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A question for 1st time potential gathering attendees
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I would have to say that my biggest fear would be I would get so horned up from tickling and sucking sexy toes like yours Jen, or getting my feet tickled, and not being able to "release"...unless
that could be arranged 🙂
that could be arranged 🙂
Respect
Well, first and foremost, having the money to attend and all the hassle of getting to the destination. But as far as the gathering itself, it is meeting people for the first time who are into tickling like me. You guys will still be strangers even though I see your posts everyday. It is going to be kinda weird meeting the faces behind the posts. Also, people not respecting limits of others. I guess what I am basically trying to say is, what if there is someone who wants to do more than just simple fun tickling. I just want to feel comfortable, get to know people, and feel free to tickle the women if they want and to be tickled whenever I'm up to it. I guess respect is my main concern.
Well, first and foremost, having the money to attend and all the hassle of getting to the destination. But as far as the gathering itself, it is meeting people for the first time who are into tickling like me. You guys will still be strangers even though I see your posts everyday. It is going to be kinda weird meeting the faces behind the posts. Also, people not respecting limits of others. I guess what I am basically trying to say is, what if there is someone who wants to do more than just simple fun tickling. I just want to feel comfortable, get to know people, and feel free to tickle the women if they want and to be tickled whenever I'm up to it. I guess respect is my main concern.
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Knowing the etiquette. The do's and dont's. Max Speer had some good pointers in the Gatherings section.
Also, after years of coyly working my way in to tickle a girl, it would be weird to just go up and say, "Hey, can I tickle you?" Nice but different.
One more question...do you guys go by your TMF names at gatherings, or is that just a way to introduce yourself?
Finally, I'm not remotely ticklish and would be afraid that I would be a drag. It seems that there is a give-take interaction at the gatherings (from what I've heard). I would only be able to give!!!
Just some thoughts! But I have been considering attending or attempting to organize a gathering.
Considering!!!!!!
Rasputin
Also, after years of coyly working my way in to tickle a girl, it would be weird to just go up and say, "Hey, can I tickle you?" Nice but different.
One more question...do you guys go by your TMF names at gatherings, or is that just a way to introduce yourself?
Finally, I'm not remotely ticklish and would be afraid that I would be a drag. It seems that there is a give-take interaction at the gatherings (from what I've heard). I would only be able to give!!!
Just some thoughts! But I have been considering attending or attempting to organize a gathering.
Considering!!!!!!
Rasputin
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Rasputin....I'm sure you wouldn't be alone in that respect. There are a lot of people for whom tickling is one sided. The nice part about the gatherings is (for those like Max's where rules are set AND enforced) that people are free to do/not do as they please as long as they have the consent of others involved. Idealy, everyone should respect where othrs are at and not question how involved they get. So, I wouldn't worry too much.
Ann
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....how about being tickled nonstop by many many people...
I have attended a gathering, so I can no longer speak from a "potential's" point of view. I can, however, say what it was that almost stopped me from going: The fear that no one would want to play with me.
Now, while I only got that impression from one person who attended the gathering I went to, I certainly saw the potential for that kind of scenario.
Hopefully, as the community grows, that kind of attitude will not become a popular one. In fact, as I look toward attending more gatherings in the future (and hosting my own late this summer), I hope I never witness it again. It's more painful then you can imagine being on the neglected end of that deal.
Mimi
Now, while I only got that impression from one person who attended the gathering I went to, I certainly saw the potential for that kind of scenario.
Hopefully, as the community grows, that kind of attitude will not become a popular one. In fact, as I look toward attending more gatherings in the future (and hosting my own late this summer), I hope I never witness it again. It's more painful then you can imagine being on the neglected end of that deal.
Mimi
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You just have attend your first gathering and break the ice.
You will find that alot of us have similarities aside from the obvious while of course we have many differences.
The ONE thing you will find is that there is respect and love and friendship. You will be surprised at how quickly you will be relaxed and comfortable and ready for some tickling.
In afterthought you will be saying to yourself..."I cannot believe I was even nervous". You will be very glad you attended and will look anxiously forward to future gatherings.
