Here is a curious inquiry

[TickledToDeath]

How many out there have significant others who are either NOT ticklish and or NOT into tickling?

Do they allow you to persue your tickling and or being tickled outside the relationship or do you have to hide it and be sneeky or do you choose to just bury it away never to tickle and or be tickled again?
😕 😕

TTD

 

[shy girl]

Great Post TTD!

I am married to wonderful man who happens to be "Tickle Dead". I choose to hide my desires from him because due to his "misfortune" I feel I would only be the lee in this situation and I enjoy the ler side, as much, if not more than the lee side. I have snuck around in the past in a platonic way and as much as I enjoyed the experience I suffer the guilt from the enjoyment.This post really hits home for me and I often wonder if there are any other married people in my position. I appreciate any advice from our friendly community here who understands our uncontrollable needs. Thanks for the post TTD, you helped me come out of my shell!(wink-wink)

 

[Dragonfly73]

I'm engaged to someone who *hates* to be tickled, and never even knew that tickling could be a kink until he met me. However, once I told him how much I love it, he was more than happy to oblige. I now get tickled whenever I want, and sometimes when I don't! 🙄 I'm still workin' on getting him to let me top him. Sometimes it can be tough to convince people that tickling can be much more than just torture. We'll get there, tho'.

As for play with others... we're both members of a BDSM group here in Columbus (http://moraldsl.tripod.com if ya wanna know more about that), and each of us are fine with playing with other people.

If you're with someone who (you think) doesn't share your kink, the first piece of advice I can give you is TELL THEM! It's pretty tough for someone to give you what you want when they have no idea what it is. I've found that in most situations, tickle-related or not, if I tell my SO what it is that I'd like him to do for me, he bends over backwards to do it. Of course... alot of this has to do with how you do the telling. Don't be whiney, accusatory or complain. Rather, turn on your sexy voice and say, "I'd really love it if you would..." fill in whatever applies to you. I first told Lee about my kink while we were already in the midst of getting hot and bothered... he had inadvertantly run his fingers up my side. I giggled and told him it tickled. He immediately apologized, to which I responded, "It's okay... I like it." Trust me, it didn't take him long to get the hint! :

Hope some of this input helps!

... Anna (aka 'Loo)

 

[TickledToDeath]

You are most welcome Shy Girl! Anything I can do to help!!! Any Time anywhere!😀 😉

Take heed of the advice given here. There are some intelligent people in the TMF and most are very cool too, most of which I would be honored to call friends and have as such.😎 🙂

The position YOU are in with your hubby NOT being ticklish at all is a tough one. You cannot tickle someone who is NOT ticklish but at least maybe if all works out, HE will tickle YOU. As far as you being the LER, therein lies the compromise.


TTD

 

[TicklingDuo]

I am fortunate enough to be married to another tickle lover. But, over the past five years I've been approached by MANY married men who are looking for some tickle fun (some innocent fun, others not so innocent). I would guess that the numbers of those married to people with whom they are unable to share this love is quite high. It's good that we have this place to allow some innocent venting and expression of their desires.

Ann

 

[qjakal]

Once again...

As we've discussed in other threads previously, my wife is NOT into it, despite long terms efforts. We fit together too well otherwise though, and it's been nearly 25 years, so I have adjusted and manage to find enough willing tickle partners elsewhere...I think she knows this but accepts the fact that this fascination is an integral part of what makes me be me. I don't flaunt anything or push the limits, and I wait years if need be before trusting a potential tickle partner, because in effect that is what every encounter entails, on many levels. Tight rope walking without a net... Q

 

[Krokus]

Yea

Well Said Q!

 

[robmic]

mate not into it

Hi everyone;
I can definitly relate to this thread. Tickling has been a part of my life since I was around 4 years old. So, suffice to say, all of my significant others over the years have been introduced to my "tendancies" at one point or another. Some have liked it, some have tolerated it, and a few have hated it. Almost every single woman I have ever even dated have at least been "tested" for ticklishness. Any gal that I had any lenght of a relationship with usually ended up tied up and tickled at least once. The ones that let me indulge when my heart desired got the fruits of their "labor", if you know what I mean.😀 My ex-wife started out great. She was Mexican, extreamly ticklish, and because of what tickling her did to me, she even asked if I would tie her up and tickle her.😀 😉 But, alas, she ended up being a royal bitch to me and most anyone else around her. So, with much regret, I had to bail out.
The lady I'm engaged to now is wounderful, with one exception. She isin't into the tickling thing at all. She has let me indulge a few times, but she didn''t care for it at all, and I don't like to push it. I am very much in love with her, and would like to spend the rest of my life with her, even if tickling isin't a part of it. She may open up a little eventually, so there is some hope.🙂
I have thought of trying descreet tickling encounters, but, her response if she found out isin't the problem. Finding a gal that wants just a tickling encounter and nothing else is, well, highly unlikely, to say the least. And there's no way I'd fool around on her. So I guess I'll just stay here and fantisize. lol You folks that have found partners that like tickling, I am envious, but also, wish you the best!

 

[dvnc]

Been there, done that, burned the t-shirt...

