What Kind of Ler?

[TKLVR181]

So, whilest in the chatroom and rping with, I admit, several people at once, a question formed in my head.

What kind of lers do people prefer? What is it that you look for in a tickler? Or, if you're a ler, what kind of ler do you consider yourself? The teasing, playful kind vs the sensuous seductive type? The kind, friendly type vs the cold, villainous type? Other spectrum I haven't thought of?

Personally, and this is no secret, I prefer the friendly yet teasing type. Nothing I love more than to be verbally sparring with someone then suddenly have to leg it x) And I like a 'ler who makes me lie down and laugh xD The point of leeing for me is to get as flustered as humanly possible.

As a 'ler I tend to do pretty much what I like as a 'lee, though I do have a more serious dom side to me 😉

How 'bout ya'll?

~K

 

[TicklishBlackGuy]

I like a ler whose kind but evil, nice but vicious. One who can tease me till i feel like putty and make me laugh and squirm to my delight. Someone who I am very comfortable with, knows when to stop and doesn't take things to far. A female ler whose super evil but also kind and sweet is what like (yes i just described two people, u know who u are)

 

[chicag0]

I like em big, strong, muscle-y with similar sausage-fingered hands. Able to manhandle and dig in without causing pain, but can be gentle as well. That's a preference. A good ler should be persistent, creative, willing to try different pressures / techniques, etc and remember what works.

 

[Rox_My_Sox1]

I like'em female, soft, gentle, but firm and willing to tease me while I bed through my gag to not be tickled. ^_~

 

[ticklewolf89]

I need a 'ler who can communicate. That is such a huge basic requirement for me. If you want to get to do any tickling? Talk to me first. Find out what I like and don't like. Find out what is okay and what isn't--what areas you absolutely do not have access to, and where the line is drawn (which you cannot cross). I'll do the same for you: I want to know what your preferences are, what you like and don't like, etc. Consent and respect are such huge things for me, and if you don't think you can practice self control then we're not going to have any kind of tickling relationship. Sorry, not sorry.

Other than that? I'm a person who likes the gentle, playful teasing mixed with some expert tickling. Some seductive tickles, or teasing in one of those husky seductive whispers? Yes, please. (Though, again, you have to seriously work to gain access to certain areas or "results" of your seductive tickling.) 😉

...am I a special snowflake? Am I doing it wrong?

 

[TKLVR181]

I need a 'ler who can communicate. That is such a huge basic requirement for me. If you want to get to do any tickling? Talk to me first. Find out what I like and don't like. Find out what is okay and what isn't--what areas you absolutely do not have access to, and where the line is drawn (which you cannot cross). I'll do the same for you: I want to know what your preferences are, what you like and don't like, etc. Consent and respect are such huge things for me, and if you don't think you can practice self control then we're not going to have any kind of tickling relationship. Sorry, not sorry.

So much this. I only rp with people I know or at least peripherally know. I don't like the whole "this is just a quick tickling thing, not a friendship" thing.

~K

 

[TicklishBlackGuy]

I need a 'ler who can communicate. That is such a huge basic requirement for me. If you want to get to do any tickling? Talk to me first. Find out what I like and don't like. Find out what is okay and what isn't--what areas you absolutely do not have access to, and where the line is drawn (which you cannot cross). I'll do the same for you: I want to know what your preferences are, what you like and don't like, etc. Consent and respect are such huge things for me, and if you don't think you can practice self control then we're not going to have any kind of tickling relationship. Sorry, not sorry.

Other than that? I'm a person who likes the gentle, playful teasing mixed with some expert tickling. Some seductive tickles, or teasing in one of those husky seductive whispers? Yes, please. (Though, again, you have to seriously work to gain access to certain areas or "results" of your seductive tickling.) 😉

...am I a special snowflake? Am I doing it wrong?

I think every GUY and girl should read this and take this to heart. I see too many people who just use other lers for there own selfish reasons, or are stuck up lers who think there all that, or lers that just don't care and will tickle you even when u mean no or stop. Seeing this shows what respect gets you with your lee. so amen.

 

[likeasong1]

True, but there's something to be said for the thrill of exploring and finding out what's ticklish and how badly. In chat, it doesn't matter as much as how much something tickles, the position each of you are in, the environment you're in... all in your imagination. So in cyber tickling, there's less need because as long as the wording doesn't get too specific to directly oppose your comfort level, you're at your leisure to induce or feel it as hard as you wish.

IRL, yes, I am very respectful of my victim... if I get to a point with her that she lets me tickle her, that will invariably have involved me learning as much about her concerning where I may or may not and how to recognize when she needs me to stop. That said, when we get to that point, I prefer to be an aggressive ler, a dominant one (not to mention a sexual one), making her buck and thrash and shriek with laughter... as far as she will let me. But yes I can be gentle. I just prefer rough. Hope that doesn't make me too egregious a monster.

