You ever feel bad about this?

[Ghost_Host_9991]

Hey folks,

Maybe this is just me thinking too much, but does this fetish ever make you feel bad?

Like the other day I realized that this is so much a part of me that it would be a waste to try and have a relationship with someone who was *not* into it. That being said, this limits my options for female companionship considerably.

(Not to mention that I dont look like a heartbreaker anyway)

And I was just overcome with the thought that in all probability I really will end up alone.

Anyone else here run into that? Or anything like that?

 

[David Tyler]

Not quite the same thing but yeah, I've felt bad ... not about my fetish but about the fact that my girlfriend who I've been with for a few years is a very attractive, wonderful person but she just isn't very ticklish. I feel bad because I sort of feel like I'm cheating if I tickle other girls.

I almost left her ... not because of the tickle thing but because we hit a major rough patch ... and hooked up with a pretty girl at work who is very ticklish ... and sexy. I stayed with my girlfriend because she really is a nice person but I still feel bad when I look. I wish it wasn't that way. I wish she could be everything to me. It's just that one part.

 

[alchemy1]

Hey folks,

Maybe this is just me thinking too much, but does this fetish ever make you feel bad?

Like the other day I realized that this is so much a part of me that it would be a waste to try and have a relationship with someone who was *not* into it. That being said, this limits my options for female companionship considerably.

(Not to mention that I dont look like a heartbreaker anyway)

And I was just overcome with the thought that in all probability I really will end up alone.

Anyone else here run into that? Or anything like that?

Hell yeah man. I think about that all the time. How do I deal with it? Well, to me, the most important thing in life is that you find happiness/contentment within yourself. As romantic and whatever as it sounds, you cannot depend upon another person for happiness. You cannot seek to validate your life through somebody else. It's nice in theory, but more often than not (it seems) you'll simply end up getting hurt. I mean, I simpathize. It sucks not being with someone, but if you dwel on it, you'll actually only push people away from you rather than attract them. Seriously, if you are content with yourself and content with life on your own, people will look at that and naturally want to be a part of it. It may not happen right away..or even at all truthfully, but it can and does happen. That way, if it doesn't work out, you're not as devistated emotionally as you would otherwise be.
Who cares if you don't "look like a heartbreaker". You run a haunted house duder...THAT'S AWESOME!
As far as the tickling thing goes, if someone truely loves you, they will take you as you are...quirks and all.
I guess what I'm trying to say amidst all this gobletygook, is that the more your worry and get depressed about not having a relationship (whether it's due to your fetish or not), the LESS likely you are to have one. So just relax and be yourself man. If that isn't good enough for people, fuck em.

 

[TKLVR181]

I think everybody here worries about that sometimes. Sometimes I feel guilty as well, because I live with my granma and she doesn't know half the time I spend online is on here.

But then I actually get on here and talk to the pple here and I feel better😀

 

[tickle_fan031]

I sometimes feel bad coz my best mates don't know about this and sometimes I'm thinking that they don't really know me that well at all.Then having to think of a plausable reason why I talk to so many Americans online til 3am can also be tough and make me feel guilty seein as I'm still living at home with my mum n dad.But of course that guilt doesn't last long otherwise I wouldn't be posting now/ever.lol.

 

[drnkntklr]

Well, sometimes I feel bad about it, but I've found that if you play your cards right as long as you find someone who is ticklish you can convert them into ticklephiles to some degree lol.

 

[Journia]

I write poetry, you should see mine,
it is just like poe's,
because of its dreariness
and slight happy tones.
It is maddening for me.
I just wish that I myself
could find my own Annabel Lee.

 

[Celtic_Emperor]

Hey folks,

Maybe this is just me thinking too much, but does this fetish ever make you feel bad?

Like the other day I realized that this is so much a part of me that it would be a waste to try and have a relationship with someone who was *not* into it. That being said, this limits my options for female companionship considerably.

(Not to mention that I dont look like a heartbreaker anyway)

And I was just overcome with the thought that in all probability I really will end up alone.

Anyone else here run into that? Or anything like that?

I think what you're saying is true for alot of people and a huge worry and concern. It is undoubtedly the ruin and death dealer of many a relationship, and many probably curse their fetish for it. You are right to say that it limits your options, unless you are willing to compromise with your significant other who is not as into it (or at all) as you are.

If you approach your fetish with an 'all or nothing' attitude or you're looking to "convert them" or goad them into it (and not allow them to naturally come to like it or not), then you're right. You will ultimately be unhappy as you are holding the relationship hostage and displaying, in a passive agressive way, how something like a fetish is more prioritized than the well being of the relationship itself possibly. That there is bound to make your partner feel any number of things, like manipulated, used, or feel like a tool.

