My Boyfriend doesn't like to be tickled... Suggestions?

[rhiannon]

You asked the question while responding to me, referring to her in the third person. If you want to ask her, you should respond to her and refer to her in the second person by using the pronoun "you" instead of "she."

In the post you quoted I explained to you what I wanted to know in an earlier post from her. Didn't mean that I wanted to know that from you.

 

[2ticklish2say]

My boyfriend hated being tickled too. He'd get annoyed when I'd tickle him saying "seriously...stop," but sometimes I'd go just a liiittle bit farther to get him to tickle me to 'make me stop.' He didn't like it on him, but he didn't seem to mind giving me a few tickles. Anyway, I finally finally ended up telling him (first person ever) and he not only thought it was 'lovely,' but now he finds tickling more and more sexy he said. So....I know this sounds like the best-case scenario, but he definitely changed his attitude towards tickling. I also take it really easy for the most part unless he says I can go harder. Even then though I stop immediately when he wants me to so he learns that he still has some control and it's not uncomfortable. Basically, he just asked that I reintroduce him to it. So if this man really cares for your sexual pleasure, and pleasure in general for that matter, I'd give it a shot.

 

[aun_existe_amor]

I hate being tickled. I have tried being gradually introduced to the lee side by someone I met on TMF. I still hate being tickled. It hasn't got anything to do with loss of control or childhood experiences. I just HATE the way it feels. There is nothing at all pleasurable about being tickled. There isn't ANY strategy that would be able to change that for me.

Some people like it, some people can tolerate it, and some people hate it and can't ever tolerate it.

The best thing to do is decide whether or not you can live without tickling being part of your sexual relationship. You can't expect people to put up with something just because it turns you on. It doesn't show that they love you anymore than you going without something that turns you on shows that you love them. Don't try to change him, respect him. He knows definitely that he doesn't like it so just don't do it!

 

[Jester_ink]

just find away to talk about it with him if he means something to you then he'll come around maybe not at 1st but give him a chance to think about it and try it out. if you do bring it up and he shoots it down just let it sink in. and keep tickling him either he will grow to enjoy it or he wont but you gotta keep being you missy

 

[WorkInProgress]

Don'tAskJustTickle: I have two things to say to you.

#1: Thank you Winston Churchill. (http://www.wsu.edu/~brians/errors/churchill.html)

#2: At least Rhiannon and I aren't the same person.

 

[NonConTickler]

"You can only fuck me if you let me tickle you. Take it or leave it." If he's p-whipped enough he'll buckle. If not, find a boyfriend who is. It's everyone for themselves. Getting what you want is more important than the other person.

 

[rhiannon]

Don't try to change him, respect him. He knows definitely that he doesn't like it so just don't do it!

Couldn't agree more!

"You can only fuck me if you let me tickle you. Take it or leave it."

Just about everybody in the world who has some self-esteem will tell you bye if you say that. But hey, you probably already know that! 🙂