Why tickling?

[50greg]

Maybe not in all cases, miss lee....some ladies embrace the spanking rod, but run from the feather....some ladies are actually on a version of a "no tickle" list at some fetish clubs.....they just can't handle tickling like they can handle other presumably more painful sensations....

Bless the lee who loves the feather's kiss....

It's true. I know a gal into BDSM who'd take pain over tickling every time.

 

[Em Es]

Why explain it?

R414, if she asked me that I would have pinned her down and tickled her. How's that for an answer!?

Maybe she's just a wet blanket. It makes the world go 'round. She doesn't sound like someone worth pursuing.

 

[ShadowTklr]

I'm really amazed when people say they don't bother to think about why they have a proclivity like this. It strikes me as similar to not being curious about things like how old the universe is, or whether its space is finite, or whether time will end.

Many people don't think about WHY they have a proclivity for tickling, because the answer, in most cases, requires an admission to certain personality traits which parallel more dissociative traits we would prefer NOT to associate with our own behavior.

 

[reflexology414]

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R414, if she asked me that I would have pinned her down and tickling her. How's that for an answer!?

Maybe she's just a wet blanket. It makes the world go 'round. She doesn't sound like someone worth pursuing.

Em Es,

You've corresponded with me more than anyone, so you know my background and preferences. I could never be in a relationship with someone who isn't entirely open to tickling and the activities I enjoy. It simply wouldn't work.

You don't need to worry. This isn't someone I'm pursuing, but the question really got me thinking, and I'm sure it's something that will come up again. That's what prompted me to to start digging for answers.

It also frustrated me that I'd previously found such good resources online, all of which are now gone. I'm glad people have been willing to share their thoughts on this.

 

[ShadowTklr]

I just had a go at it with my wife - she caught me an my daughter (11) playing - I chased her and when I caught her I tickled her foot - my wife says I'm sick and that tickling is only the beginning of other things - I don't think so - for me the tickling is a sexual orientation - I have no intention of doing anything else ever with any one - so what do I do to explain it? Or should I leave? As far as I know, its my orientation and my passion to tickle females - I can't change it - and I don't want to change it either.

Then she brings up the way I look at other women - my wife complains that I look at their toes and the soles of their feet - and, she says, then they give her a dirty look. So what, aren't we supposed to look and appreciate things that God has created?

I'm certain you are not looking at their feet and toes for the purpose of admiring God's handiwork, and I'm more certain that you know this to be true as well. LOL However...

...your wife probably fears the nature of fetishism because she does not have an understanding of what fetishism is, and what drives it in YOUR particular case. The word "sick" as used to describe harmless fetishism is often incorrectly interchanged with the word "sick" as used to describe child molesters, rapists, and serial killers.

 

[Coda]

Many people don't think about WHY they have a proclivity for tickling, because the answer, in most cases, requires an admission to certain personality traits which parallel more dissociative traits we would prefer NOT to associate with our own behavior.

Such as?

 

[ShadowTklr]

Many people don't think about WHY they have a proclivity for tickling, because the answer, in most cases, requires an admission to certain personality traits which parallel more dissociative traits we would prefer NOT to associate with our own behavior.

Such as?

Such as tendencies toward sadism, masochism, and fetishism, to name a few.

 

[Em Es]

More from little old me

You know, R414, when I was single if a girl liked me enough, even if she never would have asked me to tickle her she let me get away with it. When a woman wants a man, there is little she won't do to please him.

Perhaps I am assuming the worst by thinking she asked you that question in an offensive way.

Girls who refuse average guys are suddenly open to tickling, bondage, and you name it if it's someone they really want who asks them to do it. I'm just some weirdo, but for JFK Jr. (can't think of a living man no woman would turn down) they would jump in front of a moving truck.

A man is better off with the plain Jane who is dying to keep him happy instead of the knockout who gives him a dirty look every time he tries to put his arm around her or hold her hand.

😎Glory, glory, hallelujah, my truth is marching on.

 

[aurora5150]

i really have no idea. for me it just feels so damn good. that's a given of course. i think the sensations just triggor the right pleasure spots in my brain. it feels good and as someone else had mentioned it's a great way and for me a safe way to explore my submissive side.

 

[Coda]

Such as tendencies toward sadism, masochism, and fetishism, to name a few.

Huh. That strikes me as having a detriment and a matching benefit. The detriment is that the only thing stopping them from understanding would just be this mental block-- the fear that stops them from thinking any further as soon as they hit one of those buzzwords. The benefit is that all manifested sexual feelings seem to have more power when their causes aren't fully understood.

 

[drew70]

I'm certain you are not looking at their feet and toes for the purpose of admiring God's handiwork, and I'm more certain that you know this to be true as well. LOL However...

