TickleBelly98
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Hey guys, I need some advice,
I have been searching my university for other tickle fetishists since I got here, but to no avail. Recently, I've been using Instagram and the DM's to chat with girls I think might be interested.
I recently messaged someone, "Hi there! Are you ticklish?" To which she shortly after responded, "yes incredibly." My heart started beating super fast at this sole response I got, and I responded "Do you hate it or...like it?" She didn't respond very fast so I got worried and said, "most people hate it. I'm John, btw, nice to meet you!"
Later she responded "Hi John I'm *first name* and I actually enjoy being tickled."
Now as you can imagine I was elated at this point and kind of lost restraint, here's the conversation after that:
Me: Really? No way!! I like to tickle.
Me: How did you find out you like being tickled?
seen, but no response
Me: I apologize if I seem excited, I've found no one at Purdue before now that doesn't find my question of "are you ticklish" too weird to answer lol.
seen, but no response
later...
Me: What's your major?
And that's where I've stopped so far.
I don't want to waste this opportunity but I think my overexcitement may have blown it. How do I proceed from here? Any ideas? This could be my big break.
"Hi there! Are you ticklish?"
That is WAY too sexual and odd to begin a conversation. No one should start a conversation like this to get to know someone. If you insert any other fetish or sexual word into it...
"Hi there! Are you into anal?"
"Hi there! Are you into wearing nylons over your face"?
"Hi there! Are you looking to get f**ked tonight?"
That's basically what you just did. You sexually objectified her... without even bothering to get to know her first.Yeah she responded well but... I think it was more just to see where that conversation was going. I do it too on Fetlife and Tumblr. I know when guys are just wanting to get in my pants or whatever they want from me. I let people with Tickling write me whatever they want with few limits. But... that's tickling. Anything else... I'm wary. I have a Boyfriend and don't intend on engaging guys with other fantasies. Let alone meet them or go to events where they will be. Yes I'lll respond to them SOMETIMES but... I have WAY more limits with them. And, I just like to see where they intend to take the conversation. Out of curiosity. And usually I leave it just as she did. I stop responding.
The way you wrote seems like tickling was really all that you wanted from her. Very obvious. And THEN you asked her about her major. That was backwards. You shouldn't have entered the conversation that fast with tickling.
Most women HERE don't like that. And this woman is someone you go to college with.
I'm sorry it's too late... you aren't going to get this woman to talk to you. And IF you keep trying... she's probably going to label you something you don't like. Don't even bother. You never know she could respond but that's seriously doubtful. Next time... you need to wait before you bring this up. Like... 3rd or 4th date. Anything but the first damn sentence. Take this as a learning experience. We all make mistakes.
Your first mistake was using Instagram to try and find someone with a foot fetish. Nothing wrong with being direct but IG really isn't the place to find someone to indulge in foot fetish activities unless it's some of those IG "foot models" who offer live sessions. I don't know where you would find people into kinks but where ever that is it would most likely be more appropriate for what you're looking for. She seemed interested initially, most likely because no guy has ever said that to her. But you responses killed whatever momentum you had.
The OP didn’t mention any foot fetish..
TickleBelly98,
Even the interesting-sounding initial response was ambiguous; some people just like sensations, including that one. "I actually enjoy having my hair brushed" seems like a reasonable thing to share casually, but discovering the person asked because it's sexual for them could just as reasonably seem unexpected enough to take a step back from the conversation. It seems premature to hang your heart on that.
Regardless of all that, going silent in the conversation after two replies means she's either thinking or is done talking – failing to acknowledge that is just failing to respect your peer, so the only correct thing is to let that go. You've at least gained the opportunity to think her experience over.
By opening with a friendly but unusual and direct question, you certainly risked weirding someone out a little – which isn't necessarily hurting them, as long as they're certain they can remove themselves if they want to – therefore, it comes with the responsibility of having decided you're prepared to be rejected at any time. Think about whether that's the situation you want to orchestrate for you and another person next time you consider messaging one. As others have said: if you're less unusual and direct, you might lower that risk. If you message people in a place where they've already indicated they're interested in tickling (like Forum members), you might lower that risk.
I guess it was nice you followed all the tickle questions with "what's your major". Seems genuine.
Instead of giving up he tried a Hail Mary.
For some reason this reminds me of the days when the first thing in almost any chat to ask was Age/Sex/Location & it was pretty standard.
Pretty sure that's a common thing on those chat sites if you list a fetish in what you're looking for.