As the ler, I can go either way-restrained or not, I'll get mine! It's the lee's choice and it's my job to make sure they're very happy.
As the lee, we're gonna' have to wrestle or something-I will not do restraints. My need for some control allows me to submit to tickling under certain circumstances. I lose all control if I let someone else restrain me. The idea that someone could do whatever they wanted to me and I could do nothing to make it stop basically frightens the hell out of me. Besides, if the ler's not too rough, I'm not a big fighter anyway.