If you could get rid of your tickling fetish, would you?

[tickledorange]

Nope, but, I've always wondered what life would be like if I never loved tickling.

 

[HisFlyinFingers]

On one hand, my love of tickling could be seen as a hindrance. I, however, see it as a source of strength.

Because of it, specifically the idea throughout my early life that it was weird or even wrong, I have explored both the written text on human sexuality and my own psyche far more than I ever would have otherwise. I understand myself better on a human level than if I hadn't found early on that I was different in some small way from others. Obviously now I have accepted tickling as a wonderful part of my life; but without that period of question I would not have the individuality I have today.

Many of the people I have discussed this with (I'm very open about it) tell me that they don't really fantasize, that they rarely bother imagining the possibilities associated with the physical connexion between two humans. The foresight they lack is a vital part of my sexuality, I shudder to think of my ignorance had I not been compelled by tickling to explore all forms of what it means to be a sexual human being.

 

[sole seeker]

Yep, I'd dump it in a heartbeat!

Like others have said, it's damn tough to find a lady who's into it.

I found one and things didn't work out. She wasn't going in the direction I needed to go with my life.

My wife is not in the least interested in this part of my life. If my tastes were more "vanilla" the number of women I'd have been interested in would have been much higher. (Back when I was single.)

Oh well, I still found a great lady to marry!
And I have you guys for company.

 

[battlecat]

I love it !!!

No way Jose!! I love tickling, always have, always will.

To tell you the truth I don't even really consider my love of tickling a 'fetish' anyway. I am not into dominating girls or really tickle-torturing them beyond their limits (not that there's anything wrong with that if thats what you are into !!) and I would hate anyone to do that to me.

I just simply love to have fun and playfully tickle girls, hear them laugh and giggle, feel them wriggling beneath my fingers, see the look in their eyes as I tease their 'tickle spots', and I absolutely adore it if and when they get me back. Tickle fights are just the best !!! I'd hate to give that up!!!

For me (and excuse me for going on about this if you've read it before!!) its all about mutual enjoyment and mutual respect. The girl I'm tickling has to be enjoying it too or else I don't want to know. If she shows signs of distress or says stop, I stop immediately. No question !! If its not fun for her...it's not for me either.

Ok we also use tickling as foreplay in the bedroom and I have to admit its a real turn-on for me but I can and I have had sex loads of times without any 'proper' tickling (although I am way too ticklish to get through a 'session' without abit of laughing especially if she strokes my chest or 'accidently' holds onto my sides...jeez that makes me wriggle and laugh like crazy!!)

I am also sorry if this sounds like I am boosting (well i probably am abit !!) but I have never really had a problem finding girls to tickle either....most are my friends now anyway. As I said earlier for me its all about fun and mutual enjoyment...girls love to be held, cuddled and.....tickled, but with me I sort of let them know that it's them that are in charge of it, Ok I often surprise them but if they love it I tickle...they say 'no-more' or 'not now' I stop...it's so simple... and I have found that ladies really like that control and if they're happy.. I am too because it means I get to do it again...Yummy!!

Anyway getting back to the subject (finally!!) No I would hate to give up either tickling or being ticklish myself....It has just bought me too much pleasure to ever want to stop and it kinda makes me feel sad that so many guys and girls in this thread would like to be free of it. Obviously alot of people out there have had bad experiences and to them I can only say that I am sorry it has bought you so much pain but I love it !! :devil2

 

[luvgirlsfeet]

oh Hell's No

 

[TMF Jeff]

I'm AMAZED at the number of yes answers that I'm seeing. There is no way I would ever want to change my fetish or be anything other than what I am. I love tickling and torturing women, and I love that I love that.

 

[NG02]

Damn good question. Like many ppl have said I have wondered what life would be like if the fetish for tickling wasnt in my blood. I would have to say that I dont think I could give it up. I might not get action every day or every week for that matter, but its the times I have had that would forever hold me to the fetish. If I didnt have the fetish I would have never had the awesome times that are still burned into the back of my eyes at this moment. So my vote would be no.

 

[Iluv2Btickled]

No. Being ticklish and luving to be tickled is the only thing that makes me feel sexy, and attractive. Tickling has brought soo much happiness in my life, and has allowed me to share w/ others, its indescribable.

 

[scorpionldr]

i would say no, i wouldn't get rid of it. i like talking to girls about it, and i haven't recieved any really negative comments about it, just that they're really ticklish and they're not sure if they'll be able to enjoy it as much as me. but i also think about the occurance of tickling, and i think since i usually don't manage to tickle girls for the hell of it, that i could put up with just the occasional tickle. i don't want them to feel like fetish slaves that have to roll around writhing in ticklish pleasure unless they want to

 

[P50]

Poll

Okay, I put the same question in the Polls forum.


http://www.ticklingforum.com/showthread.php?t=64482

 

[LVTicklr]

Hell no......for I truly love having this fetish,for it helps give me much-needed character in my personality(since I discovered that side of myself at both this very board and the Footnight parties,where it further envolved,in a very positive way),and I'm truly proud of being a true tickle fiend.

