What Is It About Taboo Tickling You Find So Alluring?

[DebonairDavid]

Generally speaking, adults (whether they have the fetish or not) understand the sexual aspects of tickling, whether it's used in flirting or foreplay context, due to erogenous zones. I'm sure this, along with engaging in regimented activities, is why tickling is often frowned upon at school, at work, or in religious orders. As to why we find it so alluring, I'd say it's not only about this desire to want what we can't have, but also wanting to break the rules and be ourselves. This is why people so many people find their coworkers romantically or sexually attractive, despite a number of companies having a policy about not allowing such a relationship to happen. How many of you have fantasized about tickling that one hot office worker but feel annoyed about it being just a fantasy because of what the company policy says?

 

[BBGuy5240]

The added naughtiness adds thrill to it I think.

 

[Sunriseticklee]

I've never seen/ experienced the vanilla side of tickling where it is seen as taboo because it's considered sexual. Most folks aren't going for erogenous zones when engaging in basic tickling play. I believe that at a certain point tickling is considered taboo because of issues with consent and torture.

Many, many humans (of all ages) assume that tickling is fine and fun whether the receiver wants it or not. This is why tickling is often hated or avoided by some in later years.

Most people aren't alarmed when tickling is seen at school. I cannot speak for religious organizations. I just know I was damn near tickled to death every time I was in church. (multiple churches. 😆 And no one stopped it! 😩🤣) Jobs? Again.. it comes down to consent just like all workplace interactions.

That being said.... Thank GOODNESS my fantasies aren't regulated! I have TWO work crushes right now. And whereas the fantasies I have for one coworker are sweet and fairly mild, the other coworker... 😭 My mind is just filthy. One coworker (star of my filthy fantasies) brought up tickling all on his own, and I didn't say a word. Cause 😳.

I've never been annoyed about work policies. And the allure of tickling for me has never centered around desiring what is considered taboo. I make it a point to shut this side of myself completely down when I go to work. And I'm so good at it that when anyone tries to tickle me, I don't even react. Takes a lot to get through that armor.

 

[pitayatickler]

I've never seen/ experienced the vanilla side of tickling where it is seen as taboo because it's considered sexual. Most folks aren't going for erogenous zones when engaging in basic tickling play. I believe that at a certain point tickling is considered taboo because of issues with consent and torture.

Many, many humans (of all ages) assume that tickling is fine and fun whether the receiver wants it or not. This is why tickling is often hated or avoided by some in later years.

Most people aren't alarmed when tickling is seen at school. I cannot speak for religious organizations. I just know I was damn near tickled to death every time I was in church. (multiple churches. 😆 And no one stopped it! 😩🤣) Jobs? Again.. it comes down to consent just like all workplace interactions.

That being said.... Thank GOODNESS my fantasies aren't regulated! I have TWO work crushes right now. And whereas the fantasies I have for one coworker are sweet and fairly mild, the other coworker... 😭 My mind is just filthy. One coworker (star of my filthy fantasies) brought up tickling all on his own, and I didn't say a word. Cause 😳.

I've never been annoyed about work policies. And the allure of tickling for me has never centered around desiring what is considered taboo. I make it a point to shut this side of me completely down when I go to work. And I'm so good at it that when anyone tries to tickle me, I don't even react. Takes a lot to get through that armor.

I get it and I also agree with you. It's about work ethics I think.
Now that I'm starting to see things from the other side as a new producer, I believe that it should be that way. I mean, you are free to think whatever you want and fantasize about anything, but when it comes down to business or how you act at your workplace, it should be treated that way

 

[WickedTouch]

Similar to others' responses, I think the main reason for tickling being considered taboo or unacceptable in certain environments has a lot more to do with respect to personal space, consent, respectable presentation, and a lot less to do with erogenous stimulation. Though, it certainly could easily fall under the scope of sexual harassment due to it being a touch-based activity and often a vehicle for flirting. As far as school and church, context makes all the difference. Outside of class, depending upon the school environment and the nature of the tickling, it can often be considered acceptable. Similarly, at churches, it depends upon the specific culture, whether specific services are occurring, and the relationship of those being tickled, but I've seen a ton of people get tickled in church and school in generally acceptable ways.

