does tickling have to be sexual?

[ShadowTklr]

well it can be..depending on who is doing the tickling..in the few sessions i've had..it hasn't been of course.. i'm married after all..but i wasn't even thinking sexual thoughts during those sessions..i was too busy laughing..but with the right person and in the right setting, sure i believe it can be but it sure doesn't have to be...

Okay, I think I understand. It sounds very much the same thing I've been saying, but perhaps I'm splitting hairs with the use of the word "titillating," Vs. "Fun." If you're saying the words are synonymous, then I'll consider myself educated. 😉

 

[BigJim]

Tickling someone I've met through this community has always physically aroused me. This doesn't make the context sexual however. I've tickled eight or nine very wonderful lees, even going so far as to suck the toes of three or four of them to make it tickle; not once has the idea of "getting a shag out of it" ever entered the picture.

Yeah an act that is inherantly sexual to us (tickling) can be done between people who will never be anything more than platonic friends. The idea that physical enjoyment of a sensual act has to carry sexual overtones belongs in the medieval age.

 

[Mimi]

Thank you, Jim.

Yes, when I am tied and tickled at gatherings there is an inherent yet subtle sexual undertone. But I see and feel the same exact sexual charge when I am dancing my ass off to a good bump and grind song in the middle of a crowded dance floor. I also get highly aroused by the sound of a man, ANY man, rolling his tongue as they do when they speak spanish.

Lots of things cause my BODY to react in a sexual way. But my mind does not follow suit. I do not have any sexual thoughts at all while being tickled at a gathering....anymore than I would so about anyone dancing near or with me at the club, or anymore than I would any total stranger I heard rolling his tongue while speaking for whatever reason on the street. Massage can be intimate and sexual....but I can do that with my adult friends and have it remain fun and platonic, even if we are both adults and it's obviously different from what I would experience getting a backrub from my brother.

Arousal happens. It's a bodies reaction to physical sensation. Much like our laughter is while being tickled. But if you're not registering any sexual thoughts or desires in any way, then no it's NOT sexual. And that is how it is for me at a gathering. We're too busy laughing our asses off at one another and who is doing what or making what noise and who just did that to her to make her scream like that or whether I'm throwing lers over the bed again and making DVNC collapse in a fit of giggles....it's FUN. Not sexual. Intimate, yes. But not sexual. There's a real difference.

Mimi 🙂

 

[tkrexx]

Another re-hashment of this issue? It is what it is to you. Whether you view tickling as sexual or not is not nessecarily your neighbor's option or preference, or for that matter, business.. It is sexual to some, while it is not for others, while it is both to yet another group, and I'm certain we have not yet heard from the neither crowd. We can argue preferences 'til we're blue in the face, and who's mind will we change? You like it your way, I like it mine. Get comfortable with it.

If you're simply asking my personal preferences (tho again, this has been asked to death), tickling is the best thing in life, period. It is sexual with a certain special someone under certain curcumstances, with anyone else it is the warm, bright glow inside me without the sexual connoctations. As for immobilization while tickling, I have rolled girls up in blankets, rugs, sleeping bags, buried girls in the sand, handcuffed (and duct-taped) girls to chairs, stairways, behind their backs while sitting in the back seats of cars, and participated in numerous simple-yet-effective dogpile ticklings, and still it was not sexual to me, it was fun. I have not used complicated bondage on anyone except former lovers, simply because it could possibly be construed as sexual by the 'lee (That would be fine if I didn't have a steady at the time).

My idea of tickling as sexual is a one-on-one, private, playful, intimate romantic encounter with (Hopefully) someone I have deep feelings for, or in my single days someone I hoped to have a romantic encounter with. Bondage or immobilization is completely an option.

Please don't decide for me how to vote, pray or tickle based on your position.

Tickling is unregulated, for the most part.

Perfectly stated.

 

[BigJim]

Rrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr....................


You think Air Mimi is the worst that can happen to a ler? I got a knee right in the bollocks at our last bash in July. Credit to me though, it didn't stop me tickling. I waited till the scene was over before sliding into a whimpering heap at the side of the room. 😉

 

[ShadowTklr]

Okay, I have a question, and again, this is strictly for my own edification, because it's so hard for me to imagine:

If tickling for some is strictly platonic, then why don't more heterosexual guys who swear its platonic, tie and tickle their MALE friends? Why don't I read about guys traveling 3 states to have a tickle session with another male friend, the same way they're willing to do this for females? It seems that this "tickling is fun" thing should apply to all, regardless of gender. I mean, friends are friends, right?