 

[TicklishBlackGuy]

oh another thing I forgot to add, a ler who isn't afraid to be a lee too. A ler who likes getting tickled as well, a ler who u can tickle like mad for all the times they tickled and teased you.

 

[ticklewolf89]

True, but there's something to be said for the thrill of exploring and finding out what's ticklish and how badly. In chat, it doesn't matter as much as how much something tickles, the position each of you are in, the environment you're in... all in your imagination. So in cyber tickling, there's less need because as long as the wording doesn't get too specific to directly oppose your comfort level, you're at your leisure to induce or feel it as hard as you wish.

IRL, yes, I am very respectful of my victim... if I get to a point with her that she lets me tickle her, that will invariably have involved me learning as much about her concerning where I may or may not and how to recognize when she needs me to stop. That said, when we get to that point, I prefer to be an aggressive ler, a dominant one (not to mention a sexual one), making her buck and thrash and shriek with laughter... as far as she will let me. But yes I can be gentle. I just prefer rough. Hope that doesn't make me too egregious a monster.

I agree that cyber tickling is more in your imagination, and there's a sort of safety and barrier there because it's not real and you aren't actually feeling/experiencing what's happening. However, I personally still like to establish those boundaries, even if wording never gets that specific/I don't find myself getting uncomfortable. I just do it as a precautionary thing, because I've had experiences before where someone has said something online/in a chat and then gone on to do that same thing IRL, and it was problematic and uncomfortable. I'm not trying to cause problems here, that is absolutely not my intention. Just, in the best of all possible scenarios FOR ME, I'd like to establish communication. On the extremely off chance I meet someone IRL and we start off doing what we've discussed doing in a chat, I want to make sure they don't do something that is a surprise no-no, and I want to make sure I also don't do something that's not okay or oversteps my boundaries.

I have nothing against rough or sexual tickling! Keep on keeping on, so long as you and your partner are enjoying yourselves. I'm glad you mentioned that you are very respectful, and that getting to a point of tickling a person will involve you learning about the person's likes/dislikes and when you need to stop/not do something. I think that's something we all need to keep in mind, tbph. Mad respect, friend.

 

[chicag0]

I figured respect of boundaries was a given. Kinda sad that its not but as far as rough or gentle, thats just a preference and I think neither are wrong. Different strokes and junk lol

 

[likeasong1]

Yeah, chicag0, I agree it normally should be. Admittedly, I like the cyber tickling equivalent of "no strings attached" or whatever, but I think that's just because it's sooooo incredibly difficult for me to find women who are willing to submit to it, let alone be aroused by it in real life, that the desire is bursting to get out, so when I get to cyber chat, I want to (wrongfully) assume that there's at least some women in the chat that feel the same way.

Also admittedly, as a ler, I don't want to be told there are places I can't tickle. Because it's a sexual thing for me, telling me there are places I can't poke and prod suggests an insecurity with her body that is going to inhibit or even ruin our experience together, or an unwillingness to trust me or commit that fully to me.

Sorry, I'm overanalyzing. I do that. Sorry to ruin the fun of this thread.

 

[TheTickleMonster]

I agree that cyber tickling is more in your imagination, and there's a sort of safety and barrier there because it's not real and you aren't actually feeling/experiencing what's happening. However, I personally still like to establish those boundaries, even if wording never gets that specific/I don't find myself getting uncomfortable. I just do it as a precautionary thing, because I've had experiences before where someone has said something online/in a chat and then gone on to do that same thing IRL, and it was problematic and uncomfortable. I'm not trying to cause problems here, that is absolutely not my intention. Just, in the best of all possible scenarios FOR ME, I'd like to establish communication. On the extremely off chance I meet someone IRL and we start off doing what we've discussed doing in a chat, I want to make sure they don't do something that is a surprise no-no, and I want to make sure I also don't do something that's not okay or oversteps my boundaries.

I have nothing against rough or sexual tickling! Keep on keeping on, so long as you and your partner are enjoying yourselves. I'm glad you mentioned that you are very respectful, and that getting to a point of tickling a person will involve you learning about the person's likes/dislikes and when you need to stop/not do something. I think that's something we all need to keep in mind, tbph. Mad respect, friend.

Even though cyber-tickling (or roleplaying) is in your imagination, that doesn't mean people shouldn't respect each other. You shouldn't cyber-rape someone just like in real life. People that do cyber-tickle or roleplay, find it fun and if you act disrespectful towards the person you're doing it with, that can cause it to be less fun or make them uncomfortable, even though it is only words on a screen and the person isn't actually touching you.

 

[TheTickleMonster]

As for actually answering the question that TKLVR asked...

As for what kind of ler I look for... I'm a ler so I don't look for another ler.

And what kind of ler I am... I would classify myself as a friendly ler. One of the reasons I love tickling is because I love making people laugh so I often do it in a friendly way... now don't get me wrong I can be an evil ler if I want to. I am a monster after all. But that can depend on my mood, or if I'm tickling someone and I happen to find a really good ticklish spot and just don't want to stop...

