Why do people make such a big deal over tickling? it's just part of intimacy....

[CapturedDoll]

I mean shit, I thought the long hair thing was a big deal to women, the tickling outweighed it.

I love long hair on Men. And I look forward to its eventual comeback. 🙂

 

[duderino84]

I don't think it's bad. I don't know.

How's that working out so far, then?

I kinda associate this with Dr. Phil's "How's that workin' for ya?"

I love long hair on Men. And I look forward to its eventual comeback. 🙂

Never seems to have went out of style with the metal world. Yea, idk, I just always thought it was odd myself that I was into hairplay, but I guess it's not a big offender for women since they always work on it.

 

[meangry]

It's not a big deal. At all. If you think it is, you're weird. If it's that big a mountain to climb, there's something much more fundamentally broken within you that exists whether you like tickling or not.

 

[Wade]

That's the great thing about tickling: none of the women I've ever dated has been a tickling fetishist, and yet all of them have taken it upon themselves to tickle me extensively. It's a fantastic part of normal everyday life.

 

[CapturedDoll]

It's not a big deal. At all. If you think it is, you're weird. If it's that big a mountain to climb, there's something much more fundamentally broken within you that exists whether you like tickling or not.

While I myself have had issues over the years with it. Speaking about tickling outloud... I found ways to overcome it. Your comment actually just made me think it has turned into a phobia for a lot of people. Almost like an offshoot of Agoraphobia.

Sometimes i have to wonder if coming here is healthy for people who are in this state of constant fear. I honestly feel these people need therapy before they enjoy the fetish and seek partners. The trust issues are just too through the roof. I've had some of the same trust issues with my Bf. "Does he REALLY like it or is he blowing smoke". Its pure paranoia. And its wound into the fetish. How to seperate the two is what needs to happen. And put in the work to get comfortable. It won't happen overnight... but if they would put in the time to push their limits... people would find they are stronger than they give themselves credit for.

 

[P[a]pi]

It's a big deal for some people that want tickling sessions, not just mixing it in with sex. And it's a big deal for people who hate being tickled. And it's a really big deal when these two people bump into each other lol.

 

[duderino84]

It's not a big deal. At all. If you think it is, you're weird. If it's that big a mountain to climb, there's something much more fundamentally broken within you that exists whether you like tickling or not.

Gee, like this thread made 6 months ago? That kind of "broken within you"?
http://www.ticklingforum.com/showth...of-social-skills&highlight=Social+awkwardness

I think it's kind of funny the guys that use tickling as a sideshow to fucking their wives feel so threatened by the fact other guys freely admit that they aren't as invested in sex as they are in tickling. Ya, some guys just can't "spit it out", and they pay for it.

 

[Wolf]

Gee, like this thread made 6 months ago? That kind of "broken within you"?
http://www.ticklingforum.com/showth...of-social-skills&highlight=Social+awkwardness

I think it's kind of funny the guys that use tickling as a sideshow to fucking their wives feel so threatened by the fact other guys freely admit that they aren't as invested in sex as they are in tickling. Ya, some guys just can't "spit it out", and they pay for it.

Whoa, wait...
What?

 

[Comfort Eagle]

Why does everything on here get so fucking weird.

I'm positive everyone is sick of me posting the same thing constantly, but mother of god, you guys do this shit constantly...

 

[Aeveirra]

I make such a "big deal" out of tickling, because it is NOT just a fun/cute type of for play foreplay,
It is instead an extremely arousing and intimate/sexual activity in itself.

I have a tickling fetish, and for those of us ticklephiles we view it as something much more than a just pre-sex activity. For me at least, it's less playful, and more kinky,

I actually prefer to be tied up and tickle tortured rather than have vanillia sex.
(I can be tickled to the point of orgasm) therefore, it's more than just a cutesy / couplely romantic foreplay.
For Me, tickling is the equivalent of a sexual experience.

Other people makes big deal out of it (as you mentioned: being a "closeted" ticklephile) because this is something that has a significant effect on their sexual preferences. It might be their primary fetish, and it's something that turns them on a lot.

Like many other ticklephiles, tickling is something I think about every single day, multiple times a day.
And sometimes it can effect ones relationship, if let's say their partner hates being tickled or finds it weird, the person with this fetish feels conflicted or limited. Often afraid to tell their partner.
OR
They can only be "really" aroused by tickling, and nothing else.
That's how it is for me. (I mean, other things turn me on - of course.) but tickling turns me on the most, more than anything else does.

So if your a ticklephile i think it's important to mention these types of strong desires to ones' partner.

 

[meangry]

Why does everything on here get so fucking weird.

I'm positive everyone is sick of me posting the same thing constantly, but mother of god, you guys do this shit constantly...

Huh?

 

[duderino84]

Whoa, wait...
What?