Again, I'm just asking a question because I don't understand the mindset.

 

[isabeau]

Okay, I have a question, and again, this is strictly for my own edification, because it's so hard for me to imagine:

If tickling for some is strictly platonic, then why don't more heterosexual guys who swear its platonic, tie and tickle their MALE friends? Why don't I read about guys traveling 3 states to have a tickle session with another male friend, the same way they're willing to do this for females? It seems that this "tickling is fun" thing should apply to all, regardless of gender. I mean, friends are friends, right?

Again, I'm just asking a question because I don't understand the mindset.

well said...you do come up with interesting questions..yea if it's only platonic to some..then why can't males tie and tickle their male friends? and see since i'm married to a non tickler i really can't answer if it's sexual for myself..when i read the stories hell yes it's sexual..all the stories i've written have been sexual..

for the most part, bondage is a big turn on for me..so yes it is sexual..but if i said it was sexual..i would get flamed all over the place because of the simple fact i'm married to a vanilla...and i would then be accused of cheating in my mind..so basically i'm up a creek...he isn't interested that much in tickling me..for me it's sexual for the most part..in order to experience that type of tickling...i would have to cheat..which isn't who i am..

 

[tkrexx]

That is a good question, Shadow. Perhaps there ARE those guys, they simply might not be so vocal about it. I've seen posts from guys who are not gay, yet like to see M/M tickling. Also, it's evidently not an uncommon practice for females from this community to travel for encounters with other females. So why not? Again, this would fall into the preference category.

 

[wendynpeter]

ive been wondering lately if bondage tickling has to be a sexual thing ...

Jeeeeeesus ... again with this topic?? Look, if you guys are in such deep denial of the sexual aspect of your fetish, or you're looking for a way to intellectually de-sexualize same-sex tickling, good luck with that. But S&M (bondage) and "adult" tickling IS a sexual enterprise.

That said, I will qualify: I learned something in the time I spend over at TT. And that is that some people in the tickling community aren't engaged in "adult" tickling. For them, tickling is still child's play. And for some, so is sex - they don't like seeing naked people in tickling clips, they are threatened by real sexual overtones ... and since these folks are technically adults, then yes, it IS possible that an adult can have a more childish attitude toward something most people consider to be an adult, sexual act. So technically, NO, it doesn't HAVE to be like that.

But it's also important to note than even with children, all this kind of stuff is considered to be "pre-sexual," in the sense that this is how kids develop their sexuality. So while "bondage tickling" doesn't have to be full-on "sexual" (in the adult sense), there's still a very strong sexual undertone that cannot be denied.

Of course, as usual, everyone I've just described will now have a complete meltdown over what I've said. Have at it --

 

[kis123]

Okay, I have a question, and again, this is strictly for my own edification, because it's so hard for me to imagine:

If tickling for some is strictly platonic, then why don't more heterosexual guys who swear its platonic, tie and tickle their MALE friends? Why don't I read about guys traveling 3 states to have a tickle session with another male friend, the same way they're willing to do this for females? It seems that this "tickling is fun" thing should apply to all, regardless of gender. I mean, friends are friends, right?

Again, I'm just asking a question because I don't understand the mindset.

How do you know it's not happening even as we speak/type?

If I were a man into MM tickling and even traveled for MM sessions, the LAST thing I would do is tell anyone on this forum! He'd be verbally boiled in oil from the anti-MM, "think MM tickling is gay" crowd! I've never really understood the borderline homophobic attitudes many men have about MM tickling. If a person likes it, they shouldn't be persecuted for it!

I think how a person perceives his/her tickling experiences is their own interpretation and pretty much their own business. And tickling is platonic for SOME, not for all--for those who find it platonic, many can tickle anyone. Some, even though platonic in nature, prefer to tickle the opposite gender. There's no right, wrong, or standard answer here-it is what it is to the individuals involved, plain and simple. It's sexual for you--okay great! For others, tickling has different meanings to them.

 

[ShadowTklr]

How do you know it's not happening even as we speak/type?

If I were a man into MM tickling and even traveled for MM sessions, the LAST thing I would do is tell anyone on this forum! He'd be verbally boiled in oil from the anti-MM, "think MM tickling is gay" crowd! I've never really understood the borderline homophobic attitudes many men have about MM tickling. If a person likes it, they shouldn't be persecuted for it!

