New Job..

[Mitchell]

I had so much going on lately, that I forgot this, but it just dawned on me when I looked at my Facebook.

When you brought up this issue in the other thread.., last time. I changed my profile settings on Facebook so only "Friends" can find me. You already had me linked from the picture I have on the forum, so, you just have it already.. and keep beating a dead horse about the same subject.

I've been advised..by those in my real life who know I belong to this place, to take a long hiatus from here, and to leave this forum for good.

I hadn't wanted to do that.. for several reasons.

1. There were people who were very supportive to me, when my mom was sick and died, and I feel like I would be turning my back on Friends if I did so.

2. Jeff found me the link to Jim Gardner's newscast, which I've always appreciated, and has been a great help to be able to watch it during my years in NY.

3. Jeff and Myriads were patient with me, when I was using the wrong approach with new girls, and didn't ban me, and, unlike some people I know. (Ahem, Chicago) allowed me to figure out to change my behavior of how I approach new people.

4. As much as I hate threads like this, and some of the people who contribute to them, I do still enjoy certain things about this forum, talking to people, the P and R at times, reading old posts, old stories by myself, and others, etc,.

5. I've had so much change in the past three years, this forum is familiar to me, much as I still watch WPVI's newscast, because it is something familiar.

I have to wonder how much longer I will take those things into consideration, before the attacks cause me to reach my breaking point, where I will leave.

Everything is all Mitch's fault though, according to genius Chicago. No one else dragged threads to the front of the forum after months, to start all this shit.

 

[Hemmen]

The fact that other people drag threads to the front doesn't obligate you to respond. Nobody can "start shit" if you ignore them, which you seem incapable of doing.

Maybe that long hiatus is in order. It's been how many years that you've repeated this pattern?

 

[Mitchell]

So its all my fault in your opinion, Henmen, and no one else has any input into this thread? I'm the one who should take the hiatus, but none of them, like, Chicago, who also has this pattern for years, should shut up, or receive discipline under this supposed "Golden Rule".

Your viewpoint is just as twisted as Chicago's is.

 

[Mitchell]

This is what I really think.. but of course those in this thread who repeatedly attack me, with it being called "Not an attack" under this supposed Golden Rule, like Henemen and Chicago, will have their twisted viewpoint anyway.

It was a mistake on my part to post the thread about Greenpeace until I actually took the job.

The other two threads.. the one that was five months old, and dragged to the first page, and the one where whoever it was.. posted about my goings on here on Facebook, were not my responsibility.

In regard to the thread about the law firm falling through, especially since the fucking thing happened OVER FOUR MONTHS AGO.. People couldnt think.. "Gee, that was a difficult thing for him, to lose this big account he thought he was going to have, and then be forced to leave Aflac, after how hard he worked to pass the insurance exam, and get the account, we're going to leave it alone".

There had to be justification of why the thread was dragged to the front of the page after FOUR MONTHS and beaten on again.

Simply because.. someone found my profile on Facebook, such gave whoever it was.. justification.. to post humiliating posts, on a completely different forum, in a venue where Mitch deals with people in real life? Posting attacks on one forum arent enough, they had to take it to a second forum.

All this happens, and I'm the one who should take the hiatus .. in Henmen's view

The more time I spend here, the more warped and twisted the things that are posted get,.

 

[Dussicar]

I had so much going on lately, that I forgot this, but it just dawned on me when I looked at my Facebook.

When you brought up this issue in the other thread.., last time. I changed my profile settings on Facebook so only "Friends" can find me. You already had me linked from the picture I have on the forum, so, you just have it already.. and keep beating a dead horse about the same subject.

I've been advised..by those in my real life who know I belong to this place, to take a long hiatus from here, and to leave this forum for good.

I hadn't wanted to do that.. for several reasons.

1. There were people who were very supportive to me, when my mom was sick and died, and I feel like I would be turning my back on Friends if I did so.

2. Jeff found me the link to Jim Gardner's newscast, which I've always appreciated, and has been a great help to be able to watch it during my years in NY.

