What Kind of Ler?

[TKLVR181]

While Dalek is in 'ler mode, I like to EX-FO-LI-ATE!!

That is all.

I laughed far too hard at that! XD

~K

 

[tickle_fan031]

So, whilest in the chatroom and rping with, I admit, several people at once, a question formed in my head.

What kind of lers do people prefer? What is it that you look for in a tickler? Or, if you're a ler, what kind of ler do you consider yourself? The teasing, playful kind vs the sensuous seductive type? The kind, friendly type vs the cold, villainous type? Other spectrum I haven't thought of?

Personally, and this is no secret, I prefer the friendly yet teasing type. Nothing I love more than to be verbally sparring with someone then suddenly have to leg it x) And I like a 'ler who makes me lie down and laugh xD The point of leeing for me is to get as flustered as humanly possible.

As a 'ler I tend to do pretty much what I like as a 'lee, though I do have a more serious dom side to me 😉

How 'bout ya'll?

~K

What kind of lers do I prefer? Hmm now that is a tough question. Ha ha.
I think the best are those that can get me flustered without even touching me or without even realising. Ones that listen and remember what I like so that it is so easy to get to me. Verbal teasing is a must. Playful tickling with a sprinkle of evil mixed in. Can't beat being caught off guard *daydreams*

I'm not much of a ler so it helps having a lee that likes similar things to me as a lee as it makes it far easier to get to them so we both can enjoy.so gotta find out what they like beforehand and I try to take as much on board as possible.

 

[Excess]

Well, I consider myself the prepared kind. That is, the kind that comes in with some lens' in my eyes to protect against pepper spray, a crotch protector, lots of alcohol and if that doesn't work chloroform, Dora the Explorer handcuffs (don't ask) and a wizard hat and beard. One day I hope the flashy things from MiB becomes a thing.

What? WHAT?!

Oh and I guess speaking realistically, I like to talk. A lot. Well, maybe dependent on how the person is reacting, but I love screwing with their heads and being an ass. XD Also trying to find new 'things' to try, being creative and spontaneous. I dunno, I guess that counts.

 

[TKLVR181]

Helen, I call utter bs on you not being much of a ler. I've seen it, it's a thing, and a damn good one at that. Stop selling yourself short or else *narrows eyes and smirks*

 

[Cryptic71]

As a response to some of the previous statements:

If someone continues to tickle you when you genuinely mean STOP, it ceases to be consensual "activities", and begins to wade into the territory of assault/abuse; and is VERY illegal.

So. If it gets out of hand, a restraining order is always an option. That way you get to sue them if they continue to fuck about.

 

[TicklishBlackGuy]

As a response to some of the previous statements:

If someone continues to tickle you when you genuinely mean STOP, it ceases to be consensual "activities", and begins to wade into the territory of assault/abuse; and is VERY illegal.

So. If it gets out of hand, a restraining order is always an option. That way you get to sue them if they continue to fuck about.

that will only work if it happens in real life, can't really do that via internet cuz people bypass stuff like that easily

 

[tickle_fan031]

Also trying to find new 'things' to try, being creative and spontaneous. I dunno, I guess that counts.

Yes that does count. Creative and spontaneous people in general are fun not just as lers.

Helen, I call utter bs on you not being much of a ler. I've seen it, it's a thing, and a damn good one at that. Stop selling yourself short or else *narrows eyes and smirks*

meh I just need more practice to believe it:stickout

 

[likeasong1]

*sigh* You guys are really twisting what I said.

I mean, with tickling videos, the victim always says "STOP" or "DON'T", but it doesn't stop for real until they say a safe word. Similarly, with my experience as a 'Ler, a lee will sometimes say "stop" merely as a reflex, and doesn't actually want me to stop. When I do stop, she'll sometimes say, "keep going! This is fun!"

And in cybertickling, you can always just stop playing along, log out, block the person, etc. And then don't engage in it with them again until they understand where the line has been drawn, if even then.

And again my larger point, which chicag0 understood, before I get into tickling, there's already been a level of trust established, which includes communication. For instance, my girlfriend hates having her belly button touched, which is a favorite spot for a lot of 'lers. I like to go there, too, but I respect her and don't tickle there. And she responds positively by letting me tickle her in several other places, with squeals, writhes, and bucks that are very rewarding for me as a Ler.