I think how a person perceives his/her tickling experiences is their own interpretation and pretty much their own business. And tickling is platonic for SOME, not for all--for those who find it platonic, many can tickle anyone. Some, even though platonic in nature, prefer to tickle the opposite gender. There's no right, wrong, or standard answer here-it is what it is to the individuals involved, plain and simple. It's sexual for you--okay great! For others, tickling has different meanings to them.

I know you're right, Kis. I was just looking for someone to give me a thoughtful explanation about how they are able to reconcile the claim that bondage tickling is platonic fun, but not engage in it with friends of the same gender (with the exception of those who would do it anyway).

The M/M question was really posed to those who DO post, and who DO claim that their tickling is platonic fun. You should know by now that I'm very inquisitive and if something doesn't make sense to me, then I ask a whole lot of questions until I can either understand it, or at least be satisfied that I asked everything I wanted to know.

However, I'm getting the impression that once again, what my attempt at polite debate has yielded is just another bout of "Why should you care, it's non of your business."

 

[tickleshotel]

I agree with what MIMI has said, I have been tied and been in bondage at past gatherings and I will say that while I get a sexual charge that I am keenly aware of being in that vulnerable helpless position,I get that same charge whether it is a female or male doing the tickling..I definitely consider myself Straight ,I can only describe the sexual charge as being present due to the Act of being tickled itself,the anticipation that goes along with that tickling..

It can be sexual I am certain with the right person,circumstances and I will cross that bridge when I come to it but I wouldn;t say that I am sad I am missing anything because I am owner of that department and I will not go into the details.

 

[kis123]

I know you're right, Kis. I was just looking for someone to give me a thoughtful explanation about how they are able to reconcile the claim that bondage tickling is platonic fun, but not engage in it with friends of the same gender (with the exception of those who would do it anyway).

The M/M question was really posed to those who DO post, and who DO claim that their tickling is platonic fun. You should know by now that I'm very inquisitive and if something doesn't make sense to me, then I ask a whole lot of questions until I can either understand it, or at least be satisfied that I asked everything I wanted to know.

However, I'm getting the impression that once again, what my attempt at polite debate has yielded is just another bout of "Why should you care, it's non of your business."

Please take this in the spirit in which it is intended. If I offend, I truly apologize in advance. Here it goes:

I suspect that you're getting some of the negative responses because some people take their personal preferences very personally and feel threatened when having them questioned. I don't think you meant it intentionally, but sometimes people get the impression that if people don't think EXACTLY the way certain people do or have the EXACT same opinion, then everyone else is wrong and that individual is right. There are some fourm members who think it's okay to pick apart and insult other's preferences and it will create "attack mode" in people every single time. You might not understand their preferences or opinions or even agree at all. I used to be the same way until I developed an "agree to disagree" policy when it comes to some things that I simply will NEVER agree with. It leaves those with differing POV's with their dignity. Sometimes, that's more important than being right or wrong.

I haven't engaged in bondage play yet except one time light restraint was used and I was the ler. It was a highly charged experience for me, not as much sexual but exciting since it was my very first time tickling at a gathering. I actually got to live out my dream and fantasy by going to this gathering and actually tickling someone-I was like a kid at Christmas time! My lee was very experienced-after the session was over, we talked a lot and hung out while we came back to normal. We had a great time and it had sexually charged potential, but remained fun and platonic. I reiterate that tickling can be fun, platonic, sensual, and sexual all at the same time-why try to separate the pleasures when you can have them all at once? Why concentrate on one aspect when you have so many to experience?

 

[Strider]

Does it have to be? No. But I would venture to say that it primarily is for many (most?) of us here. It's primarily sexual for me, but I can turn that part off depending on who I'm playing with; and given that I've only had two girlfriends that I've seriously played with, much of my experience has been at gatherings among friends.

 

[wendynpeter]

Does it have to be? No. But I would venture to say that it primarily is for many (most?) of us here. It's primarily sexual for me, but I can turn that part off depending on who I'm playing with; and given that I've only had two girlfriends that I've seriously played with, much of my experience has been at gatherings among friends.

Strider raises an interesting point here. He says he can "turn it off" when, essentially, it isn't appropriate for it to be sexual. And of course I agree completely that it's possible. For example, I'm sure most people with a tickling fetish can still tickle their kids or others in a perfectly non-sexual way, because in that situation, it's a completely different thing.

So when Strider says he can tone down or "turn off" the sexual feelings associated with a tickling fetish when it's inappropriate to have them, I agree that's possible.

