Why do you respond to party/event threads when you can't attend?

[BlackestLily]

I've said that once or twice though through other means like PMs than the thread themselves, but always in a joking manor. I know that would never happen, but sometimes people rather joke appear happy than be sad and admit they can't go because they can't afford it. We all wish we had the dough to go, but rather than be a Debbie Downer, they'll joke about it. At least that's what I think.

Don't worry babe, I'm sure most know you're joking. The people I think of are basically dead serious. They are just waiting for someone to volunteer and pick up the tab from people whom I don't even think they consider friends. In my mind, there's helping friends out that you know and love because you want them to be there, and then there's Tony Turd, who comes into the thread and says, "NO MONIES FOR THIS, PAY FOR ME NAO."

 

[sasaxrah]

and then there's Tony Turd, who comes into the thread and says, "NO MONIES FOR THIS, PAY FOR ME NAO."

Bahaha! Damn that Tony Turd!

 

[BlackestLily]

Bahaha! Damn that Tony Turd!

LOL He's a real asshole sometimes.

 

[asutickler]

If you want to meet Tony, just offer Mondy an M&M.


Oh hey... I can't make it, by the way. 😀

 

[TheTickleMonster]

In my case it is a way of showing that I support the effort being made to bring people together for the event.
It is frustrating to me and some others that practically all of the events are so far from us that we can never attend. I can't afford a plane ticket to another state and many others can't either.

Just my two cents.

This is totally what i was going to say, maybe not in those words but i was going to say that...

It's showing support for the person making the event. Letting that person know that it's an awesome idea (such as Tickle Abuses last tickle party thread thing), and let him know that we're glad that he came up with that we just wish it was closer sort of thing. And to not lose faith in his or her idea because no one is responding because it's a good idea, they're just not payin attention 😛

 

[luv2tikl]

Doesn't seem like a problem to me... Maybe I wanted to let the person know that I like what they're doing and I'd be there if I could, but I just can't? IDK, I guess I just didn't think that I might be irritating someone by responding to a thread in a forum. Kind've thought that's what the purpose of forums was, but what do I know? Fuck me.

 

[TheTickleMonster]

Doesn't seem like a problem to me... Maybe I wanted to let the person know that I like what they're doing and I'd be there if I could, but I just can't? IDK, I guess I just didn't think that I might be irritating someone by responding to a thread in a forum. Kind've thought that's what the purpose of forums was, but what do I know? Fuck me.

yeah, people get annoyed alot when you post something in a public forum which they don't view as productive to what the original post was about.

 

[kered]

I normally do not post in these threads unless I am expected to attend but can't. I do it as a courtesy to the event host.

Of course, others have said it better than me about my presence at these social events ....

 

[tkl-pen]

I couldn't help but notice that in a lot of these event threads,
so many people respond that they can't make it, or that they
would come if they didn't live 3000 miles away. Why do you do
that? I personally find it obnoxious. I don't really care who isn't
come, I care who is coming, at least when it comes to my events.

Just sayin.

Perhaps it's wishful thinking or maybe giving clues to potential organizers in their own areas to set up some events - I would love to see a Philly-style tickling party in my area.

 

[Artoo]

Because it eases the crushing sorrow that people feel when they go to a gathering and I'm not there.

 

[CarlosBastinado]

I couldn't help but notice that in a lot of these event threads,
so many people respond that they can't make it, or that they
would come if they didn't live 3000 miles away. Why do you do
that? I personally find it obnoxious. I don't really care who isn't
come, I care who is coming, at least when it comes to my events.

Just sayin.

I'm honestly puzzled by this sentiment and I can see no basis for it. With most gatherings or parties attendance is calculated by formal RSVP email, not by counting responses in a forum thread. I'd go as far as to say that the only purpose in posting a thread about a munch or gathering is to get the invite out to as many people as possible. I certainly wouldn't use the thread to gauge the number of attendees.

I'm no more socially active than the next guy, but I've received my fair share of party invitations over the years. Many come with an RSVP card in which you are urged to return whether or not you plan to attend. Because if you don't respond, they don't know if that's because you're not interested in coming, or because you didn't receive the invitation for whatever reason.

