Can you just quit your fetish?

[BigNorm]

Hamlet007 got me thinking about this question as he tried to quit his fetish. so, can you just quit a fetish? i would NEVER wanna give up feet and tickling, even if it makes me a bachelor all my life. i love it, it brings spice to life. it's like parsley to my spagetti of life:super_hap

so if you love feet and tickling for example, like most people here. you look at women's feet in flip flops. a woman comes along and makes you get rid of your fetish or she leaves. i mean it's who i am, a part of me. it's like hacking off my arm cause some woman doesn't like it. guess i just can't wrap my head around it. which is why before i get serious with someone, i make sure they're cool with tickling and foot fetishes of mine and wants to go along with it.

so could you? or better yet, would you, totally give it all up, go cold turkey and all?

 

[Bashiku]

Tobi asks you this then. Would you give up you love for anything else, would you give up you left arm... Let us face it. Some may lie to themselves, but it is in our nature. Even if you think you quited you will need just one more glance or word to get you back. Hamlet quited the TT as a forum, not his fetish, for that is a part of him that makes him Hamlet.
So in short Tobi has accepted the tickler and that is how Tobi persona was born... fusion of Tickler and 387 other people in my head 😀

 

[BigNorm]

i tell ya what, i love tickling and feet, and most of all, i love TT, it's like a big family here, and i'd never quit. if you don't hear from me for a long time, i either can't get online or i'm dead. Not going to tell my family about my fetishes, but i'll only tell my friends if i feel i need to. if not, they don't need to know, and if they find out, there's nothing they can do to make me stop. and in no way am i going to be ashamed about my fetishes. i'm proud of them. i wanna go to the woman i love and proudly say "i wanna tickle the soles of your feet" even if instictly i get all shy and bashful when tickling or feet is mention casually in conversation.

 

[FoeHammer1]

It part of my nature...

You may be able to suppress it for societal norm situations, but how many of us can glance at a pair of feet and not feel that aura...that feeling of how those toes would feel against our hands...and (ahem) other parts of our body?

Once given the opportunity to utilize my skills to tantalize a lady's toes & soles...the fetish is reinforced and makes me how I am...

In short, I don't think you can lose the fetish permanently...it may be dormant for a while...but it will manifest itself in some way...

My view...:redstar:

 

[the_jimmy_james]

No. I don't think you can choose to not have a fetish. You can choose not to act on it, that's about it. Trying to choose to not have a fetish would be like trying to decide not to suffer from clinical depression or other emotional instabilities.

Not that a fetish is an instability, but it is a psychological effect. You can't just choose to change how your mind works.

 

[BigNorm]

Not that a fetish is an instability, but it is a psychological effect.

and a damn good effect it is.:happy:

 

[Duke Diablo]

In my opinion, one could get rid of his/her fetish if one tried really hard. It would be a long, lasting, hard process, but, given enough willpower, one would definitely succeed.

However, why do such a thing? So that you can call yourself 'normal'? Pah! If I strive to be exactly like what other people tell me I should be like, isn't that abandoning my identity, my uniqueness? 'Normal' people are boring, with absolutely no creativity and low sex iq (I know what I'm talking about, I took several tests, and they all place my sex iq above 160). I'm a known pervert, not just for my tickling and foot fetishes, and everyone around me thinks it cool. Also, I like it, and even if everyone around me hated me for anything that I was, I probably wouldn't change. Screw the norms, be what you are, I say!

 

[Featherdemon]

This is a very good question BigNorm and in fact I'm surprised it hasn't been asked before. If it has, I've not seen it before.

I think it is a bad thing to overly indulge in your fetish, just as much as it is a bad thing to suppress it. My love, and I think it is that strong, of tickling is a very important part of me and I can't really forsee a situation where I would ever turn on my back on it. I don't think I could. I have always hid it from those around me in real life so that doesn't bother me. The only thing would be if it started bothering my girl friend.

I can definitely cut down on the time I spend indulging my tickle fetish, in so much as chatting, posting, drawing etc etc but I couldn't switch it off totally. I have learned so much from being in this forum and met some...interesting...characters.

Even if it came to the worst and I had to leave TTC, I would still keep up my tickling fascination.

 

[Budweiserbob!]

This question has actually been asked a few times in the past. And my opinion remains unchanged.

No.

You just can't. Like Jimmy said, it's a psychological thing, something that you are either born with instinctively or something that grows when you're growing up. It's not a choice.

If you were really adament on changing it, then the most drastic thing you could do is find some sort of drug that would help get rid of it. 😛 Pretty sure it doesn't exist though. XD

 

[gilmourwaters]

Quit My Fetish!?,,,,hell No....wouldn't Want To

 

[GRM13]

I also agree that one can't quit this. All you can hope for is to keep it inside and never let it out. and even if you do that and you get to a point in which you forget about it, it is still there inside you sleeping and waiting to be awaken. Just how one can't change someones sense of humor, or once memories. one can't changes once preference. if you could there wouldn't be so many people out there still confused and embarrassed of their taste.

