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We're not freaks!

Filthyweasel

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This may sound ranty, but it's really not. And as every troll knows, the safety of the room with the computer screen gives one a remarkable desire to speak one's mind. And this is from my own observing brain and my own experience which isn't as extensive as many of you.

I truly understand people who are immensely shy about their tickle fetish. I am. My entire life, I have never been comfortable even saying the word 'tickle' out loud, even to myself, without blushing. Adding the extra 'ing' on the end to make 'tickling' is something I just can't get past my lips at all, I'm that self-conscious about it. I understand, I really do. It's hard to tell people of the vanilla persuasion.

But what evidence is there that we're considered freaks or creepy? Every single girl I've plucked up the courage to tell thought it was cute as hell. Hell, one (years ago...) was so enthusiastic about this new bondage play idea that when I told her we instantly went on a shopping trip. It's being tied up and having the nerve endings in zones that are very erogenous stimulated in a playful way. Think about it!

Look at erotic lingerie. A lot of it is trimmed with pink or red fluffy shit, same with erotic slippers. You go to a sex shop and the 'tasteful' red-satin, candlelight style, erotic toy selections tend to include feather dusters. Some are even called 'ticklers'. It's written on the box! There's an edible product called Honeydust that uses a feather duster as an applicator. The act of playful tickle among adults is anchored deep in the subconscious erotic mind of our society. Mainly as a brief foreplay activity, but it's there. Just don't ever innocently tickle a child in front of a person whom you've opened up to...there's a chance they would take it the wrong way.

Feet however, is a problem. Even among regular fetish people, three of whom I worked with up until a couple weeks ago. One even referred to a man in her own little play group as the 'icky' foot guy. She'd use him for massages then get away from him. I opened up to her, not about my foot thing, but about my tickle thing, and she said she loved to do that with her Dom. The other two, while trolling Fetlife on their phones at work looked at a guy, then said ' ooh he's nice...what's he into? Feet! Eww creepy' and moved on to someone else as quickly as their fingers would let them, as if the very page were dirty. Generally I've found this to be with women who are self-conscious about their own feet (one brought 3 pairs of socks and 2 pairs of shoes to work to change into each day because she constantly thought they were sweaty and awful) and they have a hard time figuring out why a man would like to put his mouth there. I have the same thoughts about oral myself, but that's just me. Plus it's all down to visuals. I'm a foot guy...but I'm also aware that if it looks creepy, it'll be seen as that. And a guy with rapturously closed eyes snaking his tongue around a girls toes may be in heaven himself, but in the real world, he's locked in the same box as a panty-sniffer by society because of how it looks. Sorry to say. If you like to tickle nothing but feet or your favorite method is with your tongue, then by by a visually-stimulated vanilla society like this one, you are not seen as a tickle fetishist, you're a foot guy. They don't think 'he likes to tickle, he's creepy.' They thinking 'he likes feet, he's creepy.'

A vanilla person that thinks this site is creepy is not seeing tickling. They're seeing how it's covered in feet. Not a bad thing in our world, but in the rest of the world sadly...You may as well call a foot worship video 'two girls one foot' to the main bulk of the population, that's where the attitude is firmly rooted. Tickling is only loosely related to it. It's seen as creepy only when that relationship becomes more prominent.
 
Tickling isn't freaky. The urge to prove that fact to people you will never know and who really shouldn't concern you in the least is though.
 
I would agree that tickling isn't creepy. :tickle:
However, to me loving women's feet isn't creepy either. :feets: I don't need to convert the world to my way of thinking; I just need to find (and have found) women who agree with me.
 
I would agree that tickling isn't creepy. :tickle:
However, to me loving women's feet isn't creepy either. :feets: I don't need to convert the world to my way of thinking; I just need to find (and have found) women who agree with me.