I'm quite certain that your "certainties" are better labeled as "suspicions" there, Dr. Phil. When I look at a beautiful woman, I am definitely admiring God's handiwork. Why would a sexual attraction preclude such a thing?

For me, I've been obsessed with tickling literally as long as I can remember. As a small child I was constantly tickled by females...older sisters, their girlfriends, girls at school, and even certain teachers. I was conditioned at an early age to associate tickling with female affection, and this conditioning is still at work in me today.

 

[Excess]

I think for most it's simply something that is directly related to their childhood. Someone who grew up exposed to tickling alot has a much higher chance of growing up with certain feelings for it than someone who never was much. And then it's about the individual as well, as two people can experience the same lifestyle growing up and end up completely different.

I myself could be a prime example of this when compared to many lees. It's all just a matter of the individual, how they were raised, what they were exposed to, and in what way.

 

[Professor Satan]

Hey, Im new here...well not really NEW, I just never been up to posting a comment. I was kinda acting like the nerdy kid too afraid to talk to the cool kids at the smoking gate. So anyway, to put this short;

Why question your own fetish? Why do we have it? I dont know why Im into this..maybe im a sick fuck or maybe I just like to hear laughter? You get alot of people harshing out on fetishists for having their certain fetish, I mean BDSM or Sadism seems to be alot more accepted then the tickling fetish (Or whatever the scientific word for it is...If they judge us, then they can go hump a very uncomfortable looking tree. This is OUR scene and we shouldnt even second guess ourselves or try and find out WHY we have it. Its all rock n roll afterall...

cheers

 

[SlaverTickler]

Here's my thing...

When I was a kid I had a pretty blonde baby sitter (mind you this is back when I was actually a "Cute Kid" so it was WAAAAAAAAAY back). This sitter just loved to tickle me. In fact the story revenge (currently in my archieve >plug plug<) is some what inspired by this period in my life. Anyway she used to tickle me, and from that I develiped the desire to do the tickling. I don't know exactly how I turned into a ler, maybe there is some "Batman" like need to avenge myself upon all women for what this sitter did to me as a kid, I guess that could be it. All I know is I love the poser (sort of the reverse of Iwant2betickled). Having a lady at my mercy and working her into an uncontrolable tizzy with the simple stroke of a finger is a major turn on for me.

 

[Onlyfornow]

Well my opinion is that the tickling fetish is just like any other fetish: It's a sexual fascination with something other than sex with no reason in particular to elaborate. However, I personally believe that the tickling fetish is something that is a bit more...sensical? I don't want to offend, because I believe that all fetishs are fine.

But in the tickling fetish, it involves people touching, stimulating, and playing with the nerve endings on our body. In a way, it's like giving people (or at least people who are into it) small orgasms over their body (sounds cheesy, I know, but stick with me). The physical touch of another has always been looked up at if it's a good feeling, and in tickling it invokes a pleasurable response both mentally and physically.

I don't know, but it seems like tickling fetishes have much more of a reason behind them than, say, a fetish for inanimate objects.

 

[reflexology414]

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You know, R414, when I was single if a girl liked me enough, even if she never would have asked me to tickle her she let me get away with it. When a woman wants a man, there is little she won't do to please him.

Perhaps I am assuming the worst by thinking she asked you that question in an offensive way.

Girls who refuse average guys are suddenly open to tickling, bondage, and you name it if it's someone they really want who asks them to do it. I'm just some weirdo, but for JFK Jr. (can't think of a living man no woman would turn down) they would jump in front of a moving truck.

A man is better off with the plain Jane who is dying to keep him happy instead of the knockout who gives him a dirty look every time he tries to put his arm around her or hold her hand.

😎Glory, glory, hallelujah, my truth is marching on.

Em Es,

Thanks for writing again. This person wasn't asking my about tickling in an offensive way... she simply wanted to understand. I'm sure this isn't the last time I'll be asked, which is why I decided to pursue the issue in greater detail at the forum.

I appreciate you added perspectives on this topic, and I can relate to what you said.

 

[SlaverTickler]

Well my opinion is that the tickling fetish is just like any other fetish: It's a sexual fascination with something other than sex with no reason in particular to elaborate. However, I personally believe that the tickling fetish is something that is a bit more...sensical? I don't want to offend, because I believe that all fetishs are fine.

But in the tickling fetish, it involves people touching, stimulating, and playing with the nerve endings on our body. In a way, it's like giving people (or at least people who are into it) small orgasms over their body (sounds cheesy, I know, but stick with me). The physical touch of another has always been looked up at if it's a good feeling, and in tickling it invokes a pleasurable response both mentally and physically.

I don't know, but it seems like tickling fetishes have much more of a reason behind them than, say, a fetish for inanimate objects.

