New Job..

[Mitchell]

I'm going to tell everyone something.

I don't get angry if someone like Wolf.. writes a truly well meaning post, in a thread,. I can think of other people, kis123 comes to mind, shes someone I consider a friend for a long time, who have gotten frustrated with me in certain threads I've posted,.

Someone like Chicago, who time and time again, has come into most every thread I make, to post condescending, vicious replies like

"You're a baby"/

"You cant get your life together".

She';s talking to me sitting up on an imaginary, twisted throne.

I';ve done exactly what to her, to say these things, except, a couple of times in posts, use her real name?

Getting to the "Bottom Line", and looking at "Why" she does it, as a professor once told me.

She knows she can get away with it, because this supposed "Golden Rule" doesn't exist for her.

I've always been a believer, in "What is someone's intent". ?

Her "intent": is pure and simple, to be condescending, and attack, in spite of this supposed

"Golden Rule"

 

[Mitchell]

You can be biased, Wolf, think what you want. Let's just suffice to say that we don't agree about her.

 

[primetime]

Mitchell....

You will probably see this as an attack, but you need to hear (read) it. Stop. Just stop man. You keep saying that these threads were brought up from a few months go with the sole purpose to attack you. Why is every single "non-coddling" post an "attack"? Even Chicago's posts, you are doing a lot more "attacking" than she is.

Ever notice the repeated scenarios with your threads? NO OTHER member of TMF experiences what you do when you make these threads. Ask yourself "why?". Think about it. Why would people go out of their way for the sole purpose of attacking you and NO ONE ELSE? These attacks are in your mind and you perceive them as attacks when they are not. You're threads end up like the Jerry Springer show. Just a bunch of chaos for no good reason.

You say the same thing over and over and over again. You will not make any more personal threads. Then, and I can almost guarantee it, another one comes up. Someone writes something other than "good boy Mitch!" and you blow up. Seriously, this is a pattern over and over and over again. You know how you make this chaos stop?

STOP REPLYING TO PERCEIVED ATTACKS. I know this seems like an insurmountable challenge as you are always compelled to reply, but STOP REPLYING TO PERCEIVED ATTACKS. It is like the "attack" is a match and you pour a 1000 gallons of gasoline on it.

No one wants to see you fail or be miserable, but don't expect people to coddle you and not give differing opinions. Fact of life.

So remember, STOP REPLYING TO PERCEIVED ATTACKS. You will probably see this as an "attack" and let's see how you do.

And here....we....go

 

[Mitchell]

Prime, I don't see your post as an attack. You are giving me honest advice, and you also don't have a history of attacking me, so I';m going to take your post in the spirit in which its meant.

I don't agree with you about Chicago.. Case in point,.prime.

You, GQ Guy, and kis123, all of whom I consider friends, have all written posts just like the one you wrote now, which might come across as "harsh", or "direct" in nature.

Yet..

When good things happened to me, when I passed the insurance exam, etc, etc.

All of you expressed your happiness that I had taken such a major step in my life.

Not once, ever, did Chicago, ever make a post that was in any way positive when something good happened.

Her posts are a history of one thing, repeated, condescending attacks, even if they aren't considered such.

Such is why I have the view of her that I do.

I don't agree with you about no one wanting to see me fail. Nor do I want to be "coddled"., I just think it shows intent when someone like Chicago posts the same shit, time and time again, condescending posts which all basically say the same thing, and nothing ever positive, in any way.

 

[primetime]

Mitch, but here is the thing. This is a repeated pattern. I have two questions I want you to honestly answer.

1) WHY do you make these original threads knowing the potential for attacks can happen?

2) WHY do you keep replying to them?

This thread was originally 2-3 pages. It is now on page 6. You know why?

 

[Hemmen]

Hemmen, once again, you are only going off on me.,. and nothing about.. why threads that were months old, were dragged to the first page by people.

I addressed that one a couple of posts back (#52).

 

[chicago]

I actually did congratulate you on your Greenpeace job and I told you to be proud of yourself for getting something so quickly when everyone knew how hard it was after losing Aflaac. But it's convenient to forget that when attempting to make me out to be the bad guy despite your continued behavior of dramatic personal threads. Your last post here only proves that all you want is for people to kiss your ass and congratulate and baby you for doing less than the bare minimum of a man your age.

CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!

 

[TheCredibleHulk]

The answer is rather elementary. Much like the rest of us, Mitchell craves positive strokes. He posts these threads, knowing from experience that there is a high probability they will end badly. But there's usually that first page in which people are supportive. That's why he posts. He can't help himself, because as an unmarried, unemployed single man in his 40s, he has no regular, everyday contact with people. The TMF is pretty much the extent of his social life. It's a place he knows from long time association.

