What Is It About Taboo Tickling You Find So Alluring?

[WickedTouch]

Man! Focus on you.

You doubled and tripled down on making a point to insert the focus on erogenous zones when tickling people at work. And more than one of us attempted to push back on the notion of tickling non-consenting individuals, period. We pushed even harder on the act of anyone tickling somebody for the purposes of targeting spots in attempts to make the receiver of the tickling (NOT OUR TICKLEES!) "feel a certain way."

If you have changed and don't do that anymore, great. But the words that you are currently typing have caused me great concern.

Since we are all here, we are all admitting that we love tickling more than most people. We are also admitting that we have certain compulsions when it comes to tickling or being tickled. We are also admitting that on a certain level, tickling is a "turn on' for us. Therefore, we have to be extremely careful when exposing people to our kinks and sexual compulsions without their knowledge and consent. And regardless of the atmosphere in which we work, perhaps we ought to keep our hands to ourselves.

I get it. My goodness, yes... I have been on the giving end of tickling people just because. And I have crossed boundaries. Admittedly, for most of us, we have to actually learn about the rules of engaging in safe play, good negotiation, and enthusiastic consent. I wasn't aware of any of those things until my early 20s.

Once I learned, I have tried to be very cautious. It is so easy for even those of us who are seasoned to cross the line.

So right now... Focus on yourself and the message you are pushing right here on this thread which is contradicting your other message you seem to be pushing on the same thread.

Work on yourself. 💁🏾‍♀️

@DebonairDavid I agree with what @Sunriseticklee is saying here. I think you have good intentions, but it looks like to me you are projecting a lot of your own personal experiences and relationship with tickling onto others in and out of the tickling community. I agree that in terms of behavior and perspectives on tickling, focusing on yourself for now is a good recommendation.

 

[DebonairDavid]

Man! Focus on you.

You doubled and tripled down on making a point to insert the focus on erogenous zones when tickling people at work. And more than one of us attempted to push back on the notion of tickling non-consenting individuals, period. We pushed even harder on the act of anyone tickling somebody for the purposes of targeting spots in attempts to make the receiver of the tickling (NOT OUR TICKLEES!) "feel a certain way."

If you have changed and don't do that anymore, great. But the words that you are currently typing have caused me great concern.

Since we are all here, we are all admitting that we love tickling more than most people. We are also admitting that we have certain compulsions when it comes to tickling or being tickled. We are also admitting that on a certain level, tickling is a "turn on' for us. Therefore, we have to be extremely careful when exposing people to our kinks and sexual compulsions without their knowledge and consent. And regardless of the atmosphere in which we work, perhaps we ought to keep our hands to ourselves.

I get it. My goodness, yes... I have been on the giving end of tickling people just because. And I have crossed boundaries. Admittedly, for most of us, we have to actually learn about the rules of engaging in safe play, good negotiation, and enthusiastic consent. I wasn't aware of any of those things until my early 20s.

Once I learned, I have tried to be very cautious. It is so easy for even those of us who are seasoned to cross the line.

So right now... Focus on yourself and the message you are pushing right here on this thread which is contradicting your other message you seem to be pushing on the same thread.

Work on yourself. 💁🏾‍♀️

Originally, I was under the impression that all adults feel some kind of erogenous stimulation from being tickled (and not just at work) because their bodies would supposedly respond differently than a child's would, but @WickedTouch corrected me on that by saying

most people that tickle don't tickle that way

so forgive me for not having much knowledge of what tickling is like outside of tickle fetishist's perspective. Also, with you talked about pushing back on tickling non-consenting individual and making them feel "a certain way", you're making it sound like I was encouraging that kind of behavior when I never said that! You perceived it that way! This is especially true when I openly admitted I regretted doing that at work and will purposely avoid doing so from now on. As far as you saying I should focus on myself, again, you misperceived what I said! Obviously, I'm the only one who's in control of my own life, and everyone else is only capable of controlling theirs. At the same time, if see or hear about someone possibly doing something I used to do, I'll state my concerns about it (and obviously try to do so in a stern but respectful way), hope they'll willingly hear me out, and hope they'll rethink their objective, but whether or not they choose to listen, and take what I say into consideration, is completely on them. It never was my job to make people's lives work for them. The only thing I can do is try pointing them in the right direction if they were misguided like I was, but whatever happens after that is beyond my control.

