Opinion query: Is it emasculating for a man to be tickled?

[Kittycupcake]

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And I know lots of boys who'd like to do more than watch you get tickled, you watch out with your nonsense 😛

 

[BellybTickler]

You tell me, I've been tickled to the point of passing out, I've been fucked in the ass, I've been driven to the point of insanity through tickle and sexual torture, I've made out with a guy and been with over 15 women, I've been engaged, I jumped from a C-130 with a broken arm 5 times in succession, I've fought in both Iraq and Afghanistan, I've been a firefighter in some degree since I was 14, survived 4 suicide attempts, dealt with PTSD and Depression for 4 years .... you're going to sit there and tell me, that because I love being tickled that I am not a man and that I am a weak individual? You can kiss my ass.

 

[MaleTickleeDC]

I'm liking the way this thread is being fleshed out. After reading the commentary, I'm able to come up with a better idea of what I think it would take for a man to be "emasculated" through tickling.

I don't think that F/M tickling is at all emasculating on its own. To me, F/M tickling and other types of femdom actually enhance masculinity by putting the male in a position where one or more females are dominating and teasing him sexually. This is no more emasculating than a girl being on top during sex. Of course, to SOME men, all of that would be emasculating, even the girl being on top! But to me, femdom in all its forms is a very sensual, sexy act that celebrates and enhances the femininity of the females involved and the masculinity of the males involved. Being masculine doesn't mean being the dominant partner during sex and sex-related acts, in my opinion.

But if a man is being tickled in a setting in which he will be humiliated by the tickling, because of who is present, etc, then yes, that would be an emasculating event. A lot of it depends on the specifics of the situation. If a group of girls are going around tickling all the guys in the room, aside from being very hot, that just seems like another act of femdom, with multiple female lers and lots of potential male victims. But if a guy is being tickled while all his boys stand around pointing and laughing, then that's pretty darned emasculating.

 

[Kittycupcake]

I guess it all boils down to what we view as emasculating, what men value as their own defining "manly" characteristics and how comfortable they are with their gender identity and sexuaity.

 

[Barney Stubble]

You tell me, I've been tickled to the point of passing out, I've been fucked in the ass, I've been driven to the point of insanity through tickle and sexual torture, I've made out with a guy and been with over 15 women, I've been engaged, I jumped from a C-130 with a broken arm 5 times in succession, I've fought in both Iraq and Afghanistan, I've been a firefighter in some degree since I was 14, survived 4 suicide attempts, dealt with PTSD and Depression for 4 years .... you're going to sit there and tell me, that because I love being tickled that I am not a man and that I am a weak individual? You can kiss my ass.

I'm not sure to whom you're directing this little hissy-fit, but I would never say that you're not a man for wanting to be tickled.

But if you've really been fucked in the ass and made out with another guy, I'd say that masculinity ship sailed long ago.

 

[BellybTickler]

I'm not sure to whom you're directing this little hissy-fit, but I would never say that you're not a man for wanting to be tickled.

But if you've really been fucked in the ass and made out with another guy, I'd say that masculinity ship sailed long ago.

Hissy fit?

I was responding to the question, accusation, or assumption. In all honesty, I'd be the one pulling your ass out of a burning building or the one fireman-carrying your wounded ass to safety.

You're an idiot for assuming, like the majority, that tickling and sexuality define what is a "man".

 

[pageNplant]

Ummm wow ... this is a serious discussion?

 

[stockytickler]

Wow. I'm intrigued. So gays aren't manly, there's no such thing as bottom butch and anyone who's ever looked sideways at another dude has, in your opinion, already been fitted for pearls and a clutch purse? There are some guys you gotta meet at the Folsom Street fair one day. Also, that set of life experiences, BellybTickler is way more of a man than lots of guys who have never been fucked up the ass.

Almost none of that has ever happened to me (full disclosure, I have made out with my boyfriend, yes, so for some of you I'm probably already in a dress), but I have been surprise tickle-attacked at one point and I was a little scared about how long it was gonna go on because the other guy was enormous (450#), but it was fun and I didn't feel emasculated by it, so ... 70 percent of all of that is probably WRONG WRONG WRONG on some level.

 

[3xPIN]

Masculinity is not synonymous with arrogance and invincibility though...At least not in my opinion anyways....

Perhaps not, but the secret of vulnerability and humanity being exposed can shatter a man's confidence. As can being laughed at by a woman. Weaknesses being exploited is usually what men find emasculating.

I, however, have little to no masculinity. So, perhaps I am not the best subject for asking what is emasculating.

 

[rhiannon]

you're going to sit there and tell me, that because I love being tickled that I am not a man and that I am a weak individual?

Uuuh...nobody said that! 🙂 It's about people who are NOT into it and get tickled against their will! 🙂

You know, in a perfect world, where kids don't get bullied just because they looked at someone wrong, it wouldn't be a difference if men or women got tickled. But not in the world we live in, I'm very sorry!