I've heard a story from a forum member where he went to a fetish party of some sort. He met women who like being flogged, wipped, paddled, stuff that really hurts basicly. When he told them he was into tickling, they would freak and say "Oh my god, I couldn't stand it.". These women who were into being beaten couldn't handle being tickled??? I don't get that at all.

 

[rajee]

Slaver - I believe what people consider painful and pleasurable is determined by our brain's bio-chemistry and events that shaped us during our formitive/early childhood years.

For example - if a man had a nanny while he was a young boy and he thought she was attractive and he was sexually aroused by her presence. If she spanked him once, he most likely will be turned on by being spanked as a man.

From what you wrote about your early childhood, the babysitter tickling you guided your interest in tickling as an adult. Yet, I am guessing you didn't liked to be tickled so being a lee became an aversion too you. Your desire to get revenge made you a ler.

My educated 2 cents.

 

[Excess]

When I was a kid I had a pretty blonde baby sitter (mind you this is back when I was actually a "Cute Kid" so it was WAAAAAAAAAY back). This sitter just loved to tickle me. In fact the story revenge (currently in my archieve >plug plug<) is some what inspired by this period in my life. Anyway she used to tickle me, and from that I develiped the desire to do the tickling. I don't know exactly how I turned into a ler, maybe there is some "Batman" like need to avenge myself upon all women for what this sitter did to me as a kid, I guess that could be it. All I know is I love the poser (sort of the reverse of Iwant2betickled). Having a lady at my mercy and working her into an uncontrolable tizzy with the simple stroke of a finger is a major turn on for me.

This is actually about the same way I came into it. There was just nothing much I could do since the people that tickled me so much were bigger than me, plus it was always females. As I got older and bigger however, I seemed to grow less ticklish, and I also was growing more capable of fighting back, as well as learning that I liked fighting back. I was somewhat amazed that these girls that had been tickling me for so long ended up being more susceptible to it than I was (as I'd actually almost never seen female's tickled). Plus it just seemed more "right" to tickle females than to tickle men. (of course, this could just be cuz I think women are hot now XD) And of course, I started liking girls, and I found the way looked, laughed, and wiggled about really cute.

This caused me to grow into the ler I am today. Although it may have started out as the "Batman" need to avenge myself, it grew into alot more. Kinda like an opposite of what I hear from most lees, who underwent the same thing but grew in the opposite way.

 

[SlaverTickler]

Slaver - I believe what people consider painful and pleasurable is determined by our brain's bio-chemistry and events that shaped us during our formitive/early childhood years.

For example - if a man had a nanny while he was a young boy and he thought she was attractive and he was sexually aroused by her presence. If she spanked him once, he most likely will be turned on by being spanked as a man.

From what you wrote about your early childhood, the babysitter tickling you guided your interest in tickling as an adult. Yet, I am guessing you didn't liked to be tickled so being a lee became an aversion too you. Your desire to get revenge made you a ler.

My educated 2 cents.

Sounds about right Rajee, except now I wouldn't mind being the the recieving end.

This caused me to grow into the ler I am today. Although it may have started out as the "Batman" need to avenge myself, it grew into alot more. Kinda like an opposite of what I hear from most lees, who underwent the same thing but grew in the opposite way.

Now when I tickle a lee I'll make her scream "Your Batman, your Batman!" before I stop. I wonder if the babysiter thing is why I am atracted to some women bodybuilders too, being that she seemed so much bigger then me at the time.

 

[rajee]

Especially if Lynda Carter was doing the tickling. 🙂😎

 

[ShadowTklr]

I'm quite certain that your "certainties" are better labeled as "suspicions" there, Dr. Phil. When I look at a beautiful woman, I am definitely admiring God's handiwork. Why would a sexual attraction preclude such a thing?

It doesn't preclude such a thing, Drew. It does, however, augment simple admiration into a more visceral desire.

 

[ShadowTklr]

Huh. That strikes me as having a detriment and a matching benefit. The detriment is that the only thing stopping them from understanding would just be this mental block-- the fear that stops them from thinking any further as soon as they hit one of those buzzwords. The benefit is that all manifested sexual feelings seem to have more power when their causes aren't fully understood.

I think that some people feel ashamed, or embarrased by the notion that they may possess a trait which others find to be "abnormal." Perhaps that is why some of us strive to reinvent definitions for some words, and others seek to simply invent words of their own. Maybe this is all a necessary exercise to help them ease into the reality of who and what they are.

I think your last statement is right on the money, although the sexuality doesn't have to be manifested; it could simply be thought.
"Ignorance is bliss."

 

[SlaverTickler]

Especially if Lynda Carter was doing the tickling. 🙂😎

Either Lynda, Dolly Parton or Petra Verkaik
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[rajee]

Can't forget sexy Petra.