I agree - this is an interesting thread. Anyway, I have never discussed the depths of my fascination with tickling with anyone outside the online community – not even my wife. Don’t get me wrong. She allows me to play with and tickle her feet fairly often. (I never get tired of her feet.) She also knows, by my actions, that I have a more intense than normal fascination with her feet and tickling them. I will kiss her feet and suck her toes when the opportunity presents itself, and she occasionally allows me to tie her up, where I use feathers and brushes, in addition to my fingers, to tickle her feet. So if you ask me if my wife knows about my “fetish”, well she’s by no means stupid, so I’m pretty sure she knows, even though we have never discussed the HOW’s and WHY’s. She has never teased me about it or put me down for it. The worst that has happened is that she will occasionally turn me down when I pursue it. She often looks at it as “a waste of precious time”. We have 4 young kids – two with disabilities – so time is a valuable commodity at our house, so she often likes to get to the “down-n-dirty” quicker without the footplay involved. She does let me “indulge” often enough to keep me from frustration, and I do think she gets more out of it than she would like to admit. So, I guess it doesn’t really matter that much whether we discuss it or not. She has no idea I visit forums like this and I do not think that she would approve too much of it. Once again it is a time thing. I do most of my surfing while waiting for things at work. In some ways, I am glad that I have never discussed it in depth with her because when I “tickle play” with my wife, it is very sexual. It always turns me on. I love, and lust, for her completely. I also love the look of her feet, and I love to tickle them. But, I do love to casually tickle women’s feet for fun too, even though I seldom get an opportunity. For instance, my wife has 2 older sisters. One of my sister-in-law’s is incredibly ticklish. I have no real attraction to her and would never consider anything other than foot-tickling with her. Her feet aren’t even very pretty. But she is damn fun to tickle. She often likes to play tickle games with the kids, where she is the chief tickler. What ends up happening is that my kids and her kids will enlist my help in getting her back. I usually pretend that I really don’t want to play, but I’m eventually “convinced” that their aunt needs a good tickling. It is usually a lot of fun for me. She hates it. Anyway, I feel that if I had ever talked about my fetish with my wife beforehand, she might have looked at these tickle incidents with her sister as flirting, and possibly gotten jealous. It might have caused some problems. When I tickle my wife, it is flirting. When I have casually tickled another woman, it never is the same. I can tickle a woman’s feet that I have no emotional attachment to, and enjoy tickling her and still have no desire for any more physical contact, or connection with her. The tickling is fun by itself. I think a lot of us in this forum feel the same way. I’ve seen this sentiment expressed again and again here on this board. Is this something unique to our fetish? All I know is that the way I have decided to handle my foot/tickling fetish has worked out okay for me so far. I do believe that if I had all the online resources that we have now when I was in college (1979-84), I would have been a lot bolder with the girls I was dating. Like a lot of you, I thought at that time that I was quite an oddball – all alone with my fetish. Opportunities were all around me, and I let them pass because of the fear of ridicule. I know I would be a lot more assertive if I was attending school now. Hell I’m 10 times as assertive with my fetish now as I was then, and a lot of it has to do with the comfort I feel from being part of a much larger-than-I-thought minority.
Sorry for rambling,
Gallodiablo