3. Jeff and Myriads were patient with me, when I was using the wrong approach with new girls, and didn't ban me, and, unlike some people I know. (Ahem, Miss Maven Mairead) allowed me to figure out to change my behavior of how I approach new people.

4. As much as I hate threads like this, and some of the people who contribute to them, I do still enjoy certain things about this forum, talking to people, the P and R at times, reading old posts, old stories by myself, and others, etc,.

5. I've had so much change in the past three years, this forum is familiar to me, much as I still watch WPVI's newscast, because it is something familiar.

I have to wonder how much longer I will take those things into consideration, before the attacks cause me to reach my breaking point, where I will leave.

Everything is all Mitch's fault though, according to genius Mairead. No one else dragged threads to the front of the forum after months, to start all this shit.

Jesus! You're a 50 year old punk!

Everything Chicago has said to you is 1000 per-cent true.

You have lived for about a half of a century and YOU STILL HAVEN'T FIGURED LIFE OUT YET!!!!!!

Fuck, you're useless! To everyone but yourself.

 

[Angel_2]

Mitchell, If you have an issue with people bringing back this topic to the top of the general Discussion section don't reply. You feel as if some people only reply to this topic to attack you? I have to be honest I see very few if any replies as attacks on you. Rather what I see is someone's opinion or advice that you don't agree with and view as an attack. You do tend to post a lot of information(which you are more then welcome to do) but you can't view it as an attack if you don't agree with it. My advice is don't reply if you don't like what people say.

 

[Hemmen]

It was a mistake on my part to post the thread about Greenpeace until I actually took the job.

This is part of the problem. You've said words to this effect over and over, in thread after thread, but it seems you never learn from those self-admitted mistakes. How many times do you have to say "It was a mistake to post _____" before it occurs to you that something needs to change?

 

[Mitchell]

Angel, I dont view your post as an attack, but what people arent seeing is the other side of what I'm saying.

Threads,., that are.. months old, and should have been dead and buried on back pages, like the one about the post on Facebook from November, and the one about Aflac from October, are brought to the forefront, for discussion, and attack, time and time again.

Case in point.

Something I'm admitting.. I did. which caused what I now know was a justified attack against me, and.. something which even my mom, as much as she loved me, told me I got attacks which I deserved.


When my mom was still alive, I made a post about a very personal letter between my parents. It was at the time my mom was fighting cancer, and I was dealing with her illness all alone.

The response was terrible, and it went on, for weeks,.

My mom knew about it at the time, because.. I told her what happened. Know what her reaction was?

"You posted our current personal business on the forum, they gave you what you deserved".

Point taken, and understood. I couldnt argue with her.

Nowhere did anyone in this thread say,.and especially the threads about being attacked on Facebook, and leaving Aflac, from months ago.

"Those were old threads, about difficult subjects, the people who put those to the front of the page, to be discussed for more weeks, shouldnt have done so. "

All I'm hearing is..

"Mitch shouldnt reply"

I cant win.

No matter what I say.. there will always be another excuse, reason, or post.. to post something attacking against Mitch, even when people bring threads that are months old to the first page to discuss again,.

I honestly dont know why I just havent thrown in the towel, especially after threads of months ago were dragged to the first page.

All I can do, is wait for them to go away, post no other information about my personal life, good, or bad, anywhere, and, when I feel the motivation to close a chapter of my life that is 13 years old, do so then.,

I dont expect anyone to see anything I'm saying. It's always just another reason to post something negative against Mitch

 

[Mitchell]

Hemmen, once again, you are only going off on me.,. and nothing about.. why threads that were months old, were dragged to the first page by people.

 

[rdhd]

Mitch - I'll try to be constructive here. Like many have said, if an old thread of your's pops up that you hoped had died, well, yes, ignore it (OK, read the responses, but don't respond back). Whether good or bad. Maybe even don't read them. Eventually, they'll go the way of the dodo. Reading the responses on these recent ones, it's obvious they are setting off triggers in your mind. Right now, you need to be focusing on interviews for jobs - the stress you are getting from responding to these posts is certainly not helping your self esteem. We don't want to see the "negative Mitch", rather we want to see the new, improved, and successful "positive Mitch". Seriously, let these old ones die as so many other posts have, and give us some positive new ones to celebrate with you.