Same here. Apologies for sounding opinionated a bit there. I really didn't mean it to sound flamey or anything. Folks know that's just not me. I read the post below by Mister Magnus and I felt sorry that the guy wants to be rid of his fetish because of how he thought it was viewed. Absolutely if you find the right people. 🙂 Overall though, tickling is just fine with lots and lots. Look at the gif on Viper's new sig and tell me that's just not just plain universally sexy. 🙂
 
I agree Filthy. While I can understand why someone might be shy about expressing this part of themselves, I know that learning to love you for you is certainly possible. I don't think tickling is creepy at all! Although I've been called a freak before but that had nothing to do with tickling lol! :jester: :twohugs:
 
The other two, while trolling Fetlife on their phones at work looked at a guy, then said ' ooh he's nice...what's he into? Feet! Eww creepy' and moved on to someone else as quickly as their fingers would let them, as if the very page were dirty. Generally I've found this to be with women who are self-conscious about their own feet (one brought 3 pairs of socks and 2 pairs of shoes to work to change into each day because she constantly thought they were sweaty and awful) and they have a hard time figuring out why a man would like to put his mouth there.

I think you may be onto something here. From my (admitidly limited) experience I've found the strongest reactions against feet as an object of sexual desire come from girls who are ashamed of their own. The majority of them think they look ugly and deformed, and don't want anyone, much less a guy, looking at them in case they are as revolted as the owner. By contrast, girls who have clearly attractive feet (even from a non-fetishists p.o.v.) see very little wrong with the idea and flaunt their feet as they would a well-rounded ass 🙂
 
I definitely see where you are coming from in ALL areas. The harsh reality is that society has labeled certain things as a "fetish," a word that I hate profusely. It is 100% acceptable for a man to be a "breast man," or "ass man" in our society. However, if we were to use different terminology and say that they had a "breast fetish" or an "ass fetish" the idea suddenly becomes dirty. If that makes any sense?

If ANYONE thinks that tickling or feet are a disgusting fetish, all they have to do is look at the various categories on clips4sale and get the shock of their lives! LOL!
 
If ANYONE thinks that tickling or feet are a disgusting fetish, all they have to do is look at the various categories on clips4sale and get the shock of their lives! LOL!

Agreed. My mind still hasn't fully recovered from my first browsing experience...
 
If ANYONE thinks that tickling or feet are a disgusting fetish, all they have to do is look at the various categories on clips4sale and get the shock of their lives! LOL!

Yeah, back in 2003 I had a job in a Movie Gallery on the Delaware coast. The adult room there was mainly comprised of shit I would have nightmares about. As far as I'm concerned, we're completely tame. It was at that job I learned about the term 'Bukkake'. To this day I wish I never had. The tapes for that went up to volume 20-something, and were rented often! If that and the other stuff I saw are what is popular among the regular porn industry, we're just fine...
 
I was in Amsterdam a couple of years back and me and a friend had a look around one of their (many) adult dvd shops. Whilst there we remembered a mutual friend of ours had a foot fetish, so we went hunting for a 'souvenir,' finding the range of about 3 dvds (in a shop of about 3-4 k) hidden amongst the granny porn. I didn't know if I was more disturbed by what I saw there, or more baffled that foot fetishism was considered comparable in terms of its deviant adult content. Make of that what you will...
 
I sort of disagree...

We are freaks, if by freaks you mean abnormal.

Though, the thing is, being abnormal isn't bad.
 
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If life gives you lemons, make lomonade or open a used car dealership. If life gives you feathers, tickle(or knit a freaking canary). The enjoyment of or desire to tickle can be sexual or not, wired at birth or more influenced by nurture. I think many of us have been born with a "inclination to tickle/be tickled", sometimes accompanied by "inhanced feet appreciation". The "f" word makes it seem dirty. I assume by definition though, any sexual desire that must include tickling versus being only focused on the vagina, ass, or breast of a woman will qualify. As far as attraction goes where does a pretty face or sexy clothes, good grooming, nice smile etc fit in? I think it is how you react, persue and respond to your "inclination" in your relationships that is key. Obviously preying on strangers, minors, non-consentual friends etc is wrong in any sexual context. Make a relationship the goal, not just a release.
 
