Would you ever date your best friend's ex?

[primetime]

Due to the popular threadgoing on in the Tickling Discussion forum, I figured I would pose a question in the General Forum because it doesn't involve tickling.

In the thread "My best friend's girl", a member of the forum had an "adventure" with his best friend's girlfriend. Needless to say, there were varying opinions. In this thread, I want to know how the forum feels towards a twist to that topic.

Would you ever go out with your best friend's ex? For me, it's like an unwritten rule. You do not mess with your best friend's girl ever. Whether they are with them or afterwards. It would just seem weird. Of course this can apply to both genders.

So, would you ever date, have sex with, etc with your best friend's ex-significant other?

 

[GQguy]

Yes/No. If I were to do so i'd have to be straight up with the friend and have only the purest of intentions. My friends have alot of respect for me so they know I wouldn't make that move unless there was truly a connection and I knew that his feelings wouldn't be hurt. i.e. He's moved on, married ect.

But I wouldn't just hook up with a buddy's ex...especially if she did the breaking up. Alcohol is one hell of a drug though.

GQ

 

[tkpatience]

Personally, I would not ever go for my bff's ex.

I've had two bffs and they both had smoking hot ex's. I have this strange thing where the idea of making a move on them would be like making a move on my bff and that's gross. Then again I find the human form disgusting in general.

When humans evolve into fully autonomous cyborgs, then we'll talk.

 

[TicklexoxFreaK]

To keep my friendship strong since it would be my best friend and that's pretty important to me, no, I wouldn't date their ex. I wouldn't wanna take a chance like that.

 

[Smashley]

It's my own rule that I would never date anybody they have dated. There are plenty of fish in the sea. I'd rather make sure I keep my friendship.

 

[jonny86]

Since my best friend is female...... god no 🙂

 

[LD_Tickler]

Maybe, maybe not. Depends on the circumstances. Is he alright with it? Is he still on speaking terms with her? Or are there tons of hard feelings and awkwardness? Is there an actual connection?

Case by case, context by context. No need to lay down these iron-clad rules that ignore actual circumstances.

 

[StevePerry4Ever]

I did, for years. She was incredible ticklish too. All of us are still friends. So, I would say it's definitely situationally dependent.

 

[3xPIN]

There was a beer commercial about "Man-Laws" for budweisser or something a few years back. A bunch of macho male celebrities discussing proper etiquette and writing it down in a huge book. Burt Reynolds, Eddie Griffon, several sports figures and a guy logging it all. The question is, "How long after a girl breaks up with your friend do you wait to pursue her." After alot of banter turned to overlapping bickering, Reynolds proclaims, "Gentlemen, when she broke up with him, she broke up with all of us!" 3 beats of silence. Random guy inquires, "What if she's really hot?" Everyone murmers: yeah. Reynolds contemplates, "...3 months." Everyone declare, "Man Law!"

Close enough for me!

 

[Marquis De Sade]

Nope. Never. My best friend's a girl. 😀

 

[Barney Stubble]

I was once going to go on a camping trip alone with my best friend's ex. It never happened but I would have gone through with it in a heartbeat. She was really hot.

 

[Mitchell]

It would depend.

My now ex best friend and I had this discussion years ago. He claimed it wouldnt have bothered him. The thing was, I hated his then ex gf, so it wouldnt have happened.

In the other situation I posted about before, how my close friend, Tom, whose ex was calling me all summer long after they broke up. In that case, if the ex and I had started dating, his friendship and mine would have been over, but I didnt really care at that point, because we had other problems besides her.

In short: If it was a friend I really valued, and I wanted to retain his friendship, I would ask him how he felt about it. If he didnt want me to, then I wouldnt.

Mitch

 

[Bothersome]

No. That would create unnecessary stress in our friendship, and would most definitely make the whole thing awkward.

 

[BellybTickler]

No.

 

[kis123]

Absolutely not.

Wouldn't date an ex on any level.......too many men for me to choose from to date one of my girlfriend's leftovers.

 

[coldneck]

Would you ever go out with your best friend's ex?

So, would you ever date, have sex with, etc with your best friend's ex-significant other?

I'll answer this in 3 parts, Primetime:

Go out with? Maybe once or twice if I thought it would lead to something.
And by "something" I mean great sex.

Have sex? See above. But I'll add this: She's got to be an off-the-charts knockout. Otherwise, why bother?!

Date ? Repeatedly? Now that sounds like a lot of work, and your friend would eventually find out about this.
I would strongly advise against it. It's something you just don't do. Not if you have a moral compass anyway.

 

[Korastus]

My best friends are engaged (to each other), so definitely not.

 

[primetime]

I figured as much. It would seem weird that anyone would go out with their best friend's ex. Although I can see where a dilemma would arise should the ex-significant other be really attractive, then makes moves on you.

Great replies. I especially love the comment about "Man Law!" Those were some great commercials.



So what would you do if the attractive ex significant other came onto you?

 

[MatrinZachs]

I have to say that it depends If they were really close and my best friend talked about her all the time then no way. But if they were just casually dating and I knew with out a doubt that there was nothing there I would go for it with no hesitation. Done it before.

 

[primetime]

Here's the "Man Law" commercial that fits this thread perfectly...

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[Strider]

My general philosophy is that you do not date a friend's ex without their explicit permission.

 

[MatrinZachs]

Permission doesn't mean crap. As guys and I can only speak from personal knowledge we don't want our friends to feel they have to coddle us. If I think I am stepping on my friends toes when it comes to a subject I just don't step. But if I know that it's kosher it's all good. If it's your best friend you know what is acceptable in your friendship. And in the event that you do cross aline that has not been clearly drawn you resolve it and get back to the Bro'ness .

 

[TicklexoxFreaK]

No. That would create unnecessary stress in our friendship, and would most definitely make the whole thing awkward.

I agree. I wouldn't want to risk my friendship and it would save us from stress i'm sure. Awkwardness wouldn't be good either.

 

[Marquis De Sade]

In all honesty it depends on the circumstances. What if the old relationship was never that strong to begin with?

What if your best friend was a guy and all he did with a girl was fuck her, meanwhile you actually care about her and like her as a person and not just a plaything. Then it all falls apart for them. Your attraction remains. Then what?

What if the both of you connected to each other in a much deeper, much more meaningful way than their old sig other ever did?

What if that best friends' ex is actually your future wife or husband or soul mate?

I personally would risk the friendship for something that might be forever. If the other person didn't understand or couldn't be happy for me, then they were never my best friend to begin with.

Man Laws be damned in that case.

For me anyway. 🙂

 

[cloudgazer2k]

Can't help feelings. If two people feel a tangible connection that goes further than friendship, then who has the right to say that a romance can't happen? It's not up to anyone but these two people if a relationship can and will exist. If it's your "best friend's" ex, well, they would want to be happy for you, right? Sure, it might be weird, or awkward...but if a friendship is strained or even broken because of this, then that person is a lousy friend.