Do you have questions about NEST? Ask them here!

[BrightEyes1082]

RobAce and I will be hosting TMF Radio shows April 15 and 22 (both
Thursdays) at 11pm and we'll be discussing all things NEST. If you
have a question you'd like answered, please post it here! If you prefer
to remain anonymous, please PM your question to me, and indicate
that you don't want your screenname used.

A few things we'll talk about:

What can I expect at NEST?

What activities are planned?

How do I get from the airport to the hotel?

How do I make a hotel reservation?

Why can't I have more than 4 people stay in my room?

Can I just show up at NEST to see my friends if I live in the
area, without having to register?

Will random people come up and tickle me?

Can I tickle random people?

So there you have it, and I'm sure there are more questions
out there, so please post them here!

Amanda/Manda/Mondy/Brighteyes/and last but not least, LeeAllure's submissive

 

[mass1926]

Can I go dressed as Batman, or at least where my cape?

 

[kered]

Can I go dressed as Batman, or at least where my cape?

Sure, but I will point and laugh at you all weekend.

 

[mass1926]

Sure, but I will point and laugh at you all weekend.

Laugh all you want, but when the joker comes to ruin your fun, who will be there to save the day??? Ahhh, nah nah nah nah nah nah nah....Batman!!!!

 

[TklDuo-Ann]

or at least where my cape?

I seem to recall Amn borrowing a red sweater or something to serve as a Superman "cape" last year. That was different. lol

 

[Snail Shell]

Kweshun:

Duz Mondee liek Mudkipz?

Snail Shell

 

[kered]

I seem to recall Amn borrowing a red sweater or something to serve as a Superman "cape" last year. That was different. lol

That was classic and I could still kick myself for not recording that along with Libertine's reaction. It is completely insane inpromptu stuff like this that become the best NEST memories. Amnesiac's humor was running on all eight cylinders at that moment!

 

[venray]

RobAce and I will be hosting TMF Radio shows April 15 and 22 (both
Thursdays) at 11pm and we'll be discussing all things NEST. If you
have a question you'd like answered, please post it here! If you prefer
to remain anonymous, please PM your question to me, and indicate
that you don't want your screenname used.

A few things we'll talk about:

What can I expect at NEST?

What activities are planned?

How do I get from the airport to the hotel?

How do I make a hotel reservation?

Why can't I have more than 4 people stay in my room?

Can I just show up at NEST to see my friends if I live in the
area, without having to register?

Will random people come up and tickle me?

Can I tickle random people?

So there you have it, and I'm sure there are more questions
out there, so please post them here!

Amanda/Manda/Mondy/Brighteyes/and last but not least, LeeAllure's submissive

All good questions, now how about the answers?...... ♥♥♥

 

[Tiger.Lily]

I have a question: I registered for NEST and have yet to receive the hotel confirmation stuff. PLZ TO SEND, KTHX!<333

 

[LD_Tickler]

You get the hobo box.

I started asking about this in the other thread, but my followup question got buried behind other replies. About why you need names and addresses to verify that the people who show up are the people who registered:

Couldn't you use unique confirmation codes to verify that? That way there would be no need to divulge personal info, no? It would be just as secure... after all, somebody who registers could just as easily lend a piece of ID for somebody to pose as him/her.

 

[Capnmad]

You get the hobo box.

I started asking about this in the other thread, but my followup question got buried behind other replies. About why you need names and addresses to verify that the people who show up are the people who registered:

Couldn't you use unique confirmation codes to verify that? That way there would be no need to divulge personal info, no? It would be just as secure... after all, somebody who registers could just as easily lend a piece of ID for somebody to pose as him/her.

This is just curious. If someone doesn't feel comfortable offering even very basic personal info to the organizers of an event they're looking to attend, they likely wouldn't feel comfortable attending to begin with.

And maybe I'm missing something, but I don't know why this event should pose any attraction for identity thieves, or why anyone would feel a need to falsify their identity in order to attend.

And if they did feel such need to hide their identity, I fail to see why organizers should make it easier to do so by requiring only "confirmation codes"...