 

[switchtickler]

Such a Good Question

And I can't answer it . . because I don't have a tickle fetish. I came to this board to better understand a partner who has an enthusiasm for tickling. What strikes me about your answers to this question is how we could so easily be talking about any other part of the sexuality that makes us need other people to be happy. I need lots of foreplay to come (yes, I am a girl. . .) and this has caused inumerable problems. Men who are good matches in other ways; thoughtful and caring guys, have just miserably failed in the foreplay department. I end up wishing I didn't need it, even though it's such a great feeling, becuase then I could be happy with the majority of guys out there. But I'm looking for someone who I can share my various kinks with, who will listen and be open and do stuff even if it isn't their favorite b/c it makes me happy. I know that I don't have it as 'hard' as someone with a major tickle thing, don't get me wrong, but there are parallels. We are all looking for someone who fits a bunch of our needs - even (especially) the ones that make us feel like we just ain't normal.

I've actually found that tickling works pretty well as foreplay, even for someone like me who isn't that into tickling. It's a situation where I can have a guy be very focused on touching me and watching my reactions, and I can be excited because touching me is turning him on. Mix that in with a little of my favorite kinds of stimulation and we are good to go. It's like any relationship - compromise!

 

[Ticklish9's]

Tentatively, yes.

I hate having to keep a secret from my friends, but I find myself unable to open up about it for whatever hangups I may have (believe me, I'm in no way a shy or closed-up person in any other regard).

I dislike that I am unable to seriously consider a "vanilla" relationship, and I REALLY dislike having to watch my behaviour carefully in cases of flirting and so forth.

I'm typically in an environment where casual contact, flirting, and yes, tickling, is fairly common. Yes, it sounds great, and it is, but it leaves me constantly wondering - how much tickling is TOO much? Have I gone too far? Have I embarassed myself? Did I get too drunk and tickle too many people too much?

I'm also in a very accepting environment, which to an extent has alleviated these concerns, but it must be nice never to worry about it.


On the other hand, one can only presume that "vanilla" folk worry about the same things we do, but with breasts and so forth instead. I have no idea. Although now that I think about it, I can't imagine there are all that many truly vanilla people out there. Given the number of fetishes that exist (a large number), the number of people that exist (not all THAT large a number), and the repressed nature of nearly every fetish besides the so called "normal" ones that prohibits openly expressing them, I just don't think there's that many non-afflicted people.

Too bad I'm not psychic. :lol:

 

[isabeau]

I'm AMAZED at the number of yes answers that I'm seeing. There is no way I would ever want to change my fetish or be anything other than what I am. I love tickling and torturing women, and I love that I love that.

now jeff sounds like my kind of man. interested in fulfilling this tickle deprived lee? lol just kidding. but the women in your life are very lucky

isabeau

 

[TklshRbn]

Yes, I would have that particular part of my brain wiped in a New York minute. For one thing, I have only just discovered that I have this "interest," and it is quite late in my life (I am 59). Barring spending several hundred dollars to hire a professional, I am never going to get a chance to experience tickling a young adult girl. My wife is already anorgasmic and anaphrodisiac and hates tickling to boot. The only way I could indulge this "interest" is vicariously, by spending $$$ on vids and clips. But spending hours in front of a TV or my 'puter with my johnson in my hand is no way to live a life.

So--yes. I'd drop it.

*added later*

I'm AMAZED at the number of yes answers that I'm seeing. There is no way I would ever want to change my fetish or be anything other than what I am. I love tickling and torturing women, and I love that I love that.

Of course you wouldn't change it. You get to indulge your fantasies as much as you want. However, not all of us are in the position of being producers of tickling videos.

 

[TMF Jeff]

I started MPT when I was 27, so I've lived way more of my life without it than with it, and I would have said the same thing before I became a producer.

 

[TklshRbn]

I started MPT when I was 27, so I've lived way more of my life without it than with it, and I would have said the same thing before I became a producer.

Jeff, I wasn't intending to be nasty, and I hope you didn't read that into what I said. I was just pointing out that there is a world of difference between your situation and mine.

 

[TMF Jeff]

No, I understood what you meant, I was just pointing out that I've been in your situation too and it didn't make me want to change what I am.

People who don't have our fetish experience the same frustrations that we do, changing this aspect of our lives would not, in my opinion, lead to any greater or lesser happiness.

