Izzy, with all due respect;
This just doesn't work for me at all! You are a grown-ass-woman and if your husband doesn't like the fact you have an area of your life he can't control, that's his problem and not yours.
It's time out for the foolishness and get down to brass tacks where he's concerned. You've arranged tickle dates behind his back. He forced you to leave the forum. Now he's demanding that you never come back here?? What kind of nonsense is that? You're his wife, not his property!! You've already realized that you can't leave here because you've tapped into a part of yourself that you can no longer deny. Either he steps to the plate and gains some understanding, or you'll continue to deceive him and breaking promises to him of staying away from your tickling passions. Can you really stay away from here and bottle up your passions? Can you really deny that part of yourself that loves to be tickled into the throes of insanity? Can you really do that Izzy?
Based on how things have gone so far, you already know the answer! You need to come to terms with this then start resolving your issues or you're going to frustrate yourself into an abyss!
Take care
kis, i understand where you're coming from, but you are overlooking a couple of things.
First of all, the husband does have the right to have a say in what his wife does as far as sexuality is concerned. If tickling is sexual to her, he has as much to say to her about not being involved in it with other people as she has as much to say to him about not looking at porn. People think tickling is an exception, but it's not. As long as she doesnt engage in any sexually relative activity with another man or woman, it's not really cheating, and he really doesn't have a right to demmand she doesnt come to the forum anymore than she has a right to tell him not to look at porn for example, but he does have a right to be upset by it, and show his greivance for it. and if she was getting alot of attention here from guys who were getting off sexually at what she was saying, well that would be as much his business as if he was getting female attention in the reverse, would it not be?
arranging tickle dates behind is back, is just plain wrong, that is providing the tickling is a sexual experience. if it's just fun, then it's just fun, and he should get over it. but if his paranoia is justified and its a sexual experience for her and the other person invovled, then it is most certainly his business provided the marriage is not some weird polygamous one.
it would be the same if he had a woman on the side who they didnt exactly have sex with, but they did sexual things that resulted in pleasure. she'd feel pretty betrayed, and she should.
this is something people overlook here.
and breaking a promise, and lying, is never the right thing to do, even if what he asks for is not nessicarily right. like i say, it depends on if tickling is sexual for her or not. but the excuse "i found the forum after i said i do" doesnt cut it. she made a commitment, till death do you part, and you either stick to that commitment, or find out your life is more sexual than you thought and give up the marriage for the sexual godessness of the tickle forum and tickle dates. tickling isnt any exception to the rules my friends, no matter what you think. (and quite honestly, its things like this that make people look down on fetishes, people who are happily married but go around doign sexual things with others just cuz)
if he is being unreasonable, and the tickling is just fun, then she needs to just plainly state she isnt going to be away from here, if thats how she feels, and then it's up to him if he still has a problem with that, and if it could result in the end of their marriage. but lying because he is being unreasonable, just makes his unreasonablity more understandable.
if tickling is sexual, it should be tabboo with all others than your significant other
if its just fun, then your significant other should be understanding of that and trust you
but if you lie to your significant other, and if the sexual activity of tickling isnt taboo concerning others if you're in a commited relationship, then you arent worthy of that trust, and quite honestly, you're a form of a slut.
no offense to anyone.