Yeah, I've had lovers that weren't into this, and one lover, back in high school (at Allosaurus High...). Last one lasted for over 7 years, and most of the West Coast Gatherings scene met the lady. We're still friends, she and I, and she wasn't into this at all. Tried to participate, but tickling really just annoyed the hell out of her.

Don't think I'd do another relationship that wasn't either supportive of my events, or participative of my kink. As a kink, tickling steps into many aspects of my life. While I wouldn't sweat it if she wasn't INTO it, I ain't doin' another where she ain't participative of the whole scene. My last lover was SO close, too. Alas.

Oh, and Anna, your beau's also a cool cat. You're lucky that way. He may not WANT to bottom, but I'm fairly certain that the man won't mind you makin' lunch outta someone else in your local scene. See, you have the kinda thing I *WANT*, 'cept for the wrong gender. 😉

dvnc

 

[TickledToDeath]

IN general, it is better to just be open about it and at least take a shot in telling your mate about your passion for tickling as opposed to stashing it away inside you always wondering "what if" or woulda shoulda coulda never knowing and never being able to induldge in your tickling desires or having to sneak off and feeling possibly guilty.

Life is too short.


TTD

 

[Strelnikov]

My wife isn't "into" tickling either. Like my friend Q, I'm not about to cut her loose because of it, and so have had to find alternate outlets for the tickle urge.

I've been attending Science Fiction conventions for the past 25 years or so. Once you become known in that community, its behavioral norms apply to you. These conventions often provide tickling opportunities, and indulging yourself in them is usually considered completely unremarkable by everyone. If she objects, quit. If she doesen't, then tickle away and maybe others will join the fun too.

I've been using my handle as a badge name at conventions for some time now. If you attend SF cons in the Southeast, look for me and say hello.

Strelnikov

 

[Slappy McGee]

wow

what an interesting thread we have here....I'll throw my hat into the ring too....

my last GF was so completely not into tickling, or feet, both of which I like alot... and she did endulge me a few times at first.... but pretty soon I realized I was the only one having fun with it, and after that, I really never tried again... I would fantasize she was into it , and all the fun I could have, but to me I really need someone who is enjoying themselves when it comes to a lover..... we ultimately didn't work out, for a lot more reasins than I just stated, but I know it at least played a part.....I used to try to tell myself that I could still be with and love someone who didn't share my kinks, but I have come to realize that it is an important part of me, just like I need someone who likes weird music and movies like I do.... it is just something I need to have...

reflecting on those of you who were commenting on how you loved your spouse regarless of a lack of tickle match.... I think that is awesome..and I think you must match so well with your partner otherwise....and truly sacrifice is the ultimate action of love...

evryone find your happiness, wherever it is...

Slappy McGee

 

[Strelnikov]

Slappy, remember that us older folk did our courtin' in pre-internet days. Most of us thought we were the only ones with a weird attraction to tickling and did our best to kill it, or at least conceal it. I never thought to look for a ticklephile woman - had no idea they existed - probably that's true of others here too.

Sure, my life would be better in some ways if my wife were an enthusiastic 'lee. But it's pretty good just the way things are, and I'm not about to rock the boat.

However...if I could get Tummyticklish to come to the Chattacon science fiction convention (http://www.chattanooga.net/ccon/), I promise I'll tickle her until she's delirious. And I've got friends who will be glad to help.

Strelnikov

 

[duannewalton]

Tickling at Sci-Fi Conventions???

I've been attending Science Fiction conventions for the past 25 years or so. Once you become known in that community, its behavioral norms apply to you. These conventions often provide tickling opportunities, and indulging yourself in them is usually considered completely unremarkable by everyone. If she objects, quit. If she doesen't, then tickle away and maybe others will join the fun too.

Strelnikov [/B][/QUOTE]

Whoa! Hold the phone! What kind of tickling opportunities? Enquiring minds want to know!

 

[toyou444]

I've basically posted my life story on these here boards and AMT...my wife does not and can not understand the whole tickling thing. Yet she enjoys it between us. Actually that leads to another problem: she doesn't see how I could tickle, say a friend, and not have it cause the same feelings it does when I tickle her. I can't really explain it either except that within a relationship its just different...its the way my brain works and when someone can explain it to me I will be a very happy person!

She is more than good to me as far as allowing me to tickleher and to give a good tickling when I need it, but she is only one of like three women who know what it means to me.

I've dated plenty of those who liked to tickle and even be tickled...but I'm not sure what it was to them. Maybe if I had been more open and ASKED but that is in the past and no sense dwelling, eh?

~ toyou

 

[TickledToDeath]

In MY opinion, there is a significant difference between tickling and or being tickled by frineds and tickling a "Lover" beit wife/husband or bf/gf.
Tickling(or being tickled by) a friend is all out FUN and enduldges in the complete thrill of tickling and being tickled whereas when done with a significant other(wife/husband bf/gf, the INTIMACY aspect comes in to play adding that much more to the experience and making it that much more pleasurable and intense.