 

[Angel_2]

Mitch, I think most everyone here would agree any good news about your life, job(s), ect would be most welcomed and well received. I'm trying to better understand the situation, if say you feel you are being attacked by someone my question is why do you share such personal information about yourself, things going on in your life, things about your family or how they feel about life decisions you've made for yourself? because to be honest that will open yourself up to opinions that others may not agree with (which they are entitled to do) but you shouldn't view that as a personal attack on you. I say instead of solely focusing on the negative use it and turn it into a positive motive to turn your life around. I don't believe anyone here is rooting against you I think they are trying to give you different perspectives from their point of view.

 

[Mitchell]

It's absolutely unreal how everyone, including both of you, are twisting this whole thing to make it my fault, and not one person has said.. "These threads were brought to the forefront for the purpose of attacking him, enough is enough"

"I should be looking for jobs".

"The New and Improved Mitch"

"Everyone has a right to comment. "

With each reply, the thing gets more and more twisted.

Bottom line, and I don't expect anyone would see this, to get it to stop.

The only thread that really should not have been posted, was the one about Greenpeace, until I actually had the job.

The other threads.. about the law firm, and the thing on Facebook, were months old, and were brought to the forefront, for no other reason other than for whoever did it to attack, with it being justified by the mods that "Someone had something to say". .

I posted the thread about the law firm, because, at the time, my supervisor had told me he had every reason to believe they were going to sign with us, and gave me the okay to share such with my family and friends.

The Facebook thread, that was sheer frustration that someone from this forum, took whatever goes on here, with the sole purpose and intent of humiliating me in a completely different forum, where I deal with people in real life.

In the past, when I posted a current thing which caused a furor. "IE. My father did X to me. " I absolutely deserved the replies I got, and admitted so in the forum. I don't post rants about him in the main forum anymore do I? I don't even discuss what goes on between he and I in my blog anymore, because I seriously don't want to hear anyone's "opinions" about what goes on in a very personal and difficult relationship in my life. I keep my feelings about him to myself.

This, to have threads that are months old, brought to the forefront,.. for the sole purpose of people attacking me, is nothing more than intended as just that, an attack.

Bottom line:

I was talking to a close friend of mine, a forum member.. off the forum, last night.

I told this person that these threads really want to make me leave, for good.

They suggested I take a hiatus.

I'm going to let the threads play out, knowing what the intent was.. and is,. when threads like these were brought to the forefront after months.

After that, I'm not going to post any personal information about myself. I've already deleted several blog posts.

When I'm ready, I'm likely going to leave the forum, for a long time, and maybe, for good. I think I hadn't wanted to leave, because of all the changes in my life over the past four months, past almost three years since my mom passed away, and because., I thought that those who had been supportive to me during that time, were my friends. .

These threads show me otherwise.

 

[chicago]

These threads you initiate.

 

[chicago]

Whatever, you're the fucking maven of the world.

Still using my real name after multiple requests for you not to.

 

[Wolf]

Seriously, Mitch....

What are you looking to accomplish when you start these threads? Validation? Acceptance? Social contact?
I gotta say, I'm conflicted. At times, I've felt sorry for you, because you're definitely the favorite target for one or more trolls, and their obsession with picking on you is pretty evident. Why do you insist on putting yourself out there, and then lashing out at people who apparently aren't giving you exactly what you're seeking?

 

[Mitchell]

My using your "real name" pales in comparison to the vicious replies you seem to give in every thread I make, CHICAGO!

Wolf,. because I believe your post is sincere, I'm going to give you an honest answer.

At the time I posted the thread about the law firm joining.. I wanted to share with my friends.. who seemed happy for me that I passed the insurance exam.. about what I believed was a major step for me at Aflac.

