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A question for 1st time potential gathering attendees

first timer.....

I'll be attending my first gathering at the one coming up in Memphis. I guess my biggest fear is that I'll drive 9 hours and not have any tickling interaction at all. Mainly because I am very shy and find it difficult to just come up and speak to someone, but I'm trying to get over that.
 
QB Weaver

I'm wondering. Do you let guys other than your husband tickle you?
For some reason I'd like to tickle you and Mimi.

Tron
 
Re: first timer.....

Civic said:
I'll be attending my first gathering at the one coming up in Memphis. I guess my biggest fear is that I'll drive 9 hours and not have any tickling interaction at all. Mainly because I am very shy and find it difficult to just come up and speak to someone, but I'm trying to get over that.

Civic,
Thy to find out who is attending. You have till April to start making online contact with some of the attendees, so get in touch and start communicating now. It's not the real thing, but atleast you will get an idea of the likes/dislikes of those you might want to engage in a tickling session with.

One note of caution. Please do not make any promises that you don't intend to or feel that you may not be able to keep. We lees really hate that.

Jen
 
Well NEUTRON... I'm divorced. Twice actually. Neither of my husbands ever got into this stuff at all other than tickling me at the wrong time thus ending up with one lost family heirloom and some stitches in my head once. They never did it as fun.

But, if I were married now, Yes I would let other guys tickle me. It's only tickling, nothing more. Then my husband would reap the benefits of my being hot and bothered once we got home. And I would certainly enjoy watching him tickle another lady and would encourage it.

It's only tickling. Sure there are sexual feelings for many of us underneath but we're not acting on those impulses at a gathering.

It's living a fantasy without the sexual stuff involved. And by eliminating the sexual activities it maintains a safe environment where all can come play and feel relatively safe.
 
Civic... I'm going to Memphis as well. See ya there.

And to elaborate on what Jen was talking about making promises and such... Sometimes in our quest to find a tickle friend we make those teasing threats online like "I'm gonna get you" and stuff like that. Often Lee's end up really looking forward to what's gonna happen and their hopes are raised about the fun ahead. Then once you get to the gathering nothing happens.

Not quite sure why. Could be the chemistry isn't right. Could be the opportunity didn't arise or could be all kinds of other things. Things change so fast.

I know I've looked forward to gatherings with the same "threats" behind it. Once I got there stuff changed. One instance was particularly hard to deal with but I made the best of it and still had a great time. Sure it's disappointing but you have to make the best of what ya got at the time.

And the Memphis gathering while relatively large will still be small enough that I doubt anyone will be able to hide away in the corner. But that has more to do with the people who I know are going to be there who all like to reach out and get to know ya.

See you there!
 
and just an FYI about what DVNC said about the Hosts of NEST.

NEST is Max and Pete's (MrTHyde) baby. I'm just a helper.

This is THEIR show, Their idea, Their planning and THEIR creativity. I just offered to help and they are letting me do that because I enjoy it so much.

I just WISH I could claim it as my baby but I'm just a babysitter! ok... Maybe Auntie. Yeah... Auntie Jan!

My only claim to this party is that I was able to encourage more women to show up once they found out I was going my first time in April '99. I suppose they figured that if Jan feels comfortable going to it alone then they will feel comfortable as well. They showed and it was really terrific. And it's grown from there.
 
And to elaborate on what Jen was talking about making promises and such... Sometimes in our quest to find a tickle friend we make those teasing threats online like "I'm gonna get you" and stuff like that. Often Lee's end up really looking forward to what's gonna happen and their hopes are raised about the fun ahead. Then once you get to the gathering nothing happens.

I would just like to address this...
From a ler's point of view (or at least mine)I can respond. I understand the letdown but here's an example. I fully intend on giving it good to Jen at the CT gathering if she comes. :devil: However, if for some reason I get there and feel uncomfortable in any way shape or form, I may back off. It's not that I'm all talk but I can't control my feelings at the time and may feel differently.
 
