AlterEgo1111
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It strikes me, once again, that part of the reason "mainstream" people find our tickling interest so weird or abnormal is that we keep linking it directly with sexual behavior (fetish and foreplay). However, while Western culture has undergone an incredible shift in visible societal mores over the past two or three decades, there are still significant portions of the population who have little or no contact with more, shall we say, "progressive" ethical systems.
I know plenty of people who are intelligent, social, and fun to be around who never discuss sexual issues openly, on principle. So, to them, it's one thing to mention that you enjoy tickling--that still seems fairly innocent. But mentioning that you're turned on by tickling puts the whole discussion into a different light--eliciting either an uncomfortable "OK, way too much information" or, if you make it clear you'd like to tickle or be tickled by them, provoking this response: "So, basically you want to use me for your own gratification?"
Over the years, I've been very fortunate to have several good female friends who enjoy tickling as part of our social relationship--but it's always clear that it is a minor part of the relationship and something to be practiced within very clear personal boundaries. I've gradually learned to accept this as a necessary sacrifice for the sake of healthier friendships, and perhaps as an equally necessary reminder to "exercise moderation in all things".
I know plenty of people who are intelligent, social, and fun to be around who never discuss sexual issues openly, on principle. So, to them, it's one thing to mention that you enjoy tickling--that still seems fairly innocent. But mentioning that you're turned on by tickling puts the whole discussion into a different light--eliciting either an uncomfortable "OK, way too much information" or, if you make it clear you'd like to tickle or be tickled by them, provoking this response: "So, basically you want to use me for your own gratification?"
Over the years, I've been very fortunate to have several good female friends who enjoy tickling as part of our social relationship--but it's always clear that it is a minor part of the relationship and something to be practiced within very clear personal boundaries. I've gradually learned to accept this as a necessary sacrifice for the sake of healthier friendships, and perhaps as an equally necessary reminder to "exercise moderation in all things".