Mitchell is not a bad guy. He harbors little to no malice. He doesn't go trolling for fights. The worst you can say is that he sometimes reacts badly. Which brings us to the current predicament. As long as Mitchell has any hope of positive strokes, he'll post his personal business. The rest of the thread participants will react generally in one of two ways. They'll either stroke him positively, or give him advice he doesn't want to hear, to which he will subsequently react badly. People will respond negatively to those bad reactions, and it snowballs downhill from there.

The solution is two fold. First and foremost, Mitchell needs to immunize himself from feeling attacked. This is after all, an exchange of text. Nothing anybody can say will hurt you unless you choose to let it. There ARE NO ATTACKS. Secondly, those who are annoyed with Mitchell's bad reactions need to exercise restraint and stop contributing to the perpetuation of the thread.

 

[Mitchell]

Chicago, if you congratulated me when I got the Greenpeace thing, and I forgot, I apologize.

The "less than a bare minimum" part, is a potshot, and taken as such.

Hulk, I'm not a bad guy , according to you, yet the rest of your post toward me is a potshot.

To quote you.

"I'm an unemployed, unmarried, single guy in my 40s with little or no contact with people"

How do you know where I work, or what I;m planning to do, or what contact I have with people when I';m not here?

How do you know I choose not to be married, or whether I have a gf or not, and just don't discuss it here, or whether my not having a girlfriend is personal choice? People can choose not to be married or have gfs. I know other people who are very successful, who aren't married, and don't have partners by choice, because they choose not to, and to focus on their careers.

I already said, after the Aflac thread and the other threads were bumped and piled on, after four months, even if I had the insurance position of my dreams, or worked in the company to end all companies, I wouldn't post it here.

 

[Iggy pop]

Chicago, if you congratulated me when I got the Greenpeace thing, and I forgot, I apologize.

The "less than a bare minimum" part, is a potshot, and taken as such.

Hulk, I'm not a bad guy , according to you, yet the rest of your post toward me is a potshot.

To quote you.

"I'm an unemployed, unmarried, single guy in my 40s with little or no contact with people"

How do you know where I work, or what I;m planning to do, or what contact I have with people when I';m not here?

How do you know I choose not to be married, or whether I have a gf or not, and just don't discuss it here, or whether my not having a girlfriend is personal choice? People can choose not to be married or have gfs. I know other people who are very successful, who aren't married, and don't have partners by choice, because they choose not to, and to focus on their careers.

I already said, after the Aflac thread and the other threads were bumped and piled on, after four months, even if I had the insurance position of my dreams, or worked in the company to end all companies, I wouldn't post it here.

The content of this response was originally going to be much different, but I realized that I would only be piling on. Mitch, Hulk was able to tell all these things from your posts. It is quite obvious. Simply, in your posts on this forum you have overshared. If I were you, I would ask the moderators to delete all threads with personal information including this one. I would then limit your posting, and I certainly would not share any personal information in this or any other public forum. This thread is like a car wreck; people are viewing it for perverse reasons. There is nothing constructive coming out of here.

 

[Mitchell]

Iggy, I thank you for your sincere reply. I appreciate it.

Unfortunately, from my experience.. I highly doubt this thread will be removed. If anything was going to happen to it, it would have been locked long ago, and the mods would have reprimanded people who said things to me in the thread, neither of those things happened.

The thread will die when it does.

 

[Bohemianne]

Hmmmm... The compulsion... I am beginning to suspect serious internet addiction around here.

 

[beansontoast]

There a book mate, it's called "king, warrior, magician, lover" very good book, sorts ya head out an that. seen a few guys read it while incarcerated an it did wonders for them. gets ya back on track. a very good book mitch.
your pal beans

 

[Mitchell]

Thanks, beans.

 

[beansontoast]

Not a problem mate 😉

if you ever need to chat giv me a shout

 

[Mitchell]

Thanks. Hope you're well.

 

[Iggy pop]

Iggy, I thank you for your sincere reply. I appreciate it.

Unfortunately, from my experience.. I highly doubt this thread will be removed. If anything was going to happen to it, it would have been locked long ago, and the mods would have reprimanded people who said things to me in the thread, neither of those things happened.

The thread will die when it does.

Have you asked them to remove them? I have seen them remove threads all the time.

 

[Mitchell]

I haven't. I can try, even though from my experience, in the past when I've asked, threads haven't been locked or removed, because in their view.. it isn't a "violation" under whatever their "Golden Rules" are, just because nasty things are being said by others.

 

[Myriads]

Have you asked them to remove them? I have seen them remove threads all the time.

With 24,000+ posts, picking out the ones where Mitch has revealed personal information presents a bit of a challenge.

If he points us at any specific post that he feels contains information that he does not want to be publicly posted I'll happily edit it out.

What I will not do is sift thru 24000 posts to find things that might be considered info that is ill posted, and edit them. I have other plans for my 2015.

We are responsive at removing any information that a user feels compromises their identity here. This very thread being an example, with the removal of a users real name that was posted in direct contradiction of their stated wishes.

And I think this thread is done.

Myriads