To answer your question, I've fantasized about tickling many women I've worked with, but have kept reality separate from fantasy out of respect for them, the workplace, and the work that we do. In a more laid back, less critical work environment, it is possible that it could occur, but that would have everything to do with the nature of my relationship with them and the workplace. Even then, more likely than not, I'd never do it.

 

[natscott6282]

tickling and ticklishness is taboo for other reasons for example a lot of ppl find being ticklish rlly embarrassing as in they are self conscious about having this weakness especially if its a major weakness lol

 

[WickedTouch]

tickling and ticklishness is taboo for other reasons for example a lot of ppl find being ticklish rlly embarrassing as in they are self conscious about having this weakness especially if its a major weakness lol

That's so true. My acceptance of my lee side came so much later because being vulnerable to others did not at all come naturally to me. I think a lot of people in that boat, but outside the tickling kink world, are like, okay, we need to shut this tickling stuff down now! 🤣

 

[natscott6282]

That's so true. My acceptance of my lee side came so much later because being vulnerable to others did not at all come naturally to me. I think a lot of people in that boat, but outside the tickling kink world, are like, okay, we need to shut this tickling stuff down now! 🤣

exactly! specially boys are like that with not wanting their sensitive sides exposed

 

[WickedTouch]

exactly! specially boys are like that with not wanting their sensitive sides exposed

Gah! 🥺 Don't say it like that! lol

 

[natscott6282]

Gah! 🥺 Don't say it like that! lol

lol whyyyy? 😂

 

[Sunriseticklee]

grabs popcorn

 

[WickedTouch]

lol whyyyy? 😂

Well, umm... Because it's taboo, dammit! 🤣

grabs popcorn

Don't you dare encourage her! lol


@DebonairDavid: Sorry, we hijacked your thread a little. There's tickle sharks in these here waters! I was thinking about what I said about the work environment stuff, and I forgot to mention that the same was not always returned to me by my female coworkers, like as described in my recently written short story (no actual tickling, but definitely taboo for my workplace!). If I think of more, I'll write about them too, but most other incidents were not tickling related.

 

[DebonairDavid]

Similar to others' responses, I think the main reason for tickling being considered taboo or unacceptable in certain environments has a lot more to do with respect to personal space, consent, respectable presentation, and a lot less to do with erogenous stimulation. Though, it certainly could easily fall under the scope of sexual harassment due to it being a touch-based activity and often a vehicle for flirting. As far as school and church, context makes all the difference. Outside of class, depending upon the school environment and the nature of the tickling, it can often be considered acceptable. Similarly, at churches, it depends upon the specific culture, whether specific services are occurring, and the relationship of those being tickled, but I've seen a ton of people get tickled in church and school in generally acceptable ways.

To answer your question, I've fantasized about tickling many women I've worked with, but have kept reality separate from fantasy out of respect for them, the workplace, and the work that we do. In a more laid back, less critical work environment, it is possible that it could occur, but that would have everything to do with the nature of my relationship with them and the workplace. Even then, more likely than not, I'd never do it.

You're right about respect to personal space, consent, and respectable presentation, but I'd still argue erogenous stimulation plays a small part in it because of how the tickling makes the lee feel

When I was still working at this bar near me, I tickled a number of my female coworkers because we had a laid back environment, but because I was a needy person at the time due to my needs not being met, I'd sometimes would take it too far. While I thankfully never written up or fired for it, I've decided to never do that again because I don't want to run the risk of doing so at some future work environment.

 

[milagros317]

exactly! specially boys are like that with not wanting their sensitive sides exposed

Yes! Most men of my generation grew up being taught to never show any weakness. Being ticklish was seen as both being weak and being feminine.