 

[Sunriseticklee]

Originally, I was under the impression that all adults feel some kind of erogenous stimulation from being tickled (and not just at work) because their bodies would supposedly respond differently than a child's would, but @WickedTouch corrected me on that.....

Tag... Somebody else tap in because who's gonna tell him that this excuse/ reason makes it worse. Just... 😭

At the same time, if see or hear about someone possibly doing something I used to do, I'll state my concerns about it (and obviously try to do so in a stern but respectful way), hope they'll willingly hear me out, and hope they'll rethink their objective, but whether or not they choose to listen, and take what I say into consideration, is completely on them.

The Irony.
This is completely on you.

Insert SpongeBob gif cause... ✌🏾

 

[DebonairDavid]

Tag... Somebody else tap in because who's gonna tell him that this excuse/ reason makes it worse. Just... 😭

I admitted I was misinformed. Nail me to the Cross for my sins.
Update: FYI, the reason why I'm not very knowledgeable of what tickling is like outside of the fetish is because the last I want to get is thoughts of pedophilia if I'm tickling little kids. I've gotten aroused when I've tickled my female friends, but I never showed them that because that would creep them out and make them run away, and the ones who know about my fetish are fine with it.

The Irony.
This is completely on you.

Insert SpongeBob gif cause... ✌🏾

I honestly don't feel arguing and getting into petty drama with you either

 

[Wade]

I used to work in an office where multiple women, separately, took it upon themselves to tickle me periodically; on the one hand, I think the entertainment value derived in part -- but not entirely -- from the assumption that it was mildly embarrassing for my weakness to be on display. On the other hand, the fact that they did it right there in the office, in public, on the clock, with multiple onlookers and unconcerned about who might hear my yelps, suggests that it was perceived as a thoroughly taboo-free activity; it was friendly playful (and utterly non-sexualized) goofing around, no more charged than prank calling a coworker or hiding their stapler.

That kind of workplace activity is less acceptable nowadays of course, but I don't think any of those women would enjoy the prospect of breaking that social taboo; what they found fun about tickling me was enabled by the complete absence of taboo.

 

[DebonairDavid]

I used to work in an office where multiple women, separately, took it upon themselves to tickle me periodically; on the one hand, I think the entertainment value derived in part -- but not entirely -- from the assumption that it was mildly embarrassing for my weakness to be on display. On the other hand, the fact that they did it right there in the office, in public, on the clock, with multiple onlookers and unconcerned about who might hear my yelps, suggests that it was perceived as a thoroughly taboo-free activity; it was friendly playful (and utterly non-sexualized) goofing around, no more charged than prank calling a coworker or hiding their stapler.

That kind of workplace activity is less acceptable nowadays of course, but I don't think any of those women would enjoy the prospect of breaking that social taboo; what they found fun about tickling me was enabled by the complete absence of taboo.

I'd say they had some serious balls to do that, but they physically don't have any. How long ago was this?

 

[Wade]

I'd say they had some serious balls to do that, but they physically don't have any. How long ago was this?

The last of these occasions had to be at least fifteen years ago; others were earlier still. It was an office with a low-level stratum of a bunch of goofy twentysomethings running around, so that was part of it. I've also noted that the behavior probably would have been received differently if the ticklers had been male and the target a woman. But it was also just long enough ago that the environment of what was considered permissible horseplay was just different.

 

[DebonairDavid]

The last of these occasions had to be at least fifteen years ago; others were earlier still. It was an office with a low-level stratum of a bunch of goofy twentysomethings running around, so that was part of it. I've also noted that the behavior probably would have been received differently if the ticklers had been male and the target was a woman. But it was also just long enough ago that the environment of what was considered permissible horseplay was just different.