Re: fear factor of the obvious kind

Sirbear, I know exactly what you mean. If you listen carefully, you can probably hear DVNC snickering, since I bent his ear on several occasions with my concerns about obvious sexual excitment from watching but particularly being involved in scenes..... "But what if..." "You see, when I get...." "I can't control my respons..." Of course, it's a normal thing, especially if tickling/laughter/bondage/touch/etc is in any way sexual to you. Here's the thing though, and I can only speak for myself, but it just never happened! Certainly, there's a big difference between play in a gathering setting and play in an intimate setting and for me, it made all the difference in the world. It was just a completely different feel. Who knows...it may end up being that way for you as well.
 
bickee

As you may know, I have decided to take a hiatus from gatherings for a while. SBG was a blast, but I have found recently that I am not enjoying them as I used to and spending too much money to not have a great time. I don't know how long this will last, so I can't make any promises right now either.

I can guarantee one thing, though. When and if we do meet in person and the comfort level is present, I look forward to you sending me to that special place called TICKLE HELL. 😉 <WEG>

Jen
 
Well I am very, very sorry to hear that Jen. I hope it was nothing serious that changed your mind about gatherings. I'm sure you will be missed by all! 🙁
 
To keep this thread alive, I just got back from a gather hosted by AffectionateDan, with DVNC helping to run things. Great small gather, wonderful folks, great party.

It was my first time being a 'lee who *wasn't* nude, and while lots of fun, it's clear to me I'm into a "wilder" scene, and will continue seeking it out in the BDSM world. That can work really well, if you're like me: love being tied, not picky about who 'lers, and if that's the case public play gets you the oversight needed to protect limits so you'd best abandon modesty if you started with any...😛.

Are there any ticklegathers where they set aside a smaller play space for nude recreation?
 
Jim, I know this will probably be of no help to you, given the distance, but at my gathering this summer, in Wisconsin, I plan on having at least one or two bedrooms reserved for "private" scenes, where anything (including full nudity) is allowable, providing the participants in the private scene are comfortable with it. There was also a room reserved for private play at SBG1, as well. So it DOES happen at some gatherings. It just often depends on the number of attendees, and the space available at the hosting sites.

Mimi
 
As Mimi said, at SBG there was a private room for all scenes requiring privacy. It was pretty much in use the whole gathering. That is the way SBG will be run every year.
For more info on SBG, go to the thread in the gatherings section of the forum.

Jen
 
My first time worries..........(For Jen)

Hello Jen; very good idea for a thread. Particularly pertinent to me as well.
As many ladies from the chat room can testify, I am very confident of my "vaunted" tickle-torture skills. My peronal nightmare
is that I turn up at a gathering and put them into practice and the ticklee is just sitting there like, "Yeah? Are you gonna start soon or what?"
Also I have the worry that I'm sure many first time guys have, which is the "where do I look if it becomes apparent that I'm enjoying it TOO much?" Girls I think don't have this prob as much as guys, because it's less...erm....physically apparent...... that girls are turned on as guys. It could be a particularly sticky problem if I'm tied down at the time😀 and can't do anything to hide it. 😕 On top of which that might attract tickle-attention to an area that might be a bit TOO much to bear!
:yowzer:
I also have the hang up of the eternal lone which is to find myself :lurking: ing at the edge of the group, with no-one noticing me. Some of you who think I'm super-confident and outgoing in the chat room might find this a strange thought for me to have, but it's true. I have a :manicd: history, (thankfully it's mostly behind me now) and I hope to Gawd, that it doesn't surface at a gathering.
 
Jen and Mimi are gonna steer ya right for nude tickling play, strtbottomjim. They are, so far, one of the few crews that has play of that nature. NEST, MidWest NEST, Southern and the West Coast Gatherings have yet to show such, far as I've seen, with few exceptions.

Such is, naturally, a matter of negotiation. You've got to find the players that wish such. Privately, many do, but publically, as gatherings are oft considered, there's much less of that sought.

It's why I specify that folks ask for such ahead of time. Saves disappointment.

dvnc
 
I understand. Had fun Saturday regardless 🙂.