 

[DontAskJusTckle]

You tell me, I've been tickled to the point of passing out, I've been fucked in the ass, I've been driven to the point of insanity through tickle and sexual torture, I've made out with a guy and been with over 15 women, I've been engaged, I jumped from a C-130 with a broken arm 5 times in succession, I've fought in both Iraq and Afghanistan, I've been a firefighter in some degree since I was 14, survived 4 suicide attempts, dealt with PTSD and Depression for 4 years ....

Oh that's nothing. I left the airborne rangers to became a Navy Seal. Let me tell you, it was real satisfying putting that bullet in Osama Bin Laden earlier this year. Now days, when I'm off duty from the CIA, I compete in downhill slolem, getting ready for the Winter Olympics. I'm tired of third place, this time I'm taking the gold!

you're going to sit there and tell me, that because I love being tickled that I am not a man and that I am a weak individual?

This thread simply asks the question, and the variety of opinions suggests that it was a good topic of discussion. I've yet to give my own opinion. The responses in the affirmative are just as valid as the others. There's no right or wrong answer, and until you came along, nobody was trying to make it personal. Your decision to personalize the issue was really stupid and immature.

You can kiss my ass.

I can do a lot of things, to include ignoring your amorous flirtations.

Ummm wow ... this is a serious discussion?

It was, until somebody threw a hissy-fit.

Getting back to that serious discussion, I don't find it emasculating for a man to be tickled. I've won and lost tickle fights with other guys, and with women. I've done this for many years. Tickling seems to be the great equalizer between the sexes.

One or two of the responses in this thread referring to guys being tickled and giggling like girls. The guys I've seen tickled don't go "tee hee hee." Some laugh loud and deep. Others cackle like the Joker. Neither seems unmasculine to me.

 

[Cosmo_ac]

I would say that I've been told by a few women that they find ticklish guys to be unmanly, however I personally see nothing wrong with it.

 

[Barney Stubble]

In all honesty, I'd be the one pulling your ass out of a burning building

In all honesty, I can assure you that you'll never be the one pulling on any part of my body, ever.

You're an idiot for assuming, like the majority, that tickling and sexuality define what is a "man".

Read what I wrote. I never assumed nor said that tickling defines what is a man. Getting fucked in the ass? That goes a long way toward definition.

 

[april]

Simply...yes. And its damn sexy 🙂

 

[chicago]

Hell yeah it's emasculating, but I figured that was part of what male lees like about it.

 

[Kittycupcake]

Less hatin' and more love, people! 😀

Damn right!

 

[coldneck]

I suppose it depends on the guy's reaction. If he lets out a high pitched scream and starts begging ... then yeah. That's pretty feminine.

If it's anything less, I would say not so much.

This is a great thread, btw. Lots of interesting takes.

 

[rhiannon]

I wonder if society will change in a certain way that those aspects won't exist anymore!?

Give it another 500 years, then maybe...just maybe. There's also a chance society will develop back where it was during the Middle Ages! 🙂

 

[goddess_nemesis]

I guess it could be seen as emasculating for those outside the kink as per your example. I've never seen it as such. My brother got tormented all the time by our female friends. We were a year apart and had a lot of the same friends. As far as I know, he and our friends aren't into tickling as a kink like I am, not that they know. They did it because they were friends who wanted to exploit a weakness. I mean, he always got them back so it was quid pro quo. Watching our friends tickle the crap out of him, I never thought, "Travis is such a wuss." I was too busy laughing at the silliness of it.

 

[Kittycupcake]

I suppose it depends on the guy's reaction. If he lets out a high pitched scream and starts begging ... then yeah. That's pretty feminine.

So begging is feminine now?

 

[coldneck]

Yes. Real men don't beg ...

 

[MaleTickleeDC]

So begging is feminine now?

The trouble is that on a site like this, where a huge portion of the male population is turned on by the concept of males dominating females, you're going to find that a significant portion of the population around here almost starts to dry heave at the thought of males being dominated by females. My guess is that a lot of the guys who are into m/f tickling have a very strong desire to see the male "on top" so to speak and thus equate masculinity with an almost godllike power that precludes things like weakness, vulnerability, etc. As a guy who is into femdom (see screenname) I can't relate to this sort of thinking at all, but hey, at least we've arrived at a point where F/M is now an acceptable form of tickling and is no longer shunned by a vocal minority of individuals who used to claim that the lee HAS to be a female in every clip, pic, story, and situation.

 

[Korastus]

I've never felt emasculated by it, but I suppose I can understand why some people would view it that way.

 

[PhoenixRising]

Depends on who is doing the tickling, and as long as I'm not made to piss myself.

 

[ShiningIce]

Not if it's a hottie doing the tickling. Plus I'd just get revenge later. As some male switches already know, the orgasm you have from being tickled by a ruthless yet playful female ler is...AMAZING.