However, we aren't talking about that here. We're talking about bondage/tickling. We're talking about adult activities that carry overtly sexual overtones by definition. BUT, if it's possble to turn off sexual feelings when they aren't appropriate, then why CAN'T you turn off sexual feelings when you have some other person of the same sex (or a different sex, I guess, whatever) tied up, naked, and you're tickling them, if you feel it's inappropriate to have sexual feelings in that situation? Gooood question, seems to me.

My answer is that maybe you can, but why the hell would you want to be in such an awkward situation in the first place if no one involved was getting a sexual thrill out of it?? An answer to that MIGHT be that it's just pure fun. Now, even if 99.99999% of people would consider that answer to be a total load of bullshit that couldn't pass the laugh test, I suppose it would be possible to find two people for whom naked bondage tickling was honestly not sexual in any way, either consciously or subconsciously. But put that way, it just seems that they would have to be so psychologically different from everyone else that the odds of it occuring with any real frequency would have to be miniscule.

Therefore, it's just far more likely that someone who has some other guy tied to his bed and is tickling him is just repressing the sexuality of the event in order to justify the act. In other words, the guy wants to avoid the guilt and so fishes for support here. But THEN you have to ask why the question pops up so often (pardon the pun).

Damn, seems to me it would be WAY easier to just say "Hey, know what? I'm bisexual, and it's no fuckin' big deal." And in the process of getting right with themselves, they might get lots more great sex along the way.

 

[Cosmo_ac]

Damn, seems to me it would be WAY easier to just say "Hey, know what? I'm bisexual, and it's no fuckin' big deal." And in the process of getting right with themselves, they might get lots more great sex along the way.

A better way i think would be not to let other people determine their sexual orientation. By using simple logic, we can conclude that women engage in f/f tickling all the time on a non-sexual level. By applying this logic, one can safely say that males can also engage in m/m tickling on a non-sexual level. It's really just common logic here people.

That being said, does tickling have to be sexual? Of course not. As already stated, we have those in the comunity who engage in tickling either with children or siblings, or even parents, and it's not sexual for them. And as pointed out before i believe there is NEST gatherings every year where members tickle each other and are not aroused by it. For them it's fun, thats all.

 

[wendynpeter]

A better way i think would be not to let other people determine their sexual orientation. By using simple logic, we can conclude that women engage in f/f tickling all the time on a non-sexual level. By applying this logic, one can safely say that males can also engage in m/m tickling on a non-sexual level. It's really just common logic here people.

That being said, does tickling have to be sexual? Of course not. As already stated, we have those in the comunity who engage in tickling either with children or siblings, or even parents, and it's not sexual for them. And as pointed out before i believe there is NEST gatherings every year where members tickle each other and are not aroused by it. For them it's fun, thats all.

Boy, is THAT a gloss-over job of my post. First, "women engage in f/f tickling all the time on a non-sexual level" might be true, but do they engage in f/f bondage tickling on a non-sexual level? I doubt it. So your analogy quickly falls into pretty murky water. It's not at all "just common logic."

My post very clearly made a distinction between the kind of non-sexual tickling we engage in when we tickle our kids or siblings, and I also pointed out very clearly and correctly that that sort of tickling is beside the point of this thread.

Finally, you honestly think there's nothing sexual going on when people tickle each other at tickle gatherings? That's totally laughable. I'm not saying people are having sex on the floor, but if you think there's nothing sexual going on there at all while people are tickling and getting tickled, then you're kidding yourself in a major way.

 

[Mimi]

Boy, is THAT a gloss-over job of my post. First, "women engage in f/f tickling all the time on a non-sexual level" might be true, but do they engage in f/f bondage tickling on a non-sexual level? I doubt it.

Umm, yes, they can and do. I have. Several times. And there was nothing even remotely sexual about it for either me or the lee/ler. It was simply for fun. And if you doubt me you can ask any of the girls I've tickled or been tickled by (Lite, Prinny, QBWeaver, Njjen).

Finally, you honestly think there's nothing sexual going on when people tickle each other at tickle gatherings? That's totally laughable. I'm not saying people are having sex on the floor, but if you think there's nothing sexual going on there at all while people are tickling and getting tickled, then you're kidding yourself in a major way.