I hope I made my point clear.😀 😉


TTD

 

[mge99]

My wife is extremely ticklish and hates to be tickled. However, when we were dating I tickled her quite a bit and even though she said she hated it, she married me. After a few years I think it really dawned on her how much tickling meant to me in the area of sex, and it dawned on me that when she said she hated to be tickled that she really didn't enjoy it. She said that as a young girl she had been pinned down and tickled until nealy nauseas by an older male cousin about every time he was around her. We have had several frank talks about my love and need of tickling, and how it is a very important part of my sexual makeup, and her preference not to be tickled. Over the years we have reached a compromise that has allowed us to each have part of what we desire in this area. The compromise is that I don't engage in the daily quick tickles of her that I otherwise would, and did when first married. Instead, I try to limit the tickling to our sexual encounters, not as foreplay for her, but for me after I have satisfied her. In addition, we don't use bondage anymore as we did the first few years of our marriage. During those times, I would restrain her and tickle her without mercy. It wasn't until later that I realized she did not like that. Now, I hold her down so she is not totally restrained, and it's not as bad for her. We have a strong bond in all other areas, so the compromise has been worth it.

 

[TickledToDeath]

mge99

Good going my friend! Compromise is always a equadible solution.

IF you want to slowly re-introduce bondage into the tickle scenario, forgoe the NO MERCY tickling and make it a light, albeit somewhat relentless, SENSUAL tickling!

Slowly she may get into it moreso to YOUR liking.


TTD

 

[TickledToDeath]

toyou..

...as I am sure you know as do alot of others herein, there is a BIG difference between tickling friends and tickling a wife/husband/lover!

Well, at least there SHOULD be!? 😉 😛


TTD

 

[daddy]

I guess I have been very lucky so far in my last few years...but at one time I was not. My ex-wife (when I was 18) was not ticklish at all and it was horrible dealing with that. I knew better but....

Then after that I decided I would never date another woman who at least wasn't ticklish or liked to tickle others and I have stuck to that. Granted, they all have not worked out, but not because of the tickling aspect. When I met Sexi all my dreams came true...a ticklish woman who loved to tickle as well. Then we created HotelTickle and life was great! That was fine but other issues got in the way and alas, we are now apart...so be it.

But since then, I have met someone else and I slowly introduced her to the idea, and guess what? She dug it and has since become a member of this forum! Just the other night I went over to her house and she had a bottle of baby oil out, a fork and a towel. She then lied face down on the bed as I poured the baby oil on her feet and stroked them with the fork as she screamed,laughed and wiggled to my delight!!!!

My advice is to ALWAYS go after what you want, otherwise you will never be truly happy. How horrible it would seem to be to have to visit the TMF and keep it a secret from your significant other! I couldn't live life that way and sooner or later it will catch up to ya.

daddy

 

[TickledToDeath]

Exactly Daddy!

That is the major point I am attempting to get accross to everyone.

There is NO harm whatsoever telling your significant other your feelings about tickling.

You love to tickle and or be tickled!

What is the harm in that?

It is not like you are telling your significant other that you are turned on by children. OR you like severe pain and blood and knife play! OR That you are a Mifia hitman (no offense to the Mafia Hitmen who may be members, 😉 ) It's not like you are telling your Sig. Other that you like to watch the Sopranos because it reminds you soooo much of home and your family! IT's not like you are telling her you have a criminal record or psychopathic tendencies and or a family history of criminal insanity!!!!

It is ONLY Tickling!
A playful affectionate turn on!
The power of Touch!

IF done correctly and introduced slowly and sensually, how could you be looked down upon for it!?

How can one hide such a passion and truly be happy always thinking and living in the world of "What IF"???
That, my friends is not a healthy lifestyle.

Sharing, openness and communication is the way to go.

I am here to help.


Sincerely,

TTD

 

[TickledToDeath]

Anybody else have a story to tell on this topic of discussion?

Come on!


TTD

 

[SkyMaster2]

Think I'll add two cents here and mention that although my wife enjoys our tickling activites, I'm fairly certain she doesn't understand why its a turn on for me. I'm not sure I understand why either... but that's ok.

As for her, she has said that she likes having her feet touched (not the same thing, I know)... so the tickling thing is cool... but I don't think it is as much of a "fetish" for her as it is for me. But hey, as long as she giggles....

One thing I *DO* wish I could get her to like is bondage... but that's a WHOLE 'nother story...

SkyMaster

 

[Celticrose2001]

Sky I have a similar situation. While I am very fortunate in that my hubby accepts my fetish and has even gotten into it to a degree himself(esp as far as being a tickler!😀 ) he dosen't quite "get" how ingrained and intristic it is to my overall being, as much a part of me as my hazel eyes and talkativeness. Also he is not down with bodnage, either getting or giving, thinking he is going to "hurt" me by tying me up, even very gently and loosly, not understanding(though I have tried to explain it to him many a time) that the helplessness and defenslessness of the bondage is one of the very things which to me make tickling so erotic.

 

[ForgottenTcklr]

This can be a delicate situation, but with love should be able to be resolved. Hopefully, someone who you truly love and who loves you back, should be willing to make you happy through your fetish even if they do not understand it. Although it may be hardon both of you at first, it may end up being something that not only you, but your lover will cherish as a major part of your relationship. Remember folks; love conquers all... love is all.