Actually, do you think it's possible to make a fetish go away? I don't think so. You should just try and be cool with it, and if a/the person you like becomes cool too, then you have no problem.
I think I need to talk to a psychologist....having this foot/tickling fetish is not good for me any more, it causes me more anxiety than pleasure, but of course I can´t stop watching tickling videos, it's just like a f****** drug. Watching female feet getting tickled, sucked, etc, is the only way I can get aroused, my fetish is causing me serious problems to relate to other people, I really belive I´m begining to have social phobia or social anxiety, however you call it, and the fact of not being able to tickle any girls or to lick any female feet is so so frustrating ( I don´t have any female friends)....just feel like this fetish is starting to take over my life, and of course, that sacares me quite a bit. I know I should talk to a psychologist, but I just don´t have the courage to reveal my deepest secret to a stranger, don´t have the courage to expose something that I´ve never talked about with anyone....what will the psychologist´s reaction be? will he/she laugh? This fetish is such a private thing for me, I just don´t know how I´m going to manage to talk openly about it with a psychologist....
honestly, dont know what´s going to happen....
A psychologist will not try to make the fetish go away, he will help the person live and deal with it so it does not cause suffering any longer. Go see a psychologist. You will not regret it.
A psychologist will not try to make the fetish go away, he will help the person live and deal with it so it does not cause suffering any longer. Go see a psychologist. You will not regret it.
I think I need to talk to a psychologist....having this foot/tickling fetish is not good for me any more, it causes me more anxiety than pleasure, but of course I can´t stop watching tickling videos, it's just like a f****** drug. Watching female feet getting tickled, sucked, etc, is the only way I can get aroused, my fetish is causing me serious problems to relate to other people, I really belive I´m begining to have social phobia or social anxiety, however you call it, and the fact of not being able to tickle any girls or to lick any female feet is so so frustrating ( I don´t have any female friends)....just feel like this fetish is starting to take over my life, and of course, that sacares me quite a bit. I know I should talk to a psychologist, but I just don´t have the courage to reveal my deepest secret to a stranger, don´t have the courage to expose something that I´ve never talked about with anyone....what will the psychologist´s reaction be? will he/she laugh? This fetish is such a private thing for me, I just don´t know how I´m going to manage to talk openly about it with a psychologist....
honestly, dont know what´s going to happen....
Your only problem is the lack of courage to go out there and find a playmate. Which is sad, because you are depriving quite a few girls who are worried about being abnormal of some very pleasurable experiences.
Quit worrying, and start chatting.
Let me start with the easiest question first. The answer to whether the psychologist will laugh is: Not if the psychologist is competent at all. What you're struggling with seems out of the ordinary to you, but it won't seem out of the ordinary to any serious mental health professional.
The thing I think you've identified most clearly is, the fetish has taken over your life. That's the problem--not the fact that you have it, but that it is interfering with normal life. The reason I point this out is that I think (and not just because I'm in a fetish community) that it would be a mistake for you to try to make every last trace of the fetish go away. What you need, in my opinion, is to get more comfortable in regular social situations with or without the fetish. In fact, in my opinion, a psychologist who is determined to make the fetish go away completely is not whom you need, because you do not need to be told that you're abnormal and that you need to be made normal. You need help getting comfortable with yourself and with other people, so that the fetish doesn't get in the way of everything else.
An old friend of mine from a camp job when we were university-age is a psychologist in Spain. When I run his name through the search engines, I find evidence of presentations he's made, but I can't find contact information. I think he once lived in Pamploma. (My geography is vague; I've never been to Spain myself.) But if I could reach him, I'd gladly ask him for a referral to send you.
I saw a therapist recently for some of the same reasons. A friend of mine who've I've been having foot worship sessions and have been open about my tickling exploits, had suddenly cut the friendship off after a decade.
Worrying about a therapist laughing, they've seen it all, and they are professionally trained to listen and understand, and leave their personal stuff out of it. Actually, having studied psychology to get the PHD degree in the first place, they are the most sympathetic when it comes to problems of the psyche. They've studied a lot worse scenarios, trust me, your situation isn't off the map, considering how popular feet are as a fetish.
Anyway, with my therapist, I wanted a professional opinion, and yes, though I was nervous about opening up to a stranger, I was paying a professional good money for this information. There was no judgement. She initially asked I write everything out about my situation, so once we met, we'd have the basic groundwork covered, and she could ask questions to elaborate on certain points if need be. Her fear was I was going to throw something at her, as she's dealt with clients who've had violent tendencies to women to begin with, and who may not wanted to hear what she had to say.
There was no judgement from her, and as the sessions wore on, I found myself telling her things I had never told anyone about before. You have to imagine what a relief it was to finally be able to open up with someone about things that have followed me my whole life.
Granted, what she said in her analysis wasn't the most complimentary I would have liked, but upon further meditation, I had to agree she had hit the nail on the head.
As a result, the intense energy around tickling, or even seeing women's bare feet in public started to cool, so now if I spy pretty bare feet propped up on a chair in a coffee shop, soles out to the world, it no longer starts firing up the emotional turbine engines like it had for decades before. The therapy had helped in taking away the power the crazy making emotions had over me. Now I can be in the company of a woman friend who's in sandals, and not have that fear thing going on trying to catch glimpses of her feet and worry about being busted. Now they can even start talking about their feet, pointing out things happening to their toes, and I can look, without the heart started to pump harder and the palms starting to sweat.
Remember, therapists are professionals. Trust it. Do call around first and check to make sure they have some background in the kind of things you want to explore. There are therapists who do specialize in sexually related issues, and you should feel the most comfortable around them.
And if the opportunities come up again and I find someone to play with, I'm sure it's going to be okay. I just don't have that option right now, but I'm not going crazy about it either.
Thanks very much for telling me this. One of the problems is that I am a student so I don´t have lots of money, so I can´t pay a therapist, and I don´t want my family to pay for it (I don´t want them to get involved in this), so I´ll have to look for a plce in which they´ll do it for free (don´t know yet if such places exist).
Just wanted to add something else: I don´t want my fetish to disappear, I just want to be comfortable with it, and not tortured by it. Just want it to let me live, and let me enjoy other things in life.
You are blessed with possibly the most harmless and most easily satisfied kink on earth. As you mature, you will understand this and be able to share it with an array of women who will be delighted that you, too, have the same secret pleasure as they do.
Leave the 'therapy' to those who genuinely need it.
Libertine, it is really great that you are getting all your urges and pleasures fulfilled, but it is not that easy for everybody, don't forget that! The majority of active men on this forum are not so lucky, and I know quite a few guys who never get to indulge in their fetish.