TTD
You will find that alot of us have similarities aside from the obvious while of course we have many differences.
The ONE thing you will find is that there is respect and love and friendship. You will be surprised at how quickly you will be relaxed and comfortable and ready for some tickling.
In afterthought you will be saying to yourself..."I cannot believe I was even nervous". You will be very glad you attended and will look anxiously forward to future gatherings.
TTD
Great question Jen.
The first national gathering I went to was NEST in April 1999. I was filled with excitement and incredible nervousness about going there. I didn't know what would happen at all. Questions like "would I be jumped on and gang tickled?", "would I be accosted?", "What if I don't get along with anyone there?" all went through my mind.
Since I was flying in from the other coast I stayed at a motel nearby. Several others stayed there as well. We gathered in one room or another and visited and got to know each other. We had breakfast and dinners together and very quickly I felt like I was among friends I'd known all my life.
By the time I went to NEST I had met about 15 of the folks either at breakfast or at the motel or at Max's prior to the actual gathering. That sure helped ease the nerves.
The gathering itself was just like any regular party you'd go to. I got to meet so many of my online friends and had a blast putting the face with the screen name. Then we decided to do a demo and there were more demos after that.
What I found was that I was surrounded by people who are all into the same thing I'm into. We were able to talk about it at times but mostly we just talked about everyday life. The demos were fun and NO ONE was EVER forced into anything. Everyone there was VERY respectful of each other.
I think we're all a bit fragile when it comes to exposing our tickling desires. We are all looking for acceptance. We've found it online but now we're looking for it in a group setting and it works! It's a very enlightening experience and truly freeing when you realize you're not alone.
From NEST I've made some life long friends. As I travel on business I get to visit with some of them at times. Sometimes there's tickling but more often there is none. It's just having a friend with a common desire that links all of us.
I hope you'll all get a chance to get to a gathering soon. You'll find it invigorating to be around like-minded folk.
BTW - At NEST, we're putting on a cocktail party one night so lots of the folks can meet prior to the gathering. We're also considering having a panel discussion so you can get your questions answered in an open environment away from any play. We're hoping this will help ease some of your concerns and will allow you to meet some of the other folks so you'll know at least 1 person when you get to the club.
Hope to see you there!
The first national gathering I went to was NEST in April 1999. I was filled with excitement and incredible nervousness about going there. I didn't know what would happen at all. Questions like "would I be jumped on and gang tickled?", "would I be accosted?", "What if I don't get along with anyone there?" all went through my mind.
Since I was flying in from the other coast I stayed at a motel nearby. Several others stayed there as well. We gathered in one room or another and visited and got to know each other. We had breakfast and dinners together and very quickly I felt like I was among friends I'd known all my life.
By the time I went to NEST I had met about 15 of the folks either at breakfast or at the motel or at Max's prior to the actual gathering. That sure helped ease the nerves.
The gathering itself was just like any regular party you'd go to. I got to meet so many of my online friends and had a blast putting the face with the screen name. Then we decided to do a demo and there were more demos after that.
What I found was that I was surrounded by people who are all into the same thing I'm into. We were able to talk about it at times but mostly we just talked about everyday life. The demos were fun and NO ONE was EVER forced into anything. Everyone there was VERY respectful of each other.
I think we're all a bit fragile when it comes to exposing our tickling desires. We are all looking for acceptance. We've found it online but now we're looking for it in a group setting and it works! It's a very enlightening experience and truly freeing when you realize you're not alone.
From NEST I've made some life long friends. As I travel on business I get to visit with some of them at times. Sometimes there's tickling but more often there is none. It's just having a friend with a common desire that links all of us.
I hope you'll all get a chance to get to a gathering soon. You'll find it invigorating to be around like-minded folk.
BTW - At NEST, we're putting on a cocktail party one night so lots of the folks can meet prior to the gathering. We're also considering having a panel discussion so you can get your questions answered in an open environment away from any play. We're hoping this will help ease some of your concerns and will allow you to meet some of the other folks so you'll know at least 1 person when you get to the club.
