am ticklish and I am going to kick you in the teeth if you tickle me". So I just do wish people would react a little more sensitive to things like tone of voice!

"Fooling around" could have meant anything and doesn't mean you can just tickle the person if the person doesn't like it.

Why I think it's negative? If it was positive, he wouldn't have asked himself if he should have continued or stopped, if it was positive he would just have kept going!

I think he asked "Do you think i should have just unleashed the biggest tickling of her life" because her reaction was negative and because he wanted to know if he should have taken the chance because he might not get another one!

 

[Skipadeedoodah]

I think that YOU know whether or not you made a mistake based on her reaction. Was she pissed off when you were done or did she seem to have a good time? (And before anybody says anything stupid - you CAN tell if someone is having a good time despite whether or not they're laughing.)

I wouldn't ever recommend tickling the life out of someone the first time you play with them, especially a vanilla person. If you want to have more opportunities to play in the future, ease into it. Don't make them dread the next time you go to pull a foot into your lap. Have fun but pace yourself. Make her like it and you'll get to do it far more often than if you wear her out every time.

 

[LD_Tickler]

Rhiannon, you actually have about two sentences of information on this girl and this event. You're using his words about what happened. The word "dismissively" does not mean "in such a way that made it clear how much she hates it." It just means she dismissed it to save herself from a tickle attack - like many people do playfully. Or it means she didn't think it was an important topic of conversation - like many non ticklephiles do.

You have absolutely no idea why she wen't over there, so please stop assuming she was heartbroken and desperately needed her friends support. After all, they have barely ever hung out. True she had just broken up with her boyfriend... maybe she always thought OP was cute and saw this as a way to rebound or finally make a move on OP. They did start fooling around, after all. Stop assuming he violated her or took advantage of her, we don't know how it happened.

Honestly, all of the people who are judging the OP are acting completely absurd, painting your own picture of the scene. I'm sorry, but we don't have nearly enough information to even draw inferences about the details of the situation, and so are in absolutely no position to make these kinds of comments.

 

[rhiannon]

I get my opinion out of the information that he gave us. I asked very early in the thread how the girl reacted, no answer was given. I really hope the answer will still be given.

If she reacted positively to it, I will be happy to apologize for all my asumptions, but if she reacted how I think she reacted (and I already explained WHY I think she reacted that way!), then my assumptions where hitting the nail on the head.

Maybe I am interpreting too much into the OP, but sometimes it is easy to read between the lines!

 

[primetime]

Rhiannon, read what the guy is asking. Why did he stop tickling her? Is it because she threatened him with violence? Is it because she coward in terror from the tickle attack? No, he stopped because she was too ticklish.

Let's use common sense. Would this guy honestly ask all of us if he should unleash the biggest tickle attack on her, IF SHE WAS UPSET OVER HIS TICKLING? If she was and this guy did ask all of us, then he would be the biggest idiot ever. But I don't think this is the case. There was nothing he wrote that indicated the girl was put off by his tickling advances.

The problem is, people criticizing the guy are putting THEMSELVES in the girl's position and responding as though they were the ones in that situation. You are basing your judgement as though it happened to YOU and what YOU would do. Don't do this. You can criticize a guy for no good reason.

 

[BellaRisa]

Rhiannon, you actually have about two sentences of information on this girl and this event. You're using his words about what happened. The word "dismissively" does not mean "in such a way that made it clear how much she hates it." It just means she dismissed it to save herself from a tickle attack - like many people do playfully. Or it means she didn't think it was an important topic of conversation - like many non ticklephiles do.

You have absolutely no idea why she wen't over there, so please stop assuming she was heartbroken and desperately needed her friends support. After all, they have barely ever hung out. True she had just broken up with her boyfriend... maybe she always thought OP was cute and saw this as a way to rebound or finally make a move on OP. They did start fooling around, after all. Stop assuming he violated her or took advantage of her, we don't know how it happened.

Honestly, all of the people who are judging the OP are acting completely absurd, painting your own picture of the scene. I'm sorry, but we don't have nearly enough information to even draw inferences about the details of the situation, and so are in absolutely no position to make these kinds of comments.

This, 100%. I've read the first post several times now, and nowhere did I see anything to make folks condemn this guy the way I've seen so far. Anyone who knows me knows that I'm HUGE on smacking people upside the head around here for being bullies in regard to tickling, but here all I saw was a guy who briefly tickled a girl who was apparently very ticklish. Um...so? I didn't read where she was traumatized or even upset, I didn't read where she demanded he stop and he ignored her, or that he grabbed her again when she pulled away...I agree the question of whether he should have gone further was a bit crass but it was hypothetical, he didn't DO anything, he wasn't harsh or even mean IMO. I'd need waaayy more info than what was posted to jump on this guy the way some folks have.

 

[Knot Amewzed]

This, 100%. I've read the first post several times now, and nowhere did I see anything to make folks condemn this guy the way I've seen so far. Anyone who knows me knows that I'm HUGE on smacking people upside the head around here for being bullies in regard to tickling, but here all I saw was a guy who briefly tickled a girl who was apparently very ticklish. Um...so? I didn't read where she was traumatized or even upset, I didn't read where she demanded he stop and he ignored her, or that he grabbed her again when she pulled away...I agree the question of whether he should have gone further was a bit crass but it was hypothetical, he didn't DO anything, he wasn't harsh or even mean IMO. I'd need waaayy more info than what was posted to jump on this guy the way some folks have.

I second that.

We do not know the intentions of either party; that includes the girl in need of said comforting.

 

[BellaRisa]

I second that.

We do not know the intentions of either party; that includes the girl in need of said comforting.