 

[pitticklinger1]

I completely agree, it's impossible to get rid of it... However like some said before me, you can choose to not act on it (I salute those who are strong enough to 😛) lol... I really don't have a foot fetish, the only one who's feet I even remotely care about are my girlfriends. However I love to tickle armpits and if someone told me to choose between that or them, I would most likely never talk to that person again... lol So basically what I'm saying is, I could NEVER give it up, even if my girlfriend has asthma and she REALLY hates it when I tickle her and when I do I can't do it for to long :/

 

[GRM13]

The way I see it, it seems that most people that tend not to act on it are mostly scared to act on these impulses rather than because they want control. which also leads me to wonder about something. If people have know they enjoy tickling and are able to indulge on it without fear or hesitation. Why would anyone wish o give that up? I wish i could have that amount of comfort when it comes to tickling.

 

[Oblivion]

I remember a big conflict between myself and a girlfriend of the time was that she hated to be tickled. She found out I had a tickle fetish but still wanted to be with me.

Well, it ended up a bad situation because I felt bad for tickling her, but it felt pretty hallow of a relationship on my end to not be able to indulge in a part of myself that I love.

 

[3xPIN]

Response pt 1

Giving up a fetish would be like giving up mountain dew for me. sure i could do it..... (I have before) but why would I want to?

If another person says, "stop doing this," you can. But giving up a kink or fetish is deeper psychologically than giving up an addiction. You don't choose what turns you on, it just does. If some one actually says, "Stop being turned on by [insert fetish here]! it is weirding me out/i don't like it." The only true response you can give is, "ummmmmm..... Too bad?"

 

[3xPIN]

pt. 2 response

(okay, i kind of went on so here is the next part)

Quiting "cold turkey" is something you do to get rid of something you bring to yourself. It is about will power. "I will not buy that 20 oz. of Code Red! It has caffien, it has dyes, it is basically over priced sugar water and I don't need it! haahhaa!" But a fetish? "oh man i wanna suck on that girls toes till she giggles like a...NOOOOO!!! that is wrong. I will not think such freaky thoughts! I will only be turned on by missionary position intercourse! hahahahaaa!"

IT IS NOT THE SAME! What you like/enjoy/prefer, vs what gets you off are two totally different concepts! Give up your indulgences for who you love, not your sexual nature. That is not what you can "give up," that is who you are.

Now keep in mind, that doesn't mean you shouldn't seek a relationship with the so called "vanilla" partner. But as Dan Savage says, if some isn't into your kink or fetish, thats FINE; but if they have a problem with your kinky side, there is nothing wrong with you, there is something wrong with them.
WOW! I didn't know I had that in me.

:laughing: feels good to get that off my chest. But seriously, What do you think?:feather:

 

[BigNorm]

This question has actually been asked a few times in the past. And my opinion remains unchanged.

No.

You just can't. Like Jimmy said, it's a psychological thing, something that you are either born with instinctively or something that grows when you're growing up. It's not a choice.

If you were really adament on changing it, then the most drastic thing you could do is find some sort of drug that would help get rid of it. 😛 Pretty sure it doesn't exist though. XD

it's like people trying to get gay people to go straight, they're so naive. they love and embrace their lifestyles, and they few that do feel ashamed enough to try and quit only suppress their feelings and never rid them selves of it.

i say never let someone change the way you are. they either accept the whole package that is you, or they can take a hike.

 

[Duke Diablo]

Let's say it suddenly became normal to chop off one of your balls. Would you do it?
I say: hell no!

 

[BigNorm]

Let's say it suddenly became normal to chop off one of your balls. Would you do it?
I say: hell no!

ow! i like the "Jump off of a bridge" scenario much better

 

[Bashiku]

ow! i like the "Jump off of a bridge" scenario much better

Been there done that... nothing special... but the balls... hmm that is dangerous and painful...

 

[GRM13]

And after you done cutting them off you go drink the kool-aid just like everyone else.

 

[Bashiku]

And then you figure out that having both is cool... what a bummer...

 

[luv2tikl]

can you just quit a fetish?

Sure you can! Just make sure you put in your two weeks notice!

Honestly, I don't know. I've comet to terms with it. It's an addition to me, it's not like I don't still get turned on by girls, I do... Tickling is just an extra, if you will, and I don't know why I'd ever want to get rid of that. I can definitely understand moderating it, but, not "quiting"...

 

[Jawa]

This question has actually been asked a few times in the past. And my opinion remains unchanged.

No.

You just can't. Like Jimmy said, it's a psychological thing, something that you are either born with instinctively or something that grows when you're growing up. It's not a choice.

If you were really adament on changing it, then the most drastic thing you could do is find some sort of drug that would help get rid of it. 😛 Pretty sure it doesn't exist though. XD

Then could you compare it to Smoking or drinking? There are cravings, brief moments of euphoria, and... SOME people go through withdrawls, or up their doseage by expanding their collection, or introducing friends to the fettish...

 

[Bashiku]

Smoking and drinking is more a habit or addiction than a fetish 😀 Fetish is on entire new level... Nobody is born with bottle of wine in their hand, but people are born with fetishes...