Hope to see you there!
Attend? How about HOST? Whenever you're fearin' the situation, recall that someone had to either fund the hosting space IN THEIR NAME, or bring you into their home.
Either end is like any other social interaction. If you're made nervous by such things, you'll be nervous. Like you're hearin' here, there's a lot of really great folks at these events, coast to coast. From NEST in Philly to the West Coast Gatherings in San Jose, and from CHEST and MidWest NEST up north to them Southern Gathering and Texas Gathering folks, there's great folk at every event. Met folks at each, having attended nearly all of them, and the hosts from the others bein' at the same events.
There's really cool folks in these events. I've many more friends from this than I'd've ever guessed was possible.
Hosting these events, and attending the others as they appeared, has been a delight for me. While there's always socially awkward moments, they're just moments in a wide stream of delightful time.
dvnc
Either end is like any other social interaction. If you're made nervous by such things, you'll be nervous. Like you're hearin' here, there's a lot of really great folks at these events, coast to coast. From NEST in Philly to the West Coast Gatherings in San Jose, and from CHEST and MidWest NEST up north to them Southern Gathering and Texas Gathering folks, there's great folk at every event. Met folks at each, having attended nearly all of them, and the hosts from the others bein' at the same events.
There's really cool folks in these events. I've many more friends from this than I'd've ever guessed was possible.
Hosting these events, and attending the others as they appeared, has been a delight for me. While there's always socially awkward moments, they're just moments in a wide stream of delightful time.
dvnc
There is a certain trepidation that comes with the opportunity to experience something that you have always wanted to experience. When finally faced with the reality of meeting friends and new people and already having the tickling issue out of the way...it leaves you to wonder, will the experience be what you expected it to be?
(Don't get me wrong...I have heard 99% good things about the gatherings and am considering a trip to the upcoming NEST in Philly).
Do Well What You Do,
Ogre
(Don't get me wrong...I have heard 99% good things about the gatherings and am considering a trip to the upcoming NEST in Philly).
Do Well What You Do,
Ogre
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I have a couple of fears. Actually more like questions. I guess my biggest fear is that the attendance will be mostly tickle-starved guys like myself. I just don't want to spend time & money for a weekend w/20 guys, and 1 or 2 ladies. And I know I'm going to catch some heat for this, but Jen, you did ask for honesty, so I'm going to be honest. I would be curious to see if there would be some attractive women attending. Now before everyone jumps on my back, and calls me a shallow male chauvinist pig, let me elaborate; I'm not talking about a roomful of Playboy bunnies(I mean heck, I'm an OK looking guy myself, but I'm not exactly Brad Pitt, so it's not like I'm looking for Jennifer Anniston!). I simply mean a fairly attractive young lady w/pretty feminine feet. I mean let's face it, to a certain degree looks do count a little - which is why guys on this forum are curious about the ticklishness of Rebecca Romjin-Stamos, or Pam Anderson, instead of Linda Tripp, or Rosie O'Donnell. I sincerely hope I haven't offended anyone by asking about this. Finally I'm a little concerned about privacy. If I'm tied down, and being tickled, I might not want the whole room watching. I'm still at the stage where tickling is sort of a private thing. Are there usually individual rooms at these gatherings?
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The hardest part is taking that first step. Once taken, the rest comes naturally.
It is said that you are your own worst enemy. Don't build blockades. Tear them down.
TTD
It is said that you are your own worst enemy. Don't build blockades. Tear them down.
TTD
I would like to address this last comment. I can't talk about other Gatherings, only about NEST. But you have to understand that NEST is a microcosm of our Community. It is a representation of the people in it. If our community contains 25% women and 75% men then that is what you will get at a party. The only difference, however is that at NEST people will bring their significant others. Now the question is this, if their significant others are very attractive and has beautiful feet will I be able to tickle them?