 

[WickedTouch]

You're right about respect to personal space, consent, and respectable presentation, but I'd still argue erogenous stimulation plays a small part in it because of how the tickling makes the lee feel

Oh, I'm sure that some people outside of our community get sexually stimulated by tickling without necessarily being into it–In fact, I've heard and read a few cases. But the vast majority of people not in our community (and a few in our community!) find the sensation just annoying or uncomfortable. Sure, if you stimulated them just so, they may experience some unwanted sexual stimulation from it, but most people that tickle don't tickle that way, and most people and groups finding tickling unacceptable or unprofessional are very likely doing so for reasons other than considerations of erogenous zone touching.

Outside of basic flirting, in which it's used as a way to bond physically with someone, most people are very ignorant to it being a sexually charged or stimulating activity for the remaining few. I say that begrudgingly, as that's not what I wish to be true!

When I was still working at this bar near me, I tickled a number of my female coworkers because we had a laid back environment, but because I was a needy person at the time due to my needs not being met, I'd sometimes would take it too far. While I thankfully never written up or fired for it, I've decided to never do that again because I don't want to run the risk of doing so at some future work environment.

Yes, it's best to err on the side of caution with that, especially if you aren't extremely confident in how they will take it or how they feel about you, even in those environments. Unwanted tickling is perceived at best as a boundary-crossing annoyance, and at worst, assault.

 

[natscott6282]

Yes! Most men of my generation grew up being taught to never show any weakness. Being ticklish was seen as both being weak and being feminine.

and todays generations

 

[Sunriseticklee]

You're right about respect to personal space, consent, and respectable presentation, but I'd still argue erogenous stimulation plays a small part in it because of how the tickling makes the lee feel

And that would be assault. 💁🏾‍♀️

Going for erogenous zones without consent under the guise of tickling is still sexual assault. Even if (a small if) the actions are consensual and wanted, it is still extremely inappropriate in a working environment.

Ticklers who feel compelled to "cop a feel" and go for erogenous / sexual spots on a non-suspecting "ticklee" are a HUMONGOUS RED FLAG!!!

Full stop! These are criminal activities, and they aren't ok ANYWHERE, including at work. Touching someone who is unaware that the purpose of the physical contact is to "turn them on" or elicit some type of sexual response is extremely alarming and gross. 🤢

So, if THAT'S what some folks here are going for, please show yourself. (So we'll know who is and isn't safe to be around.) 😭🤦🏿‍♀️

 

[DebonairDavid]

And that would be assault. 💁🏾‍♀️

Going for erogenous zones without consent under the guise of tickling is still sexual assault. Even if (a small if) the actions are consensual and wanted, it is still extremely inappropriate in a working environment.

Ticklers who feel compelled to "cop a feel" and go for erogenous / sexual spots on a non-suspecting "ticklee" are a HUMONGOUS RED FLAG!!!

Full stop! These are criminal activities, and they aren't ok ANYWHERE, including at work. Touching someone who is unaware that the purpose of the physical contact is to "turn them on" or elicit some type of sexual response is extremely alarming and gross. 🤢

So, if THAT'S what some folks here are going for, please show yourself. (So we'll know who is and isn't safe to be around.) 😭🤦🏿‍♀️

I'm relieved to say this one female coworker could've reported me for sexual assault after me tickling her made her feel uncomfortable, but because I felt ashamed of myself and I texted her a sincere apology the next day, even saying I'm no longer doing that again, she managed to forgive me. However, there's some times where she seems distant, and most-likely because she's maintaining her safety around me now. Because I'm the kind of person who hates to see someone else potentially going down the same dark path as I have, I now go out of my way to help them avoid that. Unfortunately, because there's times where they're emotionally-immature, not sexually-disciplined, or both, trying to work with them isn't always easy. I once came across a guy on here who was like that, admitted he's never been in a relationship before, and had this delusion that if a woman tickled him, she must automatically likes him romantically/sexually. I sternly and respectfully told him my own experiences with overstepping boundaries, how dangerous that delusion was, and how he seemed to have Nice Guy Syndrome (because I struggled with that myself). Not surprisingly, he hasn't been on here since then, and my honest guess for that is he saw my response, didn't know to handle it maturely, and ran away. I'd like to think he understood the seriousness of what I said, took my advice about seeing a therapist, and quit this site because he realized it was reinforcing his lack of sexual discipline, but that's wishful thinking.