This leads one to questioning why they agreed, of sound mind and body, to be with this person. Are you really interested in them, or just their feet or some other body part you may be sexually attracted to? Did you get into this relationship on a pretext only in the hopes of working your way up to a level you'd be able to do these things with him/her? Was the ticking the whole point, and has it underminded the entire relationship and made it more like a game than a commitment?

Finally, is it love or is it lust that you are with this person?

I think for you to be thinking these things (or things like these) are perfectly healthy and meditative. It shows you have a conscience and want to do whats right in a relationship, and whats honest and true, and just as importantly, what makes her happy. I wouldn't worry too much about it however, as it's unhealthy to obsess.

 

[TiCkLeSoCkS1]

I have struck this cord many times, but I always come to the same conclusion. If someone truely loves you, then they will understand your kinks, bear in mind a fetish for tickling is not that crazy. Nor is a fetish for feet (especially in our day because it has grown so big that numerious people have it) or my fetish for socks and socked feet. It's something that is a part of you and if your partner can't understand that or doesn't like that, well then they really don't understand you or like you. I hope you get what I'm saying. Also you can always convert someone to develop your fetish, like my ex-girl friend. She wasn't into tickling when we started but she developed a fetish for it.

 

[DarthGrinn]

I echo Vlad's sentiments.

I don't mean to be judgmental. I guess it all boils down to what we consider a priority. For myself, my "fetish" (if I'm even allowed to call it that) was something that either happened or didn't. There is so much to appreciate about a woman:

I love my gf because she is smart; I tend to be attracted to girls who I feel are smarter than I am, who challenge me mentally, and teach me new things. I love her because she is talented; she plays the guitar and is an aspiring graphics artist. She is generous in giving her love, and knows how to accept love: this is key for me because I find myself with a constant urge to give... and this has made some of my previous gf's very nervous.

Is she ticklish? Yes. But that's not the point. I had known my gf for 4 years before we started dating, we were best of friends before we saw each other romantically. I got to know her and appreciate her spirit; this is what I essentially fell in love with....

I know, it sounds like a bunch of BS (although I am sincere in every word I typed) but I wanted to make a point: serious relationships are bigger than physical gratification.

As a virgin tho, I guess I'm sheltered by the lure of true physical desire. I was once told by a more experienced friend that sex is the strongest drug; that you will never be satisfied... "Unfinished business" is how she described it to me, once you leave your "partner", you have this nagging feeling to return for more. So I guess in that light, it is not my place to talk; but since the thread touched me, I have to express my feelings.

I offer you this small reassurance: It is possible to have a relationship with a person who may not be compatible with your fetish; if you find that everything else matches perfectly. Perhaps, if your fetish is what bothers you about the relationship; it could either be because you are too focused on it… or you could be that the relationship is lacking to begin with? Just offering another side of the coin to think about...

Never give up Ghost Host. I know I'm young, but one thing I did learn was that each girl is an individual; and although you may feel like the same person to yourself, you will be very different to each new person you meet.

Thinking back, I was a different person to each gf I had; now this could partially be attributed to my own physical/emotional/mental growth, but it also has a lot to do with their own individual perceptions, and what they needed out of their relationship with me.

In other words: I've learned to not take out past experiences on the next girl I met. Give her a chance, and don't automatically assume she'll shut you down because of your fetish…

Fortune cookie advice, I know. Hope it's lifted you in some way

 

[Celtic_Emperor]

I echo Vlad's sentiments.

I don't mean to be judgmental. I guess it all boils down to what we consider a priority. For myself, my "fetish" (if I'm even allowed to call it that) was something that either happened or didn't. There is so much to appreciate about a woman:

I love my gf because she is smart; I tend to be attracted to girls who I feel are smarter than I am, who challenge me mentally, and teach me new things. I love her because she is talented; she plays the guitar and is an aspiring graphics artist. She is generous in giving her love, and knows how to accept love: this is key for me because I find myself with a constant urge to give... and this has made some of my previous gf's very nervous.

Is she ticklish? Yes. But that's not the point. I had known my gf for 4 years before we started dating, we were best of friends before we saw each other romantically. I got to know her and appreciate her spirit; this is what I essentially fell in love with....

I know, it sounds like a bunch of BS (although I am sincere in every word I typed) but I wanted to make a point: serious relationships are bigger than physical gratification.

As a virgin tho, I guess I'm sheltered by the lure of true physical desire. I was once told by a more experienced friend that sex is the strongest drug; that you will never be satisfied... "Unfinished business" is how she described it to me, once you leave your "partner", you have this nagging feeling to return for more. So I guess in that light, it is not my place to talk; but since the thread touched me, I have to express my feelings.