You have to understand one VERY important thing. NEST is a party. When you go to a party, are you able to just walk up to any female you see and start making out with them? Unlike some people's fears, NEST Gatherings are not orgies of people running around and tickling one another. There is the same hesitation and insecurity that any party would have. You walk up to someone and you introduce yourself and you talk and get to know them before you initiate anything. You don't hit on other people's dates or wives unless you are invited to do so.
NEST was created at first to provide a safe and comfortable environment for people into tickling to meet and, for once in their life, talk openly to others about tickling. How often are you in a large social situation where you can actually converse about tickling? How often are you at large parties and can actually see tickling videos on the screen? Where else can you go and see tables full of tickling magazines?
I do not blame you for these concerns, and I do not mean to sound harsh, but if people are coming to meet hot chicks to tickle I highly recommend you cutting to the chase and going to a dungeon and paying for that. All we can promise at NEST Gatherings are real, genuine, friendly, warm people thrilled to death about being in a big party where they can meet their online tickling friends, talk about tickling, and view others being tickled, and hopefully, be invited to participate.
I hope that clears things up.
Max
Email [email protected] if you want to ask a female about NEST or if you want to inquire about being on he guest list.
You have to understand one VERY important thing. NEST is a party. When you go to a party, are you able to just walk up to any female you see and start making out with them? Unlike some people's fears, NEST Gatherings are not orgies of people running around and tickling one another. There is the same hesitation and insecurity that any party would have. You walk up to someone and you introduce yourself and you talk and get to know them before you initiate anything. You don't hit on other people's dates or wives unless you are invited to do so.
NEST was created at first to provide a safe and comfortable environment for people into tickling to meet and, for once in their life, talk openly to others about tickling. How often are you in a large social situation where you can actually converse about tickling? How often are you at large parties and can actually see tickling videos on the screen? Where else can you go and see tables full of tickling magazines?
I do not blame you for these concerns, and I do not mean to sound harsh, but if people are coming to meet hot chicks to tickle I highly recommend you cutting to the chase and going to a dungeon and paying for that. All we can promise at NEST Gatherings are real, genuine, friendly, warm people thrilled to death about being in a big party where they can meet their online tickling friends, talk about tickling, and view others being tickled, and hopefully, be invited to participate.
I hope that clears things up.
Max
Email [email protected] if you want to ask a female about NEST or if you want to inquire about being on he guest list.
I have this recurring nightmare in which I show up to a gathering and instead of it being a party of socializing adults, it's a children's class room where we all have to sit at desks and listen to the smarmy, matronly teacher ask us condescending questions such as "What is your greatest fear about going to a gathering?" Of course, we're all chained to these desks, and if our answers aren't cutesy and nice-nice, we get tickle-raped by the "masters."
Is that weird, or what?!
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Is that weird, or what?!
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drew70 said:
1-800-SEEK-HELP😉 😀 😛
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drew70 said:
While I thought the last two responses to your post were cute, I also felt a certain amount of fear in what your dream was about. The base question of respect for our desires/boundaries seemed to me to be tugging at you just a bit. While this can also be fantasy, I wanted to address it in case it isn't.
Drew and I recently got together with friends (Jen included) to share some food and fun. Since I had never been to a gathering and had experienced some negative things in the past, I was a little nervous about our play time. Things like, "Will my boundaries truly be respected?" kept popping inot my head. But, once the play began and they made it obvious that they WOULD be respected...at times more by them than myself, I was completely at ease.
If there is a concern about this issue, be assured that you aren't the only one who is experiencing it. Also be assured that the rules are strictly enforced and people WILL respect you...or be asked to leave.
We all have our own little demons floating around in our minds, trying to keep us from being free and happy. The biggest battle...and biggest victory....is to deny them th victory.
Ann
Scot you bring up a very good and valid point. There are many people who just don't care for gatherings and that's perfectly ok. When I first found this community I felt much the same way. There was no way I wanted to meet a whole roomful of people into this. Tickling was far too personal for me. But as I met more and more people I ealized that I'm more of a social butterfly I suppose, so for me the more the merrier.