The suddenness of how the thing fell apart, was just shocking.

I don't think you understand, Wolf.

It isn't a question of giving me "exactly what I want". There;s a big difference between someone disagreeing with a person, and people who intentionally bump threads solely for the purpose of viciously lashing out at someone.,

The fact that this whole thing was taken to another forum entirely, shows me what the intent is here.

I've admitted my mistakes here, have I not?

Did anyone.. who attacked me in any of these threads.. anyone from CHICAGO. (Typing your name in capital letters to make sure you get it) to anyone else, ever say.

"Okay, the Aflac situation was difficult for him.. it happened.. four months ago.. we're going to leave him alone about it".,

No, they had to bump a thread, and pile on again, justifying themselves about why they had the "right to do it", and being given carte blanche by the mods to do so, under this supposed "Golden Rule".

No matter what I say, there will be the justification of why people can/should/have the right to/attack me, with it being called "Not an attack" under this supposed "Golden Rule".

I think there should be a sign on this forum.

"Be careful what you post here. People can say whatever they want, and if you get attacked, nothing will be done. "

It's the hypocrisy that makes the thing worse than it is.

Whatever already.

 

[Wolf]

I am being sincere. I can't see the logic in someone who takes things so personally (as you seem to do) continually posting about your personal life on a (mostly) anonymous internet forum. Half of the time, it seems like you're attacking the ones trying to give you legitimate advice, and the other half, you're responding warmly to people who are clearly and gleefully trolling you.

 

[JJB]

Spiffy, the reason the person tracked me down on Facebook, is because my picture is here.

Mitch, that's likely not the reason why they tracked you down. I sent you that PM a month or so ago on things to change/remove from just your profile that make it easier for people that dislike you to find more info out about you. I didn't know what you looked like, and I was still able to find a lot out about you from a simple search, showing you how easy that was to do.

Online security is important and you need to ask yourself WHY you post anything personal here in the first place. Don't take this as an attack on you, but why do you WANT to share these things on a forum where maybe 2 or 3 people "know you" and thousands of them do NOT?

Honestly, very few people on a fetish-based forum care about the personal lives of others, you included. Just being honest. We don't need to know those things. Only your real friends and family do. Posting random thoughts on a "what are you thinking about now?" thread is different than the job interviews you've gone on or why your "aunt the artist" (or your father, or his wife) think you should or shouldn't take a job. We shouldn't even know about these people, but you just tend to reveal too much...and you don't have to.

There's no reason you even need to post about getting a new job, or quarrels with family members... ever. Whoever bumps the thread does so because you still created it in the first place. While deleting threads would be nice, and I agree that some threads SHOULD die or become archived after a period of time, I still don't know WHY you make those threads in the first place. If anybody wants to know, they can ask you themselves in a PM or email. Everybody else doesn't really care about it all that much.

I'm sure a couple of your closer friends might be happy for you, but why not keep that in a PM or a chat message to only them, rather than a post for thousands to read? In my near-15 years on the forum (spent observing/reading more than posting, as you can see by my low post count), I know the most about you because of everything you've shared, which you don't need to do.

I don't think you even need to take this "hiatus". It's not all or nothing Mitch. I would just never post anything else personal ever again. There's still plenty else you can post about.

Good luck!

(I'm done viewing this thread, which I usually do after I share my thoughts, so no need to reply to me on it and bump it again. You should do the same. Just leave it alone. Focus on something positive and constructive. Baseball season is coming; how about that? Somebody will always stoke the fire again, but eventually it will die out if you just leave it alone. Feel free to PM me if you want to discuss it further rather than in this thread.)

 

[chicago]

No, it doesn't pale in comparison because now you are messing with my personal information and privacy, much like someone did to you finding your fb. Unlike you, I'm careful about the information I put out there. I don't speak about my family here, except in private, or if I do refer to family members, I certainly don't use their real names or give specific details. With my name being so unique, it's very easy to find my real life social media profiles, even without sharing much other information.