Am working on a plan to do..."the ultimate". I've managed to even shock myself, but I'm deeply attracted to the idea. Gotta find a couple of GOOD volunteer "dungeonmasters" first though!

Heh. In San Francisco, any excuse for a party means at least some nudity (the Bay To Breakers Marathon fr'instance). Every summer, they mark off several city blocks and hold the world's biggest BDSM party, the Folsom St. Fair...last year had 300,000 attendees :wow:. Nudity fully accepted.

I'm wondering what would happen if somebody tied me to a public play bench in the middle of the street and announced we were going for the world's record for number of ticklers?

With a bullhorn? :yowzer::yowzer::yowzer:

😛
 
Re: My first time worries..........(For Jen)

BigJim said:
My peronal nightmare is that I turn up at a gathering and put them into practice and the ticklee is just sitting there like, "Yeah? Are you gonna start soon or what?"

Jim,
If you were to hear that from me, take it as my SAM mouth saying more. more, more. I just do things like that to instigate/goad. 😉

Also I have the worry that I'm sure many first time guys have, which is the "where do I look if it becomes apparent that I'm enjoying it TOO much?" Girls I think don't have this prob as much as guys, because it's less...erm....physically apparent...... that girls are turned on as guys. It could be a particularly sticky problem if I'm tied down at the time😀 and can't do anything to hide it. 😕 On top of which that might attract tickle-attention to an area that might be a bit TOO much to bear![/QUOTE]

Just look into my eyes. That tells me that you are having a good time. I would take it strictly as a compliment and nothing inappropriate.

[/B]:yowzer:
I also have the hang up of the eternal lone which is to find myself :lurking: ing at the edge of the group, with no-one noticing me. Some of you who think I'm super-confident and outgoing in the chat room might find this a strange thought for me to have, but it's true. I have a :manicd: history, (thankfully it's mostly behind me now) and I hope to Gawd, that it doesn't surface at a gathering. [/B][/QUOTE]


I promise not only to notice you, but to once again use that SAM mouth of mine to "MAKE" you want to reach out and........ 😛 😀 😉

Jen
 
Phew!!!

What can I say Jen? You are one in a broad-minded million:devil: 😀
 
Philly NEST gathering

When is the gathering and how does one go about signing up?

Dom
 
sad news

HI all,well I thought I would give my point of view on this thread and I agree with some of the issues brought up here.I and my husband Tim were planning on attending Nest in Pa,but something drastic came up so we will be unable to attend this years Nest.I have a grandmother who is 90 years old and she has fallen down over the weekend and broken her hip and is in the hospital,and my relatives have called for a reunion because everyone is thinking she isn't going to be alive for that long.So everyone is visiting for the last time before she passes away.WE are saddened that we will not be able to attend the Nest gathering in May,but there will be other gatherings that we will be able to attend.
Also I am learning alot from all this conversation about gatherings in general,and I would say I do feel safe that all activities around the Gathering would be monitored and that no person is tickled without their permission.BUt on the other hand,I suppose I am the kind of ticklee that enjoys being tickled offguard and someone first doesn;t tell me they are going to tickle me..Don't know why but my older brother,sister would gang up on me,hold me down when I was younger and that really excited me to have more than one person tickling me.Just wondering how a gathering where people would ask my permission to tickle me would make me react,I love the more spontaneous tickling.I see why there needs to be willingness on the Ticklee part,safe words,ect but maybe there is a circumstance where the tickler first meets me,and I say I am socialzing right now but give the tickler the OK to tickle me some time later in evening? .Then does that mean,since I already gave my permission that the tickler needs to ask me again or can the tickler then catch me offguard and tickle me without asking again?.Wish I could be going to Nest,I was looking forward to it so much!.WEll maybe I can go to the Albany,NY gathering in January?? I think so!.
 
I would hope that when there's a general rule about "asking first" (because most people are shy), people like you and me who *welcome* all friendly tickles (especially by surprise!) could make that clear, and *waive* the rule in our respective cases?

I know I feel perfectly OK making that clear!
 
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