What's the benefit again?

 

[LD_Tickler]

This is just curious. If someone doesn't feel comfortable offering even very basic personal info to the organizers of an event they're looking to attend, they likely wouldn't feel comfortable attending to begin with.

And maybe I'm missing something, but I don't know why this event should pose any attraction for identity thieves, or why anyone would feel a need to falsify their identity in order to attend.

And if they did feel such need to hide their identity, I fail to see why organizers should make it easier to do so by requiring only "confirmation codes"...

What's the benefit again?

I'll try to explain. I might want to go to NEST some day, but I'd be concerned about giving out where I live. Why? Because I value privacy. I don't really think anybody ever needs to justify their desire for privacy, nor do I think that from a desire for privacy you can extrapolate anything else about my desires. I would be interested in attending NEST, but I can't say I'm comfortable with the idea that my fetish community knows where to reach me and my family.

Anyway I'm not trying to be difficult, I'm just wondering why the information is necessary as a confirmation process at the door - because there seems to be other ways.

 

[Capnmad]

I'll try to explain. I might want to go to NEST some day, but I'd be concerned about giving out where I live. Why? Because I value privacy. I don't really think anybody ever needs to justify their desire for privacy, nor do I think that from a desire for privacy you can extrapolate anything else about my desires.

No, and don't get me wrong -- I'm not trying to cast aspersions. I don't know thing one about you save what I can deduce from your posts. But one might reasonably question another's readiness to attend an event involving an interest so deeply centered in one's personal makeup if they are unready to offer the most basic information required today in just about the most mundane of transactions.

Any number of places from which I purchase goods and services have my name and address on file when I use a discount card, and what I purchase flows to another agency when I use a credit or debit card.

I purchased some asparagus today. Wegman's now knows who I am and what I bought. I consider it a fair trade for a discount, and from this data, they know what to stock up on, what's a decent price, and so forth.

I could say I am not at ease with offering such information to Wegman's Supermarkets, but then, I know that I will not partake of discount asparagus. If I'm unready to comply with the requirements, I'm unready to enjoy the reward, because the contract requires that give-and-take.

If you think your method (the confirmation codes or whathaveyou) is superior, and you think you can sway the organizers to your way of thinking, go for it. I personally don't see any reason why they should, and see a number of potential downsides should they adopt your thinking, but that's me. Bottom line, if you don't see the result (whatever they ask in return for access, be it information or other cost) as a fair trade, don't do it. It's not for you.

That said, I know enough that the personal information provided is kept very secure. So I have no concerns whatsoever with sharing my name and address with the organizers.

Anyway I'm not trying to be difficult,

With respect, this is somewhat less easy to believe from someone who recently began a thread that seemed to promote and take pleasure in the frustration among those who cannot attend, and/or those who tire of and feel the need to gripe about the happy NEST-specific discussions among those who can and do.

 

[LD_Tickler]

The difference is that as somebody who'd be going to NEST for the first time, it's a bit of an unknown quantity. Giving information to companies is less troubling to me because a) I'm familiar with them and the systems they use, so I know how they are kept accountable and b) the risk is less personal and emotionally based.

As for my other thread, that was just meant to be a bit of tongue-in-cheek humour in preparation for inevitable bickering. I'm surprised that a few people interpreted my tone as genuine.

I'm sorry you don't believe me, but I'm just posing questions to the NEST organizers. This isn't a challenge, I'm just pitching an idea. If they don't like it, they can tell me so. I'm just curious as to why the procedure is the way it is.

 

[Capnmad]

The difference is that as somebody who'd be going to NEST for the first time, it's a bit of an unknown quantity. Giving information to companies is less troubling to me because a) I'm familiar with them and the systems they use, so I know how they are kept accountable and b) the risk is less personal and emotionally based.

As for my other thread, that was just meant to be a bit of tongue-in-cheek humour in preparation for inevitable bickering. I'm surprised that a few people interpreted my tone as genuine.

I'm sorry you don't believe me, but I'm just posing questions to the NEST organizers. This isn't a challenge, I'm just pitching an idea. If they don't like it, they can tell me so. I'm just curious as to why the procedure is the way it is.