I offer you this small reassurance: It is possible to have a relationship with a person who may not be compatible with your fetish; if you find that everything else matches perfectly. Perhaps, if your fetish is what bothers you about the relationship; it could either be because you are too focused on it… or you could be that the relationship is lacking to begin with? Just offering another side of the coin to think about...

Never give up Ghost Host. I know I'm young, but one thing I did learn was that each girl is an individual; and although you may feel like the same person to yourself, you will be very different to each new person you meet.

Thinking back, I was a different person to each gf I had; now this could partially be attributed to my own physical/emotional/mental growth, but it also has a lot to do with their own individual perceptions, and what they needed out of their relationship with me.

In other words: I've learned to not take out past experiences on the next girl I met. Give her a chance, and don't automatically assume she'll shut you down because of your fetish…

Fortune cookie advice, I know. Hope it's lifted you in some way

Amen.

 

[jk666uk]

I sometimes feel bad coz my best mates don't know about this and sometimes I'm thinking that they don't really know me that well at all.Then having to think of a plausable reason why I talk to so many Americans online til 3am can also be tough and make me feel guilty seein as I'm still living at home with my mum n dad.But of course that guilt doesn't last long otherwise I wouldn't be posting now/ever.lol.

same here tickle_fan03

 

[Excess]

I feel alittle guilty sometimes just cuz if I didn't have to deal with it, then it would be one less thing I'd have to have in my life. Hell, sometimes I really wish that I could be completely devoid of feeling even love itself in any way at all, since it seems to be so hard to find, yet the desire constantly lingers there. But these things are apart of what makes life....well, life I guess. If feelings or likings dissapear over time, then they do. If they don't, then you just have to keep living with them and hope, and try, for the best.

 

[TKLVR181]

these things are apart of what makes life....well, life I guess.

Yep. 🙂

 

[Excess]

Awe crap, now I've gone and made myself a little depressed, lol. Oh well! *drinks a beer*:happy:

 

[taragohn]

I seem to be the only one here that does not feel bad about it. I am 25 and still single living at home with the parents. But do I feel bad or derpessed? NO!!!!!!! Having a relationship is not something you should be looking for desperatly it will happen when it happens. Usually it will come to you as a complete surpirse and who knows you might find hidden qualities in the person you meet.

As for feeling guilty for having a secret. It is your life and I think everybody has something they do not tell others. This does not mean you are being deceitfull or anything. Some things you just do not share that easily.

And if you are so convinced you can only be with someone who has your fetish as well why not put up a personal add on this forum or elsewhere? You be surprised what reactions you will get and who knows maybe you will find the right one this way.

 

[Vyse]

look at it this way, most people love regular sex, i mean LOVE regular sex, its a part of them, and most people wont get into a relationship with someone if it means there not gonna get it, same diff really, just different desire which means absaloutley nothing!

You aint wrong for wanting to indulge into something important to you, why should you be deprived of it, just cuz someone else dont agree?

It breaks no laws and it aint immoral so dont feel bad, feel proud.

 

[fr3ch_t1l]

dude...

i know exactly how you feel.

 

[masterandticklee]

I think you're thinking way too much about your current situation. Leave the computer screen and create opportunities to meet people. I think hanging out on this site is awesome but I can see that forgoing human interaction to hangout on this site can put one out of touch with reality. To the point where they don't think they belong. Liking to tickle/be tickled really isn't that big of a deal. The fetish is odd but i've never encountered an instance where it's a deal breaker. Some women might think it's odd, but thats why you date and not marry the first woman you find attractive.

Oh btw confidence is extemely attractive! Nothing builds confidence like working on yourself i.e. working out, education, being social, taking care of family, having fun, being funny. Do these things and the pool of women interested in you will increase, increasing the likelihood of finding a woman who is COOL enough to enjoy tickling. note: the idea is that the fetish is not a plague but an attribute of someone worth knowing. Someone that is "COOL". Express this and most women will be up to the challenge to show they are indeed "COOL".

To answer your question no I don't. I think it makes me fun and interesting. A night in GQguy's bed is like no other(except for the rest of the guys on the board)lol. My point is it's all in your head.
just my $0.02
GQguy

 

[HOLLYWOOD]

the hollywood brother do not feel badabout his fetish for tickling and this forum. in fact the hollywood brother is very proud to be a member of this forum

 

[prcantickler]

Not bad but its just weird, not weird in a bad way you know but it dont matter because everbody should just live thier lives how they want, (though i gotta admit some people cross the line) my ex girl is the only one that knows about this and ever since i told her she undertood me because she loves me, so i really shouldnt matter, advice sometimes when a girl says no it means no, keep her happy and she will probably keep you happy