Meanwhile, all anyone would have to do to find yours is know your dad's name is Alan, your friend's name is Adam, you have an artist aunt, your first name is Mitchell, you enjoy weather and that news anchor man, you live in NY, but used to live in PA, and that you are a male somewhere in your 40s that used to work for Market America and Aflaac. That's even without your picture being posted here as reverse-image searches do not show facebook profile links in their results. All this information about you that I rattled off, is stuff off the top of my head based on years of your over-sharing here. Does it not disturb you that there are probably dozens, maybe more, of strangers (or worse - people that dislike you like Coldneck, etc) that know so many very personal details of your life? Details that they could do what they want with, pieces that they can put together to easily find you outside of the TMF?

Despite you continuing to start these threads and continuing to respond, and then blaming everyone else for the responses that you open yourself up to, you refuse to take responsibility for them - completely in denial that you can control these situations by changing your behavior. It's much easier to point the finger, though. You start these threads and time and time again, they result in the same issues. You hear something other than "Poor baby" and then you go on to act like said baby because people are treating you like a middle aged man rather than a helpless child. These problems don't happen to any other member here because no other member here starts personal threads as much as you do. That's something you have control over. Why do you even feel the need to share that shit so publicly and dramatically? Is the blog not getting you enough attention? Is it not enough to shoot a few close friends a private message about things like this? Or do you enjoy playing the victim?

Insanity is repeating the same behavior over and over again and expecting different results. Then again, I guess I am insane too, thinking wasting my time trying to get through to you would work if it hasn't over the last decade.

But seriously, stop using my real name or I will report you.

 

[Mitchell]

I love how you talk in such a condescending tone, CHICAGO. YOU just revealed all of MY information, on a public, forum, and are going to report ME for using your real name?

Your attitude and demeanor is positively laughable, twisted, and sick.

OOOH, I just personally attacked you,.

Violation of this supposed

"Golden Rule",

Boo hoo!

 

[chicago]

I love how you talk in such a condescending tone, CHICAGO. YOU just revealed all of MY information, on a public, forum, and are going to report ME for using your real name?

Your attitude and demeanor is positively laughable, twisted, and sick.

OOOH, I just personally attacked you,.

Violation of this supposed

"Golden Rule",

Boo hoo!

All that I "revealed" can be found throughout your post history. This is information YOU revealed. Information YOU offered to the public here. And to be honest, I didn't find what you said to really be a personal attack. If you find my attitude laughable, twisted, sick, what have you, then that's your opinion and the opinion of someone I will never meet who can't get his own life together really doesn't affect me.

 

[Mitchell]

That;'s perfectly fine.

You also have no fucking idea what I'm doing to get my life together, because as I told you I don't post personal info here anymore. All I wrote in this post is that I didn't take the job at Greenpeace, but I haven't posted what else I'm doing for work, and never will, after these threads of the last few days. I had started to write a blog post about something that I'm doing, and then deleted it, after threads from three fucking months ago ended up on the first page. Whatever I was going to write in that blog post will never be written.

 

[Wolf]

That;'s perfectly fine.

You also have no fucking idea what I'm doing to get my life together, because as I told you I don't post personal info here anymore. All I wrote in this post is that I didn't take the job at Greenpeace, but I haven't posted what else I'm doing for work, and never will, after these threads of the last few days.

I think that's a good idea, but it's unfortunate that it took this long for you to come to that conclusion.

 

[Mitchell]

Wolf, thanks, but I find it unfortunate that you see that Chicago has written these vicious posts, time, and time again, and that no one told her to cool it. All everyone did is take issues with me for things.

 

[Wolf]

Wolf, thanks, but I find it unfortunate that you see that Chicago has written these vicious posts, time, and time again, and that no one told her to cool it. All everyone did is take issues with me for things.

I can't speak to anything between you and Chicago, because I'm biased, and even if I weren't, I wouldn't agree with you. But I can say that apart from that, you seem to have a pattern of posting personal stories and deep emotional revelations, and then you're shocked and hurt when internet trolls start a feeding frenzy. You're the one who keeps tossing the bucket of chum.