Cool. Just struck me as an odd tone, is all. Maybe you should look into trying a munch or a smaller gathering in your area first to get the feel of it, build your sense of who folks are and get a better understanding of the personal dynamics. You might feel more secure then. Anything in your area?

 

[RobAce]

I look at it like this.

Lets say you go to NEST, you do not give an address or any contact information about who you are. Something terrible happens, such as your in a car accident, you get mugged and beat up (not in NEST but perhaps at a gas station if you drive or at the airport) and no one knows you, why you are there or anything. You identification may be lost and now there is no way of getting in touch with anyone to tell them what your situation is.

Thus giving my name and address is no issue. I know if something terrible were to happen to me, those at NEST would merely call or find out how to get in touch with someone without mentioning why I was there for.

They would say basically they are a friend and you were all meeting when (insert bad thing here) happened and they wanted to let someone know so that your friends or family would know.

Also, I do not know for sure...but I assume it is simple to check for public records to make sure a serial killer or registered sex offender is not attending. That may or not be the case, but to me that would be a bonus...knowing the people I am around are safe to be around...well other than the usual shenanigans.

Rob

 

[His Divine Shadow]

It's worth noting that any convention, no matter its focus, requires this kind of information. The medical conventions my father goes to require it. The Japanese animation/comics conventions I once attended require it. It's not specific to NEST or fetish gatherings. As Robace pointed out, it's for the safety of all concerned.

 

[BellaRisa]

I would be interested in attending NEST, but I can't say I'm comfortable with the idea that my fetish community knows where to reach me and my family.

You're not giving your information to "your fetish community", you're giving it to the person who runs the event; it'll be kept under lock and key unless some truly dire situation warranted it's use. Furthermore, may I ask why the fact that it's an adult-oriented event seems to warrant more concern than any other type of function? Are tickle-philes more suspect than dentists or Trekkies? I'm honestly asking, because I've had similar worries from a few who'd like to attend Bella Bash, as though we didn't have the same kink; I always wonder if they distrust themselves the way they distrust those just like them 😛

 

[BrightEyes1082]

The difference is that as somebody who'd be going to NEST for the first time, it's a bit of an unknown quantity. Giving information to companies is less troubling to me because a) I'm familiar with them and the systems they use, so I know how they are kept accountable and b) the risk is less personal and emotionally based.

As for my other thread, that was just meant to be a bit of tongue-in-cheek humour in preparation for inevitable bickering. I'm surprised that a few people interpreted my tone as genuine.

I'm sorry you don't believe me, but I'm just posing questions to the NEST organizers. This isn't a challenge, I'm just pitching an idea. If they don't like it, they can tell me so. I'm just curious as to why the procedure is the way it is.

I was going to reply to the above with something pretty similar
to this:

You're not giving your information to "your fetish community", you're giving it to the person who runs the event; it'll be kept under lock and key unless some truly dire situation warranted it's use. Furthermore, may I ask why the fact that it's an adult-oriented event seems to warrant more concern than any other type of function? Are tickle-philes more suspect than dentists or Trekkies? I'm honestly asking, because I've had similar worries from a few who'd like to attend Bella Bash, as though we didn't have the same kink; I always wonder if they distrust themselves the way they distrust those just like them 😛

And like Morgan already said, if you're not comfortable giving your
basic information to the organizers, NEST is probably not for you.

 

[venray]

And it is for security.....If you cannot give verifiable info as to who you are, then most likely you should not be there..


All who attended the Albany gathering this past February supplied me with real names email addresses and telephone contact numbers as well as screen names so I could see how they interacted with others on the forums....Gathering hosts like to KNOW who they are allowing to enter their homes or other gathering venues. They do not share that information with anyone. If you feel the need to be anonymous to the hosts then you should not attend an event such as this....

I know I wouldnt invite you to a party if I didnt know within reason who you are...

 

[LD_Tickler]

You're not giving your information to "your fetish community", you're giving it to the person who runs the event

Definitely an important point, but not knowing much about the organizers or how the event is run, the distinction becomes kind of blurred in my mind.