I have NEVER seen anything REMOTELY sexual take place at a gathering, except for one private session I was invited to sit in on that was planned and intended to be sexual beforehand as the top and bottom involved were a couple. And I've been to several gatherings. And anyone else who has attended gatherings can pipe in here too to echo me. Sexual things can and do happen from time to time, but they are rare and always private. The general atmosphere of a gathering is strict platonic fun. In fact, it's a very FAMILY type atmosphere. We all feel the same way about one another we'd feel about close friends and family members...so no, sexual feelings are NOT involved.

You know, it's fine to have your own view on the topic. If tickling is always sexual for you when mixed with bondage, that's okay. That's you. But do not make sweeping generalizations that it is the same for EVERYONE simply because that's how it is for you. Especially making assumptions about what happens at events you've never even experienced. I'm always amazed by the misconceptions many people who have never attended a gathering have about the events themselves, until they actually attend one themselves. Then they finally see for themselves what the rest of us were trying to tell them all along.

 

[tickledgirl]

Umm, yes, they can and do. I have. Several times. And there was nothing even remotely sexual about it for either me or the lee/ler. It was simply for fun. And if you doubt me you can ask any of the girls I've tickled or been tickled by (Lite, Prinny, QBWeaver, Njjen).



I have NEVER seen anything REMOTELY sexual take place at a gathering, except for one private session I was invited to sit in on that was planned and intended to be sexual beforehand as the top and bottom involved were a couple. And I've been to several gatherings. And anyone else who has attended gatherings can pipe in here too to echo me. Sexual things can and do happen from time to time, but they are rare and always private. The general atmosphere of a gathering is strict platonic fun. In fact, it's a very FAMILY type atmosphere. We all feel the same way about one another we'd feel about close friends and family members...so no, sexual feelings are NOT involved.

You know, it's fine to have your own view on the topic. If tickling is always sexual for you when mixed with bondage, that's okay. That's you. But do not make sweeping generalizations that it is the same for EVERYONE simply because that's how it is for you. Especially making assumptions about what happens at events you've never even experienced. I'm always amazed by the misconceptions many people who have never attended a gathering have about the events themselves, until they actually attend one themselves. Then they finally see for themselves what the rest of us were trying to tell them all along.

I'm sorry, this is a total cheap shot and I'm only saying it because I'm really tired and have a glass of wine in me, but...

It's really discongruous for me to see "tickling's not sexual" over that cutie in your sig...

 

[ms.brightside]

does tickling have to be sexual?


it really depends. here are my 2 thoughts.

example #1.) i know most of us adults have a strong sexual attraction to tickling. some of us (including myself) are very sexually aroused at the thought or action of ticking someone of the opposite sex (or same sex, whatever blows your skirt up). i think there has to be a certain amount of sexual attraction to that person to begin with. it certainly does not mean you're hitting on someone if you tickle them....especially if you are doing it to tease a friend or relative.

example #2.) tickling in general is meant to be a fun and pleasant thing. just because tickling can be sexual, does not mean that you are sexually coming onto someone. the best example is tickling a child. i can definately speak for myself when i say that i have absolutely NO sexual intentions or feelings when i tickle a child or infant. and i'm sure that most of you out there (hopefully all of you) agree with that statement!

 

[BigJim]

Okay, I have a question, and again, this is strictly for my own edification, because it's so hard for me to imagine:

If tickling for some is strictly platonic, then why don't more heterosexual guys who swear its platonic, tie and tickle their MALE friends? Why don't I read about guys traveling 3 states to have a tickle session with another male friend, the same way they're willing to do this for females? It seems that this "tickling is fun" thing should apply to all, regardless of gender. I mean, friends are friends, right?

Again, I'm just asking a question because I don't understand the mindset.

Nope, you didn't read mine and Mimi's post right through. It's inherantly sexual and the physiological reaction is become aroused. For me anyway. To do something I find arousing to a grown bloke would give me icky feelings. Perhaps that's me being narrow minded. There are plenty of hetero guys on the UKTF who say they're up for m/m stuff. For me though, although I can tickle someone and consider them to only ever be a friend, I couldn't do it to a male.

Kis makes a good point and I agree. Although inherantly platonic, it's still an act that turns me on if I do it to an adult. I would not feel comfrtable tickling an adult male.

I'm somewhat reminded of the conversation between John Travolta and Samuel L. Jackson in Pulp Fiction.

 

[The_Raptor]

NO,NO,and NO

no offence but in my opinion:
For couples i think if they want to include tickling in their sexual relations(which i don't prefer except they r only tickle attracted to each others)it's ok.
otherwise i think that pure tickling like involuntary(not made up)tickling,mainstream and tickling 4 friendly fun(which is rare in this tickling community 🙄 in stories and other stuff) is way better and also more acceptable to many people .

