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Q for TMF vets: how common is it for ticklephile couples to meet thru TMF anyway?

Thanks everyone

Thanks everyone for sharing your experiences and advice. It's very encouraging. I'm looking forward to going to as many events as possible!
 
While we are not a couple by conventional terms, I met my Dominant
on the TMF. Well, I accidentally IM'd her, but I knew who she was from
seeing her post on the TMF. 🙂
 
gothfreakhell said:
well location does not realy matter when i met saeria i lived in ny and she lived in texas i moved to texas to be with her after a while we both moved back to ny and are very happy
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You live in the same country and you speak the same language. Big difference for us continental europeans. Plus the vast majority of the people here are Americans.
 
TklDuo-Ann said:
There are several couples who've met through the forum and several more who met as a result of the community in general. Drew & I met when he came accross my original TK web site. We've been married for almost 8 years now.

I think that one of the problems that some folks have is that they try too hard and scare others off. Some push too hard to make it happen rather than putting themselves out there, getting to know people in general, being polite and friendly and simply letting it happen.

There's also the fact that a single issue/characteristic does not make a good foundation for a lasting relationship...no matter how important that single item may be to us. Drew & I met because of tickling. We're together because of the entirety of who we are. Tickling just happens to be one aspect of that.
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I think that TKL-Duo Ann hit the nail right on the head. Tickling alone won't make the relationship work just like sex alone doesn't make a relationship work.
 
Aside from gatherings, id say meetings arent too common. maybe its just the area. i know Mass is a dead zone for tickling. in my case, whenever i contact someone from this area, i rarely even get a response back. :shrug:
 
Long story short: kwildoctr and I met in the TMF chatroom. He lived in Buffalo, I live in Virginia; that was 7 years ago.:smilestar

He moved to Virginia, and now we're married. :cheer:
 
It doesn't happen easily, and it generally takes many hours of being here and putting yourself out there, but it does happen. I haven't had good luck here, and I've been here almost since the beginning, but I've corresponded with one or two other people who met through the TMF, so I know it works for some.
 
SantaFeSwitch said:
What usually happens??
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Well... my case is probably different than most, but I met someone through here... moved across the states... then was promptly dumped. Ouch. I worked through the hurt and we are friends now. I am just trying to figure out a way back home (finances have gotten in the way of that). Ohio would never have been my choice had it not been for him. I was pretty darned happy where I was.

Mine was more of a case of bad timing on the fellas part (he should never have led me to believe that coming across the states was going to end up with us being a couple, he was not ready and was not in the right place for a relationship at that time).
Of course there's always the internet factor where you find out that you really don't have as much as common in other areas as you were led to believe. Nothing can beat spending time together in each others company to find out if you are compatable or not. There's a lot more to a relationship than just tickles, and those will be the "make it or break it" things.

But good luck with your search. Don't give up... there are some pretty neat gals here. I wish you the best.
 
I'm fascinated how you guys are moving easily hundreds of miles just to be with someone. Here it is so much different! People will hardly move to a town that's an hour away!

A friend of mine and her boyfriend have been together for 6 years living about 1 hr apart, nobody moved for the other, they eventually split up.

And I sure know I myself wouldn't move anywhere for anybody and give up the life I have where I am at.
 
rhiannon said:
I'm fascinated how you guys are moving easily hundreds of miles just to be with someone. Here it is so much different! People will hardly move to a town that's an hour away!

A friend of mine and her boyfriend have been together for 6 years living about 1 hr apart, nobody moved for the other, they eventually split up.

And I sure know I myself wouldn't move anywhere for anybody and give up the life I have where I am at.
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I have never claimed to have good judgement when it comes to men. I have no idea why I thought this would be different.
 
Mz Chaos said:
I have never claimed to have good judgement when it comes to men. I have no idea why I thought this would be different.
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I've realized if they really love you, they are the ones who move for you! 😉

Anyways - you have my sympathy, I've been to Ohio! :twohugs:
 
Mz Chaos said:
Well... my case is probably different than most, but I met someone through here... moved across the states... then was promptly dumped. Ouch. I worked through the hurt and we are friends now. I am just trying to figure out a way back home (finances have gotten in the way of that). Ohio would never have been my choice had it not been for him. I was pretty darned happy where I was.