 

[Barbershopman]

Because of an incident of workplace violence, we were subject to an HR session about what is proper in the workplace. Of course one topic was unwanted violation of personal space and the fourth bullet point was tickling. Of course, I was taking the instruction in stride, but my sadistic, evil little voice in my head was like, DAMN!

Barbershopman

 

[DebonairDavid]

Because of an incident of workplace violence, we were subject to an HR session about what is proper in the workplace. Of course one topic was unwanted violation of personal space and the fourth bullet point was tickling. Of course, I was taking the instruction in stride, but my sadistic, evil little voice in my head was like, DAMN!

Barbershopman

I understand how that sucks

 

[ticklemepurplee]

Because I'm the kind of person who hates to see someone else potentially going down the same dark path as I have, I now go out of my way to help them avoid that. Unfortunately, because there's times where they're emotionally-immature, not sexually-disciplined, or both, trying to work with them isn't always easy. I once came across a guy on here who was like that, admitted he's never been in a relationship before, and had this delusion that if a woman tickled him, she must automatically likes him romantically/sexually. I sternly and respectfully told him my own experiences with overstepping boundaries, how dangerous that delusion was, and how he seemed to have Nice Guy Syndrome (because I struggled with that myself). Not surprisingly, he hasn't been on here since then, and my honest guess for that is he saw my response, didn't know to handle it maturely, and ran away. I'd like to think he understood the seriousness of what I said, took my advice about seeing a therapist, and quit this site because he realized it was reinforcing his lack of sexual discipline, but that's wishful thinking.

I'm going to have to disagree with you. Assuming someone is emotionally immature or lacks sexual discipline from reading one short message is not very fair. It's a whole other thing to tell someone they are arrogant, creepy, desperate, and dangerous after reading one short message. I believe you grossly misunderstood what he was trying to communicate. I don't believe he was saying that getting tickled by a woman automatically means she wants him sexually and therefore he can just come on to her and do whatever he wants. I believe he was saying that tickling is a way to show attraction or affection--it's a way to flirt. You wouldn't tickle someone who repulsed you, right? He was saying he enjoys that attention from women because it means they like him--and "like" doesn't have to mean sexually, or even romantically for that matter.
I think you made assumptions and jumped to a lot of conclusions based off his harmless comment. I actually resonated with a lot of what he said, personally. I think others did as well since he received likes on that post.

 

[DebonairDavid]

I'm going to have to disagree with you. Assuming someone is emotionally immature or lacks sexual discipline from reading one short message is not very fair. It's a whole other thing to tell someone they are arrogant, creepy, desperate, and dangerous after reading one short message. I believe you grossly misunderstood what he was trying to communicate. I don't believe he was saying that getting tickled by a woman automatically means she wants him sexually and therefore he can just come on to her and do whatever he wants. I believe he was saying that tickling is a way to show attraction or affection--it's a way to flirt. You wouldn't tickle someone who repulsed you, right? He was saying he enjoys that attention from women because it means they like him--and "like" doesn't have to mean sexually, or even romantically for that matter.
I think you made assumptions and jumped to a lot of conclusions based off his harmless comment. I actually resonated with a lot of what he said, personally. I think others did as well since he received likes on that post.

When you put that way, I'll admit I may have misunderstood him, judged him, and scared him away, but this is an example of how context can be subjective unless the person is the careful with how they phrase and word something. I would've sincerely apologized if he decided to call me out on, or even report me for, any misunderstandings I created. If I did scare him away, I'll feel bad about that, but its possible I might've been right about him being misguided and needy because I saw some parts of who I used to be in him when he said that. Another thing to mention is I was trying to err on the side of caution when I responded to him originally.

