Opinion query: Is it emasculating for a man to be tickled?

[3xPIN]

Just because someone or something isn't masculine, doesn't make make that thing feminine. There are gender neutral aspects to personality.

Hmm, from what I have seen, it seems that I have a questions that I need answered.

If you can emasculate someone, can you make deffeminate someone? It isn't a word, so I guess not. What is the female equivalent of emasculate?

It seems the concept of masculinity to most people reflects the macho attitude. So I guess the answer to the OP question is, "Depends on what you find masculine/macho."

Sometimes, being tickled in public, or private, can be dehumanizing as well as emasculating. So perhaps this supersedes the concept of emasculating someone.

Thoughts?

 

[Kittycupcake]

I had this very debate with my significant other yesterday, I was querying the difference between emasculating and humiliating, and discussing that very few things in the world could make me feel "deffeminated".
My view of masculinity and what makes him manly differs greatly to his. So I guess the answer all lies with the guys on this one...
However I would like to argue that as someone who has a (little) experience in the kink scene, I know a lot of masculine, manly men who choose to be submissive or switches, so I'd argue that begging and being dominated and such isn't necessarily linked to someones gender stereotype.

 

[Sunriseticklee]

A ticklish man is sexy... PERIOD. Nothing gets to me faster than seeing a giant, tough guy turn into a giggling, sweaty, begging teddy bear under my fingers. He's still the same deliciously, strong man who will toss me around and manhandle me into submission- Oh my! This thread has me all messed up!

 

[3xPIN]

A ticklish man is sexy... PERIOD. Nothing gets to me faster than seeing a giant, tough guy turn into a giggling, sweaty, begging teddy bear under my fingers. He's still the same deliciously, strong man who will toss me around and manhandle me into submission- Oh my! This thread has me all messed up!

....*twitch* Go on....

 

[kopfhorer]

Yes, please continue...

 

[DontAskJusTckle]

I posted this thread as an opinion query. I'm not real interested in answers that try and predict how most people will feel depending on this or that. I'm interested in YOUR personal opinion, because that's what this question boils down to. There's no right or wrong answer.

I have a lot more respect for somebody who will give an honest opinion whether or not it's popular, rather than hide behind a politically correct posture.

By the way, Happy New Year.

 

[Barney Stubble]

Agreed.

The original question here was what people thought about male lee's and if being a lee affects their manliness in people's eyes. Obviously some people's ideas differ but I could frankly give 2 shits if anybody thinks I'm not a man because I enjoy being a lee.
I won't hate on these people who may think of me as unmanly. I won't really care because I wouldn't be playing with any girl that didn't enjoy ler'ing my ass. 😉

Now this goes for Barney Stubble and BellyBTickler's posts as well. What you all can see here is that different people have different standards for what they consider to be "manly".
I'm more on BellyBTickler's side here in saying that sexual orientations and desires have little to do with what being a man is all about.
Obviously Barney Stubble may have different standards and that's all well and good.

We don't all have to start cock fighting about all this.

Nobody can ever just give out the fucking 10 commandments on what a man should be and expect everyone to agree; like, (Thou shalt not be fucked in the ass)...lolz

Less hatin' and more love, people! 😀

You raise some good points, but I think there's some confusion between the concepts of "male" and "masculine." To ask if something is "emasculating," that implies that certain things or actions can effect a man's masculinity. He'll still be as much a member of the male species as he ever was, but he can lose masculinity.

So a distinction must be made. Now with a man being tickled, I don't think it necessarily affects his masculinity unless (as somebody said) he reacts effeminitely. But a man getting buttfucked. To me that's as emasculating as it gets. Using a man's anus in lieu of the female vagina.

This is not hate. It's not bigotry. I know there are people looking to unload those PC buzz words, but they don't apply. If guys want to do that or have it done to them, have at it. Public flatulence is a small price to pay, I'm sure.

But you can't rightfully label me a hater just because I feel that getting fucked in the ass falls outside of what I consider to be manly behavior.

 

[wishful1234]

Either way- consensual or non-con- the answer is yes. I absolutely don't like it when someone dares to tickle me out of the blue in real life. I won't dance to anyone's tune in real life, ever...

But consensual, as a lee? You better believe it's emasculating! But that's part of the 'fun' of being willingly submissive.

There's a huge separation between the bedroom and real life- I love to be made to squirm, and plead, and beg for mercy all in a high pitched voice, to be reduced to a crawling submissive 'wuss' in a fantasy; does that emasculate me for real? Never. The instant I snap back to the real world I'm the total in-control Alpha that I have to be.

 

[rhiannon]

The instant I snap back to the real world I'm the total in-control Alpha that I have to be.

Who says that this is what you have to be? 🙂

 

[GQguy]

"Is it emasculating for a man to be tickled?"

Hmmm. If I were in jail and another man tickled me on day one.....I'd likely beat him within an inch of his life. The other prisoners would definitely see it as emasculating, and the beating the tickler would receive would be an attempt to regain face in the eyes of my fellow prisoners.

So the answer is yes.

If anyone guy here can tell me that on their first day of prison being tickled by any female or male would not lessen their masculinity in the eyes of the other prisoners and put them in SEVERE danger....I'd love to hear it. It doesn't get much more masculine than in prison. If someone can think of a better example of a scenario where masculinity is life and death where being tickled would be ok...let me know.

GQ

 

[Wade]

The emasculating effect of ticklishness has often (though not always) been an element in the teasing I get when someone tickles me. That always seems to be the subtext whenever a tickler or onlooker says "You're the most ticklish guy I've ever met" or something to that effect, or whenever I'm compared, thanks to my ticklishness, to a young girl or a little boy. "You're afflicted with a very ticklish stomach," one tickler taunted me (when she wasn't actually tickling me), "which is weird because that's a condition usually found only in ten-year-old boys and college cheerleaders." Pretty sure she was trying to impugn my masculinity.

Then there was the ex-girlfriend who used to delight in tickling me silly; years later when we reconnected and caught up, I asked if her husband was ticklish; her response clearly implied that she couldn't see herself married to a man who was as ticklish as I was. But then, her fairly conventional ideas about gender and other things were part of the reason we turned out to be compatible.

There is something infantilizing about the whole curl-up-and-wriggle-around-and-giggle thing, and that, I think, inherently undermines traditional concepts of masculinity.