I am a 27 year old SWM living in the Chicago area. I am successful, cute, and FEVERISHLY ticklish all over, especially my feet. I have met a few female ticklers from the area that really tortured me beyond belief. Because they moved or just lost touch, I am looking again for a female tickler. It's really hard to find females that are into F/M tickle torture. Can anyone give me some hints or tell me why it is so hard to be a male ticklee?
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Why is it so hard to be a male ticklee???
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this is an easy one
because there aren't that many female 'lers!
next is because unlike guys, the female 'lers don't come out with it, they keep it hidden till the relationship is well established.
i'd suggest you put and ad in the chicago reader weekly news paper, in their adult services section. or become more vocal with your desire to be tickled. maybe you'll luck out, and a female 'ler will hear you and help you out.
steve
because there aren't that many female 'lers!
next is because unlike guys, the female 'lers don't come out with it, they keep it hidden till the relationship is well established.
i'd suggest you put and ad in the chicago reader weekly news paper, in their adult services section. or become more vocal with your desire to be tickled. maybe you'll luck out, and a female 'ler will hear you and help you out.
steve
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markymarc said:
Actually, it's not hard at all to be a male ticklee...I've been one for years. I think your question should be more like, "Why is it so difficult to find females into tickling?" Luckily, I've always seemed to have a willing partner in my life, but I'm sure others share your frustration...
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im a male ticklee my gf tickle tortures me if u want to chat get me on stevedaboy2 on yahoo messengerhope to chat soon xxxxxx
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I've never had a problem...
...with being a male 'lee. And by the way, I do plan to live in Boston later on in life.... 🙂
...with being a male 'lee. And by the way, I do plan to live in Boston later on in life.... 🙂
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i enjoy it also, being a male ticklee. i'm a tickler also. alas, i'm in Michigan, not Boston. drop me a line anyways 🙂
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It is not as hard as you think. Keep your eyes open for gatherings. Go into the chat room here. Get to know people and them to know you.
Before you know it.....you will be begging for mercy at the skillful hands of one or more fem fatal ticklers!😉
TTD
Before you know it.....you will be begging for mercy at the skillful hands of one or more fem fatal ticklers!😉
TTD
I would think that being a male ticklee would give a guy a better chance at real life action than being a tickler. If I'm going to ask a female friend to participate in some tickling action, I'd feel much more comfortable asking her to tickle me than asking her to endure it. Most females in my experience have a natural inclination toward tickling the males in their life. But I have to agree with Steve. They don't tend to be willing to start a relationship based on a mutual love of f/m tickling.
Hey Lergirl69, I live in the Boston area !!ShiningIce
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Hard to be a ticklee when ur not ticklish. 🙁
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I think all of you are right in a way. A lot of non-ticklephile girls might be afraid if they tickle you, you'll tickle them back more than they can stand. Secondly, there really aren't that many female ticklers (in ratio to male ticklers). I've been in the community a while and it seems that the majority of females are lees or switches that prefer to be a lee. I'm the weirdo of the bunch because I'm about 90% ler and about 10% lee! 🙂 And also in the rare times that a nonticklephile friend of mine complains that her boyfriend tickles her too much and I give the standard ler response "tickle him back!", they almost always say "Nooo....I can't do that".....as if its abmnormal for a girl to tickle a guy! Those non-ticklephiles have some pretty strange notions, don't they!
lee boy...where in the city are you from? I'm south of the city.
I think all of you are right in a way. A lot of non-ticklephile girls might be afraid if they tickle you, you'll tickle them back more than they can stand. Secondly, there really aren't that many female ticklers (in ratio to male ticklers). I've been in the community a while and it seems that the majority of females are lees or switches that prefer to be a lee. I'm the weirdo of the bunch because I'm about 90% ler and about 10% lee! 🙂 And also in the rare times that a nonticklephile friend of mine complains that her boyfriend tickles her too much and I give the standard ler response "tickle him back!", they almost always say "Nooo....I can't do that".....as if its abmnormal for a girl to tickle a guy! Those non-ticklephiles have some pretty strange notions, don't they!
lee boy...where in the city are you from? I'm south of the city.
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Hi Lergirl69. I'm a huge Red Sox, Patriots and Celtics fan. Does that count? I'm originally from New England but am, unfortunately, 3000+ miles from you now, plus I tickle back.
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MM, for what it's worth, I definitely share your frustration. I'm a male ticklee, and I've only 3, or 4 girls my entire life who were really into tickling! It's really frustrating, and makes it very hard to "come out of the tickling closet." I guess we have to accept the fact that most women are not into tickling, but if you can find a woman who really likes you, she might be open to it. I'm sure there are a few women out there, who've been "converted"
Re: grrr......
Well, you know how it is with me, I'm on Eternia, and Battle Cat and I are busy with our friends the Sorceress, Man-At-Arms, and Orko...together, we defend Castle Grayskull from *echoing voice* THE EVIL FORCES OF SKELETOR!
Seriously, though, I wish there were some female lers in Louisiana.
lergirl69 said:
Well, you know how it is with me, I'm on Eternia, and Battle Cat and I are busy with our friends the Sorceress, Man-At-Arms, and Orko...together, we defend Castle Grayskull from *echoing voice* THE EVIL FORCES OF SKELETOR!