What's unclear?

 

[Rectangle]

What's unclear?

I'm a little confused as well, it's just the wording.
Are you saying you can't sexually perform/function physically without tickling? As in you're functionally unable to get it up unless there's tickling going on?
Or just that you have no interest in sex in general?

And either way, what makes you think that those of us that do have sex with our wives are "threatened" by you?
If anything I feel for you and think it's sad. Shines a little light on why you're so depressed all the time around here.
But threatened?

 

[duderino84]

I'm a little confused as well, it's just the wording.
Are you saying you can't sexually perform/function physically without tickling? As in you're functionally unable to get it up unless there's tickling going on?
Or just that you have no interest in sex in general?

And either way, what makes you think that those of us that do have sex with our wives are "threatened" by you?
If anything I feel for you and think it's sad. Shines a little light on why you're so depressed all the time around here.
But threatened?

It just seems to me like in the last 15 years since I discovered the forum there's been this push through media and forum discussion to "normalize the fetish by making it a feature of sex." Certain people just seem to want to push that. Look, throw as many vibratory tools into a clip as you want, it still isn't what's "advertised". That being said, it was anything but orgasm torture accompanied by tickling when I discovered it.

If we're going to discuss "intimacy", the intimacy for me (and a lot of purists) IS the tickling vs people who make it a feature of the intimacy (the "sideshow to sex" reference).

I've been open here about my policy of "someone pleases me, I please them back" but it gets to the point where it almost sounds like "hey, can you figure out where the pussy is?" From guys. Has it generated social awkwardness compared to just being into "penetration"? Sure. Can I change that? Not much. I'm down for whatever but you can't change what you are by default.

Life may be lacking at times but I'm not depressed over it; I'm just recognizing the truth.

 

[Rectangle]

It just seems to me like in the last 15 years since I discovered the forum there's been this push through media and forum discussion to "normalize the fetish by making it a feature of sex." Certain people just seem to want to push that. Look, throw as many vibratory tools into a clip as you want, it still isn't what's "advertised". That being said, it was anything but orgasm torture accompanied by tickling when I discovered it.

If we're going to discuss "intimacy", the intimacy for me (and a lot of purists) IS the tickling vs people who make it a feature of the intimacy (the "sideshow to sex" reference).

I've been open here about my policy of "someone pleases me, I please them back" but it gets to the point where it almost sounds like "hey, can you figure out where the pussy is?" From guys. Has it generated social awkwardness compared to just being into "penetration"? Sure. Can I change that? Not much. I'm down for whatever but you can't change what you are by default.

Life may be lacking at times but I'm not depressed over it; I'm just recognizing the truth.

Have you thought that maybe people portraying it as a "feature of sex" isn't a "push" so much as it is a segment of our community for whom it actually *is* a feature of sex expressing themselves more openly?
That they're not trying to change the site you know and love, but rather simply taking part in it?

We've got all types here.
Some people want tickling over sex, some people want tickling as a part of sex.
Hell, for me it's not even fully sexual, it's just a sensory amplifier during sex.
Otherwise it makes me feel warm, loving and affectionate and happy inside in a different way from what I would call "lust".

Am I not a "purist" as you put it?
Who is?
And are their interests more legitimate and in line with the intended purpose of this community than the rest of us in your mind?

 

[duderino84]

Have you thought that maybe people portraying it as a "feature of sex" isn't a "push" so much as it is a segment of our community for whom it actually *is* a feature of sex expressing themselves more openly?
That they're not trying to change the site you know and love, but rather simply taking part in it?

We've got all types here.
Some people want tickling over sex, some people want tickling as a part of sex.
Hell, for me it's not even fully sexual, it's just a sensory amplifier during sex.
Otherwise it makes me feel warm, loving and affectionate and happy inside in a different way from what I would call "lust".

Am I not a "purist" as you put it?
Who is?
And are their interests more legitimate and in line with the intended purpose of this community than the rest of us in your mind?

I look at it as a simple marketing decision. You can do what you want and eat poorly or you can give options and watch your scene flourish. Such is the rule for all forms of art. Thing is, the title of the site is the same.

There's a major contrast from what was considered "the peak" a decade ago and what it is today.

A lot of people post about their issues with making it work (ya, barked up that tree myself) and are being told "well you're not having sex with _____, of course it's not going to work." Is it really as simple as that? I didn't/don't complain when I don't get off, I have two hands, I don't think I'm that different from people. You shouldn't have to convince someone you're going to help them blow their load to meet people on some field of interaction. That's an Extra.