Even when it's not a sexual situation, there still has to be trust. When I worked at a fast food joint, on a hot and slow day, we started flinging shaved ice and each other and putting cubes down each other's backs for fun. One girl tried to pelt me with a snowball made of freezer snow, but before it left her hand, I bear-hugged her, and told her to drop it on the grill. She refused twice, and then I tickled her armpits until she dropped it. She didn't get upset with me for it, knew it was all in fun, and I knew that there was a level of trust and fair play involved and between us that it was funny and okay for that whole interaction to have happened. I wouldn't have risked that with someone who was a new hire or someone that I didn't get along with. Trust and communication. Before I engage in tickling. Same with chat... if you agree to engage in it, you're trusting me, and I do my best not to violate that trust.

Back on topic. And YAY the forum's back.

 

[TicklishBlackGuy]

i don't think anyone twisted what you said around song, I think we just elaborated on it into a bit further, especially from a ladies point of view who get the worse of it ya know.

 

[TKLVR181]

meh I just need more practice to believe it:stickout

Get your butt back to the states and you can have all the practice in both we can fit into a week :stickout

~K

 

[Ticklish&InLove]

Two words: "playfully ruthless".
Once you have that the slow methodical Ler or the holding-nothing-back-just-for-fun Ler can be equally ruthless - just in a whole other way....

 

[tickle_fan031]

Get your butt back to the states and you can have all the practice in both we can fit into a week :stickout

~K

Yaay sounds good to me coz I want to see if I can improve

 

[chicag0]

Personally, I feel like when people get too wrapped up in cybering rules and boundaries (vs just closing the window on someone that you feel is being disrespectful), I would begin to worry about one's perception of fantasy vs reality.

 

[TicklishBlackGuy]

There aren't always windows you can close honestly. Sometimes people do it through fb messages and private messages, skype messages. and the sad thing is, they always find ways around it, or always making new accounts with different IP addresses to do these things. All people cybering or not should always have there boundries

 

[Beckers1]

That's really on them for adding someone like that to facebook. I would never put anyone from the community on my facebook, there are many other methods for communicating. And with most other methods you can just ignore them.

 

[LadyInternet]

Personally, I'd ignore my name, as I think - try - to be a placating tickler, ingratiating myself to whomever is trusting enough to let my 'wandering' fingers stray to their person. But I show how 'merciful' I am by turning the 'lee (male/female, big/small: not picky 😉) into a ticklish puddle, with both my wiggling fingers, seeking out those hidden nerves, and painting a picture with words that's able to slip under your skin, tickling those areas you didn't even know were ticklish as your mind runs wild.

Being a bugger, I always poke fun at people, but if I ever think I've overstepped my boundaries, it makes me want to curl up into a ball and turn into nothing. So, not being a very insightful person, I find it best (and most enjoyable) to make the person "admit" what they want. Now, the fact that a person actually 'verbalizing' what they truly desire, that dearly prized secret, only makes the admittance that much more rewarding when it's pried from their bubbling, shrieking lips. And, I end up ensuring I'm not doing anything wrong, either. 😉

Evident from being online, I relish the fact that simply 'describing' something can send another into an embarrassing ticklish puddle. All in the words, all in the words.... So entertaining seeing someone twitch and jerk when a finger's naught been laid on them, even; their face beet red as they start giggling while staring at a piece of plastic.

- Oh! I enjoy 'messed-up' choice and games the best! 😉 If someone doesn't want me to tickle any more, just yawn, so I know you're bored. Or 'underarms or feet'? Ribs or the insteps of your feet? Sides or toes? You're giving 'so' many options, so it's not like you're being demanding. :evil:

I was gonna type up what what the best kind of ler-ing. But I think this puts it better than I can. This is great. I will say that I also like when the lightest, softest touch can be the thing that gets a strong reaction when it makes contact with just the right, taut, ticklish spot. Drawing out that flinching, twitching, grinning, oh-no-if-you-keeping-doing-that-there... reaction.