In any case, thank you, everyone, for your responses. 🙂

edit: Oh, forgot to answer your question, Bella. For me at least, it's not that I view any particular batch as more or less trustworthy. It's the idea of giving somebody the power to bridge the gap between my personal life and the life where my friends and family dwell - whereas I wouldn't really care if somebody found out I once went to the dentist 😉 . Not to mention that written records that I've attended a fetish convention are the sort of thing that may come back and haunt me. I'm sure you might think me paranoid or silly, but I like to consider these sorts of things.

 

[BrightEyes1082]

Definitely an important point, but not knowing much about the organizers or how the event is run, the distinction becomes kind of blurred in my mind.

In any case, thank you, everyone, for your responses. 🙂

edit: Oh, forgot to answer your question, Bella. For me at least, it's not that I view any particular batch as more or less trustworthy. It's the idea of giving somebody the power to bridge the gap between my personal life and the life where my friends and family dwell - whereas I wouldn't really care if somebody found out I once went to the dentist 😉 . Not to mention that written records that I've attended a fetish convention are the sort of thing that may come back and haunt me. I'm sure you might think me paranoid or silly, but I like to consider these sorts of things.

If these are truly concerns of yours, then I honestly cannot think of
a single fetish/s&m event that you could attend where you wouldn't
have to give that information. What you could do is rent out your own
space, and host a play party where you don't check anyone's information
and anyone is allowed to show up. Just make sure that you state up front
that that's the case. Also, if you check fetlife events in your area, I'm sure
many people host private play parties where it's just for a few hours and they
don't ask for that info. But you're not going to find a convention where you
aren't required to submit that information and go through a registration process
of some sort.

 

[LD_Tickler]

If these are truly concerns of yours, then I honestly cannot think of
a single fetish/s&m event that you could attend where you wouldn't
have to give that information. What you could do is rent out your own
space, and host a play party where you don't check anyone's information
and anyone is allowed to show up. Just make sure that you state up front
that that's the case. Also, if you check fetlife events in your area, I'm sure
many people host private play parties where it's just for a few hours and they
don't ask for that info. But you're not going to find a convention where you
aren't required to submit that information and go through a registration process
of some sort.

I never said I outright refuse to give the necessary info. I just think it's prudent to pause before releasing personal information online, and perhaps, to ask a few questions about how it'll be used... especially, y'know... in a question-asking thread.

I'm surprised at how disapproving some of the replies have been, but, For the most part, thank you for addressing my questions.

 

[BellaRisa]

I never said I outright refuse to give the necessary info. I just think it's prudent to pause before releasing personal information online, and perhaps, to ask a few questions about how it'll be used... especially, y'know... in a question-asking thread.

I'm surprised at how disapproving some of the replies have been, but, For the most part, thank you for addressing my questions.

Having read your responses I do see where you're coming from, and I can fully understand your point of view and your concerns; its true, adult events are in a different category and I imagine there are those who's lives could be damaged should word get out that they attended such a function. Having said that, the disapproval and yes, defensiveness, you're gleaning from various responses aren't stemming from your very valid concerns so much as from the way they were framed. There are several of us who take pride in making these events as safe and well-put together as we can, and so while this is indeed a question-asking thread, being publicly challenged about why we take the same info as any other quality event adult or otherwise felt a bit...antagonistic. I do believe that wasn't your intent but that was the initial vibe 🙂

 

[LeeAllure]

LD - I do seem to get this question lately, as NEST grows.

I require that information from everyone, for everyone's protection. Not just in case of
an accident that one person alone is involved in, but in case one attendee hurts
someone else, and I need to let the police or other authorities know.

And trust me, I care about everyone who comes to NEST, at NEST. I in no way care
enough about you (all of you! 😉 ) to go stalk you at your house. Or to give your
personal information to anyone else.

Hopefully that's helpful. And if you're not ok with giving out your personal information
to me, I understand. And I'm ok with that. I'm just not ok with you then trying to come
to NEST.

Lee