Here we go...
Hi,
This question has been asked many times before and the answers always seem to be around the same topic.
It all depends on how "important" tickling is for you. Do you absolutely need it in your everyday life? Is it a passive interest that you indulge every once in a while? Is it sexual? Is it playful? It is something that you do not practice but like to see other people doing? Do you prefer to tickle? Do you prefer to be the victim? Is it a solo activity? Do you prefer having group tickles? Do you enjoy tickling complete strangers? Do you prefer tickling only people you know? And many more questions. . .
Before you can answer your original question "Should I marry this wonderful lady even though she hates being tickled?", you should come to clear terms about what "tickling" means to you and your life. Only then can you come to an understanding about whether this "wonderful" lady is right for you or not.
My first suggestion is that she should know at least that you have a pretty darn obsessive interest in tickling. She does not necessarily have to know that it a fetish and there is a whole underground machinery behind it. However, she should know that you enjoy tickling and that it is something that you are not going to let go.
The second suggestion is that you find out if she enjoys at least "some" tickling. As it was mentioned before, most women enjoy light tickling. Usually people do not like tickling because of some past negative experience. Most of the times it has to do with the fact that they feel overpowered by the other person and that they cannot do anything about it (almost like a feeling of rape). For people who are not "submissive" or that had a bad experience while they were young, this is a bad thing. If she enjoys some tickling, you can at least explore that side and use it to your and her advantage.
The third suggestion is that you have to be aware that if your tickling needs are not met in the relationship, then you are going to indulge them by looking for willing partners. This is not necessarily something sexual, but it does involve a higher social interation than just "friends". You need to find out if she is willing to allow that to happen. Perhaps she will not allow you to do it all the time, but at least you should be able to do some playful tickles here and there with people you both know without making anyone uncomfortable.
I tend to believe that finding the love of your life is usually complicated. Add to that that she/he has to love tickling as much as you do and you have made the search more complicated.
Some people would not consider spending the rest of their lives with someone who does not share their interest for tickling. Other people accept that reality and adapt their lives to do not do as much tickling. Other people would rather wait to find the perfect partner, even it is takes forever.
The best suggestion that I can give you is that you come to clear terms with yourself first and decide what you need regarding your tickling needs, and then decide what type of partner you want to share the rest of your life with.
To close, here is an excerpt of a conversation I had with Mistress Mia some time ago. The topic was about what if your partner accepts your fetish, but does not provide an outlet for you. I think she provided great points:
If she accepts your tickling fetish and understands the full intensity of it but yet still won't provide the outlet for you, then she would have to do one of three things:<br>
1. Allow herself to be your tickle partner.<br>
2. "Accept" the fact that you will always yearn for it and may eventually seek it elsewhere.<br>
3. Reject you and forbid you to find tickle pleasure elsewhere and just brave the backlash of resentment from you.<br>
These are the things that happen if there is a negative partner in the equation.<br>
Communication goes BEYOND just talking and listening, it's also about compromise. You must find a compromising ground or face the fact that you will have to seek it elsewhere.
I hope this helps.
Bye,
Knight Tickler