 

[aberdeen]

tickling and ticklishness is taboo for other reasons for example a lot of ppl find being ticklish rlly embarrassing as in they are self conscious about having this weakness especially if its a major weakness lol

I am thinking that in the hands of an expert and profound tickler, someone's ticklishness would ALWAYS wind up as a MAJOR weakness ! 😊.

That being said, I have always looked upon ticklishness as a helpless reflex that we (men or women ) have no real control over (its a combo of genetics and psychology )...
Ive never been tickled to the extreme, and I wont say that being brought to a puddle of molten maleness would not be significant ( oh it WOULD be) but for me it would be more about the helplessness and how the tickler would be able to manipulate me because of my ticklishness...I am not sure I'd feel embarrassed over my helpless response from a reflex....

 

[Sunriseticklee]

II'm the kind of person who hates to see someone else potentially going down the same dark path as I have, I now go out of my way to help them avoid that. Unfortunately, because there's times where they're emotionally-immature, not sexually-disciplined, or both, trying to work with them isn't always easy. I once came across a guy on here who was like that, admitted he's never been in a relationship before, and had this delusion that if a woman tickled him, she must automatically likes him romantically/sexually. I sternly and respectfully told him my own experiences with overstepping boundaries, how dangerous that delusion was, and how he seemed to have Nice Guy Syndrome (because I struggled with that myself). ...

Man! Focus on you.

You doubled and tripled down on making a point to insert the focus on erogenous zones when tickling people at work. And more than one of us attempted to push back on the notion of tickling non-consenting individuals, period. We pushed even harder on the act of anyone tickling somebody for the purposes of targeting spots in attempts to make the receiver of the tickling (NOT OUR TICKLEES!) "feel a certain way."

If you have changed and don't do that anymore, great. But the words that you are currently typing have caused me great concern.

Since we are all here, we are all admitting that we love tickling more than most people. We are also admitting that we have certain compulsions when it comes to tickling or being tickled. We are also admitting that on a certain level, tickling is a "turn on' for us. Therefore, we have to be extremely careful when exposing people to our kinks and sexual compulsions without their knowledge and consent. And regardless of the atmosphere in which we work, perhaps we ought to keep our hands to ourselves.

I get it. My goodness, yes... I have been on the giving end of tickling people just because. And I have crossed boundaries. Admittedly, for most of us, we have to actually learn about the rules of engaging in safe play, good negotiation, and enthusiastic consent. I wasn't aware of any of those things until my early 20s.

Once I learned, I have tried to be very cautious. It is so easy for even those of us who are seasoned to cross the line.

So right now... Focus on yourself and the message you are pushing right here on this thread which is contradicting your other message you seem to be pushing on the same thread.

Work on yourself. 💁🏾‍♀️

 

[RahnSolo]

Generally speaking, adults (whether they have the fetish or not) understand the sexual aspects of tickling, whether it's used in flirting or foreplay context, due to erogenous zones. I'm sure this, along with engaging in regimented activities, is why tickling is often frowned upon at school, at work, or in religious orders. As to why we find it so alluring, I'd say it's not only about this desire to want what we can't have, but also wanting to break the rules and be ourselves. This is why people so many people find their coworkers romantically or sexually attractive, despite a number of companies having a policy about not allowing such a relationship to happen. How many of you have fantasized about tickling that one hot office worker but feel annoyed about it being just a fantasy because of what the company policy says?

I work in the bar/restaurant industry. The standard is a little more laxed unless it's manager to employee. Thank God I've never desired getting into management, lol.
There's a few managers I've had over the years that I've MOST DEFINITELY fantasized about tickling to happy tears if I could.
There was a GM of a restaurant I bartended at in Long Beach that I tickled from time to time at work. We made out in the keg cooler and it was incredibly hot because of the taboo nature of the relationship. We never crossed a bigger line than our flirty ways at work, but it was quite the feeling.
I've playfully tickled coworkers at work after a relationship has been established. We're friendly, we engage with one another, and I don't look to push boundaries unless they almost literally tell me to keep going. I'd be mortified to be in an HR meeting over tickling, lol.