why must we be into cybering?

[dskodj]

dskodj, I think the reason it could be hot is because there is a real person who isn't your imagination typing the words, much like a story.
I like not having to have audio or visual stimulation as a necessity 😉

yea i hear ya man. and ive heard alot of others say simmaler. but for me, even reading a story doesnt turn me on so to speak...i dunno, im just an "in your face" kinda person maybe? lol hell i even dont care for email and instant message (havent done the instant message thing in a looooooong time). im just old school i guess🙄

 

[Artoo]

If cybering is done, more like erotica, then by definition it is quite sexy. If it's just "tickles your feet", with no buildup, storyline etc, then it would do nothing for me...

 

[Iishieboo]

I would have to admit, that though cybering is fun, it can get very annoying and make a person feel very used.

What bothers me... and I've recently began venting this to people, is that, as a woman, I find that other women (or those posing as women) who are into female/female tickling, automatically assume I'll cyber with them. They don't even ask if I'm into female/female stuff and that offends me greatly. They don't care, obviously and though I don't mind being tickled by a girl now and then, I would like it if people would be kind enough to ask. And when I say no, they beg and whine and don't give up until it's almost easier to do what they want or leave the chat.

I think, all in all, people should be understanding of how others feel. If someone doesn't want to cyber with you, leave them alone! There are other people that'll cyber with you, go find one of them.

 

[ticklebunny 2]

Did you stop and consider that by being so eager to have you IM addy out on display opens you up to all kinds of things that may not be your cup of tea? It seems from your post that the person identified themselves as a TMF member. If he/she desired a first chat with you through IM, and was a stranger to you, all that happened was that you didn't hit it off.
Meeting people for the first time in a random IM is not ideal. I still think the best way to stop this from happening again is to take your IM addy out of your siggy.
If you decide you would prefer to keep things as they are, you may have other encounters like the one you complain about.

Helena,

You took the words right out of my mouth! I could not say it better myself and I couldn't agree with you more! Yes that is very true-makes more sense and seems to be a wiser and a better idea that if a person has the desire to cyber tickle-that he or she do this in discretion and pm the person and ask the person if they would like to cyber tickle and not post it on public board in open display-the question of does the person they are writing to want to cyber tickle or not. That just makes total sense to me and I am sure makes lots of sense to lots of other people on the forum, I am sure probably would agree with this.

Also another thing is this really a fair question to ask someone point blank on open display in a chat room or on a public forum??? Sort of kind of puts the person in a unfair position and on the spot more of a less. Whether a cyber tickle session happens or not-should be between the 2 people- not in front of an audience, that is just my thought on this. That way the question is asked in a fair manner and common courtesy is used and applied.

That way it is a fair exchange and that way-the person that gets this question-doesn't feel emotionally pressured or harrassed to give the answer she or he may think that the other person they are writing in message to and that others on chat room or forum might wish to see. Just makes sense to keep that stuff private. Everyone has different views and passions and individual kinks.

But sadly too many times there are people out there on the internet and also in general and some on this forum I am sure-that do not follow common courtesy and do not keep with keeping the decision whether to cyber tickle or not-private and that is really too bad and really sad.

Because really I am sure there are people that don't want the hassle and don't want the unneeded stress and aggravation of being asked this personal question w an audience present and also that just are not into cyber tickling or cybering period. And those that struggle to try to do there best -at first to gently let the person down easy-try to be kind and not harsh-but in the end-they have to get firm and be a little mean-to make sure that the other person gets the message. 😡

There is "Yes" and there is "No" and sometimes sadly you got to spell it out in bold letters for a person----that NO means No. But sadly that doesn't work sometimes and still a person can get pestered.

Which I think is really sad and terrible when a person's wishes can not be respected and honored and listened to-look it is like this---what needs to be said to this kind of person that will not respect and take no for an answer is something like this: 🙄

"Now look I have tried to be nice and gentle, I have tried to be kind, but I am sorry I am not interested. It is nothing personal. I don't want to. Now I would like you to please leave me alone, have a good night and best of luck to you, but the answer is no and no means no---not trying to be mean-but do I have to spell the word NO out to you??!...sorry but no is no. Bye." I know it sounds harsh but sometimes you got to get mean to get your point across when politeness won't work.

Anyways wrapping this up, sorry just feeling very strong and passionately on this topic, forgive length of the response. Yes most definitely if you don't want to worry and fret about people messaging you asking if you want to cyber tickle or cyber-then probably it would be the best thing to take your yahoo handle or IM addie out of your siggy...that will probably most likely help solve the trouble and it will save a lot of unneeded stress and worry and strife and unneeded emotional aggravation in future. Just a thought, totally had to agree with you Helena when you said this-just makes sense😉

Whereas if you keep this kind of stuff private your conversations/ or cyber tickle sessions or cyber sessions-stays between 2 people and keeps the drama out of things and makes life lot easier and less stressful.

Increases your chances that you can find out if you have things in common with other person, whether or not you have similiar interests, kink of tickling, or other similiar passions or not-answers quickly if you are emotionally and physically compatible or not-whether you both share love of cybering or cyber tickling or not-saves both tons of aggravation and stress.

This allows you to find what you wish to find in a parter-in your love life not have to deal with or settle for things you don't want. And that is all I have to say on this, and that is my just my thoughts on this.

ticklebunny 2