My favorite saying is that my fetish is so secret, I haven't even told myself.
In my realm of friends and family... any fetish would not be taken well. Any deviation from the norm would certainly put a wedge between me and them. There are 1 or 2 that I feel would be receptive of the knowledge that I have a tickling fetish... but even they would never in their wildest dreams picture me in a bondage situation.
In our lives… we wear different masks. People get to know us by the mask we wear when we are around them. I’m not saying we are deceitful, but that there are certain qualities that we will exhibit around different people depending on how we wish them to view us. For instance… we do not wear the same mask around our parents that we wear around our bosses or that we wear around our friends.
I am so NOT a ‘Lee outside of this forum. I’m a control freak out there in the world… my friends know this. This is the mask I wear around them. I show them independence, reliance, confidence and strength. There is no way that they would ever picture me in a submissive role and this I think would dull the validity of my fetish should I choose to reveal it.
I also, do not feel the need to tell them. Things of this nature never come up in conversations, at least not conversations where I could work it in sensibly. These are friends I have had for 12 years… if I have not divulged my preferences by now… I see no need to ever divulge it.
The only people who need know, is the man I would be interested in as a prospective significant other. I have tried to have relationships, but there was always something missing. In my next relationship, I will make it clear from the start that I have this fetish and that it is a part of who I am and in order for me to be happy in a relationship, tickling must be a part of it.
This has been compounded by different posts I have read where one partner enjoys tickling and the other doesn’t. These folks… although very much in love with their partner… are not happy campers. Some even try to figure out ways to get their tickle fixes without harming their marriages. Been there… done that… refuse to go through it again.
So... I guess I'm honest about my fetish to the people/person to whom it will most matter and effect.
Now... In my opinion...MrPartickler has excellent advice. In another situation this method could be considered gentling. Easing into it, getting the feel for the situation (pardon the pun), and introducing tickling in a playful, even sensual way. Bravo Sir!
MrPartickler said:
...it all begins with actions--not words: I just tickle her. First they're just little tickles that sneak in under the radar. Then maybe I'll try one or two more devilish ones for good measure, "because she deserves it, I tell her". That way I can begin to tell her tolerance for it.
I won't waste the opportunity. I will share my enjoyment of all of this with her by telling her how sexy she is to me at that moment. ...how she turns me on when she laughs ...or how incredible she looks and feels when I tickle her.... At that moment, it's almost like we're both discovering this new pleasure of tickling <i>together</i>--as opposed to one person "indulging their fetish" on another.