 

[Radiohead 7140]

if the non-attender says something along the lines of "can't come im a million miles away, wish i could, have fun!" i would appreciate the sentiment and ignore the VERY MILD inconvenience. for some of us, this forum and our proximity has given us the opportunity to spend a decent amount of time together. there are many people who can't. but i think posting in those threads that they can't come but wish they could is a reasonable effort to be a real part of the community.

as long as its not deliberate where it's someone who is all down with TMF but can't go to a specific gathering, i say speak out and wish us well. i know that a few years ago i would have responded that way (even if i could go, becauase i was afraid). i just don't think it's worth getting irritated about..

 

[luv2tikl]

if the non-attender says something along the lines of "can't come im a million miles away, wish i could, have fun!" i would appreciate the sentiment and ignore the VERY MILD inconvenience. for some of us, this forum and our proximity has given us the opportunity to spend a decent amount of time together. there are many people who can't. but i think posting in those threads that they can't come but wish they could is a reasonable effort to be a real part of the community.

as long as its not deliberate where it's someone who is all down with TMF but can't go to a specific gathering, i say speak out and wish us well. i know that a few years ago i would have responded that way (even if i could go, becauase i was afraid). i just don't think it's worth getting irritated about..

My thoughts exactly. I really only do this when it's something really awesome that I wish I could make it to. It's not like I go into the gatherings section and comment in every thread saying that I can't make it to gatherings that aren't even in my area...

On that note... The forum does have a gatherings section, does it not? Then why in bloody hell are we posting these things in the Tickling Discussion and then getting pissed off that everyone on the forum responds? 😵

yeah, people get annoyed alot when you post something in a public forum which they don't view as productive to what the original post was about.

See above.

 

[McNoodle]

In the future please avoid posting in same threads and let Amanda know directly via pm or wall post. 😀








p.s. But not really.

 

[unclebill]

I couldn't help but notice that in a lot of these event threads,
so many people respond that they can't make it, or that they
would come if they didn't live 3000 miles away. Why do you do
that? I personally find it obnoxious. I don't really care who isn't
come, I care who is coming, at least when it comes to my events.

Just sayin.

hmmm....perhaps Lee can hypnotize you into thinking that these types of posts are NOT obnoxious.

 

[Knox The Hatter]

I'd like Lee to hypnotize me into thinking that piece of cheesecake over there will instantly hurt me, but I digress...

Some people earnestly would love to come to these things, but, yes, Philadelphia's a long way from Seattle, and the bills have to get paid, and oh, I wish I could come. Just a sentiment, really. It's not like, God damn it, why the fuck are you having it in Philadelphia and not Seattle, and Jesus Christ I can't fuckin' go, so why don't you all go kiss my ass!

Basically, you separate the wheat from the chaff. So goes gatherings and who's attending.

 

[adamv1968]

I couldn't help but notice that in a lot of these event threads,
so many people respond that they can't make it, or that they
would come if they didn't live 3000 miles away. Why do you do
that? I personally find it obnoxious. I don't really care who isn't
come, I care who is coming, at least when it comes to my events.

Just sayin.

i think the same thing when people put ads up to be tickled. why do people have to write," i would love to tickle you, but i live on the moon and cant get back to earth anytime soon." obnoxious beyond belief

 

[Mephistopheles]

It's a bit of a cry of frustration; I continuously get confronted with wonderful things I'd seriously give an arm and a leg for to be able to attend. But sadly an arm and a leg won't get me there. I'm not trying to bug people who're hosting stuff, I just wish everyone a lot of fun and I'd like to express I'd love to be there but I'm just not able to.

ugh, why can't we have nice things here.

 

[natural tickler]

well said everyone...

by the way, not gonna able to make it, but you guys have fun m'kay??😛

 

[texastickler]

I never say that I will not be attending but I have mentioned that I am trying to make the plans to attend and that i will let them know. I guess it is just crazy ol' Tex trying to respond to things! I do understand the frustration though.