 

[Wolf]

I look at it as a simple marketing decision. You can do what you want and eat poorly or you can give options and watch your scene flourish. Such is the rule for all forms of art. Thing is, the title of the site is the same.
There's a major contrast from what was considered "the peak" a decade ago and what it is today.
A lot of people post about their issues with making it work (ya, barked up that tree myself) and are being told "well you're not having sex with _____, of course it's not going to work." Is it really as simple as that? I didn't/don't complain when I don't get off, I have two hands, I don't think I'm that different from people. You shouldn't have to convince someone you're going to help them blow their load to meet people on some field of interaction. That's an Extra.

Look, everyone has their own issues about sex and intimacy, and they have the right to have whatever comfort levels they have.
But the sour grapes attitude towards people who like, you know...sex....is kind of silly. You don't need to get off with a partner because, as you've said, you prefer it that way. You only "service" them as part of a transaction. That's like me claiming it's some kind of achievement that I don't watch a TV show that I hate.

 

[duderino84]

Look, everyone has their own issues about sex and intimacy, and they have the right to have whatever comfort levels they have.
But the sour grapes attitude towards people who like, you know...sex....is kind of silly. You don't need to get off with a partner because, as you've said, you prefer it that way. You only "service" them as part of a transaction. That's like me claiming it's some kind of achievement that I don't watch a TV show that I hate.

Wow man, you have me totally figured out. I bet you even know what I'm thinking in my sleep? I never knew saying people don't have to do things implies I don't care about doing them.

Just tell me, is this the tickling forum? Because it doesn't sound like it.

 

[Wolf]

Wow man, you have me totally figured out. I bet you even know what I'm thinking in my sleep? I never knew saying people don't have to do things implies I don't care about doing them.

Just tell me, is this the tickling forum? Because it doesn't sound like it.

Why's that? What should it sound like, in your opinion?

 

[duderino84]

Why's that? What should it sound like, in your opinion?

So far it sounds like the only reason you're interested in tickling is because there's sex involved. Which is great and all, but aren't there better places for it?

Btw, "service"? I do it because I'm a nice fucking guy and like them to be happy.

 

[Wolf]

So far it sounds like the only reason you're interested in tickling is because there's sex involved. Which is great and all, but aren't there better places for it?
Btw, "service"? I do it because I'm a nice fucking guy and like them to be happy.

No, that's not it at all. You have this binary way of looking at things. I doubt you'd understand it, but for me, sex and tickling are intertwined. I can enjoy either on it's own, but it's not the same as both.
Better places for what? What the fuck are you talking about?

 

[duderino84]

No, that's not it at all. You have this binary way of looking at things. I doubt you'd understand it, but for me, sex and tickling are intertwined. I can enjoy either on it's own, but it's not the same as both.
Better places for what? What the fuck are you talking about?

Lol you're hilarious.

 

[Wolf]

Lol you're hilarious.

Yeah, well, we can't all be a cool as you.

 

[Rectangle]

So far it sounds like the only reason you're interested in tickling is because there's sex involved. Which is great and all, but aren't there better places for it?

So are you saying that you want anyone interested in sex to go elsewhere or otherwise just not talk about it here ever?
Because if so, you're going to continue to remain as disappointed and sad as you've seemed as long as we've known you.

This is a site about tickling in all of it's facets, not just this narrow "purist" facet that you seem to prefer.
And we're all a part of it.
In fact, I daresay we outnumber you.

I'm not saying that to be smug, but you need to understand that if you're trying to say that you're the "real" ticklephile and you're hoping for the day that the rest of us non-"purist" knismos up and leave the site, you're in for a long wait dude.

And raging against us and running around acting depressed and dissatisfied isn't going to endear you to anyone.

I take offense at this subtle judgement you're throwing around.
Nobody here is judging you for being into tickling over sex.
How about you return the favor and stop judging people for being different than you?

Even the fact that you refer to yourself as a "purist" in itself points to this idea that the rest of us aren't, that we're not "real" or that this site is more for people like you than people like us.

 

[meangry]

So far it sounds like the only reason you're interested in tickling is because there's sex involved. Which is great and all, but aren't there better places for it?

Btw, "service"? I do it because I'm a nice fucking guy and like them to be happy.

You know what? Too many people here try to engage or understand you. The reality is, you're a depressive personality who comes here posting is completely opaque and nonsensical ways, always loading everything you say because you can't or won't just come out and say it.

It's nobody's fault but your own that you're this way. It's nobody's fault that you struggle to deal with whatever your problems are. It's nobody's fault that you're wallow in your own misery and solipsism so much that you truly miss the entire plot.

Your self crucifixion and loathing martyring schtick is past old. You've been given advice and tools to better deal with and incorporate this into your life. Instead if doing anything with it, you whine, cry, and continue along with this act.

Personally, it pisses me off that not enough people simply ignore you at this point. You're like a bygone relic from the days of creeps who can't come to functional grips with your fetish.

For the love of god, look in the mirror and fix yourself.