Q for TMF vets: how common is it for ticklephile couples to meet thru TMF anyway?

[SantaFeSwitch]

Does this happen often or is it pretty rare? Do you know of couples who have met thru TMF? Not couples who joined together but who met thru the forums and gatherings?

Seems it would be a common desire for single ticklephiles to find each other and this would seem the best place to meet.

Thanks in advance,
Jeff

 

[Musicroxmysox]

It happens enough. It's not easy, but it happens.

 

[♡AimLEE♡]

It totally happens!

 

[AffectionateDan]

There are several examples, myself and Ayla being one of them. We've been together over 6 years now, and I moved 3,000 miles to be with her. But numerous couples here have met through the Forum and community events.

It most assuredly DOES happen!

 

[TheTickleMonster]

i'm still tryin to get it to happen with someone but i'm getting no where 😛

 

[sasaxrah]

Yush. I can think of many examples.

 

[Powah]

Its more common to meet someone at say NEST but it dose happen via the pen-pals section of the forum on rare times

 

[daddy]

Over the years I have been involved I have seen it happen many times. Nothing better then a "success" story within the community!

But if you were to break down the actual percentages, it does seem very rare at times and it seems to me that ticklephiles are a little different breed then others...complicated at certain moments. What I mean by that is here we are because we all love tickling in one way or another, but some would rather not discuss it or talk about it until they have established freindships or have come to know you better on a vanilla level. That is ok though.

My advice: Be a gentleman and treat the ladies with respect and you will make many new friends 🙂

peace out,
daddy

 

[Phineas]

Via the TMF itself? Rare. Very rare. Your best bet apart from converting a vanilla friend (it totally happens, my success rate is darn near 100%) is to attend local gatherings and befriend the other attendees.

 

[alchemy]

It's pretty common to meet. It's what happens after that that's the problem.😱

 

[SantaFeSwitch]

Over the years I have been involved I have seen it happen many times. Nothing better then a "success" story within the community!

But if you were to break down the actual percentages, it does seem very rare at times and it seems to me that ticklephiles are a little different breed then others...complicated at certain moments. What I mean by that is here we are because we all love tickling in one way or another, but some would rather not discuss it or talk about it until they have established freindships or have come to know you better on a vanilla level. That is ok though.

My advice: Be a gentleman and treat the ladies with respect and you will make many new friends 🙂

peace out,
daddy

Excellent advice, thanks man.

 

[SantaFeSwitch]

Via the TMF itself? Rare. Very rare. Your best bet apart from converting a vanilla friend (it totally happens, my success rate is darn near 100%) is to attend local gatherings and befriend the other attendees.

Hmmm....are there any threads on converting?

 

[SantaFeSwitch]

It's pretty common to meet. It's what happens after that that's the problem.😱

Do tell!!

 

[Phineas]

Hmmm....are there any threads on converting?

I don't recall any off the top of my head. I have written some on the topic in the past, and my observations are always that vanilla people look to you on how to feel about what you're presenting to them. If you treat it like something sick and shameful, they'll think it's something sick and shameful - and you won't get anywhere with them. If you treat it like something fun and exciting, they'll think it's something fun and exciting, and want to know more about it.

It's not easy, especially at first. You really have to be confident in yourself and truly accepting of your fetish. Once that happens, though, the sky's the limit.

 

[KrazieDog]

Daddy pretty much nailed it. Just be you and make friends. If people start noticing the qualities they look for and vice versa, then thing may take off from there. I think too often people jump the gun "looking" for it too hard. Too often you hear around here, "I've been looking for love here for xxx time and I got nothing", when in reality, maybe they should have just been looking for people they enjoy in general, and what happens happens. But yea there are quite a few couples here making it work everyday, and some as Danimal pointed out, himself included, that have met their husband/wives here and are happy together in the real world.

 

[Em Es]

Were tickling the only criteria . . .

Were shared interest the only criteria for happiness, Reverend Moon could conduct a mass marriage ceremony of T.M.F. people at N.E.S.T. and we'd all live tickly ever after. Unfortunately, even having an obsession with tickling in common does not guarantee a couple will last.

Still, a number of people who met through this webs site and made it exclusive. I've met a couple of female tickle buddies via T.M.F., too, although sad to say they stopped inviting me over.

SantaFeSwitch, how "rare" either scenario is, I don't know. I guess you want to contrast it with meeting in everyday life?

If you are a ticklee, I imagine it's got to be more difficult than if you are a tickler. Even girlfriends who would not ask you to tickle them will put up with it to please you, as this tickler knows. But if you want and need to be tickled, if your lover never tickles you and you are afraid to ask, that's a bummer.

 

[TklDuo-Ann]

There are several couples who've met through the forum and several more who met as a result of the community in general. Drew & I met when he came accross my original TK web site. We've been married for almost 8 years now.

I think that one of the problems that some folks have is that they try too hard and scare others off. Some push too hard to make it happen rather than putting themselves out there, getting to know people in general, being polite and friendly and simply letting it happen.

There's also the fact that a single issue/characteristic does not make a good foundation for a lasting relationship...no matter how important that single item may be to us. Drew & I met because of tickling. We're together because of the entirety of who we are. Tickling just happens to be one aspect of that.

 

[Em Es]

Not that love and tickling can't go together

Finding a lover who satisfies your tickling desire can happen. But unless you consider tickling and sex as inseparable as chewing and swallowing, why not meet up with a platonic tickle buddy?

I've tickled two fantastic girls I met through this great web site. Unfortunately, as they didn't like me both stopped inviting me back, one after six play dates, the other after just one. But it encouraged me all the same, as if there's one thing that can screw up your tickle action more than staying friends, it's staying lovers.

Between a lover and a friend, I think one just has a better chance of hooking up for tickling with the latter. Please note that both T.M.F. girls I tickled were attractive, so it's not as though it has to be someone you would not want to date anyway.

 

[Gothika]

it happens me and saeria met here and there are others that have to does not happen to everyone tho but u never know

 

[Mephistopheles]

It happens but it's dependant on alot of different factors. Location, for instance.

 

[baldadonis]

It does happen. I know this because it happened to me. But at the same time I was on the forum for 7 years before we met. And we do happen to live in the same city which greatly simplified the relationship. So yes, you can meet the right person but it may take time and maybe even some dumb luck. But being a respectful, fun, social, trusted person on this forum goes a long way towards accomplishing this goal. I can certainly say had I still been a lurker last year or had any kind of appearance of creepiness, my now gf would never have contacted me.

 

[Gothika]

It happens but it's dependant on alot of different factors. Location, for instance.

well location does not realy matter when i met saeria i lived in ny and she lived in texas i moved to texas to be with her after a while we both moved back to ny and are very happy

 

[Morpheus72]

Yup, it happens...

I personally know two couples that have met thru here, and I haven't even been to a gathering.

Your implied question is, "How can I make this happen for me?" Easy. Make the tickling part of the relationship; don't make the relationship part of the tickling.

Of course, it's really not easy.

 

[LindyHopper]

I don't think I know anyone who met through the TMF alone. People, especially women, tend to be really cautious about meeting someone from the internet.

But meeting at gatherings, definitely. That's a very easy and safe way to make friends, though like Ann said, it's more about getting to know people than trying to hook up with them.

 

[chicago]

I'd say it's fairly common. I know of at least a handful of people who have met their current significant other on the TMF.

I dated someone from here once too. I think what's the hardest part is that they tend to be long-distance relationships. And some people don't realize until later that they can't handle it.