Furthermore, no offense to the OP but I wouldn't be surprised to learn that this incident never happened and that the poster is sitting at his computer reading this squabble and saying "DANCE MY PUPPETS DANCE BWAHAHAHA" while we all do just that

 

[RobAce]

I also agree with Bella. The information given by the OP when I first read this thread made me not want to respond. There was simply not enough there for me to base a judgment on if I was in that situation what I would have done.

Furthermore, no offense to the OP but I wouldn't be surprised to learn that this incident never happened and that the poster is sitting at his computer reading this squabble and saying "DANCE MY PUPPETS DANCE BWAHAHAHA" while we all do just that

Also.....I ALWAYS dance when I post . Just my nature...and keeping things REEEEAAAALLLLLLLL.

Rob

 

[drnkntklr]

I'm so lost... I thought the OP said he tickled her briefly but once he realized she could not handle it he stopped. Correct?

 

[TheTickleMonster]

I'm so lost... I thought the OP said he tickled her briefly btu once he realized she could not handle it he stopped. Correct?

That's pretty much what he said, and the people of this tickling community are upset about him tickling someone briefly...

the lack of information given by the guy made the people of the forum put in their own info to fill in the blanks that might not be anything like what happened but people like to assume things and that makes them appear like an ass.. but oh well..

 

[solescratcher99]

That's pretty much what he said, and the people of this tickling community are upset about him tickling someone briefly...

the lack of information given by the guy made the people of the forum put in their own info to fill in the blanks that might not be anything like what happened but people like to assume things and that makes them appear like an ass.. but oh well..

When you assume it makes an ass out of u and me.

This doesn't surprise me though. I've only been reading the tickling discussion forums for a few months now and I've found that its pretty typical of certain individuals to be actively looking for malice in any ambiguous situations an OP puts forward.

Its actually pretty sad some people can't openly talk about their experiences without a certain group of people becoming unnecessarily judgmental and then trying to lecture them about something which may or may not have actually happened.

 

[TheTickleMonster]

When you assume it makes an ass out of u and me.

This doesn't surprise me though. I've only been reading the tickling discussion forums for a few months now and I've found that its pretty typical of certain individuals to be actively looking for malice in any ambiguous situations an OP puts forward.

Its actually pretty sad some people can't openly talk about their experiences without a certain group of people becoming unnecessarily judgmental and then trying to lecture them about something which may or may not have actually happened.

yeah.. that does seem to happen alot here...

and yeah i didn't say "it makes an ass out of u and me" bc i wasn't one of the people being an ass and assuming things so that didn't make sense to say 😛

 

[primetime]

I'm glad others see this "quick to judgement" posts and calling them out on it. Far too often I see this when someone makes a post about their interaction with someone else. Why are people so quick to judge here?

 

[solescratcher99]

I'm glad others see this "quick to judgement" posts and calling them out on it. Far too often I see this when someone makes a post about their interaction with someone else. Why are people so quick to judge here?

I don't think they understand that social context is not readily accessible for online communication.

Anyway, I don't see how what they're doing isn't in violation of the golden rule.

everyone who wishes to post here is required to go out of their way to make sure that they are being constructive and positive.

I don't see anything constructive OR positive about accusing someone of doing something malicious. Especially considering the fact that the only evidence is one or two misused words. All the witch hunting I frequently see going on makes our forum sound like its jumpy, nit picky, argumentative and paranoid.

 

[vladtickleman22]

I probably would have done the same thing. Seems like you both were goofing around while watching tv and when you asked she was busy watching tv. So, yeah i would have poked her sides a bit or asked if she wanted a foot massage then tickled her for a bit. As far as giving her the tickling of a lifetime. That's not something i would do at all. Especially with a vanilla person. If you had done that i am pretty sure she'd either be weary of you from that point on or just plain pissed that you went to far.

 

[LD_Tickler]

Anyway, I don't see how what they're doing isn't in violation of the golden rule.

I don't see anything constructive OR positive about accusing someone of doing something malicious. Especially considering the fact that the only evidence is one or two misused words.

Maybe. Then again, their feedback could be considered constructive in that it's trying to guide him to "improve" his behaviour. That's one possible argument. I wouldn't argue it, but on the other hand this doesn't seem to be the kind of rude, malicious personal attack I equate with GR violartions.

All the witch hunting I frequently see going on makes our forum sound like its jumpy, nit picky, argumentative and paranoid.

Pssst... it is. 😉 but we love it anyway.

 

[ChicagoDavid]

For me, if she seems to dislike it, it's no fun for me and I stop (both for my sake and for hers).

 

[rhiannon]

Rhiannon, read what the guy is asking. Why did he stop tickling her? Is it because she threatened him with violence? Is it because she coward in terror from the tickle attack? No, he stopped because she was too ticklish.

Let's use common sense. Would this guy honestly ask all of us if he should unleash the biggest tickle attack on her, IF SHE WAS UPSET OVER HIS TICKLING? If she was and this guy did ask all of us, then he would be the biggest idiot ever. But I don't think this is the case. There was nothing he wrote that indicated the girl was put off by his tickling advances.

The problem is, people criticizing the guy are putting THEMSELVES in the girl's position and responding as though they were the ones in that situation. You are basing your judgement as though it happened to YOU and what YOU would do. Don't do this. You can criticize a guy for no good reason.

The thing is, I think if she had been positive about the tickling, he probably would not have stopped. I also see nothing in the post that tells me she reacted positively to it. That is what makes me assume (and yes, of course it's only assumptions) she did not react all that happy to it.

And of course I am putting myself in the girl's situation. 🙂 I personally think putting yourself in other's situations is the only way to understand what they might feel!