 

[The_Raptor]

haha awesome thread, I like the ler to be willing to adventure with me, never stop trying out new methods and tools, understand me, share my likes and respect my boundaries, have the fun and playful side yet the determined side,
Like I said before tis some sorta bonding between the two of us in an interesting way, same like huggles but with the rollercoaster effect!

 

[ticklewolf89]

Even though cyber-tickling (or roleplaying) is in your imagination, that doesn't mean people shouldn't respect each other. You shouldn't cyber-rape someone just like in real life. People that do cyber-tickle or roleplay, find it fun and if you act disrespectful towards the person you're doing it with, that can cause it to be less fun or make them uncomfortable, even though it is only words on a screen and the person isn't actually touching you.

Yeah, I'm incredibly hyper-aware of what I'm saying and doing in role-play situations because I don't want to make the other person uncomfortable, and I would hope that they approach the situation with that same attitude. Respect should be a given, and it's sad that it isn't always something that comes to the table. I find myself, more often than not, pointing out (as politely as possible) when someone says something that makes me uncomfortable, because even though they're words on a screen, they still have an effect and my brain does that slightly-irrational jump to thinking "if they'll do it in a hypothetical situation then who's to say they wouldn't attempt it IRL?". Communication is such an important thing, because we're all here to have fun and enjoy ourselves/indulge in tickling and there's really no need to potentially sacrifice comfort for the sake of a fix.

I really hope I don't sound uptight or irrational, and I really hope I'm not causing problems. I just want everyone to be safe and enjoy themselves, y'know?

 

[Oblivion]

I don't get Ler'd often, but I usually like it when its a surprise and teasing.

Small lady tackling me out of nowhere and digging into my ribs? Oh hell yes. Someone who teases a lot. <3

 

[TKLVR181]

Wolf, you aren't being a killjoy in the least! I totally agree. If somebody I being a jerk/unwantedly forward/disrespectful of my desires, I just don't rp with them. Of course, there's a difference between being playfully forced (which I love) and being truly non-conned. I think that's a important distinction to make here.

~K

 

[TicklishBlackGuy]

she is totally on the ball there. doesn't matter if its real life or cyber, respect is still something every lee and ler should have, like honestly she couldn't had hit the nail any more on the head

 

[rerumfontis]

Good question! I am playful but also sensual as a tickler ... I love to tease and tantalize a girl. I prefer gentle, delicious tickles ... knowing full well that they can be deliciously ... unbearable. I want her to beg for mercy and for more in the same giggly breath ... and mean it :wub

 

[sadi]

Personally, I'd ignore my name, as I think - try - to be a placating tickler, ingratiating myself to whomever is trusting enough to let my 'wandering' fingers stray to their person. But I show how 'merciful' I am by turning the 'lee (male/female, big/small: not picky 😉) into a ticklish puddle, with both my wiggling fingers, seeking out those hidden nerves, and painting a picture with words that's able to slip under your skin, tickling those areas you didn't even know were ticklish as your mind runs wild.

Being a bugger, I always poke fun at people, but if I ever think I've overstepped my boundaries, it makes me want to curl up into a ball and turn into nothing. So, not being a very insightful person, I find it best (and most enjoyable) to make the person "admit" what they want. Now, the fact that a person actually 'verbalizing' what they truly desire, that dearly prized secret, only makes the admittance that much more rewarding when it's pried from their bubbling, shrieking lips. And, I end up ensuring I'm not doing anything wrong, either. 😉

Evident from being online, I relish the fact that simply 'describing' something can send another into an embarrassing ticklish puddle. All in the words, all in the words.... So entertaining seeing someone twitch and jerk when a finger's naught been laid on them, even; their face beet red as they start giggling while staring at a piece of plastic.

- Oh! I enjoy 'messed-up' choice and games the best! 😉 If someone doesn't want me to tickle any more, just yawn, so I know you're bored. Or 'underarms or feet'? Ribs or the insteps of your feet? Sides or toes? You're giving 'so' many options, so it's not like you're being demanding. :evil:

 

[TicklishBlackGuy]

Personally, ignore the name, as I think - _ try - to be a placating tickler. But show how 'merciful' I am by turning the 'lee (male/female, big/small, not picky 😉) into a ticklish puddle, with both my wiggling fingers, seeking out those hidden nerves, and painting a picture with words that's able to slip under your skin, tickling those areas you didn't even know were ticklish as your mind runs wild.

once again u make me squirm just thinking bout that sadi

 

[sadi]

once again u make me squirm just thinking bout that sadi

:lol Well, if you're not enjoying my methods, just whistle, m'kay? 😉

(The fact that it's impossible to whistle while you're howling in hysterical laughter doesn't matter at all)

 

[TicklishBlackGuy]

oh i enjoy your methods my dear and idk if i can whistle whe nbeing tickled by you

 

[dalekfire]

While Dalek is in 'ler mode, I like to EX-FO-LI-ATE!!

That is all.