 

[natural tickler]

In some ways yes, and in others no

Yes because somewhat it has become a problem, as my other half isn't into it as much as I am, which is currently causing problems. I mean, she gets tickled all the time, but that is because she accepted it as a way of life. All her life she's been tickled, so she sees it as everyday living. However, the only time she tickles is in revenge, which is rare anyway. Trying to get her to convert, but it is hard, believe me

No because I love what I do. I love to tickle, period. And the fact I have plenty of people to tickle, makes it even more wonderful. I fufill everything everyday, and that makes it lovely

Very good question

 

[TklshRbn]

No, I understood what you meant, I was just pointing out that I've been in your situation too and it didn't make me want to change what I am.

People who don't have our fetish experience the same frustrations that we do, changing this aspect of our lives would not, in my opinion, lead to any greater or lesser happiness.

That is certainly true. I know that I was having to deal with sexual frustrations stemming from my wife's complete loss of interest in participatory sex long before I discovered I was a tickler.

I guess what's important is learning to deal with our frustrations in a civilized manner, no matter what the source of the frustrations is.

 

[natural tickler]

i must be friggin invisible or something. from now on i think i'll keep my posts to a minimum

isabeau

I see you. No need to hide

 

[Ayumi Emi]

I know it's hard on the men, because it can be hard to get a girl to be submissive kind of and trust you to tickle her, especially if bondage is involved.

But for ladies who are ler, it's just as hard, or even harder. Do you know how many men think it's COMPLETELY unmanly to submit to a woman and would rather be strung up by their balls than be submissive???

That's fine though, that's their psyche, I wouldn't want to be with an unwilling partner, but it IS hard to find a man who's willing to be submissive and trust his woman not to be a crazy dominatrix, and to be self-confident enough to ENJOY all this attention his woman is lavishing on him, in whatever form...

I would never EVER give up my fetish, especially if after having done so I would be required to reach into the "fetish grabbag" and pull out another. There are so many "weird" fetishes out there (I call them weird cause I don't find them interesting, but that doesn't mean there's anything wrong with the people who enjoy them, for the mostpart [pedophelia and such are the exceptions])

Perhaps it would be easier to just be a plain woman who liked plain sex. But where is the line anyways? Is oral sex considered plain sex? I certainly don't think so, it's a very kinky thing to do, according to the standards of many. Today many are very open about their sexuality, and are into experimentation, but then we are vlucky to live in "today" 🙂

I enjoy "plain" sex as much as I enjoy crazy sex brought on by a bout of tickling, but I would never give up that little extra thing that can drive me totally wild. Of course, if regular sex drove me just as crazy, where would be the contrast, cause cmon... not every time can be crazy wild, there has to be some form of mediocrity... I guess if there are people who hit the heights of ecstacy every single time by just doing "regular" things, they are really freaking lucky!!!

 

[tklshchris]

i'm torn

Its not that I want to change who I am, it's just that it is torture to be so turned on by something that you are considered a freak for liking. It is even further torture to know that there are women out there into it, but you can never meet them because you are a dime a dozen to them.

Just for the record, I love being a 'ler. However, if I met a girl into tickling I would submit to her for my love of tickling in a heartbeat. For me, that is part of the excitement. While it is a little humiliating to be "dominated" by a woman as a grown man, that fuels my love for the non-con aspect. It is a turn on when someone who should be powerful is so ticklish that they can be wreck by someone seemingly weaker...just my take on it.

 

[theshire]

This is a very difficult question.

I am in agreement with a lot of others here. As a Ler, I find it quite unlikely that I will ever find a woman with whom I want to spend my life and whom will voluntarily allow me to tie and tickle her. It just isn't very probable. So in the sense that there will always be that sexual frustration inside of me, then I would probably answer, "Yes".

But I still love this fetish. I love the feeling in the few rare occassions I get to briefly tickle a woman. And I love simply coming here everyday, talking about it and viewing the material.

Besides, there are enough clips here and at Tickle Theater to help me keep myself gratified for a while.

 

[tickleshotel]

Hell NO,not for a second with the thought cross my mind! Why? I have always had a passion for tickling since childhood whether I was the Ler or the ticklee and my love for tickling is one of the characteristics that make me unique,special. Also, since being a member here and chatting online as well as telephone conversations in addition to attending a few tickle gatherings where I have met,socialized and have established wonderful meaningful friendships with others here on the forum that are dear,priceless to me in my life and I would not change a thing. For me personally,this is much more than a tickling forum,it is like my 2nd home where I care about my friends who some I have chatted with for years,orthers are somewhat recent friendships but each one of my friends here mean alot to me . So No,I wouldn;t drop my love for tickling ,being tickled as I know I am not alone in this love for laughter,and chatting,meeting with others that share the love for tickling 😀