Oh yeah, when a bunch of goofy 20-somethings tickle a male office coworker, it's not viewed as sexual harassment or assault, but when the shoe's on the foot, it is. That makes perfect sense, and all thanks to groupthink. Because things haven't drastically changed since the 2000's (then again, I was only a kid/teenager at the time), that kind of behavior could actually still exist today because of how cultural norms have changed since our parents' time. If it was back in the 80's-maybe 90's, I imagine any supervisor who saw that would've immediately shut it down and claimed it was causing a disruptive work environment.

 

[aberdeen]

exactly! specially boys are like that with not wanting their sensitive sides exposed

so I just read an article about how we still (as a society) tend to push boys into the situation where young men feel as though they have to be tough and not show their vulnerable side to others..and how it prevents close friendships /relationships...and you have pointed out many times how boys try much harder to hide/deny their ticklishness bec of that...more so than girls, im guessing....

Those facts illustrate again how tickling can be beneficial !
In our often hands off, touch-starved society, tickling could be beneficial to help break down those barriers and allow people to learn to admit their vulnerabilities!
I know several ppl online who crave just simple touch... not sexual touch but simple touch as therapy ( ie hand holding, cuddling, foot rubs, massages).

Some want more advanced touch therapy IE opportunities to BE tickled as part of general mood enhancement ( especially some on the autism spectrum, ADHD, or other neurodivergent conditions ). The ones I chat with who obtain this 'care' say tickling enhances the effects of their meds to keep them more level and balanced.
Many without a medical condition enjoy it as well for general stress relief (its better that the society's solutions of drug or alcohol abuse to be sure)

But back to the feelings of embarrassment...
I definitely have a compassionate side (most women I've known find it a positive attribute). Maybe that is why I would not be 'embarrassed' by my ticklishness being exposed,,,, as I consider any response just pure human reflex, not an inherent male gender weakness. I do believe EVERYONE has the weakness of sickishness, men and women alike.

Although, don't get me wrong...even though Im a pretty compassionate guy, my behavior can change a bit when I am in the "tickLER" mode...hee hee!

 

[aberdeen]

and todays generations

see my response later on this very topic...how today we are still giving young men the idea that they need to hide emotions and vulnerabilities. I expounded on this on another of your comments later in the thread. As always, great answers and knowing the psychology (not just of tickling but of society members as a whole)

 

[torturoustickle]

Many years ago I had a part time job bouncing at a suburban night club. Every Friday and Saturday night the same bar and security staff, we got to know each other pretty well. On this one particular night one of the bar staff thought it was funny to wack me on the arse with her bottle opener when we crossed paths. Every time I felt the sharp sting of that metal opener, I'd give her a look, and she'd give me a cheeky grin.
At the end of the night we were sitting around having knock off's when she planted herself next to me and asked if my arse was sore, no doubt to try to embarrass me. Without really thinking, I reached over and grabbed her leg just above the knee. It wasn't really my intention to tickle as I don't know a lot of people who are really that ticklish there. But her scream, like horror movie type scream, in her case proved she was.
Everyone obviously stopped and looked and I was absolutely mortified. But then two of her friends came over and said "yeah she deserves it", then piled on her and tickled her half to death.
Sadly I never had the guts to participate, but I do like to claim responsibility for breaking the ice and making sure she got the public tickling she deserved. 🪶😁

 

[aberdeen]

and todays generations

If its true that todays generation of men/boys (maybe even some women) are not accustomed to putting their sensitive sides 'on show'...maybe besides just regular tickle therapy spas we need to have psychological based tickle therapy clinics where men and women who have trouble letting their guard down and allowing their psychological vulnerabilities to show can receive definitive and intense therapy and treatment to tickle those old, outdated feeling right out of their minds...
Like most behavioral therapy, it may take several sessions (maybe months). to fully drive the years of pent up emotions out of their current psyche.
It may also be true that regular visits to our special tickle therapy and behavior modification clinic may be needed.
Self consciousness and negative feelings concerning one's ticklishness just adds stress to people's lives, and as members and practitioners in the tickle community, we owe it to other to open our doors and fingers to the long term betterment of all ticklish members of the community. I for one would be willing to work on ( I mean with ). a client until they were fully cured of their embarrassment and self consciousness about their ticklishness...Or at least until they passed out for that day!