 

[LindyHopper]

All right... how to say all this without stirring up a world of trouble...

I know the party line has always been "There is nothing sexual about tickling at gatherings." And I know for some people, that's probably true. And I know that there are good reasons for proclaiming this, loudly and often: mostly to help potential new attendees feel safe. I know all that.

But for me... if I'm subject to really good tickling in a group setting, like a gathering, I get turned on. Always have. But the message "There is nothing sexual about tickling at gatherings" was strong and everpresent, to the point that I felt that it was wrong for me to be feeling this way. That I was inappropriate. Dirty. Thus, I kept these feelings to myself for several years, until some of us in our local tickling community finally grew close enough as friends to be honest with each other.

In hindsight, it seems obvious to me that I probably wasn't the only one feeling these things. If people can get turned on by watching a tickling clip, or reading a story about tickling, they can probably get turned on by tickling a real live woman. Duh. 😛 Nevertheless, in our greater tickling community, there is a powerful social prohibition against admitting such a thing. The "correct" response is, "No, tickling that beautiful woman in her underwear, watching her tug helplessly at her bonds, until she laughed and screamed and begged for mercy... was just for fun, and completely platonic. Nothing sexual about it at all."

So... I'm not calling anyone a liar for saying tickling at gatherings isn't sexual for them. I'm just hoping we can allow a little honesty. We're all adults, with what many of us would call a "tickling fetish." And we all understand that the presence of sexual energy during a tickling scene doesn't create permission for uninvited touching or other inappropriate/nonconsentual behavior. So if tickling does create sexual feelings for us, can we be honest with ourselves, and with each other, without having to deny or defend it? Can we create an environment where it's okay for a 'ler to say to a 'lee, "That scene was incredibly hot. Thank you!" without making him feel like scum? I honestly believe that doing so will not result in gatherings degenerating into boob-grabbing and public masturbation. 🙄

I guess I just feel like the sexual aspect of tickling is the elephant in the room that no one wants to talk about, and I think if we could just acknowledge it, we'd feel better.

All right... I've said all that as well as I can. Bring on the outcry - don't worry, I'm used to it. 😉

 

[simulated]

Can we create an environment where it's okay for a 'ler to say to a 'lee, "That scene was incredibly hot. Thank you!" without making him feel like scum? I honestly believe that doing so will not result in gatherings degenerating into boob-grabbing and public masturbation. 🙄

I guess I just feel like the sexual aspect of tickling is the elephant in the room that no one wants to talk about, and I think if we could just acknowledge it, we'd feel better.

I agree completely. I guess both being younger than the average person here, and having grown up in the bay area, one of the most open and accepting places that I've ever found, this has never been an issue for me, but I can see how it is for many.

The gatherings that I've been through have put me through a bunch of different states of mind, and its one of the things that I love about them. They go from sitting around talking and joking with good friends, to wrestling and rolling around on the floor laughing like you did as a kid, to lying around thinking, as you said, "Wow, that was incredibly hot."

And I mean, is there really anything wrong about admitting that to people? If I told you damn, you really turned me on back there, would it really change the relationship that we, or anyone, have? As long as you can trust the people who you're with to respect your boundaries, in my mind, no harm can come from it.

Besides, its not like having nobody expressing these feelings makes them disappear. They're always going to be present. I guess I just feel that having things out in the open allows you to examine how you feel about them, rather than simply trying to keep them bottled up inside.

Just my two cents

 

[simulated]

You are a completely wrong ( which is MUCH nicer than what I was originally thinking to say ). Sadira and I have done three gatherings with a fourth coming up in October. We have had PUBLIC tickling as well as private tickling ( with monitors ) and I can honestly tell you with a shadow of doubt that there NOTHING sexual going on. If you care to find out come to our gathering in October. In fact, I challenge you to come here in October and see for yourself how WRONG you REALLY are.

I'm curious, nothing sexual at all? How do you define sexual? I mean sure, you might not be running an orgy with people running around naked groping each other, but what about people being turned on by tickling? Is that not sexual in and of itself? I know that tickling can be very fun, but also very erotic, and you can't exactly control when you switch between the two.

I highly doubt that there is anyone on this forum who doesn't find tickling to be a turn-on, as it's this reaction to the action that causes us to seek out, and eventually discover, a forum like this.