Okay, Filthy. I loved this post. Occasionally I see similar posts of realization that tickling is on the bottom of the Totem Pole of Sexual Oddities. It is. Tickling is common. It's the art of touching someone, learning spots, just like you would with kisses or tongues. The fact that we get all riled up over it just makes us a bit more interesting. While I don't have a foot fetish myself, I would certainly would never turn down a guy for a foot massage (despite if mine are heinously ticklish) and I've had my toes sucked before. Let me tell you -- it was nice. My natural inclination to be self-conscious took a big fat dump because if said guy wanted to do something like that bad enough, they must not be hideous.

But here's the thing I think about vanillas. People who are usually so "OH JESUS CHRIST WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU" are usually hiding some sort of deep seated fetish of their own. Those kind of reactions, to me, scream insecurity because GOD-FOR-FUCKING-BID someone like something other than missionary. For years, I've been insecure about my fetish, just like most of us have. It wasn't until recently when I started my new relationship that I went, "Hey. It's not so bad!"

So if I had to take my choice of being a vanilla versus having a fetish (and this is not just tickling, either!), give me the fetish. Do you know how boring vanilla sex is? It's the same thing every time. Give me kinks. That way, I'll still want to come in the bedroom at night (notice the double entandre? You should.)

Awesome post, though. Remember in the end, those poor reactions? They're insecurity about something else. It's not about you.
 
I would have to say that I totally agree about how it seems "normal" for a man to like breasts and ass, but everything else isn't "normal". At what point in history did those become the norms? As a foot man myself, I wonder why other body parts can't be seen in the same light. I haven't told any of my offline friends about it just because I know they'd make light of the situation at least, and possibly act differently around me because they would think that I'm looking at their feet all the time even though I wouldn't.
 
I must admit, even though I've had a foot fetish since very early on in my life, I DO understand societies revulsion towards them.

When people think of 'feet' the first thing they conjure are typically unkept, smelly, or even cracked feet. They think of odor after a long day at work. Really the only time people even notice feet is when there's something note-worthy about them, which for vanillas only happens when they are being offensive (as they don't seem them as attractive).

I myself only prefer clean pink soles and trimmed nails, as would most i guess. So I do get it...then again I'm open minded and thus don't judge others so much...I do wonder what's up with the folks at fetlife if they are as you say!
 
I sort of disagree...

We are freaks, if by freaks you mean abnormal.

Though, the thing is, being abnormal isn't bad.

This! Tickling itself isn't creepy. It's being into something that the majority of people isn't. Being different is what creeps people out. (Okay, and maybe the torture-factor of it. 🙂 )
 
I think people's issues with foot fetishists are from how public they are made, and how they are made publically to be "creepy." In movies, when a foot fetish is involved, it is typically used for comedy or to add a "creepy" essence to a character, by the way the character acts about it ("can i touch your feet?" "let me touch your feet" etc.) and the way the responding character reacts ("...what?!" "no!!")

Also, i know i've heard the stories of someone breaking and entering, licking someones feet and then leaving before they are caught. For the medias sake, im sure this is gold --- Regular sexual harrassment/molestation/rape is boring, but now we have a creepy foot fiend!!! That is the way it is portrayed, anyway.

I've only had one experience from someone here on the TMF who seemed really persistant and threatening about wanting to do things with feet, saying i wasn't open minded if i wasn't willing to let him do things to them. This, i know, has only to do with the person themselves, and probably the fact that they have experienced so much of this disgust with their fetish. Although i am not a foot person, i am not disgusted with the fetish at all...i like playing with my girlfriend's feet, just as i like playing with the rest of her body. It neither turns me off nor on.

I think that is because i am exposed from this forum to totally normal people who just enjoy a body part that some people just dislike.
 
I don't think it's creepy, but I've been informed in no uncertain terms in my life that it was.

How boring their life must be.

Christopher
 
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