Seriously, though, I wish there were some female lers in Louisiana.
I concur
Being mainly a ticklee and sometimes a ler it's very hard to nearly impossible to find a female/women to tickle you. Most of the time when I have the guts or am comfortable enough with the person to bring it up I usually get nothing but blank stares and weird looks. For the most part it seems as believe it or not that women aren't as sadistic or playful as we men are as for the most part I get told to shut-up or told how weird I am for liking it. So I definetly feel your pain and know what your going through. If there are any females in seattle looking for a guy to tickle here I am.
Being mainly a ticklee and sometimes a ler it's very hard to nearly impossible to find a female/women to tickle you. Most of the time when I have the guts or am comfortable enough with the person to bring it up I usually get nothing but blank stares and weird looks. For the most part it seems as believe it or not that women aren't as sadistic or playful as we men are as for the most part I get told to shut-up or told how weird I am for liking it. So I definetly feel your pain and know what your going through. If there are any females in seattle looking for a guy to tickle here I am.
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Actually I have never had a problem getting a girl to tickle me. None of my g/f's ever thought of tickling as sexual until I told them about how it affects me. And usually the response I have received is simply "Wow, this is going to be fun" or "really?..(big smile)". I think most women like being able to tickle their macho-man into hysterics. You just have to make it fun for them. I don't know I'm not an expert, and maybe I'm just lucky 🙄 . The hard part for me has been getting my g/f's comfortable with me tickling them. But 1 out of 2 isn't bad 
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leeboy said:
Case in point: That's exactly why some of you guys are having trouble getting tickled ... many ler girls (like me) do not want to be tickled back even 1% of the time by a male lee. At least, thank goodness, you're honest about it, so if I were your ler, we could talk about it in advance, with no awful "surprises."
I switch for girls only, but I don't know why; maybe it's just a Mistress thing 🙂 🙂 🙂
Luv,
Several points can be taken from this thread.
One is that many 'lers don't WANNA be tickled back. If you're a male 'lee, and you wanna be tickled, it would be wise to ASK if you can tickle back. Bein' impolite to a lover can foil this deal forever. It's actually true for 'lees in general. Some of us deal wit' it, and some don't. If they don't, then ticklin' 'em will clearly not go well.
The other is that there are male 'lees who find success wit' folks that aren't "into" this already.
Still another is that male 'lees do well at gatherings. Heck, gettin' 'em to VOLUNTEER is amazingly tough. Had only a handful volunteer. Go to a gathering, and volunteer already. If there's a woman there, and she's a 'lee, she STILL may lend a hand, outta courtesy, 'cause if she's a 'lee, then she KNOWS what you want, and how you feel. If she's a 'ler, well, you're already set. Not a hard scene to work, y'know? TTD had a virtual CLOUD of women workin' him. I've seen the men at the West Coast Gathering get worked pretty good. Heck, I was *one* of 'em, outta courtesy, 'cause the women there wanted a male 'lee and WE COULDN'T FIND ONE. I hadda volunteer.
Now, if one of YOU were there, imagine how happy I would've been...
...and how happy you would've been...
...and how happy those women would have been...
It ain't a hard picture.
From friends in the gay male scene, I understand that gay men don't have such hangups. It's a straight male deal.
It's also easily solved. Show to gatherings. Ask to be tickled. Ask before tickling back. Simple, no? Don't even HAVE to go to a gathering to solve this, providin' your lover is willing to exert the effort to tickle.
My $0.02,
dvnc
One is that many 'lers don't WANNA be tickled back. If you're a male 'lee, and you wanna be tickled, it would be wise to ASK if you can tickle back. Bein' impolite to a lover can foil this deal forever. It's actually true for 'lees in general. Some of us deal wit' it, and some don't. If they don't, then ticklin' 'em will clearly not go well.
The other is that there are male 'lees who find success wit' folks that aren't "into" this already.
Still another is that male 'lees do well at gatherings. Heck, gettin' 'em to VOLUNTEER is amazingly tough. Had only a handful volunteer. Go to a gathering, and volunteer already. If there's a woman there, and she's a 'lee, she STILL may lend a hand, outta courtesy, 'cause if she's a 'lee, then she KNOWS what you want, and how you feel. If she's a 'ler, well, you're already set. Not a hard scene to work, y'know? TTD had a virtual CLOUD of women workin' him. I've seen the men at the West Coast Gathering get worked pretty good. Heck, I was *one* of 'em, outta courtesy, 'cause the women there wanted a male 'lee and WE COULDN'T FIND ONE. I hadda volunteer.
Now, if one of YOU were there, imagine how happy I would've been...
...and how happy you would've been...
...and how happy those women would have been...
It ain't a hard picture.
From friends in the gay male scene, I understand that gay men don't have such hangups. It's a straight male deal.
It's also easily solved. Show to gatherings. Ask to be tickled. Ask before tickling back. Simple, no? Don't even HAVE to go to a gathering to solve this, providin' your lover is willing to exert the effort to tickle.
My $0.02,
dvnc
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leeboy said:
Now I'm getting turned on ...
I really need to get to one of those gatherings if I get back to the States! (I have never been to one, unless the lesbian tickle-gym counts 🙂 )Love and laughter,
