Would you date people if you knew time was getting short?

[Ticklerguy4u]

If you knew that getting old was around the corner. Would you date anyone just so you don't die alone or would you still wait for the "one."?

 

[BlackestLily]

If you knew that getting old was around the corner. Would you date anyone just so you don't die alone or would you still wait for the "one."?

I would remain single, waiting for someone who brings great happiness to my life. It's better than spending your last years with a shithead. Long term company isn't always better. 🙂 (And as some added detail: I actually enjoy being alone. For those that don't, my opinion probably won't work.)

 

[maniactickler]

Im saving myself for Blackestlily. its either her or nothing. my minds made up.

 

[wolfman40]

Would never want to be with someone just for the sake of it! Rather be on my Jack Jones..

 

[GEORGIATKLER]

So now we MEN are in charge of relationships? I don't see may "willing unconditional caregiver" female profiles on the dating sites? 😉 If you do not have some chemistry, you will wish time was even shorter. Dying alone with a circle of friends and varied interests beats a relationship of mere convenience.

 

[Jagermeistered]

Only if she is a nymphomaniac... 😉 Outside of that, a friend will work just fine. 🙂

 

[Dave Pavet]

In reality there actually is not the so called "one"... The "One" will eventually turn in to a "Shithead"... Nymphos are only GREAT to end a dry spell... I think it pretty much comes down to the last at bat... I know this all sounds rather subjective, but it's not... This is actually not me talking but from my collection of "Fortune Cookies" that always seem to get it right!

 

[kopfhorer]

Only if she is a nymphomaniac... 😉

The man has a point! 🙂

Seriously, I've tried settling, which is really what this thread is about, and it doesn't work.

 

[Bohemianne]

I see it as timeline:

Age 0-21 = One waits for a soulmate
Age 22-40 = One waits for solemate
Age 41-60 = One had several soiled mates
Age 61-onwards = One waits for a soil mate

 

[jhop220]

Time is always short. I couldn't see myself doing it, but if the right gal came alone...who knows

 

[asutickler]

Date a lot of people. Enjoy life. If you find one who's absolutely spectacular, then tie the knot if that's your desire.

But don't just "settle" for someone so that you don't have to grow old alone. That won't end well for either of you.

 

[Flatfoot]

If my time was near and I was alone, I'd definitely date, but casually. I would try to enjoy the company of those I was with, but I'd try not to let them get too attached, as that would potentially devastate them after I'm gone.

 

[CrystalLight]

Absolutely not.

I know the feeling of worry if you're alone that you may not be 'good enough' or such .. or that you're just getting older and are prolly going to die alone with a house full of cats or some such. -- I had that feeling from time to time when I was single. But it's really all about perception and also what others have filled your head with.

I didn't have solid intention of dating for awhile after my last disaster of a relationship, and yes, I was lonely for a partner .. but not actively seeking one. Although I can honestly say I've never really sought out being in a relationship. Most have started out as friendships and just grew.

Anyways; with my marriage I felt like that was 'it'. That I might as well just settle with what I've got and just do my best to not be miserable. Then I started to get sick and realized that was definitely not a smart thing to do. For me or my kid.

I'd want to find someone that I can laugh with and someone that holds onto my heart-box and is a very large part of my day to day thoughts. I don't want someone I feel like I have to be with or that I have to settle with.

I want a friendship with deep love and appreciation for each other. And if I had to wait it out, I would. Regardless of my lack of patience.

 

[Sandrock74]

I've been alone for 5 years now and while I have occassional bouts of feeling lonely (hey, I am human), all in all I've come to accept that I'm just meant to be solo. There isn't a "soulmate" for everyone. I think I'm past the point of being stuck in my ways and being comfortable with being me. I didn't need a woman for that, just time.

I've found that work, hobbies, friends, and my getting to be an uncle are all rewarding to me. I'm me and I'm not changing for anyone else anymore....so no, I would not hook up with someone just because time grows short. That seems silly to me.

 

[venray]

I am lucky in that I have found the one woman I really want to be with til the end....If I hadnt, I would not date just to find someone to "grow older" with....not my style...

 

[Jagermeistered]

I am lucky in that I have found the one woman I really want to be with til the end....If I hadnt, I would not date just to find someone to "grow older" with....not my style...

 

[Capnmad]

If you knew that getting old was around the corner. Would you date anyone just so you don't die alone or would you still wait for the "one."?

What's "old"? I'm always getting older. I guess it's always around the corner. Rather can't help that.

Also, dying alone is something you won't be able to control for either, unless you engage in some weird suicide pact, or snap and try the murder-suicide route.

