It's always greener on the other side... I think we can look at this without it being about who has it easier or not. I think everyone has their difficulties.
It's only worse if you think every guy in that inbox is a great fellow.It's certainly an advantage when it comes to finding someone to play with. Are you suggesting that if we put 60 women and 40 men in a room as part of a tickle meet up, that the men wouldn't have a harder time finding someone to play with??!!
Nah, I don't see it as competition. It's because people only have so much time.
You think I haven't talked to women about this privately or on FetLife over the last 10 years? You know what's worse than an inbox full of men who want to play with you? An empty inbox.
It's only worse if you think every guy in that inbox is a great fellow.
You could also try looking outside of that inbox, where the odds are a lot better of finding someone.
Do you really think every woman who gets aroused by being tickled is on the TMF, or FetLife?
I don't think all are great fellows. I've seen the "Wall of Shame" thread and heard from plenty of women over the years in private.
It's still math though.
If you get 50 new PMs, some are likely to be nice guys who are cool.
If you get 0 new PMs, you don't have a chance.
I've spent my whole life looking outside TMF and Fetlife and I've found plenty of play. It's not as satisfying as the play I've had with women who do have a tickle fetish though. That was the whole point. Remember, Chicago's original question was "Why Stay [in an unsatisfying relationship]?"
I personally wouldn't need the same intensity, no.
What I do crave and need is for her to WANT TO tickle me. I can't explain why but this is something I cannot control. I just need it. Her doing it because I asked isn't as fun. Ditto for if I'm tickling her. There's also the lower frequency and duration (once a month for 5 min isn't enough for me) and the fact that a vanilla can never 100% get it the way we do. 🙁
chicago said:I could be totally off base here, but its my opinion that men are more likely to realize and accept that they have a fetish and also more likely to indulge it even if that is just online, than women. Again, i could be completely wrong, thats just what ive gathered in my experience.{
Again, "easier" is hard to define cuz the idea of what it means here is different. Also i dont think everyone with a tickle fetish is a member here.
I could be totally off base here, but its my opinion that men are more likely to realize and accept that they have a fetish and also more likely to indulge it even if that is just online, than women. Again, i could be completely wrong, thats just what ive gathered in my experience.
Its more than numbers and what goes on in this little corner of the internet of ours.
So, you want what you want without having to ask for what you want, and you want her to want it the way you want it.
The only way to guarantee that is to keep dating yourself.
Whoah! LOL. I didn't say anything even remotely like that. Like not even close dude.
Actually, it is. Look closely.
Anyways, I'm not gonna try to tell you about how women are when there's a real, live woman in the thread.
That could be one reason, for sure, or maybe theyre too ashamed to admit it, even to themselves. Some may have been raised to believe certain things about the genders such as "nice girls" cannot be very sexual beings in the way that men can. I dont want to open that can of worms, just saying there could be many different reasons. Hell, maybe theyve found a good dungeon to spend their money on and thats whats best for them.
I said "What I do crave and need is for her to WANT TO tickle me" and then said "Her doing it because I asked isn't as fun.". So I tell her I like tickling and to just do it without me asking. Constantly saying "hey can you tickle me? hey how about tying me up and tickling me?" isn't as hot as her simply taking initiative and doing it. Instead of being a dick you could've, ya know, just asked me to clarify.
And I haven't a clue what you're on about with your 2nd sentence there.
Over the years Ive been here, Ive read so many stories of folk who feel stuck in a dissatisfying relationship because their s/o doesnt share the kink or worse, they are judgmental of it.
For those who this may apply, what drew you to your spouse and what makes you stay?
Wow, I never realized I'd be opening a can of worms with a simple statement that was taken waaaaay out of the intended point. My only point I was trying to make was that a "pretty you girl" is going to have more "options" than an old fart! Nothing more! Not trivializing anything you may have gone through or overcome.
Now let's see if this comment opens another can!
Wow, I never realized I'd be opening a can of worms with a simple statement that was taken waaaaay out of the intended point. My only point I was trying to make was that a "pretty you girl" is going to have more "options" than an old fart! Nothing more! Not trivializing anything you may have gone through or overcome.
Now let's see if this comment opens another can!
How dare you simply point out something like that!
Clearly being a young woman doesn't give you more options than being an old man. If you look at millions of porn searches done by men on PornHub, they search for 50yo women EXACTLY AS MUCH as 18yo women because age doesn't matter. Also men and women with a tickle fetish have the EXACT SAME odds of finding play because the number of men with a tickle fetish are EXACTLY equal to the number of women.
Next time, if you dare to simply point out that there might be any differences whatsoever, I will get offended and whine about it endlessly while hilariously labeling YOU as the one that's whining!
Well, the on-topic discussion (sans whining) was good while it lasted....
Hint: Resenting the things you desire just because it's not reciprocated isn't exactly a winning strategy.
I mean, how's it workin' for you so far?
In my opinion, a partner who doesn't have the fetish but indulges you - even occasionally - should be treated as if they've given you a gift. When B tickles another girl (or just talks to me about doing it) I try to do something nice for her in return. Showing appreciation in whatever manner I think makes people more easily put up with us crazies...
The only one whining is you. If the facts RobMic and I brought up offend you but too bad. We were just calmly pointing something out. You need to chill out dude. The topic of this thread is "Why Stay?". The less fortunate are trying to communicate our reasons and you're telling us we're whining and derailing the whole thread. Why are you even here?
I can't even hazard a guess as to what you mean by "resent". I don't "resent" anyone or anything. I'm just stating why I choose to stay in unsatisfying relationships. You can keep attacking me and others but you just sound like a bully picking on those who are less fortunate.
This describes my entire tickling experience in college. I had somehow become friends with 3-4 girls and had some kind of "tickles for massage" trade thing goin on.(This wasn't all going on at the same time I'm not some crazy man pimp) Not creepy or robotic in the sense of an arrangement per se, but that's what was ultimately happening for me throughout the years and I couldn't complain.
Attempting to get the thread back on track...
The reason I choose to say can be summed up with a simple quote: "Beggars can't be choosers!"
As a guy, finding a girl who is a) into your kink and b) into you is extremely difficult. If I only had relationships with girls who were into my kink, I'd have 0 relationships. So I take the next best thing. Sure, it's not as satisfying but my options are limited so I go with the flow so to speak. Some of you have been more fortunate. Be grateful you have been and try to understand and do your best to listen to those who haven't.