Mine was more of a case of bad timing on the fellas part (he should never have led me to believe that coming across the states was going to end up with us being a couple, he was not ready and was not in the right place for a relationship at that time).
Of course there's always the internet factor where you find out that you really don't have as much as common in other areas as you were led to believe. Nothing can beat spending time together in each others company to find out if you are compatable or not. There's a lot more to a relationship than just tickles, and those will be the "make it or break it" things.

But good luck with your search. Don't give up... there are some pretty neat gals here. I wish you the best.
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Thanks for sharing your experience and sorry it didn't work out. But at least you had the guts to try rather than always wondering what could have been. Many are too chicken to ever try something like that. Good for you for following your heart and giving it a try. Like you said he wasn't ready, you were.

And I never give up!

rhiannon said:
I'm fascinated how you guys are moving easily hundreds of miles just to be with someone. Here it is so much different! People will hardly move to a town that's an hour away!

A friend of mine and her boyfriend have been together for 6 years living about 1 hr apart, nobody moved for the other, they eventually split up.

And I sure know I myself wouldn't move anywhere for anybody and give up the life I have where I am at.
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Yea, it depends on how romantic one is. Moving for love doesn't seem practical to many, but since it's easier to find work than true love it seems to this romantic that moving for love is actually the practical thing to do if possible. As in other areas following your heart is actually the most practical thing you can do--they're not necessarily in conflict.

Mz Chaos said:
I have never claimed to have good judgement when it comes to men. I have no idea why I thought this would be different.
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Hey, nothing ventured nothing gained. Better luck next time! At least you have the courage to try.
 
I don't know....over the years I've seen a lot of proof that the heart is a pretty bad advisor when it comes to decisions!
 
rhiannon said:
I don't know....over the years I've seen a lot of proof that the heart is a pretty bad advisor when it comes to decisions!
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Over the years I've seen that my only regretful decisions were when I failed to follow my heart. Intuition trumps reason. Reason is usually used to rationalize or justify a decision already made by the heart, to find external validation for your heart's direction--or for your fears.
 
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I've been on the forum since 01 myself. Yes I lurked for a long time, in the beginning, I went to 2 munches back then.

At the time, I was 19-20 and was the youngest by far both times and got turned off. I still met some people here and there from the personals.

Its ALOT different now where the amount of people in their 20s and 30s are really filling up all the events.

I went to NEST this past year not really knowing anyone and definitely made a lot of friends I probably wouldn't have not going. I am very happy for everyone I got to meet and those i got close to.



It also REALLY opened myself to being more open with the fetish to other girlffriends of mine that i'm "introducing" to the whole scene and so far, pretty good results.

Its like working out. The more you go, the bigger & or more defined you will become. If you go once a month with minimal effort, You won't be happy with the results.

Just keep at it and believe me, it will happen.
 
SantaFeSwitch said:
Over the years I've seen that my only regretful decisions were when I failed to follow my heart. Intuition trumps reason. Reason is usually used to rationalize or justify a decision already made by the heart, to find external validation for your heart's direction--or for your fears.
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I guess everybody has different experiences here.
 
Mz Chaos said:
I have never claimed to have good judgement when it comes to men. I have no idea why I thought this would be different.
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It wasn't necessarily a failure of your judgement just because it didn't work out...it sounds like it was a failure on his part, he wasn't ready or was scared or whatever. It takes two to tango baby!
 
Germany versus the U.S.A.

Rhiannon, you live in Germany and regarding Americans who move to be with one another, you said, "I'm fascinated how you guys are moving easily hundreds of miles just to be with someone. Here it is so much different! People will hardly move to a town that's an hour away!

"A friend of mine and her boyfriend have been together for 6 years living about 1 hr apart, nobody moved for the other, they eventually split up.

"And I sure know I myself wouldn't move anywhere for anybody and give up the life I have where I am at."

Is Germany a more stable culture then the U.S.A.? America's working class has seen its standard of living decline for thirty years, with people constantly moving just to find work. Americans don't take root in their communiies as they once did, so what's to stop one from pulling up stakes to be with a lover who lives elsewhere?
 
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