What this community provides is a forum to share ideas. For those of us who are interesting in meeting others and socializing or playing the gatherings it's a great way to meet. And for those people who want to meet people on a one on one basis this works as well. To each their own as they say.
Your reasons are your own. You don't need to share them if you don't care to. Just know that whatever decision you make you have to make sure it's the right one for you and you alone. Sounds like you've done just that and don't ever let anyone try to make you or anyone else feel wrong about it.
Tickling can be SO personal and SO intimate for so many folks that a gathering would just not feel right for them. I sure understand that. So for you folks who feel kinda wierd about coming to a gathering, that's ok. If it feels right for you then come. If it doesn't feel right for you then don't. Either decision is fine as long as you know it's right for you.
What this community provides is a forum to share ideas. For those of us who are interesting in meeting others and socializing or playing the gatherings it's a great way to meet. And for those people who want to meet people on a one on one basis this works as well. To each their own as they say.
Your reasons are your own. You don't need to share them if you don't care to. Just know that whatever decision you make you have to make sure it's the right one for you and you alone. Sounds like you've done just that and don't ever let anyone try to make you or anyone else feel wrong about it.
Tickling can be SO personal and SO intimate for so many folks that a gathering would just not feel right for them. I sure understand that. So for you folks who feel kinda wierd about coming to a gathering, that's ok. If it feels right for you then come. If it doesn't feel right for you then don't. Either decision is fine as long as you know it's right for you.
i'm pretty much with scot. i would'nt want to attend a gathering either. although i do like reading the stuff posted here about everyones experiences, and i'm glad ya'll have fun. i just like to socialize pretty much thru the forum.
Bravo Scot!
Very good post. If I may, here's an answer to one of my interview questions about gatherings:
"I think they're great. It's nice to be in a no-pressure situation, and talk about this kink with a roomful of folks who "get it." However, they're not for everyone. Some folks perfer not to gather, and only want to share tickling with the people they are intimate with, and that's okay, too. I don't agree with the people who say that everyone should experience a gathering, because it's just the greatest thing in the world. I also don't agree with the folks who say that gatherings are creepy, or just for freaks, or whatever. I say, to each their own. If ya wanna go, go. If ya don't, don't. The divide between folks who gather and folks who don't bugs me sometimes. Not sure what to do about it, but it does bug me."
Never heard it said any better than that. I think what we see often isn't unlike what happens to all of us in our day to day lives: We experience something we think is great, and naturally attempt to share it with those we care about or think would also enjoy the experience. And more often than not (though certainly not exclusively), that "persuasion" you see has more to do with debunking myths. I know people who wouldn't attend any type of formal gathering because it simply interests them about as much as swallowing arsenic and new lace; I also know people who won't attend such because of flat out inaccurate perceptions of them. It's important to remember that just about anything could be called a gathering, just like any group of people could be called a gang. There are all types.
In the end, live and let live I say.
Very good post. If I may, here's an answer to one of my interview questions about gatherings:
"I think they're great. It's nice to be in a no-pressure situation, and talk about this kink with a roomful of folks who "get it." However, they're not for everyone. Some folks perfer not to gather, and only want to share tickling with the people they are intimate with, and that's okay, too. I don't agree with the people who say that everyone should experience a gathering, because it's just the greatest thing in the world. I also don't agree with the folks who say that gatherings are creepy, or just for freaks, or whatever. I say, to each their own. If ya wanna go, go. If ya don't, don't. The divide between folks who gather and folks who don't bugs me sometimes. Not sure what to do about it, but it does bug me."
Never heard it said any better than that. I think what we see often isn't unlike what happens to all of us in our day to day lives: We experience something we think is great, and naturally attempt to share it with those we care about or think would also enjoy the experience. And more often than not (though certainly not exclusively), that "persuasion" you see has more to do with debunking myths. I know people who wouldn't attend any type of formal gathering because it simply interests them about as much as swallowing arsenic and new lace; I also know people who won't attend such because of flat out inaccurate perceptions of them. It's important to remember that just about anything could be called a gathering, just like any group of people could be called a gang. There are all types.
In the end, live and let live I say.