Also, this "One" stuff is nonsense. People are usually complex and frequently changing. If they weren't, I would want to be around them less than I already am, and yes, I distance myself from those who stagnate because they frighten and bore me.

What may be perfect for you now may evolve to become imperfect later. Yes, there's the possibility that you find someone whose disposition and/or tendencies are such that you evolve together quite compatibly for a good long time -- perhaps long enough that you die before you find a real end to that compatibility. Maybe that's your "One". But enjoy those you can in the window of time that is right, and know that windows may open and close expectedly at times and unexpectedly at others. Become at peace with that, and you'll find yourself happier, and worry less about getting old, dying alone and "Ones".

 

[kopfhorer]

...Also, this "One" stuff is nonsense. People are usually complex and frequently changing. If they weren't, I would want to be around them less than I already am, and yes, I distance myself from those who stagnate because they frighten and bore me.

I hear that.

Romantic love is terribly oversold. Popular media give people totally unrealistic expectations about relationships. Even folks who say they don't buy the prevailing notion of romantic love may be subliminally indoctrinated with just that to at least some degree.

I know the feeling of worry if you're alone that you may not be 'good enough' or such .. or that you're just getting older and are prolly going to die alone with a house full of cats or some such. -- I had that feeling from time to time when I was single. But it's really all about perception and also what others have filled your head with.

Right on to that.

I didn't have solid intention of dating for awhile after my last disaster of a relationship, and yes, I was lonely for a partner .. but not actively seeking one. Although I can honestly say I've never really sought out being in a relationship. Most have started out as friendships and just grew.

Not the first time I've heard that.

Anyways; with my marriage I felt like that was 'it'. That I might as well just settle with what I've got and just do my best to not be miserable. Then I started to get sick and realized that was definitely not a smart thing to do. For me or my kid.

I'd want to find someone that I can laugh with and someone that holds onto my heart-box and is a very large part of my day to day thoughts. I don't want someone I feel like I have to be with or that I have to settle with.

Again, right on to that.

And to elaborate on what I said earlier, while I refuse to settle, I'd have nothing against dating strictly for pleasure.

 

[Destrucity]

I almost settled because I was bound by the "Guy Code". ie; 3 years ago, my friend liked Mrs. Po first. But now, I'm not stuck with someone I hate and the three of us are as close as ever. I'm actually glad she caught his eye first, 'cause we might not have kept going to her bar every weekend and I wouldn't have fallen in love.

In summation; never settle.

 

[Crazy Wabbit]

If you knew that getting old was around the corner. Would you date anyone just so you don't die alone or would you still wait for the "one."?

I would wait. And if that person never came along, I would just look at it as it was never meant to be for me. I would rather be alone and happy than to be with someone and miserable.

And I really don't understand the meaning behind people saying that they don't want to "die alone". The truth is, we all do whether we are married, in a relationship or single. It's not like when we pass away, we take them along with us. We are born alone and we die alone.

 

[Saeria]

If by time getting short, it meant getting older, well, I'm already pulling up my trousers to my chin and shouting at the neighborhood children. That being said, I'd have to find someone just as grouchy and cantankerous as myself first.

Time getting short as in something wrong medically, I wouldn't date. I couldn't do that to someone. I have reservations enough thinking about dating someone knowing I'm both crazy and in craptastic health.

 

[Gothika]

If by time getting short, it meant getting older, well, I'm already pulling up my trousers to my chin and shouting at the neighborhood children. That being said, I'd have to find someone just as grouchy and cantankerous as myself first.

Time getting short as in something wrong medically, I wouldn't date. I couldn't do that to someone. I have reservations enough thinking about dating someone knowing I'm both crazy and in craptastic health.

sweetheart u know i would take u as u are with no problem and i know ya better then most ur not crazy love yaz 🙂 if i had too i would tie ya up so u would not get away 😉 😛

 

[PhoenixRising]

I seem to have a psychobitch magnet, so am perfectly content to stay single and maintain an active fantasy life.

 

[WorkInProgress]

Being single is a hundred thousand times better than being married to the wrong person. That doesn't change when time grows short. Some cynics define marriage as loneliness without privacy, but I say marriage--or love without marriage--is a beautiful thing if you are right for each other. There's just no point in it if you're not. I would also point out that, as long as you have friends who want to see you, you're not alone. I'm single and celibate at the moment (and have been so for a very long while), but I am not by any stretch of the imagination alone.

 

[WorkInProgress]

Forgot to say: Maniac Tickler, good luck with Blackest Lily.